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tobechi20: Whenever i hear people make coments about love at first sight, i laugh .

"When u set ur eye on a lady, u cant remove ur eyes for 8 secs, u want to be wit her."this is what people cal love at first sight.

This means love at first site dont exist.what exists is attraction at ist sight

when u see a gal, there is somtin dat ATTRACTS u to her.it could b her dresin,hairstyle,etc. May be u have seen her b4 but wasnt attracted to her because she dresd casual. But now , u cant take ur eyes of her.

Do u walk up to her and tel her u love her? The ist question she wil ask u is ' do u know me'?

Love has to do wit d inside than the outside. By glancin at her, u are only atractd to her exterior. You dont know anytin inside of her.

U can only know it wit time.her behavior , her character etc. NO WONDER D BIBLE SAY LOV IS PATIENCE.

After knowin her behavior, u ask urself, can u tolerate her weaknes,can u cope? LOVE IS TOLERANCE


LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT DONT EXIST.WHAT EXISTS IS ATTRACTION AT FIRST SIGHT. U dont love in 8 secs.

Someone might ask what is d difrence b/w love and atraction.

Love tolerates weaknes,love takes more time,love lasts,

atraction goes 4 pleasant things. It takes les time.

U CAN LOVE AN UGLY GAL BUT u cant b atractd to her.

it exists in some countries but not in Nigeria. I have seen it happen right infront of me in broad day light.

been there done that

pls send us the book. I want to see what the author has to say that I´ve not heard b4

Kobojunkie: Turns out that in Nigeria, Crime really does pay exceptionally well!

Sad as it is but that is what all these things are teaching children raised in Nigeria, I shudder from just thinking about it.

souldust: na now i know say igbos na pure BIGOTS and BAD BELLE people. All of the comments i have seen here are a clear indication of my first statement. These people have never wanted a very good north. I would like to hear what ANKIO BRIGGS has to say about this. Yes becos she is speaking in public, she would hide her bad belleism. But her bad belle is so bad and it will KILL her.

Ma advice to those living in creeks and gully erosion is; you are always the first victim of your bad belleism. So stop the bad belle before it kills you. And it will definitely kill you!

u may be right or wrong and am not here to dispute or agree with u but tell me. What would u expect from a race of people that have still not recovered after the civil war. Remember every igbo family lost a son, husband, uncle or father in that war and they are still treated like shit cos they lost the war. How do u expect these people to want an equal playing ground for the north after what they have sufferred. Beside u won't blame them, if u've not watched the civil war video pls do so and see for urself. The mentalities of the north even as at the time remain still their mentality of today. Its sad but so is it.

fools, these people have just elevated the status of Boko haram

freecocoa: Thought you knew the guy, how come you only heard it?

He told me himself.

Kobojunkie: Regardless of their opinion, I don't believe stooping down to their level a sensible solution. If you meet such a guy, then call on the cops on him if he demands you give something in return for him paying for lunch or dinner.

And you need to consider that the reason why a lot of these low-lives get away with this is because women ALLOW IT, which is quite unfortunate.

yes u are right. i fully agree with u there

Kobojunkie: If he took her out, then it is COURTESY to have him pay. It should not be on her to pay because she does not like him, or whatever it is you are suggesting. Men who feel that because they pay, they should get something in return are just insecure beings that likely need to be sent back to the school of self-esteem so they can more comfortably separate their ego from their money, and from their expectations of others.
If you do not want to pay, do not invite him or her out. And if you expect to get something in return, then get an ashawo . . . dem plenty for out there. Many will give sex for food.

whateva but I´ve met men that have that mentality and u´d be shocked hearing their opinion.

ronkebp: Really educate me more!!!

Now I don´t know if u are male or female and don´t really care but, I think its something u can only learn the hard way. I can only give u several examples but I´ll just give one here for the sake of space. I once knew a guy that had to borrow a lexus jeep (that was when the car was envogue) just so he could impress a lady that he had been pursuing for years. After a while we had to ask him what his intentions are and he told us in confidence that he needed to collect everything he has spent on her so far, and his only of doing that was to sleep with her. I asked him if its just sleeping with her was why he made all the effort and he said something about if she didn´t want why collect all his gifts till now. Its been a while but I remembered that so vividly. He did get her and never married her. Now thats one example from a million. Don´t get me wrong, men can be nasty so can everyone but women need to be firm when they say no without making the man feel less than he is. Even still there are men that will still try further.

Well for men still in the market playing hard to get can be very irritating. I remember then when I was younger, I suffered so much under the hands of several girls but then while in university and after I started working I learnt to give myself just a 2 weeks deadline for any girl I took interest in. It always worked, cos almost all the silly girls turned around after a while. No one has that time to spend time programming a lady. There are better things to do besides guys know when one lady hold its back several others give it up. Where I used to draw my line while I was single was going after married women or men,..I abhor that and find it irritating when I see it happening.

ronkebp: that does not stop you from being polite till you walk down the aisle with another man, then they will get it.

Oh! then u know very little about men. Cos if a man feels u hurt his ego, he´d do almost anything to get ur ass and when he has u are finished.

Dimples 316: Well I certainly do not split bills with a guy on our first two dates or outing, If am feeling you afterwards you can be sure the next treat will be on me, If am not feeling you there won't be a 3rd, 4th or 5th outing of any kind. But I NEVER do that splitting of bills thing at the initial stage of a relationship he is doing the chasing and I definitely would like to be wooed.

I can cook, so hell no I won't be dying of hunger and waiting for some bloke to take me out, if it gets so bad and am not in a position to quickly make myself a meal there are fast food restaurants littered all over the place and with just 1k I can grab me some food. Wait for a man to buy me food when am hungry that is really cheap you won't catch me in that one oooo.

Its part of the cheap thing they are talking about (not that I am calling u cheap cos I am not), but why wait for him to pay if u don´t feel him. If u don´t feel him pay ur bill and throw away his number. I´ve met men that would take just that one act of letting him pay on that first date give him enough moral to bother ur life even if u keep saying no. Bear in mind must of these guys have side chicks so the cunt is not their problem but that they felt u hurt their ego.

ronkebp: Do not get that 'play hard to get twisted oooo'....some lady thinks is telling a guy off, immediately he winks or says hi, you see some ladies eyeing the guy or hissing, some wear this big frown on their faces.

In my own view..it is not getting easily laid....majority of the guys, come to you for one thing, "to get laid" once they are done, they are off, to the next available chic...I had a friend who was always so easily laid and easily dumped....she would call me the next morning, " Ronke, it has happened again oo,the guy has dumped me again" my question would always be, "did you sleep with him"? we know what the answer would be.

There is nothing wrong in going on couple of dates in an open place where the guy in question will not grab and r/a/p/e you, there is nothing wrong in being polite and approachable. You just have to have class and love yourself...not with unnecessary pride and ego.... you will be surprised the type of men, you will be attracting.


Everyone woman has and owns the keys to her legs....

True but then I´ve seen men still go after women even after they have explicitely said no and no. So what do u call that?

Knew a guy it happened to. He was dating an identical twins but he didn't know that he was sleeping with the two of then for a very long time till his girlfriends twin got pregnant for him, that was when they told him. He actually said later that he thought there was something weird but couldn't place his hand on it till the two ladies confessed to him. Thats how I heard it.

bournvita: He was restrained they said. I can imagine someone trying to restrain saga and saga breaking loose

Even as a woman if someone insults my husband I am willing to break bottle on their head not to talk of a man whose wife was slapped just because she disciplined a little girl for the first time ever.

Which kain yeye "let's tackle this wisely", what is there to tackle. Even I will beat my elder sister up if she disrespects my husband how much more a man for his wife?

I felt like that too but what would u have me do. Throw petrol into an already burning fire? Am glad my cousin is not on NL cos he would be screaming blue murder after he reads all these una posts. Beside, I wonder how many people u would have been able to fight if u where in his shoe. Its just a pity that NL is always divided when it comes to topics like this, people would always want to draw blood which may not be the best thing to do when angry.

jp philips: wanted to ask when he will die. **switches to emmanuel Tv**

u better com back here and argue it out

why all the ranting, we decide when the other Vultures rear their heads. How can u be crying fowl now when the wind has not yet blown the ass of the fowl, eh! Or would u tell me that u know what how ugly the Osterich looks while she still has her head underground.

Sagamite: This would just be Apocalypse!

World War 3!!!

I will never lay my hand on my wife, dem no born anybody outside to lay hands on my wife.

If you have a problem with my wife, you tell me and let me deal with it.

Dem never born the person in my family that will dare do that if they know me.

^^^^^^agree with u but are u going to fight ur elder brother

martyns303: Honestly, I think if we should put all possible features on a board and compare, Nigerian girls are better. I still can't wait to get back to my 9ja babe. Not as promiscous as a SA girl, more enlightened than a Ghana girl, got more style than congo, sudan, cameroon, bostwana and senegalise girl. More educated than an Egyptian, Kenyan. List goes on, only problem with SOME Nigerian girls is being to money conscious.

maybe u dey right but I hear cameroonian ladies are more sex crazy that calabar girls.

I did it in MM1 people wanted to bore holes into the back of my head with their eyes

[quote author=Sisi_Kill]How did that make you feel?[/quote]what do u want me to do,...fight him, come on, he is my dad. I just smiled, stood up and left the house immediately. By the time they started looking for me I was already sleeping in my bed . Even as much as its only my dad that can talk to me like that, I still won't just take it especially when I know I am not wrong. Don't get me wrong, I didn't say I was right either but I believe he won't speak to me like that in a while after that incident cos mumsy kept appologising.

freecocoa: I was thinking to just wait till after the meeting to know the outcome of the whole thing but my curiosity no gree me.

Please why is your father against the woman?(I'm asking cos its rare to see an Igbo man in support of a kid being rude to elders)there are just so many issues involved in this case,i guess its coming out gradually,its obvious not everyone supports the marrying of that woman abi did the woman beat the girl mercilessly?

to my knowledge this is the first time any of such has happened, that is as far as I know. I also know that the elder cousin takes his role alittle too seriously. As 4 my dad, he has no problem with the lady particularly that he does not have with edo people in general but that remains his opinion and his alone. He though mentioned yesterday as we where talking among us, that no outside woman, he does not know when she was married into the family (he was present at their wedding ooo) would come and cause division in the family. I had to ask him what he meant by that, that how does her beating an unruhly child compute to causing division among brothers. He just told me shut up there b4 I slap u ur own .

safarigirl: She shall appease the family if she wants to remain there, I'm very familiar with Delta Ibo culture, my mum is from there. Those people don't take sh1t from anyone, and her being Edo doesn't help her situation, @ freecocoa, this one, I know. In fact, she's very lucky it was the gurl's father, cos if it was a woman, she'd have been in ICU by now.

Tell me about it. What u say is true cos I married from there and half of my family is delta igbo. My dad is Imo. Anyway what eva happens there on friday will tell. I am definitely behinde my cousin's wife and most people on my side of the family are also except my dad. I believe when we are finished with our elder cousin, he would think twice about slapping aother woman. 4 God sake it could have been my wife that he slapped (God 4bid).

purpose100: Op, pls tell me about "the Yoruba way of life".
Is it only Yoruba BIL that beat there brother's wife? Your family situation says otherwise. In fact, in Yoruba tradition, the amount of respect you dish out to your brother's wife shows the level of respect you have for your brother.

How can a man go to another man's house and beat the wife? I could not just understand!

But that your sister in-law den.se sha. She obviously needs tutorial. She needs to sharpen her reflex actions. As the man gave her the 1st slap, she should have responded immediately. Ok, now, what will be the end result? They will beg her,can u imagine? But if she have given the man 3 dirty slaps back immediately, the 2 of them would have been begging each other and it would have been a win-win thing.

I just meant that my cousin was able to show respect and not defy all by rushing to his brother's house. He always had this strong sense of respect he must have inculcated cos he lived all his life in ibadan. Thats all I meant.

Only if u knew that dorminance is suffocating

I have read all your posts and I thank everyone that contributed. I also thank those that shed some light on the various things obtainable in the igbo and youruba culture. People like freecocoa, jennykadry, dede1, to name a few. To add more facts, my cousin is delta igbo but his parents raised them all in Ibadan (so it kind of made his siblings used to the yoruba way of life). His wife is edo but was raised in enugu. Anyway the said family meeting has been set for friday or so. Hopefully I'd be able to shed more light on how things develope. Thanks again guys.

Orikinla: Let us be frank and stop flattering Nigerian babes simply because we want to lay them.
Without make up, fake hair and jeans trousers, many of them are unattractive.

Have you seen them without their trousers?
They cannot even go out in skirts, because of their funny looking legs.
How many of them can dare go out in skirts?

Then how many of them can go out with their natural hair when they would be mistaken for vultures, turkeys or hens?

Just dare them to do without hair weave and no trousers for 12 months.

not true