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Emary:
Speak for yourself, please. Such figures are generalizations. There are several child prodigies who can clearly recall words, numbers and shapes even before they are a year old. Given that there are 9 proven distinct types of intelligence, it is only logical that some kids would be ahead in visual and emotional recall. Perhaps you can do more research about it before commenting next time.

https://courses.lumenlearning.com/wmopen-lifespandevelopment/chapter/cognitive-development-in-infants-and-toddlers/

Madam what u posted just confirmed what I wrote. I rest my case. U should read what u posted well so u understand it. If u still don't understand it, I could post more links for u. Cheers!!

paulolee:
guy u never ready to brana...na jus to promise bea say she go be your girlfriend naim you they chicken out and waste that c.d and the nunu..
guy u no try o.. whey guys for street to promise to marry bea, promise to buy them phone and even promise to do blood oat after the banging but after the show matter don change..
ur mistake was that you dnt kno dt as soon as you are done with that straffing, na you get upper hand to decide things because a nunu thats digged cant be undigged and besides na she go even enjoy the straffing pas o...guy u dull abeg

All u guys that commented are JJC. I haven't seen such ignorance in a long time, tufiakwa!!
The guy acted ok, based on his mindset at that period of time, nobody should tell him otherwise. I respect the OPs actions. I had a friend of mine once give up sure smarch of one lazy chick like that he met at a registration centre. He helped her start and complete her runs with little or no money for sorting. She was so grateful she dropped pussy after they had kissed and done the other everys. I heard the lady lay in her birthday suit, legs wide apart and my guy had inserted CD was ready to plough when she started telling him about the guy that wanted to marry her. How the guy trained her in school till she graduated and all those things. My guy said he went flat and removed the CD. Then started asking her what she is doing at his place naked with him with her legs open when she is betrothed to someone else? He discharged her thereafter.
The reason for the epistle above is not to condemn anyone but to stress that point. The OP did good given the circumstances.
Ofcos not everyone would have the self control to stop so we should rather congratulate the OP for such control. E no easy.
Regardless of if a guy is not ur pal or u don't know the guy, we guys should endeavour to be our brothers keepers.
Now back to the OP and his story which though involves another situation entirely from the one I mentioned. In my days, I wouldn't have answered that question but rather asked her what she thought while keeping her distracted with my hands, fingers and kisses (I don't need to tell readers who know what I mean). Before she knows what's up, u done cross the canal, enter hell begin smarch. Ofcos she will ask u the same question after the act so be ready for the same question. Difference is, answering that question before the act goes without say that no pussy for u, but answering it after u have collected is another matter entirely. Then u can stear the yearns to friends with benefits. Catch there is that u need to smarch her wells or else even friends with benefits will elude u. For naija women once u done smarch, she will just say "after all he done get wetin in want", then u keep smarching. End of story!

light099:
Seems you're just doing this for the first time. You sound like you never did this before.
Just one of the irrelevant shiits hoes babble when they're in the mood and you're about to get to business but she wants to buy more time not to make it look too easy an entry.
Like say many guys never bleeped her before today, if what she said is right, she would have been married to one of them and not single.

I remember those days in Uni, how a hoe held a friend to my friend at ransom with this same kind of babblings. They would be inside just beating around the bush, but if he wanted to go in, she would say this same shiit and the JJC guy would stop because he took the words of a bitch serious.
Later when this girl realized that nigga was a simp, na so she find Chris, a guy that can shack her mercilessly. Chris dey give her like doctor's prescription, II-II-II, two for morning, two for afternoon, two for night. Chris mined all her mineral resources, graduated in peace and dropped her for the next customer.

Lol, I believe that Chris wasted him time not hers. If she is married now, she may be an asset to her husband.

Emary:
No. Personally, I have clear memories of being 1yr + down to the room arrangement where I slept with my grandmother, some of my clothing, etc. The children now are even smarter. I would say if you can put a curtain between the cot and the bed, they would not understand what was going on.

Lol, that's not true madam. U may think u were 1 then but u were definitely much older. Scientists have proven that clear memory starts as from 3 years. Meaning u can never remember anything that happened to u before that age. It has been proven that words exposed to by age of 3 and never spoken anymore can still be recalled back by the individual. This alone give credibility to the idea of memory beginning from 3 years of age. Pls Google it.
So back to the OP, u can do anything u want to do with ur 1 year old being there. This u can continue doing even at 2 years but pls not beyond that age. I would also suggest doing it under the blanket. Ur little one doesn't need to see ur and ur partner in full glory during the act. It's not a pleasant sight for a child. Also being stark naked Infront of ur children is not advisable. Ofcos u can be in ur briefs with them around atleast till they reach older ages.

415volt:
Check this thread for the picture of Oshiomhole wearing cap during his visit to Oba of Binin with President Buhari.He took a close picture with him with his cap on.
Oshiomhole is an old fool that shouldn't be taken serious.
The election is actually between Oshiomhole and Obaseki.


https://www.nairaland.com/6036993/picture-oshiomole-wearing-cap-obas

The internet is a bitch. She never forgets. Good one there

JOACHINpedro:
I don't even understand where you are coming from

Ofcos u won't. Read in-between the lines, don't be lazy

Truetalk3139:
Guys what do girls really want, a girl came to my place last week and as we were about to begin the sexxxing she said i should stop which i did yet she goes around telling her friends she came to see me and i couldn't do anything.

Was i supposed to still go ahead when she said stop?

Lol, comments above me a so funny.
Don't reason the matter anymore. In this time and age, stop means stop. Unless u want to be accused of rape. Next time she will remember to add pls "go on abeg" to signify the stop ma mistake

BluntBoy:
Funke!!

Funke! Come and see ur towns people

McBrooklyn:
Guy first of all, how old are you??

And to spare yourself the fücking back and forth, why don't you just block and ghost her once and for all?? You dey allow that kind girl live rent-free for your mind for 3 good years.. Smh püssy ass nigga like you, better man the fück up and do what you should have done all these while!

The insult was unnecessary. The guy is a good guy, good as they come. Such guys are rare these days. It's advice he needs not ur dirty mouthed insult, though I do agree with some things u said.
If he can't take the stress then blocking her is best. If he can take the stress then best not block her. I believe in bound of flesh, karma and so on. So for her to have stringed him along till now that's a no no.
So my advice would be for him to master his emotions and stay strong. If she calls be nice not to much laughing, don't be too friendly cos she needs to understand she has messed up. Keep his distance, avoid her like a plague and keep doing his other runz going. He gets his chance once the main guy disappoints her, then je takes his bound of flesh. Ofcos if he wants (remember he is a good guy), i used this strategy manytimes those days and I usually took my bound of flesh.

DominusPrime:
It shows men are doing something right. Supply is now in excess and only a weakling spends much time chasing something that's everywhere.



You want to know how you can earn from forex and learn at the same time? You don't want to be part of the 90% who lose out in the complex world of forex? Why not let the professionals trade for you.
Thanks to them I didn't know what being broke felt like during the lockdown and up till now. Hit me up via WhatsApp if you are interested.

I doubt it has anything to do with supply or demand, it's a perspective kind of situation. I know of a guy that has been after this lady for over 4 years and counting. The said lady is still stringing him along. I'm my days I never went beyond 1 week and by the second week I was doing a 180 degrees about turn in the opposite direction. I realized the ladies were more interested when they comeback on their own. Then I didn't repeat on those runz of before but they usually were the ones to woo me without any help from me cos I never gave them any hint I was interested anymore, even if I wasn't. I think it has to do with the situation, the person and the environment.

JOACHINpedro:
I pity the husband-to-be of his ex. Imagine, before his wedding day!!!
I pray he doesn't die of Ada's olosholism

Nothing like that. That scenery plays itself out everyday but no one talks about it. Is it becos this one is on NL that u now insult the lady? Abeg eyes right and correct ur mentality. I know of a lady whose husband went to the ex-boyfriend who she dated for years with wine and gifts a year after their wedding. The husband was so impressed that he didn't have to retrain anything cos the ex-boyfriend moulded the lady into an asset. It was just circumstances that made her ex-boyfriend not to marry her himself.
Pls everything is not black and white.

flyingpig:
This man is unifying SE people under one emblem before he strikes the head; Presidency.

I read he was visited by Senate President Ahmed Lawan and Secretary to FG Boss Mustapha soon as he left prison.

If you want APC presidential ticket and OUK is alive, hmmm.

U think so? Think again, He has an Agenda. He always does. Anyone supporting Kalu needs his head re-examined

thorpido:
We're not ready for a better Nigeria.
Person chop him state money wey fit help many citizens.He suppose dey better jail for saner climes.Here for Naija na hero worship dem dey give am.

That thing is what worries me about Nigeria

EastanPower:
My wife is complaining that I demand too much sex. Personally I can have sex every day as I value it even more than food . She is saying that I want to kill her. What work do women do during sex? Is it not just to lie down at the very least while I sort out the rest?

What can I do as I am determined not to cheat on my wife but I am being denied. I am confused.

Lol, ur problem begins and ends with u.
1) Reinvent ur self, ur home and ur act. Sex is not start, begin and Pam Pam then end and sleep off. From my little experience, sex for some women begins way before pre-intimacy. U need to set the mode way before when u guys reach the bedroom for the action. Ur words matter, ur actions. Do u spoil her silly? Make her happy, wet and ready for u. Keep her guessing, longing for more before the penetration. U have to know ur woman so u know how to tune her and make her purr.
Then u also need to be considerate when u see she can't go 4 rounds at one sitting then don't go 4. She is ur wifey and not running away.

*Some men will not like this 2nd portion of my epistle but it has to be said cos they will be the first ones to come her to complain. Then they start talking about cheating or looking at other people's wives.*

2) Also u need to reinvent her, her mindset her moods and her opinion about sex. U Work on her and make her less frigid, help her broaden her scope and ideas on sex.

I believe if u do all these things, lots would improve. Bare in mind u said she is ur wife not the your girlfriend hence the advice from me. If u had said she was ur girlfriend, I would have just walked past.

azadus18:
General babangida perform sum sh*t with Niger state

Now that's a very possible supposition but then would we ever know for sure?

DaddyRochie1642:
Lemme see any idiot that'll tell me that Lagos is bigger than Imo Stae again...nonsense

But u miss the point. Ask urself how come the landmass of Lagos state has more than twice the population of Niger and the population or Kano the largest city in the north just has about 2/3 that of Lagos? These are questions or o ask without bias.

These people are just using this as drama to distract. The clause there never said what they are suggesting. It only means that the country looses ownership of the project being paid for.

Superwave:
You hate the truth but it shall torment u till your doom.

I actually love to hear the truth not lies disguised as truths. If anyone is being tormented it's u. It shouts in ur words. Sorry, it will be better. Wish u well.

Mgbadike80:
Bros, i know some others have answered my questions but I'll still want your input because it seems that you're resident in Thuringen and that's where i'm aiming to study at. Chairman, please i would be
applying to the Bauhaus
university in Weimar, Thuringia,
next year, it's the only program
that currently interests me in the
whole of Germany, please can
you give me some necessary
background even if it's just on
what to expect while in east
Germany.God would continue to
bless you, Danielhouston and
other contributors.

Thanks, if i can speak German at
least to B1 or B2 level, have
python programming skills
(Especially with Gis softwares),
would it improve my ease of
getting a job or improve my pay?
What advice would you give
anybody hoping to sustain
himself entirely from part time
work as regards the right skills
to acquire before coming? I read
something about the need to get
a driving license from 9ja, can
you be more specific about it?
Danielhouston, please, weigh in.I
know my questions might be
technical so please forgive me
(Es tut mir leid, bitte).

Hallo, I had to think of what to reply u that's why it took sometime. Also pls I am not ur chairman. That area is not my field so I would be the wrong person to advise u. I also never lived in Weimar but know it's a beautiful small city not far from Eisenach where my family lived. As regards the job market in ur field pls educate yourself online and ask people in ur area of interest who reside in Germany. Pls don't let this discourage u from asking more questions but I am rather the wrong person to answer your questions. There are many NL people here reading in ghost mode who can answer your questions. I spotted the handle of two people I personally know but they also don't reside in Thüringen.
As regards ur other questions: it is possible to sustain ones self while in school but with difficulty and u may start having poor grades. The driving license thing is necessary cos some companies ask for it.
I know I didn't answer ur questions the way u may have hoped but it's due to not having the information u desired. It's been like a long time I was in the OP's shoe so lots of things have changed.

Danielhouston:
Lol I see they’re coming out of their closet. I told you guys that some people feel exposed by my posts and they’re mad about it. I have exposed all their evil tactics. If you like, create 100 accounts and look for the slightest opportunity to attack me, I am not going anywhere this time. You will not win. I took time to learn about this forum and now I know better. So yeah, stay mad hahaha

About the unsafe cities I listed, I started my comment with “in my opinion”. We all have different experiences and see things differently. Some people would tell you it is dangerous to live in Lagos. Some would say it is safe. To come here and say my opinion about racism is not valid because you don’t have the same experience, is stupid.

If you want to know more about the racist cites I listed and Germany in general, you can get more information on google. Read articles and read other people’s experiences.
A black guy was attacked and beaten in Göttingen in broad daylight. He ended up in the hospital and the story made the news. Yet, there are many black students in Gottingen and they feel safe. Will you tell the black guy that there’s no racism in Gottingen, because other black people were not attacked?

I have been personally attacked by racists and I will share my story with time. Perhaps someone would tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about, because they did not experience the same thing.

U are funny. Am Just coming across ur thread. U are lucky u didn't live in Thüringen.

engrrichie92:
it's stressful, exhausting...not what I really love/want to be doing

My boss dosent like me...I can perceive my colleague see me as incompetent hence I don't have their respect

But then it pay this bills...that's the only motivation for me

I feel it shouldn't be that way...it should be more than money

I want to resign...

Just thinking out loud

Sounds like u work outside Nigeria

bukatyne:
How is it taking sides if he told her to go back before the wife got there?

Every mallam to im kettle o jare.

Oh! Well before the madam got there is another kettle of tea. Then again why would one marry a Wifey that is that petty?

Superwave:
This one na foolish talk.
If your Yoruba side of your family refuse to accept you maybe u are a bastard but in the end who cares. Your opinion is yours. I know Yoruba have no problem with Igbos as I grew up with them from primary to my textiary but those PDP n Kanu sponsor on NL to breed hate must no their fathers alone do not own the monopoly to hate. If you are deluded to the extent you can't see igbo hate Awo while Yoruba don't even disparage Zik both of whom live at the same time the. To hell with you n your entire household with your opinion. It matters lil if you neither here or there.

Spoken like the true tribalist u are. All written words full of hate and vice. Nothing good to learn from that epistle u penned. So much bile in so few words. U really are suffering and it shows in all ur words. U need help, if u want I know a colleague in psychiatry that can help u.

Am routing for her

bukatyne:
Foolish set of people.

Wife: you met your MIL sitting in front, jejely love to the back and address it with your husband later.

Mama: if you want to sit in the front, go and enter papa's car and stop disrupting the peace of your son's family. Your son is not your husband.

Son: You should have sent your mother to the back asap since she doesn't know her place.

Ur comments are wrong. There is no how the son would have sent the mother back. It will translate to taking sides. And vice versa for the wifey.
The mother should though have respected herself and gone behind. But since she is Infront the son can't force her.

Squillaci:
The mother should respect herself na.

No no no, the wifey was wrong to make a scene about it. She will go to her parents house and cool off

Uyi168:
....
Try this with me, na ur papa house u go see yourself...

Agreed

grasiouso:
Hello fam, please I need sincere advise on this issue. I created this account for this purpose so I can remain anonymous and get as much advise as I can.

I will give as much details as necessary for better understanding and to have a balanced view. My husband complains that I do things in isolation which has been the major cause of our quarrels. To be honest, the things he has complained about are usually things I do in good faith. For example, some weeks ago I came across a post on Nairaland that talked about the difficulties private school teachers are currently going through due to the covid 19 pandemic. While reading that post, I remembered a teacher living in our neighbourhood and immediately I felt like rendering a little help, so I sent her 5k (I have her account number from a transaction I did with her sometime back). I did this anonymously cos I didn't want her to know it came from me and till today even though she sees me often she has never talked about it which makes me believe she doesn't know it came from me. I later told my husband what I did expecting he would commend me but got the exact opposite. He flared up that I should have informed him before doing so. Note that we both work and have earnings. I did this from my 'personal purse' per se and not the family purse.
I have no problem informing him but he was not around at the time and I did what I did out of impulse to help someone. We really had a big quarrel and he did not fail remind me how he made a mistake with the marriage and we should go our separate way. That I am not submissive. Somehow I apologized and we managed to settle it.

Another incident: there is a virtual prayer group I belong to where we pray every morning mostly for families. People from different parts of the world join in this prayer. My husband sometimes joins but not consistent. This morning after the prayer, I sent the pastor a private message to remember my family in prayers especially for success in an exam my husband is about to write. I told my husband about this, and he flared up again. Then another round of talk of not being submissive and not obeying my husband. Please note that I'm not one of those who run after pastors and churches. I only joined this prayer group cos I connected with the way the pastor prays for families even though he doesn't know most of us and we don't know him personally.


These are just two out of the numerous issues. To be honest, I have made efforts to improve to please him and make our marriage work. I see these as petty issues and not something that should mean I am not being submissive or doing things in isolation. We talk about virtually everything we do but sometimes some things just come up that I react to immediately but always tell him about it.

As it is now, we may eventually go our separate way cos the constant reminder of him making a mistake to marry me because of my being un-submissive is making me lose interest in the marriage and killing the love I have for him. I just want to seek advise so it doesn't look like I did not make effort to make the marriage work.

Am I entirely wrong with my actions. Are the issues mentioned above not things that can be overlooked even after apologising. Should they warrant threats of divorce(which I don't have issues with anyway so everyone can have their peace)?

Best u call ur man quietly and kindly to order. Tell him what those ofhand comments does to ur psych. Ask him if he wants to divorce now or not? If he wants to then fine, it will pain but u guys go ur separate ways for the sake of ur peace of mind. If he doesn't want to divorce then u beg him not to repeat those words as it makes u loose it feelings for him. U married him so u can talk to him. Show him how it hurts u, if u must cry to make him understand then cry. Show ur true emotions to him. If love the man don't u? Show him.
Show him what he will be missing there after. Ofcos after feeding him his best meal and what adults do in da idea room. Take my word, ur Oga will never mention those words again. Ofcos u also have to change it ways by stop being that impulsive. I haven't seen any man that likes his woman being impulsive. I just feel ur man always feels his masculinity is on the line when u take decisions without consulting him. This too u have to make him understand is not the case. African men get that problem most esp Nigerian men.

kingzizzy:
The funny thing is that some people will run here to say he is Ikwerre, which he does not deny. Even when an Ikwerre man like Amaechi says he Igbo, some fools will come to tell him he is not

Not all of them agree to that fact. Everybody is entitled to self-determination. It's is not within ur hand to tell them where they come from

T9ksy:
Abi o!!!! It's gotta be GENETIC

Once you oppose an ibo man's views on any subject matter, instead of him to try and convince you with compelling points, he will rather resort to his familiar victim mode. That's when he will conclude rather childishly, that you hate him.

I wonder were u get ur ideas from. U must only have come in contact with uneducated one to have that impression of the Igbos.
Now to topic. Ken saro wiwa was not the best of persons to know but he was a learned man, an activist for his people. His death is a regrettable fact. He would be a juggernaut now if he were alive.

Dotherightthing:
21. Please spell words correctly when you post, and try to use perfect grammar and punctuation.

Regardless he made a good point. Besides who appointed grammar police?

Psalmistproject:
I would have called you a 19th century artifact but since you are neither a doctor nor a pharmacist I say, "what do you even know self, just pass OK your sins are forgiven. "

The Nigerian female doctors information is not full proof. Pls stop propagating propaganda. Even CDC has called for people to be cautious of misinformation and to exercise patience. We will know more about the virus when more data comes thru.