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No one can make you feel 'inferior' unless you let them.

ziego:
Can I see the rules please

Did you not see the rules when you clicked the 'reply' button?

If you hadn't brought a child into the picture, I would have said hold till you're financially ready.

Go for a no-frills court / registry wedding. Then later on go the trad / church wedding when your financial situation improves.

Royal Roy, pls lockdown this thread. Rule no. 10 has been broken.

Kimoni:
nearly there. We are the first line of defence

What you finally made sounds soo interesting. No wonder the kids loved it. Sugar, eggs, milk, butter, almonds who no go like am..

Thanks jor. I'm quite pleased with myself.

Re: work, try laying your hands on the systems and business/process flow diagrams. That would give you a bird's eye view of what goes where. Also try identifying your key stakeholders, especially the SMEs (domain experts).

You'll be fine though

edwife:
Happy easter dear, glad to hear you are having great rest.

I was lucky like that, it's a blessing.

Happy Easter ladies, Chillisauce,efemenaxy and Byvan03 how are you ladies?

Happy Easter to you to dear

When is Chillisauce gonna resurface from under the sheets to gulp in some air? Abi she nor dey breathe ni?

edwife:
We are great, for where?
I am still in bed.... I have prepared everything already-i am just gonna do the cooking.

What did you cook?

naijababe:
As almonds go, they are best sprinkled in your bakes. If you are feeling a bit more adventurous, you cam make your own almond milk and blend with dates. Super yummy alternative to smoothies and juices.

Re: bakes...so, so, true. T'was what I did this morning & it worked a treat!

Almond milk.

Is that any different to Soya milk? My level of adventure no carry go that side yet...

edwife:
Yeah was looking for that name "toppings" oh my French!

Mademoselle Eddy. Tu anglaise Abi na Francois et tres bein.

Kimoni:
Been good sis, found myself in a different branch of IB and there's no learning curve. Had to hit the ground running

So what did you finally do with the almonds?

Tech or Ops?

Try IB Tech Derivatives (1st line support). You'll cry yourself to sleep every night.

Re: My almond flakes (they look like Egusi seeds) - fantastic stuff. Most of us don't like the "normal" hot cross buns you get from the supermarkets here. So I looked up a couple of online recipes and made mine with a funky Naija twist. For starters, I didn't do the yeast, salt, cinnamon, ginger, and spices thing, but I did do the cake flour, sugar, eggs, milk, butter, and almonds.

Baked it at gas mark 6 for the first 10-15 mins, then at mark 3 for the last 15-20 mins. It was lovely and surprisingly light. Almost fluffy. Tasted like sweet bread too. Kids loved it. Some had strawberry toppings / chocolate spread / honey/or just plain.

BarryX:
Happy Easter dear... any easter bunnies for them folks

Oh, yes!

Easter Lunch: Roast duck, lamb, potatoes, Brussel sprouts, carrots, sausages, and gravey.

Dessert: Chocolates, chocolates, and more chocolates!

Fruits: Clementines, apples, green & purple grapes.

Drink: Coca Cola

Been a while since I last visited this thread. Happy Easter folks!

Easter lunch menu: Roast Duck, Lamb, potatoes, sausages, Brussel sprouts, carrots, and gravey.

Drink: Coca Cola.
Dessert: Chocolates, chocolates, and more chocolates!

Fruits: clementines, apples, green & purple grapes.

Kimoni:
Just throw them inside your mouth naa

But seriously, that's one of the healthiest nut/food in the world o

Growing up in Lagos, we used to eat the fruit (which we just called "fruit" back then), break the shells with stone and throw it directly into our mouths. I am so sure Chilli did this too Very sweet and healthy even though we didn't realize it at that time.

So till date, I still snack on salted almond and pistachios.


Happy Easter peeps. This Holy Week, make sure y'all of your best behaviours. Chillis, you hear me so?

Crazy girl!! This made me laugh out loud. Missed you bae. How've you been?

Yeah, I know what you mean. I think we used to call them "Ebelebor" as kids. Yep, will definitely drag ourselves to mass but make I go cook first

smartmom:
If u grate the almonds and use it to bake bread or cake. Please use pure vegetable oil or butter for the baking

I just bought two 10 litre cans of Olive oil and Corn oil...

edwife:
Efemenaxy what i can think of is only dessert.You can make smoothie using almond as top up or make banana bread with almond seeds.It's very healthy and nutritious.

Toppings - nice one

Thank you ladies!

I'm not that good at baking but you've given me some lovely ideas. I just realised I forgot to buy some hot cross buns, so will try my hands at making some this morning, with my almond flakes.

That with some scrambled eggs, cress and bacon served with freshly squeezed orange juice should do for my Easter Breakfast.

Happy Easter to all the healthy eating ladies!

Chillisauce, Edwife, & Damiso free my wrapper wheat grass and "marathon" jare.

Okay, need some advice pls. I went food shopping and bought some nice looking almond seeds. Thing is, I've never used them so don't know what to do with them. What can they be used for? Suggestions pls...

In no particular order: Edwife, Smartmom, Chillisauce, Cococandy, Babygirlfl, Naijababe, Kimoni, Ifyalways, thelish, Damiso, Burntpalace, Sambarry, and anyone else.

Me, I wan use them for Easter cooking, but with what / how?

cococandy:
Hello house.
Chillisauce
Bukatyne
Edwife
Efemenaxy
Byvan03
Babygirlfl


I hope that's enough to go round.

Happy Easter to you guys.
Hope everyone is fine.
Greetings from our side.

Happy Easter to you too dearie - and all the fine mamas in da house.

cococandy:
Flash shot coming right up.
Yes I'm really enjoying the Easter.
I Haven't had this much rest before in my life.
Even when on vacation

Lucky you!

I'm soooooo stressed! So very much to do and not enough time to do it!

God dey sha...

dangotesmummy:
Op when are u going to start cleaning inside his nostrils

Haha!

BarryX:
Switch roots to where? Lol
Please we don't want to lose you to another tribe.

We will try and get the movies for you.

PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT:

Anybody who can find any Isoko movie should PM me. Let me upload it online for Ma Efe to watch before we hear stories of switching lanes.

Lol!!

Happy Easter folks!

Chillisauce:
Clean his ear? Burghhhh

Pls continue cleaning the ear jor. When he started it you didn't ask for him to say pls because maybe to be iyawo dey sweet you
You go see Oba . É never start
You berra start protesting in twitter so senate will look at the equality bill. If not, Na to clean ear forever and ever.

As per topic...weird stuff? I can't relate sha.
Ok
He prefers me scratch-rub his back. You see goose pimple over his body. I cant see why his hands cant reach his back.
One day I was tired he said pls chilli could you help scratchRub the back. I told him to use the style goats uses to scratch theirs
Just go to the wall and do your thing. Na cuisson him use chase me comot for house.
But anyway, as kids became bigger. Na their job now. See them doing back-scratching galore.

One day he ask for the scratchRub again so I bought this scratch that looks like a hand .plastic hand for him as a valentine gift.


OP. Go get fowl feather ..choke am for him ear. If he screams. Say sorry. Choke it again. Keep choking it until he gives up on you
That's the only way to escape this una own kind of bonding

Lol! Chilli you don kolo finish! Totally beyond help. Choi!

@op, seems you've got a lot of time on your hands to pander and worry about how he feels inconsequential stuff.

Marriage is all about giving and taking. A two-way street, but what you've just described is anything but.
Don't get me wrong, by all means "pamper" him if you must, but when doing someone a favour becomes a do-or-die by by fire by force demand from your spouse, then you need to have a rethink.

I agree with your aunt.

BluStreak:
Men are known to have allowed their wife go out to get pregnant albeit secretly so they can have a child to call their own. Don't pretend like you haven't heard real life stories even if you haven't witness one. If men can stomach it, why cant a woman?

What's there to pretend about?

As long as we're absolutely clear that what's good for the goose is equally good for the gander, then all's good and dandy.

Fair's fair.

onoslove:
The thing is, she saying she has forgiven the man, but can never see him as a father. Again, it is easier said than done.

Re: the bolded is not an issue.

She doesn't know him. So it's not a question of easy or difficult. Infact, it's not even an issue.

Siena.

Your story is different. Your father never abandoned you from conception, unlike the lady in this story. You had the chance to bond with you dad as a child, she didn't. While your mum was alive, you did manage to forge a solid foundation of love with your dad - and that never went away, even when your dad went astray with his mistress.

It was that solid foundation that eventually brought you together again. So your situation is very different from this lady's. She's got no memory of him, no foundation, nothing to build upon. He's just a random stranger who happens to be her biological father and that's as far as the link between them goes.

Sorry for your loss though bro. It is well.

(((hugs)))

The day the man denied the pregnancy was the day he denied all rights to be called her father.

The day he and his family chased away @OP's mum and the mother of the child was the day they chased away any rights / connections to laying claims on the child.

The mother was left to carry her cross alone - and she did a very good job of it. I bet that girl child has done so much better than all of her biological father's kids put together. Now suddenly, after donkey years, he resurfaces like a bad penny with his people to beg and lay "claims"? Would they have suddenly remembered they had a daughter if she hadn't turned out well?

Abeg it's easy to see the motivating factor behind this sudden remembrance is nothing but cold, hard, $$$.

Sure, she and her mom should "forgive" him and his lot, but it ends there. Her biological father remains nothing but a sperm donor.

Her step-father stepped up and upped his game as a man when needed most. For his unending sweat and toil towards the girl and her mother, he wholly deserves the exclusive title of being called her "real father". She's right in saying he is the only father she's known. She doesn't know her biological father from Adam.

It is what it is, and he should accept it or take a flying hike.

Siena:
[color=Blue]Hang on, I must be pretty slow here, because I don't understand.

Are you admitting yourself and Gracesome are one and the same?[/color]

Yep. They are one and the same.

Both monikers have been banned till eternity (good riddance), so don't be expecting a response from either, anytime soon....

5minsmadness:
Na wa.
You like quarrel sha.
Read his last paragraph to you. It shows his view, although warped, is balanced.

@blustreak
It won't matter if they get a surrogate since the determinant of the sex of the child is from the male. As long as the man is the one involved he will most likely have another female child. The best bet is for both of them to agree for another man to impregnate his wife either through local surrogacy or IVF. The other man's sperm has a better chance of producing a male child than the husband's own.

Epic!

I have nothing more to add.

Quiet thread.

Where are Barryx and Ahnie?

I want to watch an Isoko movie online.

Otherwise I go vex and switch roots oh!

BluStreak:
Nooooo. I don't mean him playing the field. That will be too traumatising as she already has enough to grapple with. But with agreement, without the family's consent, they can opt for artificial insemination on a willing surrogate either using her own egg or the surrogates egg. It's as simple as that. Or agree with the man to get a willing lady to bear the child for them. Just one so they can have a son in their mix.

If the woman consents to it, it minimises the pain just like the men who urge their women to get pregnant from outside their marriage because they are incapable.

And would you advocate such a man encourage his wife to do the same in search of a female child if he has issues fathering a girl child?

ahnie:
Dee'wor bo veh wo yan... ke'veh ewhareh na?

Vrendo... Ma'rei oh!

Kobuwo? Kor Oza we, avor omomo?

Mé bé cheze ni ne na. Mé oyele gagä!!

aforti:
No darling it's not the exclusive preserve of the religious but whenever you hear the word virtuous all that is related to it still points your back to the Bible where religion described the supposed ideal woman. And when people want to criticize women they never hesitate to mention this expectation. Hence I created this trend to see if it's possible to find such in men too just the way we expect of women. I am sorry darling that, I did not mention the erotic capabilities of the assumed virtuous man. But you can for sure add other virtues you believe he should posses. Thanks

I am not your darling.

Stick to the topic.

You don't have to be religious to be virtuous.

The guy on the ground should be more concerned about where his "pastor's" shoes have been.

Oh well - foolishness is a matter of choice.

What nonesense.

Our juju worshipping forefathers had more dignity.

The "pastor" should have encouraged his "flock" to baa as well.

Mtcheeew.

Sambarry & Kanwuliajara / KanwuliaExtra / Mgbeketoto...oya come chop rice.

Food is ready.

BluStreak:
By allowing him realize his desire which is having a male child. With the support of the wife, they can go about it such that she will not have to share her home with another woman or worst case, loose it to another woman.

It can be achieved @EfemenaXY

Additional:
They should put heads together and get a surrogate mother. They can opt for gender selection procedure, use her own eggs etc. Or a cheaper method, paid baby mama.

I still don't get you. Break it down.

You're proposing he plays the field, yes?

And she should sit there and just take it?