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Eliba:
Good morning all

I seriously need advice on this becos it is driving me crazy. I so much depend on my dad for everything school fees, cloth,books, hair do, pads etc and I'm not happy about it. My mum isn't doing anything not because she is lazy, my dad made her to be so. Most times the money he gives for all these doesn't reach. He gives just small money and doesn't want me to work or do any....he beliefs in book, book, book and I will be depending on him for every 5 naira, most times he doesn't give. I will soon finish my programme by God's grace and believe me I don't like this situation of a girl not doing anything for herself. During my one year stay at home I applied for a job and did a little business, only for him(my father) to ask me what I want to do with money,...imagine he forced me to leave them. This attitude of his kills me, what if he dies today Na? And my mother is not doing anything... So frustrated we will be...please I need advice on what to do so incase he dies today I won't go around begging people for money

Nic3:
I followed your advice, initially, it was tough but now everything seems working fine

I gave birth to triplet and I and my husband status stepped up. we both got a better job than the previous in the same town but can't rent a house because my father in-law won't allow us to rent a house in the same town.

Nic3:
Now I even got a far better job and I am to move to another town! How do I clear the inception my FIL has given people cos it breaks my heart when I am been badmouthed.

dayleke:
What you mean for "Naija based friends?"
Is it the "borrower" or the "borrowee"?

Jokes apart,
It happens everywhere but personally na my Naija "friends" o..

stacyadams:
i lend people money when am not using it..i now found out that my so caLLED friends will refuse to pay back when i need the money most....these days i no dey follow any body talk bout ;loan...

Ymodulus:
My advice from personal experience. I lost quarter of all i own to a friend i gave a loan. A loan of a week repayment turned 2months ( as at date roughly 1month 2weeks ).

Rule1: Dont loan money you cant afford to loose.
Rule2: Obey rule 1.


Dont borrow him and tell him the truth you cant give the money out at this point in time.

dayleke:
They never see it like that ooooo.....
10k out of 500k? Trust me, dem go abuse you on top of ur money.
Pls don't ask me how I know....
If dem no abuse you, na keeping malice be next.

ishayaauta:
so so true four of my friends toyed with my capital....
I'm still watching them

if not for my small side investment I would have been a total brokeass by now

from february till date, all I get is from one excuse to the other.

my new rule no loans to friend's
, except I'm willing to part with it.

creolehunt:
Thank you for your responses.

She knows I'm not ready for marriage now, because she is fully aware of my present situation. And I do not know if she is desperate for marriage now either, in fact there was a day she told me that she is looking to get married at least 3years from now.

The feeling I get is that she wants it to be me, whenever she plans to settle down. OK, on my birthday, she insisted on unprotected sex, which I vehemently objected to. I told her about the risk of pregnancy, and in her words is it not people that get pregnant'? After my refusal, she mercilessly teased me saying I wasn't a real man, that I was scared.

On one occasion, she was telling me about the baby names of her choice and how she wants a small wedding.

She is very much into me, and have made sacrifices for me, honestly. But marriage isn't in my plans now, and I can't promise her that, not like she told me she wants to get married ASAP, she only said she wants a committed relationship, I dont know what she means by committed

oweniwe:
EfemenaXY

Dyt:
Efemenaxy has a thing for windows too

Dorin28:
You can say that again... I don't know why I still feel that way. I hope I will still be able to love another man cos I really feel bitter. Thanks for your contributions

dglconsults:
We teach Maths up to University level (Undergraduate and Graduate).

Kindly call us for discussion.

7footre:
If the boss had played along, her economic situation would never have been d same

DarkRebel69:
Yes, I still hold the opinion that he over-reacted a bit. All I can deduce here is a worker trying to show concern for her boss. It's true that she might have acted a bit unprofessional while she was at it, but asking her to resign because of a minor lapse is analogous to killing a tsetse fly with an AK47 - the punitive measure far outweighs the offense.

And as far as that Whatsapp chat revealed, it didn't seem like the staff had ulterior motives, or is it possible that we convict a criminal before the crime has been commited, or even before the intention of the crime is known? She even asked after the man's wife, and perhaps out of an innocent “lack of proper social skills”, she remarked about her boss' wife having put on weight, and did so in a manner that seemed to hint that she probably thought the question didn't defy proper conversational etiquettes. Some people are just like that i.e. socially inept.

No one saying a man shouldn't be faithful or defend his wife, but it becomes annoying and insincere when in proving his fidelity he becomes an over-reacting jerk. Like I said, all na eye-service.

DarkRebel69:
This seems staged, and even if it's not then the man in question was over-reacting. He sounds like someone who takes life too seriously.

All na eye-service.

Destined2win:
I think the man is over-reacting.

Well who knows. Maybe he had warned the lady earlier to steer clear

7footre:
Of course it was duly considered. This was/is an attempt too redress that

7footre:
Sir ah ahn your blood de hot o, you sef so someone canor even play with you small? Economy no good o

truthsayer009:
But you are really young and not even married. So how can you advise someone else.

Just saying tho.