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Dear OP,

You may not have gone about this in the best possible way. I understand that you may be hurt - and also young.

However, a number of years ago, a similar situation played out on this website. This is the link:

https://www.nairaland.com/3532584/girl-laments-over-inability-secure

At that time, the Provost of the OAU College of Medicine was Professor Adesegun Fatusi. He is now the Vice Chancellor of the Ondo State University of Medical Sciences, Ondo.

In that instance, the Professor himself created a Nairaland account to address the situation and provide the world with important clarification. It turned out that the said candidate had certain misconceptions. Here is the link to same:

https://www.nairaland.com/3532584/girl-laments-over-inability-secure/4#52165447

And

https://www.nairaland.com/3533651/provost-health-sciences-oau-gives

I'll advise the OP to maximally explore the best opportunities to receive official information from the University, as against the assertion - which may be wrong - that the candidate's marks were deducted.

Best regards.

legba1:
I feel your point, how I wish we can just emulate the whites. But we can't in a lot of ways and for a lot os reasons

Thank you very much.

You would agree with me however that asides from situations where we use our 'cultural values' to oppress ourselves, we emulate the whites in almost every other economic and social venture.

From Sports to entertainment. Even our musicians and entertainers make more money by selling their products to the Western (oyibo market) on Spotify, Netflix etc than the free downloads we do here.

There is no harm in copying good things shamelessly from people far ahead of us and whom we hope to become like.

Seun Anikulapo-Kuti said it the other day, 'if the whites open their borders for 48hours, I would be the only one left in Ikeja...People do not emigrate from here to go abroad. No, they swim through the Ocean at the risk of death in order to escape from the suffering here. It should be called escape, not emigration'.

In the light of the above Sir, do you have a change of mind?

legba1:
I will like to address the "free sex" narrative... In the context of the subject matter. The fact you cohabit with a guy that pays his rent and utilities we both use already placed a price on every and all benefits that accrues from our living together, except you share the burden of the cost which in most cases is not. So the sex in this case is not free, the relationship is not symbiotic and mutual

I wish I didn't have to comment on this thread.

That written, I'll like to make a clarification on your last sentence - having agreed with everything else you wrote.

I think the sex is the only thing SYMBIOTIC i.e BOTH parties indulge in, and enjoy same. In the future, scientists would establish who enjoys intercourse more, but many males like to compare sex with using a cotton bud in the ear.

Besides the mutually enjoyed intercourse, per your explanation above, the male partner - as in most cases anyway - picks ALL (or the lion share of) the utilities and upkeep bills. After all, it is common to hear people say 'a man's money is for the family but woman's money is for herself'.

Many African cultures frown at women contributing financially to the family - which, in my honest opinion, is not simply flawed, is a recipe for disaster in today's world. Do we think the Americans or Europeans run relationships or families that way? Hell No. Couples split bills in the liberal world - whether in a relationship or families!

If I am not mistaken however, in Nigerian law, couples are adjudged as equal before the law.

Where a man picks most bills, houses and feeds a female friend in an affair where sex is mutually enjoyed - then the relationship is one of COMMENSALITY - if not sheer PARASITISM by one partner - but certainly not SYMBIOTIC.

I so submit.

Misterone:
sense of urgency! this is the greatest trash of the century. sense of urgency indeed. this is a PDP that did not complete one single project in 6 good years not even their headquarters. now it is sense of urgency. to do what really? maybe to complete their headquarters.

I agree with you. PDP was bad - but since Nigeria effectively has only two parties, and APC has less is to Golgatha + are planning to hand over to another old man Tinubu to do the entire 2012/2013 Buhari all over again, we may be better with the devil we knew, PDP, especially if they give us a better candidate than Atiku.

PDP didn't complete their secretariat, yes. Has APC got any 16-floor secretariat? Is there a real difference between PDP & APC?

Not having a choice makes one consider them. Both parties are one and same

Eddy has done the right thing.

We are all winners.

What is more important is ridding the country of this APC bandwagon of old people without technological ideas or sense of urgency in delivering good governance.

I agree with him

Chii59:
Exactly. I equally learnt about how bad wearing tights to sleep is. I stopped my little sis from doing that when I found out she formed that habit. Even my roommate in the uni, back then, used to do that. Very bad.
Some of these little things matter to one's health.

Do people wear tight fitting pants to bed?
Ewwwwwww


When does the punany breathe 'natural fresh air' if a lady does that?

People should stop being artificial o. It doesn't epp

Chii59:
I don't wear bras at home. I hate anything holding my rib cage. I learnt early that it is wrong. My tits are still standing. I guess, ligaments at work.

Yea.

That education must be passed across to most ladies.

It must sound very ironical to the average lady around here that ultra-dependence on brassieres actually cause the breasts to sag - but that's the truth.

I was hoping to read this before now:

1. Wearing brassieres from very young ages and for very long period daily ultimately ensures that the Body's natural suspension tissue for the female breasts do not develop properly.

2. This tissue is known as the 'Suspensory ligaments of Cooper.' When a child start a wearing lifting bras (push-ups) as soon as she develops mounds, the ligaments that should naturally hold the breasts suffer.

3. It happens to girls and reproductive-age ladies who wear push-up bras. Notice that the Westerners do not routinely wear the kinds of brassieres that our ladies here often wear which pushes their breasts high up the chest in non-natural fashion.

4. Indeed, the breasts would look firm and perky when fully dressed, but our ladies should now know that when the average man sees fallen breasts, it generates reactions like what this OP has put forth - and can breed resentment either in a relationship or even in marriage, as in this case.

5. The solution, please stop wearing push up bras - and please release the developing breasts of younger ladies from the bras as soon as they are indoors. Some ladies actually sleep with bras on. Nothing can be more wrong!!!

He was to have surgery in American, according to the YouTube video.

Does anyone have any information about that process or procedure before he passed on?

jmonaco:
A video making rounds online captured moment an unidentified woman placed curses on the corpse of a Nigerian man she identified as "Dare".
It was gathered that the Nigerian man died while allegedly having sex with his side chick. The lady who was heard talking in the background of the video, was saying that the deceased got what he deserves. She added that his wife and children will survive without him.

Unconfirmed sources however alleged that it was the wife of the late Nigerian man that was placing the curses.


Here is the video below.. https://naijacampusjams.com/nigerian-woman-places-curses-on-her-man-who-died-while-having-sex-with-side-chick-video/

'You would rot in hell Dare'. Blablabla.

So she says in her capacity as the gatekeeper of Hell abi?

Las las, na something go kill person. When each person's time is up, wherever it happens, everyone's relatives: wife/wives, husband, children, nuclear & extended family would carry on until they themselves die anyway.

So 'Madam curser' should stay alive forever ba, abi she can foretell where or how she would herself die? Issokay...

By the way, the 'curser' isn't likely to be Dare's wife. A freshly bereaved widow of a young man like that isn't likely to be calm enough to make those statements by his hospital bed. She also isn't likely to describe her own self as 'your wife'.

Come to think of it, what's the man's exact offence sef per the video?

Cos dying 'for (over a) man or woman' isn't exactly a new thing or big deal. Men have being laying their lives for other men, for wives or children since the beginning of time - and vice versa.

There is no mention of side-chick in the video. Rather, what is shown is an apparently recently deceased patient on a hospital with an oxygen tank on the left side of the bed being cursed by person with a feminine voice.

For all we do not know, Dare could be a Muslim who died while traveling to meet the parents of his next bride, for instance...

Finally, it is pretty wrong to desecrate the dead in that manner. To record such curses on camera and broadcast it is infringement of the rights of the dead in a hospital. Such ugly situation can't happen in a first world hospital, regardless of cause, course or manner of death. Someone should be sued in that hospital.

The action of the presumed woman behind the recording is also alien to our African culture in publicly speaking ill of the dead who can no longer defend himself.

You just scored a huge own goal!

ImaIma1:
Assimilating is something that has evaded you obviously. Or you just allow wanting to be right block your ability to assimilate properly.

Let's end this unproductive conversation. Have a good night

Reading doesn't appear to be a great hobby of yours, lady.

If it were, you would possibly have found out that I had previously addressed every part of OP's subject in a different comment - long before you nosed into mentioning my monicker.

ImaIma1:
Uncle.

There were other factors she mentioned aside distance.

That's my point..

ImaIma1:
The bolded is the part by picked out. Did you not see the part where she said she has high blood pressure and she submitted her docs report?

Aunty,

That's my daily responsibility - and if you had read the entire thread before jumping to write at me, you might have found your answers.

If a person can work at school A, there can be no viable excuse for being unable to work at school B - except hospitalization. However, in this instance , she was found in the old posting on Monday morning. If a 32-year career civil servant is unable to continue working for genuine health reasons, such person should genuinely retire.

Her home isn't a hospital anyway.

To be successful in Nigeria, we simply need to eschew negative energy and deceit really.

[quote author=jack00000 post=86543737][/quote]I have written enough today. I possibly have nothing more to prove.

If my expressions were error-prone or suboptimal, it would have been pretty apparent by now.

Run off with this, lad.

'too hard'

'When you try too hard, it shows and unfortunately it seems desperate. Trying too hard usually stems from a childhood where your efforts were either not rewarded or were not regarded as ever good enough, where you perceived yourself to be undervalued or unappreciated.'

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/handy-hints-humans/201510/do-you-try-too-hard%3famp

We aren't likely to be mates, okay?

RPirez:
OK, Prof. Wole Soyinka!

Only too hard!

Guess what, it isn't my interest to engage in a worthless debate with a faceless identity. So I'm simply happy to ignore trolls.

Wrong grammar indeed

Meanwhile, don't go burst an artery up there o

RPirez:
I can see your vague mentality. You're trying so hard to prove say you sabi.

BTW... "Too hard" is wrong grammar, Boss. It's "So hard".

Thanks

You are trying too hard to besmirch. If you only read better, you'll find your answers.

RPirez:
It shows your poor grammar / writing technique. You'll make a bad journalist or blogger. We already have too many poor ones, abeg.

RPirez:
@bolded.

You just accused the OP of poor grammar while you're also guilty. What tha hell did you write up there @bolded?

Proximity

Ki leleyi nso bayi?

Because I didn't write your preferred 'proximity to residence' and chose a longer but more commonly used synonymous expression?

How about a round of applause?

HitSong:
Shut up!
It's never a typo but ignorance and lack of knowledge...
No one is perfect!

cutefy:
Sir, with due respect, you've got no point here. Forget about the grammar, becos that's not the message. Set aside his grammar and deal with the message. The op is in pains so leave him alone if you have nothing reasonable to say.
Just imagine if it's your mum who was treated this way, how would u have felt?

Hello Cutefy.

I'll try to address the subject now.

1. OP's Mum has been transferred (as a Head Teacher) from Primary School Y to Primary School Z.


2. Mama OP and OP wish to reject the transfer for three reasons.

A. The new school is a mega school with more staff, apparently more pupils and 3 large arms/subsects.

With that situation of greater number of personnel, there's bound to be greater friction between human beings working or schooling there. It is an inherent part of human nature.

B. School B is far from OP & Mama OP's residence.

C. Mama OP is a known hypertensive individual

Now, let's address 1, 2(a), 2(b) & 2(c) without allowing emotions to ride our judgement.

1. For a civil servant of 32 years working history it isn't strange to be posted from a smaller place / unit to a bigger responsibility, irrespective of location.

It isn't also unusual, for example, for the transfer to be from a local government office to one in the State Capital, for example, in a vertical ascendancy that comes with increased years of service or from a smaller establishment to a bigger one. That's quite common.

2(a) I see the above playing out here - except that it is from a smaller school within a local government to a hybrid primary school arrangement within the same local government while retaining her position as a Head Teacher.

2(b) The location of a civil servant's transfer is ENTIRELY at the behest of the administrative staff and leadership of the Civil Service (Teaching Service Commission/ SUPEB in this case) .

One of the factors that has messed up education at the primary and secondary school level in Nigeria is that many teachers are too comfortable in a station/school. They become 'principalities' even as mid-level staff and challenge superior authority at will, be it Principal or anyone else from the Ministry.

I am not suggesting that such is the situation here. I am only being quite generic.

2(c). Indeed, I manage Hypertension professionally as a part of my daily responsibilities and I can confirm to OP that a significant percentage of post-menopausal black women have something known as Primary Hypertension or Idiopathic HTN, whichever you pick. Most women with a 32 year career around here are post menopausal i.e above 52 years of age. What's my point? Most teachers of OP's Mum's age - whether male or female really - are battling with one chronic disease or the other: Hypertension, Arthritis, Diabetes etc.

As long as a person is capable of remaining in thee service and working daily until the transfer, it would otherwise be a very weak ground to reject a statutory transfer on such ground as Hypertension, unfortunately.

I hope this helps.

Cheers.


Cc @TradeCorner , @OlawaleBammie

cutefy:
Sir, with due respect, you've got no point here. Forget about the grammar, becos that's not the message. Set aside his grammar and deal with the message. The op is in pains so leave him alone if you have nothing reasonable to say.
Just imagine if it's your mum who was treated this way, how would u have felt?

Hello Cutefy.

I'll try to address the subject now.

1. OP's Mum has been transferred (as a Head Teacher) from Primary School A to Primary School B.

2. Mama OP and OP wish to reject the transfer for three reasons.

A. The new school is a mega school with more staff, apparently more pupils and 3 large arms/subsects.

With that situation of greater number of personnel, there's bound to be greater friction between human beings working or schooling there. It is an inherent part of human nature.

B. School B is far from OP & Mama OP's residence.

C. Mama OP is a known hypertensive individual

Now, let's address 1, 2(a), 2(b) & 2(c) without allowing emotions to ride our judgement.

1. For a civil servant of 32 years working history it isn't strange to be posted from a smaller place / unit to a bigger responsibility, irrespective of location.

It isn't also unusual, for example, for the transfer to be from a local government office to one in the State Capital, for example, in a vertical ascendancy that comes with increased years of service or from a smaller establishment to a bigger one. That's quite common.

2(a) I see the above playing out here - except tar it is from a smaller school within a local government to a hybrid primary school arrangement within the same local government while retaining her position as a Head Teacher.

2(b) The location of a civil servant's transfer is ENTIRELY at the behest of the adminstrative staff and leadership of the Civil Service (Teaching Service Commission/ SUPEB in this case) .

One of the factors that has messed up education at the primary and secondary school level in Nigeria is that many teachers are too comfortable in a station/school. They become 'principalities' even as mid-level staff and challenge superior authority at will, be it Principal or anyone else from the Ministry.

I am not suggesting that such is the situation here. I am only being quite generic.

2(c). Indeed, I manage Hypertension professionally as a part of my daily responsibilities and I can confirm to OP that a significant percentage of post-menopausal black women have something known as Primary Hypertension or Idiopathic HTN, whichever you pick. Most women with a 32 year career around here are post menopausal i.e above 52 years of age. What's my point? Most teachers of OP's Mum's age - whether male or female really - are battling with one chronic disease or the other: Hypertension, Arthritis, Diabetes etc.

As long as a person is capable of remaining in thee service and working daily until the transfer, it would otherwise be a very weak ground to reject a statutory transfer on such ground as Hypertension, unfortunately.

I hope this helps.

Cheers.

Grab a bottle of whatever you drink to cool your nerves.

Life isn't that hard

Originalsly:
Her grammar is a huge concern to whom? Readers?...you?

What should concern you is your ignorance on the purpose of this forum. Is it you are suffering from early signs of dementia?... that you are not aware you are no longer in a classroom but in a public forum?....and because her mother is the best teacher she has known it follows that her English must be impeccable? Is this how you reason? Something is wrong with you.

@ topic.... if your mother is transferred....and it's within the power of those in charge to do so... then there is not much she can do about it. She is wrong to not take up the position.... not for the excuses been given... none will wash. She can immediately seek to be transferred to other locations or do so as soon as one is available. But her way will only bring her trouble... let her leave out the gossips.

Lekison:
you claim to be learned yet you don't know how to correct people online, It's shame that people like u have access to phone and Internet.


As for the OP, It will be better if your mum involve higher authorities ....May God see her through.

No vex.

We all learn daily, I guess.

There were significant areas of concern in the originating piece. Nothing is more depressing than the vitiation of the educational system in Nigeria - at least for me.

OP's post and the situation presented screamed all that quite loudly. It might not have been particularly heartwarming to OP to receive my initial critical feedback, which was the first half of my response.

However, it is undeniable that it does address matters of education in Nigeria, especially at its most basic or elementary level, where the matter of interest itself lies.

In the end, I did point OP in the right direction to resolve the conflict. Win-win for everyone, after all.

Ijaycool:
I admire how you quickly forgave your trespasses, but you were not kind enough to forgive the OPs...
Humans.
Please remove the log in your eyes so you can see clearly to remove the spike in your neighbor's eyes.

Chill hun.

Those weren't 'trespasses' as it were. Twas simply a situation of a missing word and another missing letter in a multiple paragraph missive that would have told of a multitasking respondent.

Cheers.

Oops!

It's quite easy to identify errors. A closer look would probably tell you those were typo errors.

A missing letter 'n' somewhere and another missing word 'have' elsewhere.

Come on!

I don't live on Nairaland and certainly didn't
exactly proofread. C'mon! That reply was in a jiffy.

Regardless, you'll possibly have realised, had you been attentive, that the most viable ways to resolve OP's worries were indeed preferred by me - devoid of emotions or sentiments.

In dealing with a crisis, sympathy or finger-pointing leads nowhere.

Ijaycool:
Hmmm Mr Corrector of English, Course Rep of the English High Academy, you see your own mistakes?
Awon Prof.
Somebody dey wahala, you dey here dey grind grammar.
A excuse ko...

Meanwhile it's heartbreaking how we trivialize people's problem. I swear

Something is really wrong somewhere.

Aside that this story is from one perspective, another huge concern is the grammar: Lexis, structure, tenses, construction.

Mum is the best teacher you know. She is a primary school teacher. That suggests she teaches at the elementary level where one of the core subjects is English language.

I'm afraid you may just have 'fallen hand' very badly - in the Nigerian lingua - and you have not covered so much in glory, at least to buttress your best teacher assertion.

As to the matter at hand, there are established ways in the civil service to resolve disputes: Teaching Service Commission, Civil Service Commission, and at the extreme, the National Industrial Court.

However, excuses like distance of assignment from residence shouldn't arise, really. It isn't an excuse to be officially considered at all in that line of responsibility. If anything at all, it should be lobbied for, under the table, and not presented as a major issue.

Best wishes.

WildChild00:
Dr Tee is that not your name? Just a quick question, are you the original thread owner? Why are you placing source on another man's thread? Did he ask you to do so on his behalf?

You need to be doubled up this New Year!

Wild Child?

Sorry.

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WildChild00:
Open your own thread, traffic blogger

In this new year, eh?
No vex.

In the real world, people include references when they state researched data or facts. That's what I did. I have no connections to the link.

You need some air, and some love.
I gift them to you in the New Year.
Peace.

It is alleged that Chaka Chaka's visa was actually cancelled because "according to other media sources the deportation took place because Yvonne publicly supported opposition leader Bobi Wine."

https://m.channel24.co.za/Music/News/yvonne-chaka-chaka-deported-from-uganda-ahead-of-scheduled-performance-20191231

IntrovertedK:
is that ilesha-Akure road that good? And i do you know if Ife-Ilesha is also good or any alternative route from Ibadan that will link to Ilesha-Akure? That Ife-Ondo road is somehow, too many hills and mountain climbing though the road is smooth but the hills in between from Ife-Ondo is something else and i think i'll really prefer some other roads that have lesser or no hill climbing. I always travel home at dawn because of the heavy vehicles, they lose control often driving on that hilly road.

The Akure-Ilesha road is almost as good as the Umaru Yaradua road in Abuja, except that it is a single lane road.

That said, the Ondo-Ife road is so bad that nobody can safely drive more than 100kmph for 7 continuous minutes. The asphalt is washed out in so many places that the wavy road (which is what you've described as mountaneous) is the least of the problems.