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mychellin:
The OP is correct in all points about German. I had lovely experience about Germans within my last 6 months. I have a personal parrol jobs that made me in contact with many of the Germans. My experience has been superb with below supporting facts.

1. They mostly live a personal and private life. Infact, they take time to study you before geting used to you. They can keep to trusting you in every angle immediately you get used together.
2. They are very nice people. I had several personal experience I cant share all here. I remember a lady packing beside to drop me off at an airport jus seeing my worried nature on road. She kept asking my fearing on the wheel. It was a one of the great experience with German that I cant forget.
3. They are opened minded. Very straight forward and can keep to promises. I had lots still keeping to their promises till now, even with the covid 19 lock down issue.
4. They are very friendly. Though, sometimes few may look racist due to their privacy nature. Like not trying to keep a body contact on train, standing for you when situation seems inconvient for them in bus or keep a smiling back response when trying to show a request for an excuse. Generally, they are cultured and warmly.
5. Meanwhile, they are blunt to show their dislike if they are not interested in you or your work. You will definitely know with their immediate negative remarks. They are very blunt.

Indeed, it has been a great experience as an international student.

Ur concluding sentence says it all. I will only add that u wait till u have lived there long enough. U start seeing the edges and the abrasions.

whizqueen:
My friend sent me this thread last night but I had too much to say so here we go.

I (A Nigerian girl living in Canada) will be responding to the OP's points and some other comments I found on the thread.


Are Nigerian Ladies in Canada lonely? Ofcourse we are! Are Nigerian girls in NIGERIA lonely? Hell yeah!!! Are Nigerian girls in other countries lonely? Absolutely!!!!! Being lonely is not a factor of location or person. It's about not finding the right friends/partner you vibe with.


Why did we immigrate? Bros are you kidding me? Canadian govt is paying me $2000 monthly and other benefits for losing income due to covid-19 Is that happening in Naija right now? All the money donated by philanthropist in Nigeria would soon disappear into the thin air without our govt giving explanation of any sort. Ofcourse, it's not bed of roses abroad neither were we expecting a man wrapped in a gift bag but please don't let your sentiments cloud your reasoning as to why people make immigration decisions abeg.


I personally feel attacked I recently posted a video on my YouTube Channel about finding love & online dating in Canada. It's asif this hope saw my video and wanted to attack me


What makes you think we would be interested in you to begin with? Don't pride yourself too much plis dear


If you like let the OP influence your decision and stop you from chasing your immigration dreams, last last it's up to you to decide what you want for your future.


Whilst I would agree with growing together with your partner and building with them. I think it's just shallow minded of anyone in this age and time to ask for women to chase marriage first before career. Marriage is not the ultimate not everyone sees marriage as an achievement. These days, if you crave for sex so much, you can pay someone to do it or get yourself a Love Machine, if you want a child, you can literally just buy a sperm and save yourself lots of stress. Most of us are yet to keep an open mind to these things, however if you want something badly there;s always a way to get it.


Most Nigerian men hate to see it happen, there are laws that protect women here and they would prefer dying single than to see women as their equals. A good number of them are control freaks and would rather their woman be at their beck and call for everything as opposed to having their marriage work as a partnership. Nigerian married man knowing the laws of the land will still go ahead and cheat on his wife with a girl living in the same condo with his wife. Una no even dey fear or respect una madam. If atall you really want to cheat, you cannot travel to Nigeria and secretly mess with girls that fancy IJGB crew or allen avenue. As expected, some women do exploit the situation but if you find yourself a god-fearing person and you do the right thing, no divorce laws or child custody issue would stop y'all from flourishing.


White men dont find us attractive? Laughs is Swahili
On the contrary most men of other races have FETISH for Nigerian girls and Black girls in general. Maybe not long term in all cases tho but they reaaaaaaally fancy us and admire our enthusiasm towards life. Whilst most Nigerian girls would likely not wanna go for the likes of 'Ryan', 'Billy' and co it's not cos we don't find them attractive. Firstly, Naija guys are smart, intelligent and goal oriented. You see the average ones already have plans for their future and working towards it unlike the counterparts who are comfortable with just a high school degree. If a Naija guy is even into technical jobs he would try to be the best at it and work towards starting his own company in the near future. Secondly, coping with someone with a different culture, lifestyle, food, etc is honestly stressful. I was talking with one Persian guy and he said before we can kiss or hold hands, we have to be temporarily married. The other chinese guy is only about 5ft tall, I'm just wondering what he would look like in that department

In Nigeria, when you visit a guy at home, some would expect you to know that's express ticket to get laid with them. But here if you visit a guy at home, you can be almost certain that if you guys have sex it's cos you wanted it, no guy will try to lure or manipulate you to straff them or tell you when you came to my house what were you thinking. They know it's important to ask for your opinion or even avoid the whole situation altogether.

Something the OP failed to address is that the Loneliness spans across both men and women living in Diaspora. Even the white people find it hard getting a partner for themselves much less an immigrant that would probably take some time to fully settle in. The system is built to have everyone mind their business, that togetherness or family-spirit is missing.

All the naija guys and ladies in Toronto have finish dating themselves. It's such a small city, everyone knows eachother thru another person only a matter of time before you find out that; the guy toasting you is ex with your colleagues' friend. Or the guy you matched with on the dating app went on a date with your housemate the day before. Some would be married and they would be on the dating apps lying to other women.

Some of us don't even mind going back home to bring men here, but 'em guys just they find paper. Only few genuinely love and care for you. I kuku know people here already do that as business tho, some ladies/guys now charge up to $30,000 to marry people from home to help them get residency here.

There are tons of Nigerians in Canada groups on WhatsApp and Telegram some are just for singles and you find people of age 35, 40, etc filled with both women and MEN. Some guys eventually resort to going back home to marry the less exposed girls, but guess what happens once they reach YYZ airport? Oh well your guess is as good as mine. Their eyes go open finish.

A good number of Naija guys are single and desperately finding love as well as ladies. Truth is, we all crave for love. And that's not a bad thing to want. Finding a good match or significant other is a honestly a game of chance. Home and Abroad, White or Black race finding a partner is truly difficult and if you got lucky finding that one special person, you better love and cherish them truly.

I rest my case; I am in the comment section waiting for someone to jump on my mention and before you do so just remember: Opinions are like as5holes and everyone is entitled to one. So this is my opinion, I have free time today

Link to Original thread https://www.nairaland.com/5782313/chai-nigerian-girls-canada-lonely

Ur opinion!!

Seun:
I am a strong proponent of the use of face-masks and I think that, if not for the aggressive marketing campaign by the WHO to brainwash people against protecting themselves, the Coronavirus would not have killed so many people. The WHO is to blame for this tragedy.

However, what the governor said was wrong. Even after putting a mask on every face, we still need to continue reducing our exposure to to the Coronavirus by avoiding risky situations that we can afford to avoid. Masks do not provide perfect protection. Nothing provides that.

On this one Seun is right. The masks have spaces on the side that they virus can slip through. The only mask that has the best protection is the ffp 2 and ffp 3 masks. But to full protection one needs the hazard clothes too before one can say one is fully protected

crazysam001:
Its a very tricky situation, men have almost no need but to be desired emotionally because every other thing he can do himself sadly it isnt really is a guarantee that he will stay. However the absence ofbit cannot sustain a relationship for the long term. So not giving a man sex is inconsequential to how the relationship will pan out all it does in the end is make him develope insecurities occasioned by her mistrust and in the end thats whay rather hurts the budding relationship. Relationships are a risk if you going in with one foot, you shouldn't be in one.

Just say once the commitment is there. The girl would know when to drop even without I do.

danowena:
See this man that called himself a professor speaking like a layman. So doctors should examine patients critically before refering them for malaria tests as well? Professor, just incase you have forgotten, the tests are meant to either confirm or negate suspicion of an ailmemt. It is a vital part of the diagnosis process.
Despite the number of negative results in the US and Uk (as examples) did you hear them advise doctors to stop referring people for tests? I am glad you mentioned that some were postive. What if the doctors of those positive ones allowed them to roam about? Professor, take your time o o. This is not the time to say rubbish if you have nothing tangible to say. Don't risk the lives of people because you want media attention.
Your statement is grossly stupid and very irresponsible.

Allow the charlatan. How do u examine a patient without protective clothes that will probably cough into Ur face.

bestpunterever:
And who said ibo people have been marginalized?
Amaka Enemo is the National cordinator of sex workers.

Idiotic statement

Iyiataata92:
As a mum, how would you feel if you hear that your daughter is the national coordinator of Nigeria Olosho Association?
I'm serious oo

Some countries have legalized ashawo business so what's Ur problem

doubleportion:
This is scary! People may tend to runaway from being tested


Meanwhile! I don'ate my own proceed from being FTC to FG for treatment of PATIENTS WITH DEADLY VIRUS COVID 19

It's uncomfortable but not painful. People should stop passing wrong information

kristen12:
How did you ever find out a person you were dating was cheating on you?

I had his facebook password so I was reading his chats.

Never check your partners phone if you're not emotionally strong.

Really irrelevant. If a relationship becomes toxic then it's time to leave. U don't have to wait for the cheating to start before u grow a brain.
If the cheating is don before u find out, then the door is not far. U only fight for a partner that wants to be fought for.

It's always best to keep women hanging and weaning for someone. They tend to grow out of it sometimes.
Best action is to keep it completely platonic with the said lady (bosses girlfriend), never close that line and be clear to her about it. That doesn't mean u can't see the pants of the other ladies u mentioned. If u are in Asia like I think u are then enjoy the fun. It's always an experience.

DenreleDave:
1.. It is too long

2. I know u r lying

3. it will end in tears 4u


4. You are stupid guy.. Abi what kind of weak men are we producing in this nation.

B4 na lady them dey kiss wey go run outside but I kon hear man again. Lady kiss u, u run outside...

Are you mad? Are u a pussy?


Ahn ahn, lady kiss u, u run outside. Instead make u kiss am make she run outside..


Moreover, have u forgotten corona virus is ravaging lands and u still kissed.. I would have advise the authority to quarantine you and ur boss gf but I am scared, una rubbish go continue inside quarantine room if left alone


Froshloaded, where r u

make we sing for this guy na

U are a troll

Jman06:
The least thing we can afford to toy about at this critical time is entertaining unfounded stories from conspiracy theorists!

Man and microbes have been at competition since life began on earth. We have had cases of smallpox, Ebola, HIV, Lassa fever etc in the past. Were they also created by China for whatever gains Did Nigeria create Lassa fever to achieve economic gains Did DR Congo create Ebola for their gains

Stop spreading falsehood that will end up worsening the spread of the virus in the country!

I don't have to agree with u. I am at the frontline, I know what we have seen so far and what we see. Even quoting this the OP helps her misinformation. I have asked the modes to remove the post.

Yenefer:
This

https://www.yuzu-productions.com/EN/debt_en/index_en.html

Is this write up urs or copied from somewhere? I looks copied, I hope it is

DonMekino:
they are fraught with powers of their own, forget the name, what's important is the power they control

U are talking BS

DonMekino:
so what does the Bible mean by "we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and power at high places"?

Does not mean mermaid

gbami:
I work in a multinational company, My colleague a white guy dates naija girls..He usually calls to tell me how many girls he has slept with. .how he slept with them...From his stories ...They are willing to Bleep his brains out...They can do anything to Please him ..They swallow, Do anal etc...Not only naija girls...Black girls in general, heard a lot of this shitty stories when I was studying in Europe...
It is so sad you will(not me) end marrying them..If she has dated a white man...There is high probability she has been fvcked in the ass...

Nothing new there cut across black women and men. White people like exotic meat

U people like making this charlatan thread. Pls ignore the idiots

Legitme:
Please how much was involved?

I can't remember exactly. I know madam had to fly to Abuja twice after I had done all the ground work and callings. Once to meet the madam in charge and do capturing (ofcos the madam asked for her own cut) and secondly to collect the passport.
This was after she had spent money trying to do runz on it. The process should usually be straight but naija factor makes it difficult.

Budline1:
Bro, you are lucky to have your woman and I know some men will also be lucky to marry beautiful ladies not driven by wealth but true love and potentials they see in their men.
I'm not saying it happens everywhere in the world tho because we have seen situations where rich beautiful ladies like Mariah Carey married an average Nick Cannon, Jennifer Lopez never married for money, most beautiful Hollywood actresses married their peers in the industry.

Nigeria is just a different ball game and many beautiful women think differently.

Maybe

Budline1:
Yeah I understand, you have a point because I didn't conclude that they are all the same. I just spoke based on what I have noticed in the present Nigeria. To even support your theory, my mother who is very beautiful married my father when he was poor, it took him some time to make it in life and she stayed with him all through thick and thin, that was then... Even my mother still used to tell us that she had rich suitors then but she chose our father, whereas beautiful ladies ppl like Bianca got married to very rich men like Ojukwu back then and more like that, which out mother often made reference to. I'm not saying all beautiful ladies are the same but I'm very sure many of them just want to be bought, many of them will use their beauties to try to get very rich men, it might not be green as they thought it would be eventually tho..
Why will a fine young girl like Regina Daniel marry Ned?.. We have heard on several occasions that Caroline Danjuma's husband has been cheating on her yet she stays, would she stay if he was an average man? Many of them(not all) prefer to be bought my brother. They might not want to admit to it tho. You're very lucky to have a wife as yours, such women are rare these days.. it is just what it is.

I met a girl recently through a friend, she feels she's beautiful, when we were talking abt marriage and all, she was like "If I don't marry into wealth, I'll make my own money and try as much as I can to be wealthy". Imagine that...

I don't need to imagine Ur last statement. It's a popular mindset in Nigeria. I think cos the few people that have little cash rob it in the faces of the rest and we know how many of the very rich treat the others with scorn. U don't have to take my word for it.
I remember a note my madam showed me from one of her suitors years back, this was before I wedded her.
The note said something about how the author was pained to hear she was wedding and how she couldn't wait for her real love to make money and marry her
I almost died laughing, not about the author's pain but the situation playing out itself. That is how life is.

Or another issue where another guy was outside her window singing I will always love u with her name and all. Beautiful women always see shit like that. I can understand why they tend to become woody and unfeeling after a time. But that doesn't mean one can't press their mumu-button.

Budline1:
Well, I feel the reason why beautiful women don't love genuinely isn't because of heartbreak from their first love. I feel it is just PRIDE. This feeling of "I can get whoever I want", "I'm too hot for this guy", "I'm too beautiful". Common in this part of the world tho, naija.

You ever wonder why most beautiful Nollywood actresses are divorced or single?
Genevieve, Linda Esoro, Osas Ajibade and more.. Most of them basically feel that they are too beautiful for the men they married, they always want to get better. Those that married billionaire husbands don't really divorce tho...

Summary: Beautiful women want to be bought by very rich men, hence the pride.
Yeah, they don't really love from the heart. Their beauty is their gift and their curse.

No vex, that has nothing to do with beauty but the lady's personality. Not every woman wants to stay under a man and society has always being cruel to single ladies.
I know many beautiful women that are married and staying with their husbands e.g Regina Askia, Stefanie Okereke, Chimamanda and my wifey to name a few.
We men should desist from stereotyping women cos we are usually wrong about them just like they are wrong about us.

postbox:
Mr Orji noted that NSIA involvement in the project is to manage the PIDF, set-up by the President in 2018, to manage key projects of this administration which includes the East-West Road, Abuja-Kano Highway, Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, Third Niger Bridge and the Mabilla Power Project. He explained that for the project to be viable, they would be tolled projects to be covered by the tripartite agreement.

https://brandspurng.com/2020/03/19/fg-releases-n20billion-for-the-east-west-road-project/

These people are charlatans really. They mentioned the cities connecting certain roads but leave that one as east-west. Deceiving themselves.

cRobo:
Are u aware that Nigeria doctors are on strike the moment the coronavirus news escalated?

It's a decision I can't support but one I understand. Does Nigeria have things in place to help doctors fight the good fight? Why would a Nigerian doctor risk his/her life for a country that has refused to treat him/her well? Answer those questions honestly then u'd understand.
Also let me add this; the fact that Nigerian doctors are on strike doesn't mean that NCDC is also on strike. I would also want to believe that the ER of major teaching hospitals remain open. U only need to educate urself.

mannazgee:
small girl ...young shall grow.

Actually she made sense. Think about what she said again.

wirinet:
Don't mind them. Trump's world's have become commandments, no doctor or health professional can prescribe chloroquine for a virus infection.

If Trump tells them salt would cure coronavirus, they would drink salt water to death.

True. It's not just done but only under explicit approval by the health system and FDA. It's not there yet.
#Stayhome

anonimi:
.................thereby increasing the risk of infection to the harassed doctors, just like the Liberian Ebola carrier, Sawyer and late Dr. Adadevoh.



www.nairaland.com/attachments/2671413_fbimg1437906532188_jpegd6338302b6ee17494622bad46e92894a

It's an occupational hazard. We all know the risks. Am back to the front though, stayed home for a week after I was pulled out. Then another week working but without patient contact, didn't develope symptom so was thrown back to the wolves. The struggle is real.
#stayhome

Greennotes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WbICGIN1tTM



https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.forbes.com/sites/lisettevoytko/2020/03/19/trump-says-fda-approved-anti-malaria-drug-chloroquine-to-test-as-coronavirus-treatment/amp/

Believe Trump at Ur detriment. FDA says it hasn't approved Chloroquine for testing

Lordave:
Bad market to China and her pathetic sympathizers.


So can footballing activities resume already?

I want to hawk Chelsea funeral banners at Allianz Arena.

Na wah for some people. How is this bad market to China. Isn't it China that discovered Chloroquine may be effective. China was the first to use it with success and tell the world. People that read things upside down.
#Stayhome

cRobo:
I wait until I see Nigeria doctors do this

Until then

I won't say a word

Comments like this takes the fun out of the struggle. Many colleagues have considered resigning cos we are overrun. The health system is moving doctors from other departments to ER cos they are overun. They are graduating final year medical students in Italy without their final exams, this baptism of fire will be their exam.
Where I am, I can't count how many times patients have attempted to beat me up. One came into my face to threaten me, I had to take several steps back. Several Colleagues got involved immediately. The struggle is real #stayhome

Erediauwa:
Baba lifeless will never stay at home, the drunkard will rather gallivant kebbi state because of a mere fish festival.


God bless those health practitioners

U can imagine