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tstx:
The difference between Nigeria and SA is that the white men left our country.

We weren't able to maintain any because No Country run by black people can progress this is just the painful truth. Our illogical greed will always inhibit our growth ...
SA was built by the white and is still run the whites... They own the lands and all the juicy jobs, they run the mines, the wineries, they run everything including tourism...

dermmy:
Who shot Wing Commander Chimda Hedima down when he was on a bombing raid in his Alpha jet? Was it not Boko haram. This brave airman was downed and was beheaded the next day.

Your airforce Alpa jets/Chengdu are no match for Chadian mig29 and SU25. Your whack Roland air defence system won't save you when those war machines enter Nigerian airspace.

Learn to accept the truth.

tstx:
White people built SA

bigfish3k:
Didn't you use force to attach yourself to the igbos in 1967?

pocohantas:
This one shock me o. Make e be say na sarcasm sha.

Bodyodour:
Foolish kid. I wouldn't be surprised if she is battling with "face me I face apartment"

Having a house, a beautiful one for that matter, is one of the biggest achievement Here in Nigeria.

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Although he was a sociological theorist of note, as evidenced by his well-received book Social Exchange Theory: The Two Traditions published by Harvard University Press in 1974, he became world-famous with the “Colonialism and the Two Publics in Africa”… That piece made him one of the most cited scholars in African politics and history.

Suppose you are a student of development studies and focused on Africa. In that case, chances are you have met Peter P. Ekeh through his books, journal articles, and public intellectual debates. Primarily, you would have read “Colonialism and the Two Publics in Africa: A Theoretical Statement”, which was published 45 years ago. That’s how I met Peter the first time, in one gripping page after another. I remember saying to myself, this is one brilliant Igbo man!

In 1994, I met Peter in person for the first time at a Workshop for Development Practitioners in Washington, DC. As we waited for the meeting to start, one conceited American Africanist was zealously telling a few others how African languages don’t have a word for window. To prove his point, he turned to me and said, ‘what is the word for a window in your language, Ebere?’ Name tag familiarity. I nearly told him that the Igbo word for ‘window’ was onye iberibe (idiot); instead, I blurted out the truth mpio. He looked confused and deflated. Cool.

As Peter and I were walking back to the hotel at the end of the day, I was excitedly berating the smug young scholar in fluent Igbo. I harped that he should not have generalised his experience with one African language in a continent of 3,000 different ethnic groups and over 2,000 languages in Igbo. Peter listened with attentive interest as I went on and on, trying to impress him. Then with a laugh, as if to save me from my vanity, he said, “Young man, I don’t understand Igbo; I am not Igbo.” Deflation. Confusion. Silence!

But his name was Ekeh, like my own Owerri brother, Leo Stan Ekeh! I had to come to America to learn that all brilliant Ekehs are not Igbo! That’s how my long friendship with this renowned sociologist started.

Although he was a sociological theorist of note, as evidenced by his well-received book Social Exchange Theory: The Two Traditions published by Harvard University Press in 1974, he became world-famous with the “Colonialism and the Two Publics in Africa…” journal article mentioned above. That piece made him one of the most cited scholars in African politics and history. It established Peter as a leading African political sociologist. And that was well deserved, because some elements of his theory are still useful in analysing Africa’s post-colonial condition.

Take his notion of two publics, the primordial (private) and the civic, with different moral imperatives in dialectical bond with each other. Unlike in the western world, where there is a universal ethical framework based on the Judeo-Christian tradition that, for the most part, guides the behaviour of citizens in both the private and civic publics, our citizens in post-colonial Africa live in two worlds.

Some claim nowadays that in the deep penetration of corruption in every nook and cranny of Nigerian society, Peter’s theory of the two publics can no longer hold. However, it is not a fair reading of his two publics theory. It is still true that because of colonial interference with their social formations, many African countries do not have a single public yet.


His theoretical statement claims that most Westernised post-colonial Africans have little moral inhibition when they operate in the civic public – reflecting the Na your papa job(?) mentality in our public service. That’s why in Nigeria, for example, some members of the ruling elite loot the public purse like there is no tomorrow. These elites in politics are guilty of the culture of exploitation introduced to the colonisers’ civic public. These include cheating, nepotism, and citizens’ abuse, making them internal colonisers in the post-colonial times. On the other hand, the primordial realm of ethnic loyalties operates on traditional moral imperatives. These are also binding on the exploitative elites when they work in the primordial public outside Abuja and other urban-based government power centres in Nigeria’s case; a veritable point of the overused cliché, “when in Rome, do as the Romans do.”

Some claim nowadays that in the deep penetration of corruption in every nook and cranny of Nigerian society, Peter’s theory of the two publics can no longer hold. However, it is not a fair reading of his two publics theory. It is still true that because of colonial interference with their social formations, many African countries do not have a single public yet.

But more than his profound contributions to Africa’s political sociology, Peter was, first and foremost, a passionate family man who gave up his position at the prestigious University of Ibadan for family reasons. As our friendship grew, I found that he gradually lost interest in researching and writing for academic credit. Our phone conversations and emails became increasingly all about Nigeria and what we could do to help out during the Abacha era.

As things continued to head south in Nigeria, Peter shifted his enormous intellectual energy into building the award-winning Urhobo Historical Society and collapsed ANSD’s website into it. He was very proud of his Urhobo culture and was not afraid to defend it robustly, as Professor Bala Usman (RIP) found out.

Enter the famed Wilberforce Conference on Nigerian Federalism that looked for options for resolving Nigeria’s Crises of Governance, which I convened in 1997. The founding of The Association of Nigerian Scholars for Dialogue (ANSD), of which Peter and I were respectively the founding president and vice president, followed. As things continued to head south in Nigeria, Peter shifted his enormous intellectual energy into building the award-winning Urhobo Historical Society and collapsed ANSD’s website into it. He was very proud of his Urhobo culture and was not afraid to defend it robustly, as Professor Bala Usman (RIP) found out. But back to the Wilberforce Conference on Nigerian Federalism.

That conference coincided with two others holding on the same 29th of May 1997: “The future of Reporting on Africa” by Voice of America (VOA), and the Organisation of African Unity (OAU) meeting in Harare, Zimbabwe. These three conferences were covered simultaneously by the Cable Public Affairs Network (C-SPAN), a private, non-profit American cable television network. From our Nigerian federalism conference in Wilberforce, VOA veteran, Nelson Brown (RIP), reported to the C-SPAN moderator, Charlayne Hunter-Gault, a prominent American civil rights activist and journalist. In contrast, Nigeria’s indomitable Tajudeen Abdul-Raheem (RIP) reported from the OAU meeting in Harare. It was a packed day indeed! When, in a light mood, Ms Hunter-Gault asked Mr. Brown whether the Nigerian scholars gathered in Wilberforce had resolved the Nigeria crises there, the audience collectively chuckled.

“Not quite yet,” replied Mr. Brown, before he professionally proceeded to report on the magnificent keynote address of Professor Peter Ekeh at the Wilberforce conference. You could hear a pin drop. Peter always had that effect. May he rest in perfect peace!

dermmy:
That's the answer. Never date a broke lady
A naija girl will never date me as a broke guy so why should i spend my hard earned money on a lady? Mutual spending is allowed and i subscribed to that but i haven't met any naija lady who does that.

An average naija lady loves to take and take without reciprocating. I know you would think i'm a stingy guy but i wasn't created to be a host to any parasite. I won't let any lady take advantage of me in the name of love .

Gerrard59:
Total nonsense! All over the developed world, it's the men that develop their places not women. Men literally created the Americas, Europe, developed Asia and Middle East. It is a shame that Nigerian men cannot develop their country only to blame the women. Which developed country had women at the forefront in civilisation?

HAccord:
Oga, travel and see. If you no get money for air ticket, YouTube is free.

OvisFranko:
Thanks for the insight Oniovo.
We have been sharing it on Urhobo Groups on FB.

OvisFranko:
4 Days to go.

BennyN:
Hello everyone,

Please I'm creating this thread to only ask for your help and what I can do to better my condition, No insults please.

I have been on nairaland for years now and I have seen people get help from here, although I created this new account because of this thread.

My name is Ben, I'm 26yrs old and a final year student.
I have always been skeptical about having sex in a relationship even though I have dated couple of girls, for eight years now I have also been battling with masturbation and I have tired all I could to stop, the longer I can go is just 1month. I had a girlfriend before I got admission into uni, broke up with her in my first year and decided not to date again, down to my 3rd year, I met another girl and I strictly told her that I wasn't ready to have sex and she accepted, few months later we had issues and we went our separate ways.
Earlier this year, I met another babe, everything was good and I refused to tell her that I was a virgin so that she wouldn't underate me, I actually thought I could perform very well in bed until that faithful day.
I had sex, my first ever sex at age 26, after about 45mins of pre-intimacy, I penetrated her and in less than 5 thrust, I ejaculated....
I couldn't believe it myself as she still held me down and was craving for more, I told her and she was disappointed.
After couple of minutes again, I was erected and same thing happened, this time she was upset and I begged her and confess that it was my first time but she left with anger. I felt really bad and on the second thought I encouraged myself by saying it was my first time after all, maybe next time I will do better.
Yet another time came and still same story for 5times now. But this time she truly understood and always encourage me, I also promised her to see a doctor but I don't have any money with me and I don't want to take anyhow sexual enhancement drug as we all know the side effect.
We were supposed to meet again this weekend but I refused because I didn't want to feel depressed again.

Please Nairalanders what could be wrong with me, is it normal when you first start having sex, is it because I have been masturbating over the years?

Please forgive any error in my writing.
Thanks.

daddytime:
Metering wahala wey don dey worse pass estimated billing.

Laslas, na run the incompetent disco investors go run abandon this their scam investment by the time everybody don bypass their meters, na collapse these their thieving enterprise go collapse.

boldx:
Before your family breaks up completely. You need to reconsider your decision, are you ready to lose your wife because of this?

Are you over-reacting?

Is there something else you could have done?

Are there options you may consider for your own daughter?

Have you discussed the matter with your parents?

SaintBishop:
The truth is white south African build south Africa not Black south africans.
No matter how you want to sugarcoate it that is the truth, they ( black south africans) know it, Africans know it, the rest of the world know it.
# just saying...

CHoccolaTE:
Honestly, many of them see Africans as nothing, just listen to her tone and the things she is saying, Africans live in mud huts? With dirt floors?
Eat cold porridge?
Left to black Americans they will display as much racism that white people show to Africans.

zhike:
Thanks a lot for the good response.

DerideGull:
Nigeria does not have what it takes to morph into a developed country. It takes mental capacity to develop anything. South Africa is not developed by Africans. May ask you where have been hiding? Africans cannot think of development when they not love fellow Africans. Nigeria needs to disintegrate for a way forward.

Lawsaite:
Lolz, I was in op shoe. Just last year. I was 21, my case is my step mom. She still flogs me like a criminal, worse still in front of her own children. I couldn't take it and and I did what you said, tho twas while defending myself.
That was my last day in that house. Only God knows what she told my father to make him ask me out to literally nowhere the following day.
Life has been hectic, but God has been Good

Truthlord12:
Lies.
The world is not more than 6000years old

tillaman:
am not talking about the gdp and all, what’s the use of the gdp on Wikipedia when it’s the opposite in real life!!
Rwanda is better than Nigeria frfr

Samakus:
Isn't there times you lack money and feel the urge to get money by any means possible?

Do you take any means possible for you at that time to get money at that time to satisfy your urge?

Answer me, and I will know the pedestal to reason with you from.

tillaman:
Very noble of the government of Luxembourg, comparing this place with Nigeria is out of it abi look at the place you are comparing our third world country with na, you guys should take it easy and start with countries like Rwanda, Mauritius et al