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dangotesmummy:
She didn't make up her mind when the pregnancy was a few weeks or a month old na 6 months later she made up her mind

MizMyColi:
Efemenaxy

dangotesmummy:
Lol. Everything in Nigeria is a miracle
to get admission miracle
to graduate after 4 years miracle
to get employed miracle
for your employers to give you your entitlements and salary THAT YOU WORKED FOR O not dash money - miracle. You will even beg,prostrate ,lobby to collect YOUR OWN SALARY

As a matter of fact that your boss paid you your salary in Nigeria is a privilege


In Nigeria every thing has been so basterdized. Nigeriand have been so abused, trampled under, enslaved and used that they don't even know hence the aggressive behaviour on the roads when driving which is even a symptom of depression and pain living and working in a toxic environment like Nigeria.

Imagine working in a company and you're promised heaven and earth at the end of the month it's stories and excuses you get why your salary hasn't been paid

Then you get home no light. You meet a nagging wife telling you how she was better In her fathers house and how you married her to suffer her .the kids come home to tell you THE school management didn't allow them sit for exams because you haven't paid their school fees

Your landlord comes demanding for his money for house rent

Nepa Bill is there you will still pay for the light you hardly use
Lawma bill is there

You drive on the road you have to have 6 eyes.2 in front another 2 at the back and two by the sides so that mad road users don't bash your car and besides the police guys stationed on the road to ensure smooth driving on the roads are either jisting away or eating or reading news paper and could care less if your car is bashed or theres traffic congestion or an accident.so you have to be extra watchful so you dont have to pay from an irregular and unstable income to fix your car


Even commercial drivers will park on the road to pick passengers and cause more traffic and delay for others going to work because they just don't care and know police cannot do anything about it because the police don't care as long as money has changed hands
You still have to buy fuel to fuel your generator and do basic things yet YOU wonder why Nigerians are so angry frustrated and aggressive. The answer is not far from you.we live in a toxic and frustrated society
and you wonder why churches are so full every Sunday with people looking for hope miracle job husband wife children etc

Actually the church is now the last hope for Nigerians that's why fake pastors aka buisness men are maximizing that opportunity to enrich themselves

So you see all these things are a vicious cycle. We're gradually degenerating into Thomas Hobbes description of the state OF nature


Living with all these daily challenges that has become a way of life there's no how your life span won't be shorter,you won't fall sick ,depressed, narcissistic or even go gaga

Efemena
Cococandy
chullisauce

Oya con put mouth

taryour:
Madam. Been a while, how you doing? family and business. eku ojo meta o.

@ cococandy how you doing too and all yours? trust everyone is doing great.

DarkRebel101:
Family section's master of mixed and extended metaphors.

You know Aristotle once said that the greatest thing by far is to be a master of metaphor.

I admire your wordcraft, even though you are still a tad cynical about my identity.

dangotesmummy:
lol.it's easy na.oya pronounce it

Dan- go-te's

Mummy

See that's all

dangotesmummy:
sambarry has been arrested for hooliganism and rascally behaviour on nl

She's in nl prison and will be released February next year. So for now dangotesmummy IS still roaming around

dangotesmummy:
no be small thing o my sister. You will see poor men who can barely feed themselves yet they'll still marry more than one wife.they won't stop at that. They will be popping out children every year like dogs and now start blaming witches for their poor state and inability to feed their kids

Dadasamuel08:
Guys I need your advice... my husband and I have been married for 6 years in those six years I can count how many times we made love simply cos he can go weeks without asking okay I have been the one asking more than he does but now I feel he should know his obligation s as a husband and I have discussed it over and over again but he seems not to have changed he only ask for sex when he feels like having sex which might be twice or once a month. I like sex but I can do without it however am concern about the future of a marriage without a committed emotional attachment... what should I do?

dangotesmummy:
LMao. How does HE want to cope with 11 children? The man ran away from Home,his wives came to his work place to look for him and he was forced by his boss to man up to his responsibilities otherwise he'll be sacked. The man just had to take care of his children because he didn't have a choice however he's always broke and depressed

dangotesmummy:
Because they always want prove a point
The wife wants to prove she's fertile to avoid societal mockery
the husband wants to prove he's a man
The mother inlaw on both sides wants to see their grandkids
Money planning and common sense is not an important factor
in polygamous homes THE number of children a woman can produce is a basis of competition for example the first wife has 3 children the second wife wants to prove that shes more fertile so she must have 5 to show she's better than the other wives.
I remember the story of a man with 4 wives my mom told me of in her former place of work.each of the wives wanted to show she's the most fertile. If the first one has 2.the second one will vow to have 4,the third one will vow to have 9 etc until the man went financially bankrupt as he couldn't cater for the kids so he ran away from home
Next

DarkRebel101:
I am not Cöogar if that's what you're thinking. I've been accused of being him several times because I'm sure that's what you probably think. But I'm not him, I have an old account on this forum and I'm well known on many sections. There's nothing to uncover, EfemenaXY, because nothing is being disguised here. It's your mind playing tricks on you.

...

Ominous, deep, best-be-careful-around-me. Hahaha. LOL. I feel like a supervillain already.

DarkRebel101:
I know. I'm a book that only the courageous would sally forth to read. A sacrament, a myth that baffles even me.

There's something about you too...but I have that figured out already.

DarkRebel101:
She is...to a spiritual husband.

crystalgem:
Please how do i make hubby extremely jealous,he told me hes carefree and it shows in his attitude.i want to be sure hes not pretending or not.......men in the house ,help me

Spaxon:
Just asking

Am not saying Ladies should wait for their Husbands alert all the time

I'd say 5%
whathabout u..

lalasticlala
tonyebarcarnista
ijebabe

finewoman:
hello guys, we are having dis argument in d office so i would love to hear ur opinion abt it, is it wise or not to tell your wife the exact figure you earn and why?

ifyalways:
I regret opening this thread.

Mindfulness:
Gracias!



I agree. Choose what you like and you will be more likely to stick to it.
The below mentioned option could never work for me. I would suffer from a vitamin shock.


I will eat fresh fruits.



I have never taken any pills. Why would I swallow pills when apples and oranges taste so much better?

Mindfulness:
Your second name should be self-discipline.

Today I am starting to eat fruits five times a day. Wish me luck on that. I hope, I will remember to do so and won't get tempted to go for some chocolate before I induce some vitamins into my system.

Happy Sunday my dear. How was your week?

dangotesmummy:
Smh. This is not discipline this is outright abuse

Physical and psych abuse

Some of this children will be made to hawk before they go to school, they will be flogged at home for not making enough money, in the process get late to school. Haba.this is so unfair

I just taya for the way we reason in Africa

Efemena
kanwuliaextra
cococandy

Oya put mouth

dangotesmummy:
Tearroses
Efemena
Nurse kanwuliaextra come and put mouth

AustaCee:
That's really the hard part....Been hoping he will change before marriage.


cc: Onegai
Sisioge
Efemena XY
Cococandy
Yieldings
Byvan
Ishilove

cococandy:
I can understand frustration and the need to vent. But to the extent of burning another human being alive is something I will never be able to wrap my head around.

delishpot:
Dem dey hussle to chop Na. She can join it after starting her business. When she can get some regular change to put into osusu. This would be useful to those who earn some money daily or monthly.


Why are you this wicked? The woman is hussling to be independent you are here trying to tear her down. Put yourself i in that mans position and let's see how happy you would be sitting at home and caring for your kids while your wife feeds you. The lady is planning how to balance her life, she can do her own private business no mater how small because it helps her be available for her 7month old while her man can try his luck at job hunting. She is not asking for money to open an ultra modern shopping center Na. Do you know the turture in a mans heart when he sees his family suffering lack? Do you know how she has been supporting him so that he does not break down? Do you even know how they cope at home? Please, don't test God. You may experience this same thing just so mother nature can help you appreciate the pain others are passing through. Abeg, let is be backbones for those who are weak amongst us. That is why we are not alone on earth.

delishpot:
Why deny that you have another acct? A simple yes I do would have been enough. Plus, if you are asking for money, your Id would still be known. Honesty is the best policy. Why the he'll would you lie to helpers? You totally denied to me a lie is more than a red flag. I would also investigate before helping you of I had the cash. Just like I believe someone who wants to do any financial transaction with me would also want to investigate me before doing so. You deny that you are who he suspect you of being. If you can tell a small lie, then you would certainly tell a big one is my principle. If you can have an excuse to tell a small lie, then you would have an excuse to always tell a lie . It may be a terrible mistake on your part, but it doesn't mean people would not take note.
. I wish you just say you are sorry and move on but it seems you do not know the gravity of your action. Now I would think a billion times before I help anyone. Not fair to others who would be put through scrutiny for their genuine need for help and support. This is a case of one egg spoiling the whole lot.
I wish you the best and I wish it ended well for you. I still wish it ends well for you.

Tsoye:
I'm sorry.
Thank you for wanting to help me. I messed it up on my part.

Yenne:
Is there something I'm not doing right? why wouldn't anyone want to help me..

Yenne:
Hello ma, thanks a lot for the advise.
But if I'm to start working now, the money will go into feeding, child's school fees, debt, transportation and baby care. I don't think the rest of the money would be enough to save much. Moreover, my husband doesn't stay home. he said it's too embarrassing.
I really thank you for your concern ma.
Thanks a lot for caring.