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helinues:
Bottom line is Assad government reffered free Syria Army as a terrorist..

Watching the displayed people have been heart breaking... Millions

Then what's the total population of FSA

Just because Assad refers to Free Syria Army as terrorists doesn't mean they are one. Governments all over the world tag oppositions they can't control as terrorists. You cannot compare these to groups like Boko Haram or ISIS, who for no just cause kill innocent people.

The situation in Idlib can't be compared to what's going on in Northeast. Incompetency, corruption, and poor strategies are some of the reasons why the war on Boko Haram is still ongoing.

CSTR2:
Nigeria right now is in a position a little better than where China was 40 years ago.

Beaten by Japan, poor and broken down. Poverty and starving people everywhere.
The world's reject.

But China got the cultural revolution, followed by the industrial revolution.
From chairman mao to Zedong. Crazy set of leaders.


Will Nigeria vote for the zedongs that will change the prospects of future generations or will they choose status quo.?

This is a pivotal time in Nigerian history. Very few can see it.

I don't think so, not when we vote along religious and ethnic lines.

CSTR2:
We have nothing to offer. We don't even spend enough on their weapons.

Maybe if OBJ had given America their drone base, it may have counted for something.

But US don't need it anymore. They already surround us on every side.

We were feeling too important then, talking sovereignty etc, during OBJ's era Nigeria had some respect, but now, nothing left.

... all thanks to the leaders we elected to govern us.

CSTR2:
Have you asked yourself why Saudi cannot dump America for Russia or China.

Their survival depends on America.

And the major thing America needs from them is billions of dollars every year.
Everything else is secondary.

Apart from weapons, they also pay for US protection.

That is lucrative business.

You are right, without US, I doubt if they can survive the hostile region, it's a win win situation for both countries, but it benefits US the more.

It's all about interest and we have nothing offer.

CSTR2:
Your view is correct but simplistic.

Trump does not need Saudi for the Middle East.
The place can go to blazes for all they care. America is the largest exporter of oil now.
And Israel can handle its own.

What they cannot afford to lose is over $20 billion yearly in weapons sale from Saudi.

No American leader jokes with Saudi Arabia, aside the billions of dollars weapons they purchase yearly, Saudi Arabia to some extent has some influence on the dollar. should Saudi Arabia dump US for let's say China or Russia, US will feel the heat.

Israel also needs Saudi Arabia, they don't want to have another Iran-like opposing nation, more reasons they have been successful with their land theft in Palestine and was defeated in Lebanon, just imagine Saudi Arabia arming Hamas, that would be disastrous.

Like you pointed earlier, Nigeria is fast loosing her worth, all thanks to those who have ruined and are ruining the nation.

pazienza:
Right. Many Ijaw communities in the past married lots of Urhobo women and these nearly upturned the language of the Ijaw communities. Take for instance Kiagbodo, the home town of Edwin Clark in Delta state. They are currently Urhobo speaking though they are of Ijaw origin, due to too many marriages with Urhobo women.

Urhobo are claiming Ofoni because they would be landlocked without Ofoni. But unfortunately, Ofoni people are proud Ijaws.

https://www.nairaland.com/3898626/group-faults-urhobo-inclusion-biafra/13#58138886

cc:Ijawcitizen

Sir, you mean the people of Ofoni aren't Urhobos but Ijaw? Wow, just wow, just some months back, same Ijaws were kicking against this same man because he was Urhobo from Ofoni, but a chief on Nairaland, because of his dislike for the Urhobo nation thinks otherwise.

https://thenationonlineng.net/we-wont-allow-imposition-of-urhobo-as-bayelsa-deputy-gov/

Citytrend:
At this point what Really matters is the dividends of Democracy

You are right, but it's also not out of place to let people know we have indigenous Urhobo people in Bayelsa and one of their son, a deputy governor.

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https://www.nairaland.com/2289624/meet-ofoni-people-bayelsa-only

The Ofoni people

Ofoni is an Urhobo community in Sagbama Local Government Area in Bayelsa State of the Federal Republic of Nigeria. Ofoni is about 40 kilometres by water to Sagbama (headquarters of Sagbama Local Government) 5 minutes by land to Odorubu and about 120 kilometres by road through Odorubu toYenagoa (Bayelsa State capital) respectively.

The community which is a peninsula, due to its almost being surrounded by water, is about 6 square kilometres in size and it is made up of three sub communities (villages) of Ekrediagbo, Ekreogbe and Ekreyavwien which in turn, have a total of seven quarters.

Ofoni which is in Bayelsa West Senatorial District has Iseni, Uduere and Ofoni Oil Field of the SPDC. It has oil facilities such as pipeline as well as drilled and capped oil wells.

The Man, Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo by Clement Ovokeroye

Born in September 5th, 1965 in Ofoni Federated Communities in Sagbama Local Government Area of BAyelsa State into the aristocratic family of late Chief and Mrs Awhowho Ewhrudjakpo, Mr. Lawrence Oborawhareivwo Ewhrudjakpo is an efficacious savvy management consultant with specialty in change management.

A legal practitioner with an au-fait in governance, health systems, management and reforms, capacity building and training, facilitation, feasibility studies and sector analysis and development, cum action plans development, knowledge management and resource mobilization.

At age 6, Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo attended the Ebikimiye Primary School, Kpakiama, where he obtained his First School Leaving Certificate (FSLC) in 1976. Then he proceeded to Government College Bomadi in 1982 and later proceeded to Community Secondary School, Ofoni in 1987 where he obtained his West African School Certificate (WASC).

Lawrence started his tertiary education odyssey in the prestigious Rivers State College of Health Technology, spatially located in Port Harcourt the Capital of Rivers State, between 1989 to 1991 where he obtained a Diploma in Community Health. Upon completion of his Diploma course in Community Health, Lawrence’s quest for advanced knowledge thrusted him to the Rivers State University of Science and Technology, Port Harcourt between 1991 to 1996 where he obtained a Bachelor of Science (B. Sc.) in Secretarial Administration.

In 1998, he returned to his alma mater – the Rivers State University of Science and Technology for a Master’s studies in Business Administration and consequently obtained a MBA, Management Option in 2000. Having completed his Master’s studies in Business Administration (Management Option), in a bid to become versatile, enhance his juridical understanding and essentially guide his endeavors as a social being, he secured admission to study law in the same citadel of learning, Rivers State University of Science and Technology, where he bagged L.L.B. Hons Law, between 2002 to 2007.

Lawrence insatiable quest for knowledge is unprecedented. At the time he was studying Law in the Rivers State University of Science and Technology, he was also studying Change Management in Said Business School, Oxford University, United Kingdom; a certificate course he took between 2006 to 2007. Also, between 2008 to 2009 he took a yet another Master’s studies in Science of Coaching and Consulting for Change, in HEC School of Management, Paris, France.

Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo was called to Bar in 2009 after completing his Law School programme at the Nigerian Law School, Bwari, Abuja. Having qualified as a Barrister, he took a Diploma course in Mediation, Negotiation and Arbitration, at the Centre for Conflict Resolution, Ghana. Between 2011 to 2012, it was imperative for him to advanced his juridical cognition and so he took a Master’s course in the Birmingham City University, United Kingdom and consequently obtained LLM in International Human Rights Law. He is a quintessential Management Consultant, Legal Practitioner and a Community Health Practitioner whose cognition is au-fait.

He has served in various capacity. His leadership prowess and cognate experiences are essentially fab. Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo served as a Principal Partner in GoldMark Chambers from 2009 to 2012, as a Solicitor and Advocator. Between 1996 to 2003, he served as the Secretary General of National Association of Community Health Practitioner of Nigeria (NACHPN).

In 2003 he was elevated to serve as the Executive Secretary of NACHPN, with responsibilities to oversee the body administration, make tactical and strategic decision for the leadership; Act as Secretary of all committees, cum production and presentation of minutes of meetings, annual scientific conference organization, finance management and resource mobilization. A position he held up to 2012.

The Senator

In 2019, Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo was elected as the senator representing the productive people of Bayelsa West Senatorial District. Bayelsa West Senatorial comprises Sagbama and Ekeremor Local Government Areas, in Bayelsa State.

The Deputy Governor

After the Supreme Court ruling, Senator Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo alongside Douye Diri were announced winner of the just concluded Bayelsa Election.

The History

Senator Lawrence Ewhrudjakpo will be the first non-Ijaw Democratic elected deputy governor of Bayelsa state.

http://www.pacopalace.com/2018/11/the-man-lawrence-ewhrudjakpo.html?m=1

Gerald454:
... one thing u guys don't know is the history of the war and the people that fought the war. Dennis osadebe was the head of mid westerners and ojukwu the head of Eastern region.....the two region joined together and became Biafra...

During the war, Dennis Osadebay wasn't the leader of Mid-west but David Ejoor who was later replaced by Albert Okonkwo (after the mid-west invasion). Dennis Osadebay retired as a premier of Mid-west a year before the war.

... and no, Mid-west never joined forces with anyone, Ejoor made it clear that his region was neutral, if not for the murder attempt and other conflicts of interests, Mid-west had no plans of joining the federal troops.

I think history needs to be taught in our school.

PrimadonnaO:
The behaviour where a man and a woman are living together like husband and wife with lots of children but no official payment of bride price...

If happens with ladies from all tribes, Yoruba, Igbo, Bini, itsekiri etc. The reason you noticed that of Urhobo was maybe because you stayed in Urhobo land.

I have seen many similar cases with ladies who aren't Urhobo, so this your statement holds no water.

PrimadonnaO:
But you know this kind of behaviour is very common amongst the Urhobos.
Very bad behaviour...

What behavior are you referring to? The woman cheating? or the woman refusing to accept the plea of her husband?

If you are referring to the cheating part, the woman never cheated, she walked out of that scam called marriage, who she dates is none of OP's business.

ctbhola:
God forbid that I marry an urhobo woman,,,they are very cunning and selfish and also wicked.following an already married man after six children. TUFIAKWA

Chief relax, Urhobo ladies aren't wicked and selfish, you are going tribal.

ctbhola:
,,,,,,,,,,so you support her behavior,, after my friend begged her,even use the pastor of her church,, even calling his family and friend,,,,,, now she followed a married man with children,,, and the man's wife is from akwa ibom...

I do not support anyone. Calling her family and friends won't solve anything, is your friend now ready to pay the dowry? If the lady was your sister, would you have allowed her stay with a man who has refused to do the proper thing?

ctbhola:
Pls this has nothing to do with me,,is just that I want to know all of you opinion, so that my friend can move forward,, and to those who Say's that the wiFE WILL go away with the children,,, they are grown up,,,the first child is 18, the second is 15, the third is 12,the fourth is 10and the last is 7,,,so I really don't think that the woman will do it.

No one said the woman will take the kids away, they only said if she was Igbo, you'd never see those kids again, Urhobo has a different culture and traditions from Igbo.

I blame your friend, he wasn't serious, bribe price in Urhobo land is very cheap, with little cash at hand, you can settle everything, why then did he not do the necessary? you said she had some attitudes yet your friend kept impregnating her, not one but 5kids.

If he had paid the dowry, the woman won't dare move out with another man just like that, our ladies take their marital vows sacred.

According to our custom, the lady has done no wrong, and if her current man pays the dowry, then forget about her.

Enwhen:
Why are u showing us the poverty version of Irhibotor ??,

Look at how that place is even dirty.... How do u want to sell this to other tribe let alone a white man ?

We do not need the validation of others, the picture the OP uploaded is a typical example of Irhibotor.

PrimadonnaO:
I grew up in Delta, so I should know, but prior to now I’d never heard about it.

You grew up in Delta and you aren't aware of a soup such as this? this food is common amongst the Urhobo and Isoko people, a very popular cuisine in Delta central and south.

nahzyla:
Lol@ it's paining me. When I told him he was dictatorial he started arguing. A good marriage is built on communication and mutual respect for each other feelings, not one sided decisions.

Stop the hypocrisy already, would you?

The man said his wife wasn't comfortable with his brother staying around, this he noticed through her actions and inactions and being a wise man, he had to send his brother packing by processing his visa, in retaliation he banned his wife's relatives from coming since she doesn't want anyone around.

You now remember there is something called communication and mutual respect, why didn't his wife remembered this when he made his house uncomfortable for his brother while her own family had a field day in their home.

JONNYSPUTE You are a man and I love your policies.

bukatyne:
If a husband is not ready to leave his family and cleave to his wife, he should not bother getting married.

Getting stale, so because a man is getting married, he shouldn't accommodate his siblings... The OP just said her part of the story, not until I hear from her brother in-law I will just see her as some of these women who love separating their husbands from their root.

Martins231:
Please I need advice on how to handle this, I gave my wife the sum of 400k for her and my 2 years old daughter around November and this January she’s already calling to tell me that she’s out of cash and I got worried and started questioning her how she spent such amount on feeding within such a short period of time ,that made us got into serious arguments which lasted for 2 days then I have to ask few married friends if is ok to exhaust such amount of money on feeding within 3 months and they gave me their answers which I sent to my wife too ...Now my wife immediately forwarded same messages to his brother living abroad too and also along with some conversations we had long time ago where she got me angry and insulted her by calling her idiot and stupid ...... His brother got angry and ask her to divorce me and immediately she started packing her belongings,I saw so surprised when she called me that she’s leaving my house ....I also learnt that his brother called his friend living in Abuja too to go and drag her out of my house if she doesn’t want to go ...... So I was so surprised when she asked me where to drop my keys I have to start begging her to calm down but she insisted that his family wants her to go ,then I have to call her mother and explained my own part of the story but the mother said there is nothing she can do since her siblings wants her to go . Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again

NB: They brother in abroad gave me the insult of life by sending a message to my wife which she also forwarded to me by calling me all sorts of names like immature and childish husband, and this same guy is of the same age bracket with me. Plz I need ur candid advice don’t mind my English and typos.

Oshare we just read the other part of the story, if what IJ typed is true, then you are wrong, call her people and settle things out.

Mispreeti:
please I nid ur advice . My 6sta is at d hospital wiv one of her twin who is seriously ill n im
In her house taking care of d other twin. I have been here for a week tommorow n her husband has been disturbing me for sex I refused but he is not listening. He touched me while I was asleep n I felt it then I immediately woke up , he pretends to be covering d baby sleeping beside me , I told him i will report him to my dad in d morning. He has apologised n promise not to do it again , but I know he is lying because this is not the first time it has happened since I came here. I can’t go back to sleep n am afraid if I close my eyes n sleep , he will come again. Please should I report him to my dad or give him another chance ?

Leave that house, he might do something unreasonable, tell your mom to come look after the kids.

kilisi:
I still see that interview as a covert way of saying:
The sanctions are killing Iran's economy, so we want US to come back to the negotiation table.

They are still giving conditions, the interviewer asked if they are willing to negotiate and they said; uplift sanctions before we can have any negotiation, that's not someone who is pleading for a talk like it was earlier published.

Sanction is killing the economy, but judging from Iran's past behaviour, they won't give in so easily, they withstood sanctions greater than this in the past.

At the end of the day, both countries will go back to the negotiation table and have another deal similar to what Obama drafted, this time, another name.

I think there was a misunderstanding, Iran's foreign minister only said his country will only accept new negotiations if US lifts sanctions.

No doubts, sanctions are crippling the economy, but this same country has been under similar circumstances for almost 4 decades, I doubt if they'd give in to Trump's demand.

At the end of the day, we hope both countries find a common ground, atleast from all indications, both countries do not want conflict, a good news by the way.

Uyi168:
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The man became irresponsible and an alcoholic..
What do u expect her do?

When she was lavishing the man's money, she never knew he was alcoholic right? why didn't the said wife leave when she noticed the man's bad behavior, she had to wait for the man to get dry before running.

As the son is alcoholic, why didn't mama leave him and the grandchildren too? you aren't getting my points sir, some women are only with men when things are good, only your family will stay with you in both good and bad times, so make sure you help them, that's the message I'm trying to pass.

missimelda01:
Was this the only thing you got from the story? A foolish man married a foolish woman, that's a fair one.

Nope, just advising my fellow men to never abandon home, as you provide for your immediate family, do not forget mama and papa, no matter how little it is.

MISTAICEY02288:
Hmmm exactly my thoughts too. God bless you for r this. Honestly Family is everything in life. At the end of the day, only one's family will be worth it.

I tell you, come rain come shine, they are there, especially mothers, most men always make this mistake, sometimes if you see the way they maltreat their own extended family because they are now married, you'd be shocked.

At the end of the day, only few wives will stick with you if things get difficult, but there is high probability that your own family won't abandon you, as you take care of your wife, don't forget to do same to those who made you YOU.

Look at OP's mom, despite having less, she didn't disown her son and grandchildren, instead she is even borrowing to feed those kids... and the wife? grooving with another man.

Mymynd4u:
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her first born (Wale) is more like a loss.. When he has money, he didn't take care of our mother n us.. He took care of his wife family and 2kids.. He is a good shoe maker, as in like talented one but his attitude of drinking alcohol ruined him. He collected money for shoe n wunt do it for the customers. People like him but he gave himself up for hatred.. He is almost ruined now and his 2 kids stays with my mother.

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Mymynd4u:
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1st born wale is utterly useless. I'm sorry to say this. 2 kids from him stay with mom plus him recently for a shop oo, wife don run go back to her village remarry..

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So after everything you elder brother did for her and her family, she later abandoned him after you brother lost his job, Dear men hope you are seeing this, the people telling you to cut off your family because you are married, once things go south, they'd abandon you and you will be left with nothing but the same family you abandoned.

OP, there is nothing much you can do, try and stock mama's shop, you can't leave her now, what about your elder brother, you guys should look for way to help him start his shoe business again, he should move to a new location, but only do that when you noticed a change in behavior.

Wishing your family all the best.

LadySarah:
Times have changed. 90percent males won't want to be married at that age,life is just beginning for them.

Agreed, But we just have to agree that OP's husband isn't acting this way because of age, because most men above 30 will still act same way under similar circumstances.

olabrinks:
True. But this is a new generation. Most men cannot take responsibility for a family until they reach 30 or near. Of course not excluding the minority who mature fast, but most don’t. At 24, you’re still a baby mentally, esp for a man, I’m sorry to say. I wouldn’t advise a lady of 22 to settle with a 24 year old man unless she wants to waste her time and wait for him to man up.

I get your point sister, but I still believe you shouldn't stress on the age part, the reason most men settle at 30 is because of the present state of the economy, age doesn't make one a man, but life challenges.

24, baby mentality? I wonder the type of 24yrs old guys you have met over the years, if at 24 one still thinks like a baby, I wonder when he'd start thinking like a man.

What OP is presently experiencing with his man, he can experience with majority of men above 30, no love between them, few sex lead to pregnancy and then marriage, everything was just too quick. I'm not trying to absolve the man of his irresponsible act, but one shouldn't marry a lady all because she got pregnant, it never ends well.

olabrinks:
At 24 he is not ready to stay in the marriage. Most men cannot be good husbands until 31+ . They need to get that youthful exuberance out of their system.

We have so many men who are above 30 but still act same way as OP's husband, 24yrs ain't no baby, our forefathers started having families at 20.

The guy should man up, he is simply irresponsible, he doesn't even care about his own child, what nonsense.

Candiesramah:
You see, I've seen a lot of situations like this and in most cases, I wish I could flog these men. How can someone claim to love you and maltreat your parents? My cousin's wife at a point refused to give her father-in-law food because she felt it was not her responsibility and this is a man in his 70s, old and weak and the so-called son was not bothered.

A woman who loves you should also be able to love your family especially when there are no issues. This op's stupid wife included her mother's guest on her guest list but blatantly refused to include that of her husband's mother. That should tell she hated the woman right before her marriage started properly.

I read the post twice and couldn't see where his mother did anything wrong while the wife she's been shielding has done more harm than good. From fighting his mum which shows she has no regard for the woman, she'll eventually shift goal post to him with time because he actually has no regard for her husband. All that love na sham.

Some men are just weak, too weak I tell you, how can you allow your wife maltreat your own father this way? I mean the person who made you who you are today, bro, talk to that your cousin.

ichuka:
@OP
Even google map can navigate someone accurately these days talkless of missiles .
My point is it's no longer rocket science to do such.
Everybody knows OP.the problem is they will also know where,when and the time it's suppose to hit the target.
OP u can do 80% of these precision from ur room and backyard if you have one.
Problem is ur foes will know where it's coming from and the time it will enter there air space not to talk of hitting the ground.
Dude,Nobi to first fire b pros.
Can you consume/endure the retaliation from the other party?

Chief give respect where respect is due, having a precise missile is no joke, not many countries can produce such sophisticated weapon, we are talking of about a country that has been under 40years of heavy sanctions here, common bro, do not let your hate for them deny the fact that these Iranians are extremely smart.

When Houthis rebel fired rockets at Saudi Arabia's oil facilities, US and allies never believed it was done by the ragtag group, instead they blamed Iran, because they knew only few countries in that region have the technology to hit a target that precisely.

@bolded, Nobody wants war, war is no joke, millions will perish, retaliation might drag the entire region into another bloody conflict which Iran, US, Iraq, Saudi Arabia, UAE, UK, etc are avoiding, shooting at the base, they just passed a message, thank God no US troops died.