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ALCOHOLKILLS:
very useless editor, let bello employ him as his PA

Pls explain

Rawhumper:
Jesus was not from the old testament.
I have come across spirits take it or leave.
If u believe in witchcraft then u should know about demons cos they the ones that guide them

Witchcraft like hogwog school of witchcraft or do u mean Harry potter? No I don't believe in witchcraft. Though I believe in the wickedness of man in high places. I believe in what I can see not in fantasy or imaginary things

Shibaraba:
You get mouth.

She go still serve come. Be patient and don't be too obvious. She must serve come. Revenge is best served cold. Don't take it out on innocent girls o. Not all of them bad I swear.

Wetin you Don see Wey you wan turn monster
You Don wash pant.
You Don carry her go meet her boyfriend wey she call her uncle for hotel, wait for reception for like 2 hours and return her home. When you ask why she rough she say she dey wash cloths. For hotel?
You Don turn messenger for girl?
You Don submit your salary for woman every month?
If no then shut it and move on.

I'm sure some of them, dey laugh happily seeing as you dey lament. Man up

Not necessarily. She is obviously hung on the ex. That may be the last time he may see her back

Descorts:
We started as friends. We were so close she could do anything for me and I could do anything for her.

She had a boyfriend who was a serial cheat and treated her like trash. It got to a point they broke up and he left. She was heartbroken.

I gave her my shoulders to lean on. I was there for her throughout those turbulent times and made sure she was never sad again.

She moved on. 2 months on we started dating. It was all fun and rosy. I'm not the type to fall deeply in love or should I say, women don't tickle my fantasy, I'd rather be with my goons than be with any girl.

But this girl came into my life and I don't know what she did to me to make me so in love with her. I loved her, she loved me. It was a heaven made match and a relationship anyone would wish for. On my birthday she got me a really expensive gift and I fell even more for her.

3 months on, her birthday was close and I was planning to make it special for her. Then I heard her ex came back in town, I wasn't troubled, "she loves me so much and she won't bat an eyelid for him anymore" I thought.

And then it happened. She left me for her ex who came back for her. I heard from a reliable source that before he came back, they'd been communicating online and the guy told her he's coming to take her back and he did take her from me.....

I am broken.....
I shall rise again in no time, and when I rise... I AM GOING TO BE A HEARTLESS MONSTER.
These hoes... non virgins or virgins, young or old, I shall toy with their emotions and break them....

GAME ON

That's the adrenaline talking

Aldebaran:


If you are a Muslim, let's give thanks to Allah...



If you are a Christian, let's give thanks to God...

Ur post is deceitful. To be able to adequately compare both countries one has to look at movement of people in and out of the country.

RuudVanNisteroy:
It doesn't matter if you get work experience and obtain the best grade from a University in the Netherlands. If you don't find a job that qualifies for permanent residence after you receive your 1 year post graduate work permit, you will be back in Nigeria or can choose to remain illegally and live like slave.

Yes i agree but for the part of being illegal. That doesn't profit anyone, u will only be wasting Ur time cos u can't do anything.

RuudVanNisteroy:
Getting a student visa to Netherlands is easy as long as you get admission and pay the tuition. The problem is getting a job after the you get your 1 year post graduate work permit. Many Nigerians end up back home.

It is hard to get a job there because they put Dutch Nationals,EU citizens first before they look at your application.

People should be advised that unlike Canada getting permanent residency in most EU countries is thru legal immigration and it takes about 5-8 years after the person has received his/her temporary residence permit. Not before.
The student route is the best one. Ofcos traveling with a job offer is better than the students route but very difficult to achieve.

DonMekino:
they are fraught with powers of their own, forget the name, what's important is the power they control

This power u are talking about, can u confirm 100% that u have come across it? Or is it what u here from Ur pastors? Can u confirm that they have had such encounter? Forget tales by moonlight. Follow facts

DonMekino:
so what does the Bible mean by "we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and power at high places"?

U haven't seen principalities and power in high places in Ur place of work or around u? When u make up evil and the devil in Ur mind and believe it, it will be true for u.
It is just like when u believe that u are jinxed or believe certain ills will befall u, then it will be true for u. Principalities and powers doesn't necessarily have to mean something abstract like satan

Edojoma:
U try to believe whatever u wanna believe, don't shove ur belief n perspective down my throat.. If u don't believe OK for u, just waka pass.. Don't av time for rubbish n naive arguments...

U r not required or compelled to understand such things...D brother I quoted knows wat I'm saying but u won't...its not ur fault either its just ur belief..

I still cast u back into the pits of hell Satan.

bestpunterever:
pained you?

Didn't sha

Ayt27:
Smiles
One of the physical signs I usually use to know believers not christians is that they use the word Lord. I could be wrong but try observing it

Nairalandmonika:
Does work experience and grade matters in getting a job over there?
Will they consider HND?
I just completed my service
No work experience yet apart from internship.
I have an uncle in Netherland though we don't talk that much.

I can't disprove or confirm Ur statement

Rawhumper:
Didn't the same bible talk about fallen angel's,even when Jesus said he saw satan falling from Heaven like a lightening.
Same Bible mentioned about Leviathan spirit from the sea so bro such creatures exist.

Depends on what world u are living in? On earth, in fantasy or in the old testament.
Have u seen Leviathan before? Have u seen fallen angels before? If u haven't seen them then believe those words where just used for descriptive purposes

IamD18:
Who's the bitch? Someone's wife?

Are you MAD? What right has he to even send her on an errand in the first place? Is he her boss at work, husband, father or elder brother?

Are you FOOLISH? Why will he even visit and stay with her when the husband isn't around? I'm asking you!

Are you that DUMB? Don't you know what it means to set boundaries and mode in which you should relate to a married friend?

According to OP, she politely suggested another alternative but he turned it down, proving he had something in mind.

And here you are, typing about bitches!

Should I blame your father for this statement you made on someone's wife or should I blame your dusty brain?

It's so pitiful and shocking that after all the promises you made to your parents to be responsible, reasonable and sensible, you ended up as a shallow minded BOY who is ready to suck the scrotum balls of his friends than to protect his wife in cases like this.

C'mon! Will you take your pathetic self out of here!

Nonsense and turninoninown!

Completely agree. The man crossed boundaries. He didn't have shame to even stay in the house while his friend wasn't home, he even sat and ate and has the audacity to send the sick wife out for recharge card. We Nigerians don't respect boundaries.

AkeNathan:
Imagine warning.

Very in-sensitive, non-empathetic government.

Is there no other way you can urge people to stay home other than drawing our attention to the sad reality of what is going on in other countries?

Have respect for the innocent lives lost in those countries please

Sad truth to it. Defy warning at Ur detriment

IAmPhiL:
Happy Easter everyone!
I hope this post doesn't get chopped off like others.

Quick one about the hustle for a partner.

They're lots of categories we encounter. Some of which are really lugubrious.

A: Naija babe studying here but only interested in someone with papers.

B: Naija babe with papers (from UK/EU/US) but isn't convinced you love her, but you're after her paper. She plays hard to get till hell freezes.

C: Oyinbo babe not interested in something serious, only flings. Flee!!!

D: Oyinbo babe interested but pulls out cos its feasible you need her for papers.

E: Oyinbo that is loyal, wants everything for you, paper or not, she's game (very very hard to find)

F: Oyinbo babe ready for anything, so long as she gets paid!

G: Oyinbo babe, single mama, would love up instantly if she smells your money from afar.

H: Oyinbo babe that's very nice, but turns out she's gay or trans. Run!!!!!

I: The list continues.

Summary, our mindset needs to change, most especially single ones. We need to reason in the right perspective as we grow.

This piece summaries lots of unwritten things. A pity the author didn't complete the list. The take home here is that u all have to learn to make ur own way and not depend on a 2nd or 3rd party to make it for u. People tend to disappoint

mychellin:
The OP is correct in all points about German. I had lovely experience about Germans within my last 6 months. I have a personal parrol jobs that made me in contact with many of the Germans. My experience has been superb with below supporting facts.

1. They mostly live a personal and private life. Infact, they take time to study you before geting used to you. They can keep to trusting you in every angle immediately you get used together.
2. They are very nice people. I had several personal experience I cant share all here. I remember a lady packing beside to drop me off at an airport jus seeing my worried nature on road. She kept asking my fearing on the wheel. It was a one of the great experience with German that I cant forget.
3. They are opened minded. Very straight forward and can keep to promises. I had lots still keeping to their promises till now, even with the covid 19 lock down issue.
4. They are very friendly. Though, sometimes few may look racist due to their privacy nature. Like not trying to keep a body contact on train, standing for you when situation seems inconvient for them in bus or keep a smiling back response when trying to show a request for an excuse. Generally, they are cultured and warmly.
5. Meanwhile, they are blunt to show their dislike if they are not interested in you or your work. You will definitely know with their immediate negative remarks. They are very blunt.

Indeed, it has been a great experience as an international student.

Ur concluding sentence says it all. I will only add that u wait till u have lived there long enough. U start seeing the edges and the abrasions.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Ur opinion!!

Seun:
I am a strong proponent of the use of face-masks and I think that, if not for the aggressive marketing campaign by the WHO to brainwash people against protecting themselves, the Coronavirus would not have killed so many people. The WHO is to blame for this tragedy.

However, what the governor said was wrong. Even after putting a mask on every face, we still need to continue reducing our exposure to to the Coronavirus by avoiding risky situations that we can afford to avoid. Masks do not provide perfect protection. Nothing provides that.

On this one Seun is right. The masks have spaces on the side that they virus can slip through. The only mask that has the best protection is the ffp 2 and ffp 3 masks. But to full protection one needs the hazard clothes too before one can say one is fully protected

crazysam001:
Its a very tricky situation, men have almost no need but to be desired emotionally because every other thing he can do himself sadly it isnt really is a guarantee that he will stay. However the absence ofbit cannot sustain a relationship for the long term. So not giving a man sex is inconsequential to how the relationship will pan out all it does in the end is make him develope insecurities occasioned by her mistrust and in the end thats whay rather hurts the budding relationship. Relationships are a risk if you going in with one foot, you shouldn't be in one.

Just say once the commitment is there. The girl would know when to drop even without I do.

danowena:
See this man that called himself a professor speaking like a layman. So doctors should examine patients critically before refering them for malaria tests as well? Professor, just incase you have forgotten, the tests are meant to either confirm or negate suspicion of an ailmemt. It is a vital part of the diagnosis process.
Despite the number of negative results in the US and Uk (as examples) did you hear them advise doctors to stop referring people for tests? I am glad you mentioned that some were postive. What if the doctors of those positive ones allowed them to roam about? Professor, take your time o o. This is not the time to say rubbish if you have nothing tangible to say. Don't risk the lives of people because you want media attention.
Your statement is grossly stupid and very irresponsible.

Allow the charlatan. How do u examine a patient without protective clothes that will probably cough into Ur face.

bestpunterever:
And who said ibo people have been marginalized?
Amaka Enemo is the National cordinator of sex workers.

Idiotic statement

Iyiataata92:
As a mum, how would you feel if you hear that your daughter is the national coordinator of Nigeria Olosho Association?
I'm serious oo

Some countries have legalized ashawo business so what's Ur problem

doubleportion:
This is scary! People may tend to runaway from being tested


Meanwhile! I don'ate my own proceed from being FTC to FG for treatment of PATIENTS WITH DEADLY VIRUS COVID 19

It's uncomfortable but not painful. People should stop passing wrong information

kristen12:
How did you ever find out a person you were dating was cheating on you?

I had his facebook password so I was reading his chats.

Never check your partners phone if you're not emotionally strong.

Really irrelevant. If a relationship becomes toxic then it's time to leave. U don't have to wait for the cheating to start before u grow a brain.
If the cheating is don before u find out, then the door is not far. U only fight for a partner that wants to be fought for.

It's always best to keep women hanging and weaning for someone. They tend to grow out of it sometimes.
Best action is to keep it completely platonic with the said lady (bosses girlfriend), never close that line and be clear to her about it. That doesn't mean u can't see the pants of the other ladies u mentioned. If u are in Asia like I think u are then enjoy the fun. It's always an experience.

DenreleDave:
1.. It is too long

2. I know u r lying

3. it will end in tears 4u


4. You are stupid guy.. Abi what kind of weak men are we producing in this nation.

B4 na lady them dey kiss wey go run outside but I kon hear man again. Lady kiss u, u run outside...

Are you mad? Are u a pussy?


Ahn ahn, lady kiss u, u run outside. Instead make u kiss am make she run outside..


Moreover, have u forgotten corona virus is ravaging lands and u still kissed.. I would have advise the authority to quarantine you and ur boss gf but I am scared, una rubbish go continue inside quarantine room if left alone


Froshloaded, where r u

make we sing for this guy na

U are a troll

Jman06:
The least thing we can afford to toy about at this critical time is entertaining unfounded stories from conspiracy theorists!

Man and microbes have been at competition since life began on earth. We have had cases of smallpox, Ebola, HIV, Lassa fever etc in the past. Were they also created by China for whatever gains Did Nigeria create Lassa fever to achieve economic gains Did DR Congo create Ebola for their gains

Stop spreading falsehood that will end up worsening the spread of the virus in the country!

I don't have to agree with u. I am at the frontline, I know what we have seen so far and what we see. Even quoting this the OP helps her misinformation. I have asked the modes to remove the post.