Mgbadike80: Bros, i know some others have answered my questions but I'll still want your input because it seems that you're resident in Thuringen and that's where i'm aiming to study at. Chairman, please i would be applying to the Bauhaus university in Weimar, Thuringia, next year, it's the only program that currently interests me in the whole of Germany, please can you give me some necessary background even if it's just on what to expect while in east Germany.God would continue to bless you, Danielhouston and other contributors.
Thanks, if i can speak German at least to B1 or B2 level, have python programming skills (Especially with Gis softwares), would it improve my ease of getting a job or improve my pay? What advice would you give anybody hoping to sustain himself entirely from part time work as regards the right skills to acquire before coming? I read something about the need to get a driving license from 9ja, can you be more specific about it? Danielhouston, please, weigh in.I know my questions might be technical so please forgive me (Es tut mir leid, bitte).
Hallo, I had to think of what to reply u that's why it took sometime. Also pls I am not ur chairman. That area is not my field so I would be the wrong person to advise u. I also never lived in Weimar but know it's a beautiful small city not far from Eisenach where my family lived. As regards the job market in ur field pls educate yourself online and ask people in ur area of interest who reside in Germany. Pls don't let this discourage u from asking more questions but I am rather the wrong person to answer your questions. There are many NL people here reading in ghost mode who can answer your questions. I spotted the handle of two people I personally know but they also don't reside in Thüringen. As regards ur other questions: it is possible to sustain ones self while in school but with difficulty and u may start having poor grades. The driving license thing is necessary cos some companies ask for it. I know I didn't answer ur questions the way u may have hoped but it's due to not having the information u desired. It's been like a long time I was in the OP's shoe so lots of things have changed.
Danielhouston: Lol I see they’re coming out of their closet. I told you guys that some people feel exposed by my posts and they’re mad about it. I have exposed all their evil tactics. If you like, create 100 accounts and look for the slightest opportunity to attack me, I am not going anywhere this time. You will not win. I took time to learn about this forum and now I know better. So yeah, stay mad hahaha
About the unsafe cities I listed, I started my comment with “in my opinion”. We all have different experiences and see things differently. Some people would tell you it is dangerous to live in Lagos. Some would say it is safe. To come here and say my opinion about racism is not valid because you don’t have the same experience, is stupid.
If you want to know more about the racist cites I listed and Germany in general, you can get more information on google. Read articles and read other people’s experiences. A black guy was attacked and beaten in Göttingen in broad daylight. He ended up in the hospital and the story made the news. Yet, there are many black students in Gottingen and they feel safe. Will you tell the black guy that there’s no racism in Gottingen, because other black people were not attacked?
I have been personally attacked by racists and I will share my story with time. Perhaps someone would tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about, because they did not experience the same thing.
U are funny. Am Just coming across ur thread. U are lucky u didn't live in Thüringen.
Superwave: This one na foolish talk. If your Yoruba side of your family refuse to accept you maybe u are a bastard but in the end who cares. Your opinion is yours. I know Yoruba have no problem with Igbos as I grew up with them from primary to my textiary but those PDP n Kanu sponsor on NL to breed hate must no their fathers alone do not own the monopoly to hate. If you are deluded to the extent you can't see igbo hate Awo while Yoruba don't even disparage Zik both of whom live at the same time the. To hell with you n your entire household with your opinion. It matters lil if you neither here or there.
Spoken like the true tribalist u are. All written words full of hate and vice. Nothing good to learn from that epistle u penned. So much bile in so few words. U really are suffering and it shows in all ur words. U need help, if u want I know a colleague in psychiatry that can help u.
Wife: you met your MIL sitting in front, jejely love to the back and address it with your husband later.
Mama: if you want to sit in the front, go and enter papa's car and stop disrupting the peace of your son's family. Your son is not your husband.
Son: You should have sent your mother to the back asap since she doesn't know her place.
Ur comments are wrong. There is no how the son would have sent the mother back. It will translate to taking sides. And vice versa for the wifey. The mother should though have respected herself and gone behind. But since she is Infront the son can't force her.
grasiouso: Hello fam, please I need sincere advise on this issue. I created this account for this purpose so I can remain anonymous and get as much advise as I can.
I will give as much details as necessary for better understanding and to have a balanced view. My husband complains that I do things in isolation which has been the major cause of our quarrels. To be honest, the things he has complained about are usually things I do in good faith. For example, some weeks ago I came across a post on Nairaland that talked about the difficulties private school teachers are currently going through due to the covid 19 pandemic. While reading that post, I remembered a teacher living in our neighbourhood and immediately I felt like rendering a little help, so I sent her 5k (I have her account number from a transaction I did with her sometime back). I did this anonymously cos I didn't want her to know it came from me and till today even though she sees me often she has never talked about it which makes me believe she doesn't know it came from me. I later told my husband what I did expecting he would commend me but got the exact opposite. He flared up that I should have informed him before doing so. Note that we both work and have earnings. I did this from my 'personal purse' per se and not the family purse. I have no problem informing him but he was not around at the time and I did what I did out of impulse to help someone. We really had a big quarrel and he did not fail remind me how he made a mistake with the marriage and we should go our separate way. That I am not submissive. Somehow I apologized and we managed to settle it.
Another incident: there is a virtual prayer group I belong to where we pray every morning mostly for families. People from different parts of the world join in this prayer. My husband sometimes joins but not consistent. This morning after the prayer, I sent the pastor a private message to remember my family in prayers especially for success in an exam my husband is about to write. I told my husband about this, and he flared up again. Then another round of talk of not being submissive and not obeying my husband. Please note that I'm not one of those who run after pastors and churches. I only joined this prayer group cos I connected with the way the pastor prays for families even though he doesn't know most of us and we don't know him personally.
These are just two out of the numerous issues. To be honest, I have made efforts to improve to please him and make our marriage work. I see these as petty issues and not something that should mean I am not being submissive or doing things in isolation. We talk about virtually everything we do but sometimes some things just come up that I react to immediately but always tell him about it.
As it is now, we may eventually go our separate way cos the constant reminder of him making a mistake to marry me because of my being un-submissive is making me lose interest in the marriage and killing the love I have for him. I just want to seek advise so it doesn't look like I did not make effort to make the marriage work.
Am I entirely wrong with my actions. Are the issues mentioned above not things that can be overlooked even after apologising. Should they warrant threats of divorce(which I don't have issues with anyway so everyone can have their peace)?
Best u call ur man quietly and kindly to order. Tell him what those ofhand comments does to ur psych. Ask him if he wants to divorce now or not? If he wants to then fine, it will pain but u guys go ur separate ways for the sake of ur peace of mind. If he doesn't want to divorce then u beg him not to repeat those words as it makes u loose it feelings for him. U married him so u can talk to him. Show him how it hurts u, if u must cry to make him understand then cry. Show ur true emotions to him. If love the man don't u? Show him. Show him what he will be missing there after. Ofcos after feeding him his best meal and what adults do in da idea room. Take my word, ur Oga will never mention those words again. Ofcos u also have to change it ways by stop being that impulsive. I haven't seen any man that likes his woman being impulsive. I just feel ur man always feels his masculinity is on the line when u take decisions without consulting him. This too u have to make him understand is not the case. African men get that problem most esp Nigerian men.
kingzizzy: The funny thing is that some people will run here to say he is Ikwerre, which he does not deny. Even when an Ikwerre man like Amaechi says he Igbo, some fools will come to tell him he is not
Not all of them agree to that fact. Everybody is entitled to self-determination. It's is not within ur hand to tell them where they come from
Once you oppose an ibo man's views on any subject matter, instead of him to try and convince you with compelling points, he will rather resort to his familiar victim mode. That's when he will conclude rather childishly, that you hate him.
I wonder were u get ur ideas from. U must only have come in contact with uneducated one to have that impression of the Igbos. Now to topic. Ken saro wiwa was not the best of persons to know but he was a learned man, an activist for his people. His death is a regrettable fact. He would be a juggernaut now if he were alive.
Psalmistproject: I would have called you a 19th century artifact but since you are neither a doctor nor a pharmacist I say, "what do you even know self, just pass OK your sins are forgiven. "
The Nigerian female doctors information is not full proof. Pls stop propagating propaganda. Even CDC has called for people to be cautious of misinformation and to exercise patience. We will know more about the virus when more data comes thru.
KossyKiss97: Shame must catch bad people in jesus name.
People that are thriving in this pandemic and spreading lies everywhere. Some other doctors abroad have come out to say that this Corona is just being blown out of proportion by the media in America, and that what most people are coming down with is the Flu, some also spoke about how they were coerced to record every single death as Covid-19.
Everything just to score political points and dethrone Trump.
God must expose all you guys because he has the final say.
jagorinho: you are a nobody, so your opinion about me is insignificant, that being said, now go to the 3rd and 4th page and make the same amendments you made here, if not you are a shameless hypocrite.
I won't be going to that page to do anything. Ur problem is with them, tackle them like an adult would. My problem was with the comments u made, I want to believe I tackled it without bias and with maturity. That said, if the so called people u mentioned come over to this page to spew rubbish, I will tackle their messup. It's that simple. Then let me not forget to say "stop#thehatred"
jagorinho: you are just beating around the bush, typical of ipob, it is not the first time your likes would be faking identity just to stay relevant, show me where you were cautioning those ipob touts and I will take you serious, it is when you are taking bashing some of your people will be forming "pope" , you did not correct/warn anybody on the 3rd and 4th page when those touts were making scathing remarks on yorubas , now you are forming "peace chancellor " when it is the other way, you kinds are worse than the " perceived tribalist"
I didn't see or read thru those pages u mentioned and I am not an Ipob sympathizer. I loath them too but my dislike for them has nothing to do with their movement but rather their message. They post contradictory messages and twist the truth to suit themselves, just as u are doing now. I apologize for calling u an idiot, I mean that was uncalled for. But my implying that you may be psychotic or need help was based on ur comments, for that I make no apology. I still think u need to see expert help. Stop the hatred.
Gforce2015: You adjudged my comment to be " Idiot " and you reply it, definitely, you are....because it takes one to know one. Nyamiri people will not surprise me by their crude bickering, hostility and bitterness towards other tribes....afterall we weren't the one that stopped you from declaring your BIAFrAUding Republic....since you acclaimed that you have all well-to-do to be an independent nation...
why all these bickering and acrimony towards your fellow human.beings...
Asiwaju is like any other Nigerian politician that feels that he has all that it takes to contest for the presidential seat for in 2023....since you know that he stand the chance to win the ticket under the platform of the ruling party, then you started attacking his personality and integrity in which has labored for over the years in active politics...
I think you guy should channel your energy.and muscle on ensuring the actualization of your BIAFRAUDing nation or should work on a consensus presidential candidate to represent you in this coming election. instead of you wasting your vigor on just a person in the southwest...unless there is not unity in and among Igbo nation
U are not making sense. I think u need help. Is there someone I can call for u cos it seems u are hallucinating or going into psychosis.
jagorinho: Tell your people to stop attacking every other tribe, if the nyamiri words is hitting a nerve it is non of our business your people call us unprintable names but we are not bothered, igbos are weak mentally and I will repeat it anywhere, most igbos report other people to moderators on this forum during tribal e wars despite that they are the one on the offensive in the first place.....if you can't take , do not give.
U've just made my point for me. U call them my people whereas I am also Yoruba by birth, born in Lagos to a Yoruba mother. Your tribalism is palpable. It shouldn't be so. From what I see u are the one propagating this tribalism and u should stop it. The word u used was the Hausa replication of the word "Nyem Mmiri". I can assure u, it doesn't hit any form of nerve among the Igbos I know. Many of them close by I have shown ur post only laugh at ur silly effort to cause pain and tell me I have time trying to convince u otherwise. Funny thing there too is that my western cousin's here (yorubas) are the one's uncomfortable with ur rants. I am currently at a cousin's wedding, she is Yoruba marrying her Igbo sweetheart. Stop the hatred, break the circle.
Superwave: But foolish Igbos are only being paid with the same hatred your bigoted parent sow across the federation. Before I use to be the only one making such fight on NL. It is exciting to see many more Yorubas know about the devilish hateful bigots u lot are now.
U are allowed ur opinion. But best u break the circle of hatred. Nigeria is multicultural, learn to leave with the other groups without bias. That's what I try to teach every child I meet, I see you need the same lesson. Our parents made their mistakes, don't encourage or continue those mistakes in the next generation. I also saw hatred from both sides of the divide. My father was Igbo and my mom Yoruba. I was exposed to the tribalism as a child with both sides calling us half baked cos we didn't fit in either side but though we understood them perfectly cos our parents make sure we were exposed to both languages. I would sadly state that our Igbo side of the family accepted us quicker than our Yoruba side. But then noone is comparing. Pls stop the hatred, break the circle.
Gforce2015: Another hatred thread from Nyamiri crew
I don't usually reply comments of idiots but I will do so here. That sentence u misquoted is translated to be "give me water". Those were the words the survivors of that dastard civil war that claimed the lives of a 3rd of the Igbo population at that time. Ur comment spews from hatred and ignorance for u use those words in that way. If u don't have fear or respect for people have both for the plights of those who suffered then some of who are age mates of ur own parents and grandparents. Then learn from history. Pls stop using such forms of quotes that open wounds.
Samuelde: So I have been staying with my married elder brother recently, I have noticed his wife doesn't wash his clothes she only washes her clothes and the kids own and manage to wash his boxers.
My brother washes his clothes by himself and she will be gisting with him.
I think it is disrespectful for a woman to watch her husband washing clothes himself and offers no helping hand.
In these days of washing machine, we still have human beings talking about madam not washing Oga's clothes? I am lost.
The footbridge is located in Kaduna state Nigeria. It was built during colonial rules. Before the bridge was constructed there was no way if linking both halves except by canoes.
The bridge was built by sir Frederic lugard in 1904 at zungeru, the capital of the northern protectorate of Nigeria after the Amalgamation of the Northern and southern protectorate.
It was reconstructed in 1920 after it was moved to Gamji gate Kaduna. On 16 of February 1956 it was declared a historic monument.
So they built that shack over that gutter and they are disturbing us with it? Na wah ooh.
DaddyRochie1642: You think it's Easy to Stand Seduction from a woman...
-- Now Imagine her really soft palms moving across your chest in a really slow manner, with her fingers Playing with your nipples each time she touches it, -- While her other really soft hands moves slowly to that your Hard Stiff Laps , when she goes to that your Hard Stiff Laps, She'll start to Massage it, She uses her soft hands and Moves her soft hands Up and down and Up and Down again in a really slow manner while she makes those soft Feminine giggles as she sees your Erection rising to her touch in your Boxers while she deliberately Exposes a part of Her tits, -- She Sees the Lust In your Eyes and she laughs in a really Playful manner because she can see you breathing fast..she sees this reaction from you and she's excited, -- She pulls off your Shirt and places her tongue on your Nipples, the sensation of what she's doing to you drives you mad with Unimaginable Pleasure that you won't even know when you'll raise her Head up from your nipples and pull her Soft Lips towards that your HARD, BLACK, IGBOTIC LIPS and start Kissing her with passion and also wanting to swallow her Lips with kissing as If She's the One that told Konji to grab you.
What I wrote Up There Is exactly What happened to that boy in the Story Posted, ... now She's Pregnant and the Konji has Left him and Cleared from his Eyes
When my father died some 11 years ago, I relocated to Lagos to finish my schooling. I lived with my aunt then but I had to leave their home because I was being abused. Upon leaving my aunt's house, things became so difficult for me but I persevered with my education till I finished my bachelors.
During my lean years, I fell out with most of my family members. My mom refused to speak to me for three years, I was essentially the outcast of the family. During this period, my mom and some elders in our family gave out my sisters hand in marriage.
The couple had a trad/white wedding. Bride price was paid, all the customs of our people were followed save for one: the consent or knowledge of the first son. I wouldn't get to hear about this marriage until six months later. That night, I cried because their action proved that I was nobody, a nothing to my mom and siblings.
Anyways, I kept on working hard and soon became comfortable. I mended fences with everyone in my family, but even at that, no one offered an explanation why things unfolded the way it did or an apology. I didn't make any noise, I just picked up myself and moved on after committing the lessons learned to mind.
Six years and two children later, my sisters marriage has hit the rocks.
Now they're asking me as the first born to mediate and talk to the man.
I REFUSED.
The man (sister's husband) won't speak to my mom or the other elders he had been dealing with regarding a possible reconciliation. My family know me to be a good mediator and peace maker and they are not wrong.
I refused because there is no point mediating in a marriage that was done over my head.
As it stands now, I have no interest in playing head of house or anything of such nature. I send money, I help make connections, I foot bills for everyone in the family but I leave their decision making to them since they discounted me right from the very beginning. I have no interest whatsoever in becoming a leader in that family.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
*Shaking my head* It's not about u but about ur sister and ur nephew and niece. Pls do the right thing. U don't want the children to be raised in a broken home.
ikp120: I just said lemme pity you and epp you small.
You transitioned from being a pussy nigga to being an absolute asshole. (Hey, don't even flare up before I descend on your with my cane. I am your counsellor, so sit the fvck down and pay attention )
You think the guys you call bad are absolute assholes because you don't even know who the so called bad guys are. If you don't know me and you wanna be me, how the fvck are you gonna be me? (Dude, don't even try to flare up because I just dey manage my vexation spirit for here o. How dare you misrepresent the brand of niggas called bad guys? Huh, bro? E dey pain me )
The solution to your problem is very easy. I shouldn't be giving it out for free but the image of the bad guys is at stake mehn.
1. First of all, understand that a real man (bad guy) doesn't try to impress ladies because he, the real man, is the boss. His life does not depend on the lady. A pussy nigga on the other is a fake man who lives all his life trying to impress a lady. Without the lady he will be contemplating suicide. He has no balls in his amu sack
2. DO NOT apologise to her under any circumstance because it was just an argument. You didn't hit nor insult her. It was mutual. There are two ways to hand over your balls to a woman: saying "I am sorry" over nothing and saying "I love you". Don't go near those regions. I know say pussy niggas dey come for me for saying this.
3. This is the real deal!
Wait for 6 and half days (Morning till night na one day. Half day na wetin then? Rhetorical question please ) from today, 7th September, 2017. If she doesn't contact you, just send her this text on the 6 and "halfth" day.
You're gonna send the ball to her court (reverse psychology. Somebody holla "back to sender!" . Pay attention to the totorial o ).
Send this message to her via email and text:
"You said that you love me but for over a week now you haven't even checked on me to know how I'm doing. If I had died 2 days ago in that hospital you would have come to my graveside shedding tears and telling everyone about how much you loved me, right?
Mary was there; Jones was there; Terry was there; David was there; but the one who claims to love me wasn't there. Wow! Is that how love works? If that's how love works then I don't want to have anything to do with love"
My brother, no pick her call o. No reply her messages again o. No go her house again o. Start forming for her. She WILL come asking after what happened at the hospital, IF she really loves you. Just DO NOT worry about her again.
You have successfully fired the ball into her court. She will be the one apologising now and begging to know what really happened.
PS: All the names in the message are names of people you know.
Don't thank me bro. Thank reverse psychology. That's what girls use on guys.
Bad guys are actually the guys who beat these girls to their games using the same tactics they deploy
4. DO NOT behave like an asshole again by being harsh unnecessarily. That's inhumane bro. Anyone who does that ain't even human, talk less of being a bad GUY.
If after doing all these and she doesn't apologise in 10 days after sending the message, I WILL DEACTIVATE ALL MY ACCOUNTS ON NAIRALAND!
Harddon, I'm very correct na
This one is trying to imitate hard-on. Children everywhere. Just say u are sorry and move on. U won't be handing anything to anyone. Or don't say sorry, send her a subtle message to punch her interest. "Like hallo beautiful, let's smoothen things over". Then give her a fees days before checking up on her. U don't have to apologize but can make it point.
I'm writing this with a bit of pain and anguish. First off, let me begin by stating that I'm an Igbo guy mid to late twenties, working in a good company, well to do and capable of providing for a family. I'm dating a Yoruba girl who's also in her early twenties. We've been dating for close to three years now.
I love her, I know her family and they know me likewise. I've always been afraid to approach my family especially my mother because I know that they are (Igbo tribalists) forgive me for using the word.
But their belief in the "nothing comes out good of a relationship between the two cultures (igbos and yorubas)" is so strong that I've been forced to seek out help online.
My Dad is a lawyer while my Mom is a Business woman. Knowing my Dad, I expected him to have an open or liberal mind towards my relationship.
I was suprised to find out otherwise because as at this morning, I called the meeting I've been dreading, to inform them of my decision to marry my girlfriend.
The tempo started low with me explaining and justifying the need for me to have my relationship with my girlfriend ending with a proposal for marriage.
Well after I spoke, my Dad, to my utmost surprise started illustrating about the clash of the two cultures and the waywardness of the Yorubas as a whole, we ended up having a heated argument as to me defending my girlfriend and her people that my Dad has no right to judge an entire race while citing bad examples.
It didn't go well with my Mom adding her icing to the tussle of words.
The meeting did not go well this morning. Do I pray to God to soften their stance towards my girlfriend just because she is Yoruba.
Please what do I do? My girlfriend is really the best person I've ever met. I know it sounds cheesy.
I even went as far as telling my mom that my girlfriend is pregnant for me which she is not by the way.
My mom said, well she should bring the baby and we'll train the baby but the marriage is a no go discussion area and I should not even think of introducing my girlfriend to them.
We are all christians, we attend the same Redeem church both I the girl and her family. I'm not too churcheous while my parents are both Deacons and Deaconess' but my parents have a strong stance towards this just because she is Yoruba.
Please I'm not hoping to stoke a tribal war issue here Sensible nairalanders advice me, I can bear insults too but help.
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Stay strong bro. If u are sure that the lady in question is the one then let no person, family, friends or parents convince u otherwise. Stay strong. I am also of Igbo descent from my father's side and my mom is of Yoruba descent. I married a deltan. One would have thought that with my parents being of two different cultural heritage they would have been more understanding. But no. My parents fought me all the way especially my mom who had personally handpicked wives for my eldest two brothers from her horde of friends. I was even told the lady I was to marry had been handpicked over 3 years ago to the date of that incident. ofcos my dad supported her with how wayward deltans are and how they don't keep family or stay in their husbands home. I ignored them. I even got threats of disowning me forever. I ignored them. My dad slowly came around after a longtime. We had a heart to heart conversation. I told him my mind. He listened and gave me my way after about 2 years. My mom turned around after seeing my dad had changed his mind. OP I suggest u speak to ur parents separately. Take ur old man out and speak with him heart to heart. Attempt the lady in question meeting ur dad without ur mom ofcos after u are sure u have softened him. Make sure u show u ain't budging from ur position. Parents would usually give in after a few years. Mine took 2 years altogether from when I told them my intention. Ofcos not counting from when they knew I was involved with her. On the other hand, a colleague of mine from rivers had to wait 12 good years to marry her heartthrob, an igala man. Parents can be dense.
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(Dude, don't even try to flare up because I just dey manage my vexation spirit for here o. How dare you misrepresent the brand of niggas called bad guys? 
