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Try Johnsons Baby powder instead.

Churchgeh:
How many of you can identify with this outdoor moulding exercise. By my 17month old girl

Awww...

Adorable, chubby, baby

ifyalways:
@OP, did the woman tell you that she wants " rehabilitation?"

Some of Lagos street beggars refuse and even fight you when you try to take them off the streets especially ones with kids or babies cos to them, they are comfy/happy with the supposed freebie money they make daily.

She may not even be a begger. She and her kids don't look it.

That picture may not even be related to @op's story and I bet you the woman doesn't know @op from Adam, nor does he have her permission to post this online.

Scamming stuff.

Oyind17:
A program was held in my Church yesterday for only men. The Pastor that preached said " THE BEST HUSBAND IS A WOMAN WRAPPER" And that all the men should love their wives to the extend people call them woman wrapper.

Do you agree with this Pastor?

Na wa o!

Are you still feeling bad over people asking you not to meddle in your brother's marriage?

https://www.nairaland.com/2824892/brother-like-houseboy-wife

modelmike7:
This is Mrs Esther of about 44yrs.She hails from
Ijaw in Delta State but resident in Ogun State.She
has 2 boys and a girl of about 6yrs.
She said she lives somewhere at Agbado railway
crossing in Ogun State i.e boundry btw Lagos and
Ogun.
This woman come rain or sun is seen sitting
down wth her children from 6am to midnight Opp
General Hospital Ikeja stylishly begging for arms
to keep the family going with a very serios
ailment that budges her stomach protuding
out.Children that are suppose to go to School for
a better future are dancing round her helpless
mother.
I am pleading with the Ogun,Lagos and Delta
State Govt including individual to come to the aid
(REHABILITATION) of this helpless mother for the
betterment of the little children and herself.
Pls share to see if any GOD touching person or
persons can be of help to this family.
I was touch during my interview wth her and I
pray GOD to intervene and forgive her the sin if
committed.
Thanks all.
Her no is 07054050155.

You didn't think to ask the whereabouts of her husband before calling on the state government and faceless strangers on the internet for monetary aid? What sort of "reporter" are you??

And what does the bolded bit mean? In your book, anyone begging by the roadside must be doing so as a direct consequence of some "sin" they committed?

And whose phone number is that really?

You need to decide what your true calling in life is: Journalism? Pastor? Or scammer?

Nice 1 @ OP.

Yet we get people on here opening up threads to undermine such women's' efforts by labelling them as unaspiring housewives

A laid back guy from a poverty stricken background without the drive to hustle, but hiding under the term prospects as an excuse for his lackadaisical approach to life is bound to enshrine his wife and kids in poverty.

Such a woman would work her fingers to the bone, hustle all her life on behalf of her family, never receiving a word / token of appreciation from her "husband". Her climb up the social ladder would be near non-existent or at best, at snail speed because of the jealous, frustrated, emotional baggage of a man she's tied to.

Ladies beware! Look well before you leap.

Sermwell:
i visited a friend and saw him bathing with his adult sis, but when i tried to complain, i was treated like a pervert. What do you all think?

It's perverted to spy on people having a bath.

How did you see them? By peeping through the key hole?

Dyt:
But why does your wife always result to threat?
Same she did before you married her
Now this?

Was it like this before or it changed mid way?
Are you having financial issues?

But just last year you said you had a baby?

Sorry oo
I am just doing aproko

Even if they have 20 kids together does not in anyway mean he satisfies her in bed. How does that even matter?

greatgod2012:
Your wife is threatening to get her satisfaction elsewhere if you don't find solution to your problem? That's sarcasm, right, or she's damn serious with it
Well,the problem you have might be psychological and in that case, all you might need could be counselling and/or therapy.So, that means you need the services of psychologist and a therapist. And of course, you need all the support from your wife not threat.
Moreover, you need to take easy with drug intakes, too much of which can have adverse effect on your internal organs.
And then. take a lot of fruits like banana, watermelon,vegetable like tomatoes, etc.
It is well!

Seriously?

MRBrownJ:
@mattodunsi
1st and foremost, disregard the comment of all the clueless people who posted above yet didnt for one second ask the important question.

2nd, the important question you must answer IS: do you actually KNOW what your wife desires/requires in order to be "satisfied"?
this is a very important question because if she desires a man with a 20inch penis while you only have a tiny cokc then no matter how many drugs you take or how many psychologists you see, you will never be able to solve this issue. same thing if she has sexual desires that are against your beliefs, or if she desires a fit sexy chocolate brotha while you are a potbelly monster etc. sex is about 2 people being satisfied and not just 1, so sit down and have a serious discussion as to what you both need to do in order to right this wrong.... and if it is remotely possible to achieve.

btw, did the problem arise just now after 2 kids or did you ALWAYS fail to satisfy your wife?!

Lol!

The conservative approach towards sex displayed by most Nigerians won't allow them admit (or even understand) that sexual incompatibility in marriage is a huge problem.

An0nimus:
My response was tailored to your question. I played the scene in my head and couldn't come to terms with the picture I was seeing. Not with the Nigerians I know.

The picture you provided strays from the specific nature of your question. Even at that, I may not know whoever was behind what's in the image provided, I can however bet that all around the world there are bad eggs who have done similar.

What's the difference between the question I asked and the picture I produced?

Isn't the end result the same? Death?

Or does bleeding to death by the roadside ramp up more sympathy over slowing and painfully starving to death?

Onegai:
People on NL fought to raise funds for a little girl in a SW state so she could get heart surgery in India, total strangers met her mum at the airport to send her off with goodwill and prayers. Her mother has never met any of the hundreds who helped save her little girl. They were average Nigerians.

Remind me again what promises your politicians made to the masses, prior to them being voted in power. Was free or rather, subsidized health care touched upon?

You're commending the efforts of those who took it upon themselves to do what your government ought to be doing in the first place (commendable), but have any of these people been held accountable? Was this little girl's case used as a starting point to hold those in power accountable for their gross failures and let down health services? I guess not.

Onegai:
You that you know better because you live in a sane climate, what have you done for your community in Nigeria? Have you sent some money to that lady's foundation? I'm not fighting anyone, but to all whom are screaming "Nigeria is evil", what have you all done to mitigate or even change society? If you've done nothing, how are you all better than those who live here and do nothing?

A recap of what I posted to PresVA, yes, I have done my fair share to help (and I still am) but it's not for you to question who, what, where, when, why, or how I've done / doing. What you should be focusing on is ensuring the leaders you voted in power are held accountable for their non-actions.

I can't tell you from here how to run your country. I can give suggestions, but the buck is on you to make it happen. And you start by encouraging freedom of expression / speech, and not by trying to smother opinions that don't sit well with you.

If I see or hear something I don't like, I speak up. I write to my MP. I even attend the bi-weekly surgery sessions my local MP runs to voice my grievances. You should do the same at your end to make your environment more live-able.

PresVA:
Now I see the aim of your argument; to demonise Nigeria. . I thought you cared but I was wrong, it's still same same blame, bla bla bla...

If we're going to have an objective debate, you'd best keep sentiments out of it. I don't do emotional rants either.

Now to your claim, why on earth would I want to "demonise" Nigeria? What would I stand to gain by doing so?

The fact is, Nigeria has got serious issues and these need to be addressed, but to address them, surely you agree they've got to be voiced out loud and clear to start with?

Or would you rather have everyone pretend all's good and dandy when it clearly isn't? How will that help anyone in the long run? So yes, PresVA we all care about Nigeria getting better - if we didn't, we won't be on here voicing our concerns. But what needs to be said must be said, irrespective of whether you like it or not.

PresVA:
Yes Nigeria needs help, You know that..how have you tried to help in your little way? That young lady in the write up saw the help needed by Nigeria and she's helping out in her own way... She didn't try to state the obvious that Nigeria is this that and that, rather she's making things right with her actions. .

Oh, but I have helped in "my own little way". Countless times. Even on here in Nairaland, to people I don't know, never spoken to, and know absolutely nothing about. I don't have to reel off examples or pull up threads on here to justify myself to you. What would that achieve apart from blowing my trumpet?

And yes, the very obvious was stated. Made known publicly so that the request(s) could be verified and once done, a lot of aid was tendered. The problem with a lot of Nigerians is pride. The mentality is rife among adults wanting something for nothing and expecting the givers not to ask questions. Like seriously?

PresVA:
However, all you guys do here is talk talk talk, blame, bla bla bla .. no action at all which is useless. . You folks that are enlightened, why don't you be change you want to see?

Excuse me, why are you taking it out on "us enlightened folks"? When you've got a problem, you treat the root cause and not the symptoms.

The major root cause of your society's ills lay with your politicians. The people Nigerians in Nigeria voted for and this has got absolutely nothing to do with those in diaspora. You had the power to choose whom you wanted to lead your country. If you chose to vote for clueless, selfish, greedy, and unbelievably corrupt politicians to lead you, why cry foul and blame others for it? Or don't you believe in taking responsibility for your actions? Why pass the buck on those who had no say in your decision making process?

So I guess the real question is, for those of you feeling the heat, the consequences of your actions, what are you doing about it??

PresVA:
Since you ain't here to offer solution, I will say stop crying more than the bereaved.. You have a good life abroad, don't you? Enjoy it and leave us to 'toil' here in Nigeria na... why all the rants since you ain't affected?

Here we go again. Us versus them coupled with a good dose of inferiority complex.

Am I supposed to address this emotional rant? If so, how?

PresVA:
What you people don't know is that Nigeria is still a developing country with so many ignorant peeps who do things thinking they're right... Comparing it with a developed country is useless. . Hopefully, Nigeria will be better. ..

Ignorance is no excuse for gross incompetency.

There are schools in Nigeria aren't there? And higher institutions of learning. What do they teach? How can you claim ignorance after passing through the walls of a tertiary institution?

PresVA:
Peeps like this lady here: https://www.nairaland.com/2938462/meet-hope-2-year-old#42993833, are those I admire. . They try to help the situation and not all about complaints and blames..

If you can form a foundation and help some of the 'bad' situations mentioned here, then why don't you?

But the lady in question is a foreigner, isn't she?

Where were all the so-called "kind hearted" Nigerians within that child's vicinity for the 8 months he was left to his own devices roaming the streets, whilst the life slowly drained out of his little body?

Or was the child in the middle of the dessert on his own? It laughable you say you admire the lady who came to his rescue. A lady, who under normal circumstances would be viewed as "irresponsible" with all her visible tattoos, doing the decent, human thing. Why did it have to be a foreigner showing Nigerians the right thing to do?

What she demonstrated was basic human empathy. A basic emotion, (judging from how long that child was ignored) which apparently isn't that basic amongst your average Nigerian.

An0nimus:
I respect you a lot (and still do) but was highly disappointed at this question. Hard to even come up with a reason why it was asked.

No, Nigerians are not savages. We have not fallen to the level you innocently asked of above. Nigerians will not stand aside and take pictures of children bleeding to death. I won't, my family won't, my friends won't.

Hope this answers your question.

No??

So how d'you explain this?

https://www.nairaland.com/2937508/amazing-transformation-abandoned-nigerian-witchcraft

bebe2:
My dear happiness is relative,

U cud be happy with ur job and unhappy with family life,

I am happy here, but I cud happier if naija was safe and I lived in the community where I was born, and raise my kids with their grand parents, lots of cousins, aunties , uncles and extended family and in their culture instead of trying to pull them from one culture to another.

I love this.

Mindfulness:
I would NEVER drill you.

I am very very fine. Thank you.

I went for a run today and it was nice but I didn't make it for long. The winter has made me lazy and I need to catch up again. Never mind.

How are you?

Good on you!

I'm good though, thanks

peacengine:
They will come back, hustling is not bad. They will return, it is difficult for a man to forget his root

Yes, yes. But how many women did you count in that boat?

Mindfulness:
I am only here because you are here. I just want the conversation to keep going. I have been missing you.
I normally do other things at this time of the day. You just spoiled it.

No wonder you've been drilling me

Was beginning to wonder what I'd done to deserve this.

Yeah, got a couple of days off this week, so making the most of it. How're you though. I miss you too.

Mindfulness:
Is it really poverty? I wonder.
I have a lovely neighbor, a white, elderly lady who loves telling stories of her childhood. She was a teenager when WW II ended and she says that many people were very poor back in the day but she always mentions how poverty made them stick to each other in loving kindness and how supportive and hospitable everyone was. It always makes me wonder if it is selective memory or if people in other parts of the world handled poverty differently.

Poverty on it's own won't drive a parent to turn a blind eye to a "pastor" drilling a nail into their 5 year old daughter's head to drive out witchcraft.

Ignorance plays a huge part.

Nigerians and their ever, evasive tactics.

The purpose of this thread is for all "well meaning" Nigerians to contribute to the cause of this "blessed" family.

Out of the 128 "well wishers" posting and 33, 115 views - barely 2 posts address the issue. All talk and no action.

Mindfulness:
The Eastern Europeans flooding GB do not migrate for the love of GB. The also migrate for economic reasons.
However, people migrate for many different reasons. I have a friend who moved to a foreign country because she feels that the culture there is more in sync with who she is even though it is a foreign one. I also know someone who moved abroad because she liked the climate abroad better. Some people go abroad to join the love of their life. Others move abroad to study and eventually settle there. The list is long.

It is just natural for humans to be moving around. It has always been so and it always will.

True, but those reasons you've stated aren't in context with this thread, are they?

peacengine:
I am not surprised seeing females litter this thread with their contempt for country, you can continue putting the country down. You will hardly see a man doing this, go ahead and sell your nationality for light and good road, we African men will always come back to our root, even Obama will return to Kenya as he ages.

No??

So what's this then?

Mindfulness:
I am not capable of understanding what could cause a woman to entirely disconnect from her natural instinct to protect her child.
I can't even feel angry with her because something tells me that something is very wrong with her.

It's common practice in some regions. Documentaries have been made attesting to it.

Let's just put it all down to acute ignorance and poverty.