AdesewaAde: My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin. To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing. What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me? Please help a sister.
Best u arrange urself. He is not mandated to invest in u if he hasn't married u. Start ur business on ur own and let him see how well u are doing then allow him decide if he should invest or not. His using ur name as next of kin is also not right unless he hopes to secure ur future if anything happens to him. That for me is a big step to take before saying "I do". Be careful u don't make a wrong step by seeking much more than he is ready to give then loose out all together
lefulefu: have u seen indian girls b4? i am not talking about the ones on zee world oo .i mean your average indian girl..have u seen one? many of them look so shapeless .are u telling me they so protective of their shapeless girls? tell me which foreign men chase their women? i know it cant be naija guys cos we have taste
Probably the ones u saw. The students I met while in school, many of them will comfortably compete with Tyra Banks for her title while she was in her prime.
Racoon: Though wrong in all respect but, this may seems to be a deja vu coming back to hunt VP Osinbajo giving the lies & similar recklessly accusations he once made against former president Yar'Addua & Jonathan.
Allow the charlatan, some people can dish it out but can't take it
catfrog10: Afonjas are the most tribalistic people on the face of this earth. Where is that triablist Abike Dabiri? She is quiet. Everybody is quiet. Notice how they are not using their real name but nickname to hide their Yoruba name? Afonjas and evil are one!
Basoenewokoma: Joe Biden ran a Democratic primary campaign pitting himself against the party's rising progressive wing. From health care to foreign policy, the former vice president rejected the left's most ambitious policies and successfully pitched voters on his more moderate vision.
That reality has complicated matters for President Donald Trump, who has long sought to portray Democrats of all stripes as a front for socialist radicals and anti-fascist protesters. The caricature rarely applies, but the dissonance is especially clear when Trump uses it to project an image of Biden -- who has spent decades in public life -- as a closet leftist sympathizer determined to advance the policies he spent the last year running against.
Trump's one-size-fits-all playbook have been widely adopted by his allies, from Texas Sen. Ted Cruz to former House Speaker Newt Gingrich. It's even come some unexpected sources, like former New Hampshire governor and senator Judd Gregg, who in an op-ed this week that warned of a "coming Biden coup." But their arguments have so far failed to turn the tide against the presumptive Democratic nominee, who leads by double-digits in most national and swing state polling, or make much of a dent in the public perception of the 77-year-old.
Only the far right and trump supporters would believe that shit.
remsonik: The church of Satan is dead already, He has the whole earth which is vanity but who has the heavens and the whole world, God. Satan may think he has all the pleasure of this world here on earth but all the beauties of the world is in the heavens with God. When it's the resurrection hour, christ will come and pick the faithfuls of the earth while Satan and his people will be thrown into hell.
U are funny. Did anyone tell u church of Satan are devil worshippers? Pls go and educate urself about them before u start spewing trash
Twizzy30: there are many abroad, Hillsong church has a gay pastor, pastor with tattoos.
Not one more than one actually. That church wants to open in Abuja. Funny though that their church dogmas is very traditional cause they drawn against abortion among other things
They still can't impeach him cos they still haven't formed a quorum. 14 from 23 lawmakers is just 60% while they need a 2/3 rd majority which is 75%. Remember 9 lawmakers refused to sign. In a sane society which Nigeria is obviously not then they can impeach him as was also they case for Trump.
igwegeorgiano: Being in a relationship with a destination on one's mind is a beautiful thing considering the joy of having the right partner in your world to make things happen. Am beginning to have a rethink about my present relationship with the most ungrateful of all ingrates of a lady on the planet earth.
Am presently in a relationship with a lady from the eastern part of Nigeria while I am from the south-south. We met over five months ago and within this short period I have spent well over 7million naira on this lady setting up a boutique biz for her getting her a befitting accommodation tastefully furnished and many more goodies to ensure she is comfortable including a car.
I don't want to bore us with other issues that cropped up which actually prompted me to share my experiences with this ingrate of a woman. I work so smart for my money as a certified mariner and I made my money from every available legit means am very comfortable to a very large extent but true love and affection is missing.
I went into a relationship with the sole aim of settling down with my woman whom I have done so much for. Just last night she called me and requested I assist her with with 500k to take care of some personal issues I agreed to give her the money but unfortunately I was able to raise 250k which I sent to her. Just few minutes ago she called to tell me that am a very stingy man. She told me I can't take care of her needs, yet I want to marry her. My people, am confused right now because I can't imagined myself going into marriage with this lady.
I have decided to relaxed any form of assistance to her henceforth so I can take my time to assess the situation of things in my relationship with her.
Wonder why it took u this long to reach this decision
Adonis86: Hello house, I'm a student in one of the universities In Anambra State. I live in Awka and I need your advice on this matter. In 2017, I was running a program in a university in Awka, I needed an accommodation though don't have enough money to get a place to stay alone, so I resorted to looking for someone who needs a roommate so we could share the rent. I came across one of the posters on the school wall looking for a male roommate, so I picked the number, called, discussed the price, paid and moved in to stay with the guy. I was diagnosed with an STD a year before this incidence, but I had to keep it to myself to avoid stigmatization, though I was already on medics. Six months into my stay with my roommate, he fell sick and was diagnosed with Hepatitis C. He told me about it and had to travel for the family to take proper care of him. Few weeks later, I also travelled to attend to some family matters. But the trouble started on sunny afternoon while I was at home, I got a call from an unknown number. The person introduced himself as one Dr. something... I've forgotten. He claimed he was a family doctor to my roommate, that if I know he's suffering from the above mentioned illness? I responded Yes. He went further to ask me if I live with HIV, that he told him that he usually see me taking a particular drug daily. At this point, I had to open up because, he told me he'll assure me of confidentiality. Afterwards he ended the call. I was troubled in spirit for everything, but I had to keep my cool till I returned back to school. When I returned, my roommate was not back, days later he returned with a news that he's been cured of the virus, stating further that his parents was briefed by the doctor, that he also told them that I'm likely to be a gay since he has not seen me entertain a female visitor In the house ever since I moved into the house, I was just listening. He went further to advise me to pack out, giving me a deadline otherwise that his father is already threatening to storm my apartment with his brothers to deal with me for living with HIV and kept it away from him for all those months. At that point, I was not ready financially for a new accommodation, but I had to leave to avoid an embarrassment. So, I reached out to my cousin and requested for money which he gave me. But I asked my roommate about my remaining five months rent, he said I should forget it, that his younger brother will be joining him soon, that his family will deal with me if they visit and meet me in the house, so I had to leave immediately, which he helped me to carry my luggage and still gave me a parting gift. Though I never visited the house again, but we still talk on phone and greet whenever our paths cross in the street. Then in 2019, I was on a social network 'Badoo' chatting with people when someone added me up and started chatting me, when I checked it was the so called doctor that messed me up a couple of years ago. He never knew I was the same guy he used to shine in 2017, but on my own side, I pretended I never knew him and was chatting him normal, until he started making sexual advances towards me. He wanted me to visit him and passed the night in his place. I was surprised he gave out his number and house address and started chatting with me even on whatsapp, telling me how much he wanted up to be together. Now, I don't know if to expose him as well, since I still have my ex roommate's number too. I'm thinking of visiting him and taking pictures which I'll send my ex roommate as well as the screenshots of all his rusty conversations. Please friends, advise me properly or if I should forget about it.
Also late last year, something happened in my office where I work. God's grace, I was able to secure a job in Unizik, in a department where I work. One day, a guy walked into my office because the university management informed all the overstayed students to come and clear their outstanding courses and graduate. So, as they were coming in and registering their courses on my table, this guy came in and was making case for her sister. He pleaded with me to find a way to help her graduate, that she is been suffering from birth complications and that their father is very frail and sick, that I should help her to graduate. When I inquired of her name to know how to be of help, lo and behold, it was the same family of my ex roommate. it was his elder brother soliciting for assistance on behalf of the elder sister. I asked him well and he confirmed everything, but I refused to disclose my identity, because my encounter with their family was not a pleasant one. As a result, I declined to assist, even when I know what to do to help him. I don't know if I did the right thing also, but I just need strong piece of advice from matured minds... Thanks! MOD, please help me push this to the front page.
To the last u did wrongly, never decline to aid if and when in ur power regardless of how u were treated in the past. To the first stay away from the doctor.
Raeheemwayne: Pardon my Typographical errors and the long Epistle.
So, for about 3 months now I've been off and on with this girl from my college. I really like this girl, but the big problem here is that she's not over her ex, and so after her calling me her "boyfriend" for about a month she realized that she wasn't "emotionally available" and so she broke up with me.
However, later that same day she said she missed me and asked for me to stay over, which I did. For the month following, we would get into these cycles where she would want to spend all this time with me and kiss me and snuggle and do normal gf bf stuff, but then she would pull away later and affirm that we weren't dating and should act like friends, which then lead to her asking me to spend the night shortly after. One day she decided to totally cut it off, but then drunk texted me and wanted me to walk her home 2 days later, which I did.
In the past 2-3 weeks I've recognized these cycles and have become more distant, and as a result she's become way more emotionally attached. She wants to see me and do "bf gf stuff" way more often than before and texts me constantly (the cycles in large part have stopped).
However, I'm getting tired of not being in a committed relationship, and I thought she might be getting over him. Just now I had a talk with her to ask if she was getting over him and she said that she "didn't know". She tells me all the time that she would never get back with her ex, since he was "an asshole and emotionally abusive". She just misses him, apparently. I probably should have cut this off a long time ago, but I really like her and I don't know what to do. Advice?
All insults will be accepted. but, I need an urgent matured advice. Mods should please help push this to FP. Thanks.
Myndd44.
Lol, to all the advisers above me. U guys are funny. U need to have been in something similar to understand it. She is using u as a rebound for where her heart is. She is confused about if she should move on or not. U seem to be a nice guy here but that won't get u far with this type of lady. U need to make ur mark and stop loving up. Loving up makes her comfortable with u, the problem there is that since it's a rebound. U haven't actively made ur mark yet, regardless of all u have tried. U really haven't. If u don't like her cut it off and move away. She will find u once her head clears. Then u chop to compensate for all ur heartaches and move on.
If u like her then give her a wonderful time she will never forget then u make sure u sleep with her. Many Nigerian ladies tend to have their brain reset after sex. It's like when u reboot ur Computer for them. Once u have had her, u start avoiding her. Her brain will definitely reset and she will start looking for u. Thank me later.
Pls Note: U have to remember that it u do all these and finally win the egg, that doesn't mean u can keep it. It just means she now has two men she has dated and she will still have to choose from them both. So be prudent how much of ur heart u invest even after u guys start dating. Ur question was advice on the girl u liked not how u will keep her. So thank me later. Cheers!
LudaChriz: A lot of people are used to complaining about various commercial banks in Nigeria especially the low income earners as regards the dubious charges perpetrated by these Banks.
So I want to ask, which Bank is more considerate in terms of their charges for savings account currently?
Don't forget to tell us your reasons.
Let's talk business
What of FCMB? Does anyone have any problem with them?
He should get used to it. A case of getting used and dumped like hot sack of shit. I know one shouldn't cry at other people's pain but Oshiomole got what he dished out back. Besides the north always wanted the reins of APC. They know how to get power but have no idea how to retain it.
Corporate2020: Tinubu never lost a political battle unlike Buhari and his gang who were serial losers before Tinubu came to their aid. Even Obasanjo that humiliated Buhari severally before Tinubu came to his aid. That Obasanjo fears Tinubu. The whole Afenifere council of useless Elders that ganged up with Obasanjo against Tinubu were humiliated and disgraced single handedly by Tinubu.
Tinubu humiliated and disgraced Reno Omokirikiri's benefactor, so what do you expect from such a bitter nincompoop?
Just watch the Jagaban's next move. He talks less but he is a ruthless political strategist.
Wait for it. When they grow too big they fall the hardest
HeavenlyCherub: Nigerian men as much as you want to deny this. You want a successful woman in your life. Just not one more successful than you. This has been the experience of countless women I have come in contact with. No matter how good or respectful you are to them, you making more money makes you an enemy. Jealousy in relationships is real as they start to feel emasculated.
Just because you help someone to come to yankee does not mean they have to pay you with life. God used you as a vessel to help that person, just as someone helped you. If and when things are not working just walk away.
Below is a 911 call for help when a Nigerian man killed his wife due to her financial independence. When you make it they will begin telling you, how you have changed, how disrespectful, bossy you are and look down upon them. God forbid they helped you get papers they start to think they own you. Do yourself a favor and don’t date down. This video is one of many that have happened. This is so rampant in the African community.
First thing first, u need to remove the mentality of that term "if u make it or when u make it or I have made it or u have arrived". One cannot compare one issue as such with another. Those issues as rampart as they seemed are also secluded issues. Ofcos I don't support such atrocities committed neither do I support envy, talkless of the husband having envy for the wife he brought in who bore children for him. I mean there are lines that one shouldn't cross. In as much as it has to be said, whatever u write now won't make any difference. Why? Cos u don't live with the said people and have no idea how they have been living, good or bad. As sad as it is, zip ur mouth and eyes right
Is it possible that the men's level of education plays a part in it all? Or is it an ego thing
BlackNeo: For a while, I’ve followed Romanceland from a distance. I’ve also observed the great work of foremost redpill praexologists, especially Ubunja. I laud them all and I’ve come to lend my voice to theirs.
Ubunja, I believe, has focused on praexology of redpill and I strongly believe it is time someone laid more emphasis on Game. It is not enough to give people the pill without teaching them how to move forward.
ndidibabe: You are a learner if this kinda story is new to you. Several 16 years have banged men old enough to be their father.
Lol, my son I can assure u learner is not one of the things I call myself. It's a thing of principles not a major feat that is not resistable. The man just has to have his principles. As long as there is no gun to his/her head certain things are not expected to happen. I can say it's inexperience that made u say what u did cos if u know, u know. So kid don't say what u have no knowledge about. Everything doesn't end with private part and bottom
GOFRONT: If you ve ever straff your maid........ Anytime your maid be like: Aunty, there is something i want to tell you, Na so your mind go want to jump out through your mouth
But why would a man want to jump his house help when he has a wife? Unless the wife is not representing. Cos I don't see what will push a man to go beyond his bedroom. I really don't understand it.
Kizzygentle: Rape is rape. And the definition remains the same be it Marital or not. If she is not in the mood let her be. If taken by force it is RAPE.. Married or not it is RAPE and there should be a penalty for it.
So u would go and be looking into people's marriages to see who raped who, that's the literal meaning of ur statement. Pls take a breather, depending on the situation there is nothing like rape in marriage. Unless the person performing the act bludgeoned the victim. If it's just the act without consent, then one can't classify it as rape. Unmarried people should pls be careful what they listen to.
Romance › Re: He’s Transparent With Me Financially But Doesn’t Spend On Me. by drnoel: 12:54pm On Jul 21, 2020*. Modified: 2:16pm On Jul 21, 2020
.i mean your average indian girl..have u seen one? many of them look so shapeless 