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Obolor123454:
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Hello,
I am writing to provide some clarifications following our earlier discussion under the mentioned headings. It has become necessary to address certain points for better understanding.

I've noticed some surprising comments, and I believe it might be attributed to cultural differences. I want to emphasize that I opened this account upon the request of a Nigerian friend who encouraged me to share my story.

My primary concern is the timing of the information about the occasion for which my spouse has been making preparations. The issue is not about mistrusting my brother; rather, it's about my spouse not sharing this information earlier.

The wedding she is attending is that of her old classmate's younger sister, a man whose name has been rarely mentioned in the ten years of our marriage. My surprise stems from the sudden revelation of her involvement in this event just a few days before the ceremony, despite the extensive preparations leading up to it. Like I said, I think she only mention the guy’s name just once when the guy had an accident. She just mentioned the accident and that was all.

Moreover, when she was even telling me of embarking on the journey, she just only said that she was attending a friend’s wedding without further details or explanation. She was merely informing me about it, because she already made all the arrangement to attend the wedding and has been discussing the issue with this same class mates for over 4 months without ever mentioning it to me, just only to inform me days to the occasion.

I hope these clarifications shed light on the specific points of concern. I appreciate your time.

I don't know the background nof yiur family and situations between both of you. Do you have a job? Who is the breadwinner between you?
I however want to say by the time a wife flagrantly disobeys or disrespects her husband as you described her she has some people behind her dastardly act and may out of the marriage.
A typical Afirica woman is always ready to seek approval of her husband on matters before carrying them out.
Call her and tell her what you don't like .
I hope she will listen .You are the man and should know how to manage your household before she takes over from with her tactics!

garfield1:
Why Election Cases are hard to win:

Judges have been coming under ceaseless attacks and castigations by those who are disappointed with the outcome of election petitions filed at various election tribunals across the country.

I don't know what they expect judges to do when petitioners woefully fail to bring before judges evidence that judges hearing election petitions would rely on to overturn results declared by INEC in favour of the winners whom they are challenging in the tribunal.

I started doing election cases way back in 1999 when the country returned to democratic civil rule after a long spell of military dictatorship.

I have since then appeared as counsel in two presidential election petition cases (Buhari vs. Yaradua (2008), and CPC vs. President Goodluck Jonathan (2011).

I also counselled in several governorship election petitions including Comrade Adams Oshiomhole v. Professor Osunbor and Onyema Ugochukwu.

In 2007, I was the counsel to the Petitioners in Dr Paul Ukpo and five others versus Senator Liyel Imoke.

I have also handled several National and State Assemblies election petitions in Akwa Ibom and Cross River States since 1999 till now.

Therefore I have first-time practical experience with what election petitions are and even the attitude of the judges.

I tell you election litigation is difficult, tedious, stressful and challenging to the Petitioners, Respondents, Judges and legal practitioners alike.

The first challenge for the petitioner is assembling and gathering evidence from the numerous polling units where the election takes place.

It is usually difficult because some of the polling agents appointed by the political parties to be watchdogs are more often than not nonchalant, ill-prepared,ill-trained and compromised to enable them to gather evidence they can submit to their political parties to use to prepare petitions in cases where there is non-compliance.

The petitioner has 21 days after the day of the declaration of the result to challenge it to file his petition.

This is usually inadequate to enable someone who contested a presidential or governorship election to prepare his papers for filing.
Nigeria has 176,974 polling units across the country.

If a petitioner wants to challenge a presidential election for non-compliance he has to call a witness from each of these 176,974 polling units across the country.
Is it possible for a petitioner to call 176,974 witnesses or to prove his case when the Tribunal is given just 180 days to hear a petition and deliver judgment?

Also, there are 8,000 electoral wards in the country,776 local governments 36 States and the Federal Capital Territory, Abuja.

A petitioner who wants to complain about the collation of results from the Polling Unit to the Ward to the Local government area collation centre to the State collation centre in presidential election litigation must also call witnesses in all these collation centres.

The same procedure applies to the governorship election.
Almost all the States of the federation have not less than 3,000 polling units.

It is a nightmare for lawyers to sit down and gather, and scrutinise reports from these polling units and craft a petition to file within days.

The Rules of Election Petition require the petitioner to frontload the evidence he wants to present before the election tribunal.

In other words at the time of the filing of the petition, the petitioner must file statements on oath of all the witnesses he intends to call.
Any evidence not filed at the time of filing of the petition is inadmissible and cannot be used no matter how weighty it is.

The Rules of Election litigation are extremely technical and peculiar unlike in ordinary litigation where the rules are lax and not strictly enforced.

Any infraction of the Rules of an election petition by the petitioner is fatal to his case.
The election tribunal is given 180 days from the day of the filing of the petition to hear and determine it.

The law that regulates election petitions is also a challenge.
The burden of proof is on the petitioner not on INEC or the person whom a petitioner has been filed against.

Also, the law presumes that an election result is correct unless the contrary is proved.
In all these what do we expect judges to do?
If the petitioner fails to prepare an iron cast with credible and overwhelming evidence to cause the judge to overturn the result of the election who should take the blame?

The law also says that a judge hearing an election petition should exercise his discretion and allow the result to stand if in his opinion the election was conducted in substantial compliance with the provisions of the Electoral Law.

The legislature or the lawmaker appreciates the fact that elections are conducted by INEC using human beings who are fallible and prone to human frailties and shortcomings that would likely on election probably not follow the rules to the letter because of one reason or the other.

Therefore if mistakes omissions or breaches of these election guidelines and regulations made by those entrusted with the conduct are isolated and cannot affect the outcome of the election in a way to subverts the will of the people that election must stand.

Finally, the principles of law evolving from election litigations laid down as precedence from say 1979 to the present have not changed.

Judges are conservative by orientation and judicial activism is not encouraged under common law system except perhaps at the Supreme Court level.

Even then the Supreme Court is not only a court of law,but also of public policy.

It is very difficult and even smacks of radicalism and discipline for judges down the judicial ladder to depart and disregard precedents laid down by superior courts in the judicial hierarchy no matter what.

I therefore submit that if Nigerians want to see a different trajectory in election litigation the law must change.

It is not the judges that will change the law.

The work of the judges is to interpret the law as it is.

Judges are forbidden to interpret the law as it ought to be.
It is the National Assembly that has the power to fundamentally alter or change our electoral law.

Till then, our hardworking and overworked judges should be spared.

@ Okoi Obono-Obla


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I agree in totality with your submission on the strain of winning an election petition in Nigeria. Unless our laws are repealed it will be difficult to win any presidential pentition on Nigeria even if the petitioner is Igbo ,Yoruba or Hausa.
It is also true that timeline for petitions must be revisited. Lawyers mist also be ready to guide their clients well on election matters. If your case is not well presented and prosecuted the judiciary will never give you any hope.

guobe:
As I went to buy paracetamol at the chemist which cost two hundred naira,my attention was caught by the price of condom and I could not hesitate but snap it.

Condoms are now being sold at 2500, 5000 and 7000 naira a pack.

I was like alot of guys will go raw if they are not able to afford it.

Having sex in Nigeria is now very expensive especially for promisquos men.
The breakdown of expenses include condom 3,000,hotel 20,000,olosho fee 50,000,food and drinks 10,000 naira.Total 93,000 naira .
Promisquos men will learn and they will learn the hard way.

Watch out for Emilokan Condoms. A pack is #300...

Prospertochu:
My x wife and I share 3 children together ( 4 years old triplets 2 boys 1 girl). I live in another state due to the nature of my job.

The girl lives with her in Lagos and the boys are with my mother and sister in the village. I rented another apartment for them far away because I don't want my x or her family to come and kidnapped my boys the same way she kidnapped the girl .

My x wife and daughter are going to the village for xmas she want me to give her my mum adress so she can see the boys she said she bought plenty gifts for them .

I refused because the last time she visited she took all 3 children to her parents house only for her to kidnapped the girl leaving behind the boys.

I don't want her to kidnapped my boys and she has threatened to take me to court for custody she said the judge will grant her custody because the children are tender .

I told her to go ahead and report me anywhere she wants. I am scared to loose my boys. I love them so much they are my everything I won't bear to lose them.

My boys are only 4 years old is it true that the judge will grant her custody because they are tender ?


Edited 1 : https://www.nairaland.com/7112098/x-wife-demanding-me-more#112551530



Edited 2: https://www.nairaland.com/7436944/ex-wife-kidnapped-daughter#118450454

. The children are supposed to be with thier mother considering their ages. They need her now.
By the time they become 8 you have the right to take them back to yiur custody as yiur property but both of you even now and then have the right to see the children.
In some cases however some minor adults can be allowed to decide whom to stay with between father and mother but not in a tender of 4.
When father and mother are not at peace children suffer. In an ideal situation father and mother shiukd take care of the children together

guobe:
Happy belated birthday to Julius Aghahowa as he turns 41 years old.

The football age is 41

The real age is ..... 53

Thonyboy:
https://.ng/2023/12/04/court-remands-yahoo-boy-for-raping-17-year-old-girl-to-death/

He used charms to rape her as instructed by his juju man. You ladies and men with covetousness continue with it.
Your Waterloo is around the corner!

fergie001:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2023/12/appeal-court-affirms-ottis-election-as-abia-governor-pdp-calls-for-calm/amp/

. Democracy is at work today but if APC wins in court today ,democracy is dead. !

mariahAngel:
What are the Nigerian native dishes your enjoy, and what are they made from?

Mine is abacha. It is made from cassava.
I totally enjoy it whenever I get to eat it, that I can't seem to get enough of it.

I also enjoy ukwa (breadfruit) very much.

Pictures source: Google

Pounded yam. Iyan. I am from Ilesa

cutecommend:
What language does members of your family speak often to each other?

(a) Pidgin English
(b) Polished English language
(c) Your Tribal language.
(d) Sign language

etc.

Yoruba language

seunmsg:
This is encouraging. Soludo is doing well. He’s the kind of leader we can support for president. A leader who appreciates the diversity of the country and understands the need to build bridges of friendship across all region.

Who does "we" stand for? The proform does not include the Hausas I guess.

[quote author=seunmsg post=127168350]This is encouraging. Soludo is doing well. He’s the kind of leader we can support for president. A leader who appreciates the diversity of the country and understands the need to build bridges of friendship across all region. [/quote
Who] Who does "we" stand for? The proform does not include the Hausas I guess.

Omooba77:
After walloping Burnley, Arsenal next point of call is Brentford......
#COYG....

Arsenal the League Champions in 2023! If I hear pim!

NLCreator:
Appeal Court Has Asked Lawyers To Return Certified Copy Of Kano Governorship Election Ruling For ‘Correction’ – Prof Odinkalu Raises Alarm



https://saharareporters.com/2023/11/22/appeal-court-has-asked-lawyers-return-certified-copy-kano-governorship-election-ruling

. The panel first presented a judgement in favour of NNPP but when discussing the judgement with the AC president and the AC judges of the division it became necessary to change their judgement after views and ideas were exchanged.
Appeals are first discussed by judges before assigning judges to handle them. The judgement will also be discussed before the final one will be made for the public. This takes place at the SC too .

Disappointedly the copy sent to the Registrar contains the position that has been jetissioned by the AC. What a gross and careless manner of handling the matter!
As to whether money is involved is another possibility.

The judgement read is sacrosanct and valid in law.

ValarDoharis:
You're talking nonsense!

Beer parlour gossip. Any coalition that does not throw Obi as presidential candidate is dead on arrival

If the coalition reaches North Obi cannot be fielded but if it in the SE Obi can be fielded with the results as usual.

naptu2:
https://punchng.com/police-disperse-protesting-osun-court-workers-union-declares-strike/

Political protest engineered by the PDP government against the CJ.
The woman will continue her service to age 70 whether you like it or not.

codedgalaxy:
Nlanders pls a quick question.
My guy straffed one "ent" yesterday.
He told me that normally the babe was sweet, but his concern now, is that during sex there were milky stuffs like "garri" coming out of her vj.
Pls what is this, is it okay?
and has anyone experiensed this before?

Her body is set for a pregnancy! That is the meaning! Congratulations in advance

BluntCrazeMan:
The Certified True Copy (which happened to be the supposed wrong copy) first existed before the corrected version came into existence.


It seems like all the wrong Copy-and-Pasting happened on the Page-67..

They perfectly did Copy-and-Paste in all the other pages and removed all the original texts,
But they forgot to take a careful final look on that page-67..
..

A lot of things are really happening.

As I said this morning,the AC has reached out to all lawyers in the case with the CTC judgement to return it for correction.
The judgement stays

[quote author=BluntCrazeMan post=127104389]The Certified True Copy (which happened to be the supposed wrong copy) first existed before the corrected version came into existence.


It seems like all the wrong Copy-and-Pasting happened on the Page-67..

They perfectly did Copy-and-Paste in all the other pages and removed all the original texts,
But they forgot to take a careful final look on that page-67..
..

A lot of things are really happening.
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BluntCrazeMan:
The Certified True Copy (which happened to be the supposed wrong copy) first existed before the corrected version came into existence.


It seems like all the wrong Copy-and-Pasting happened on the Page-67..

They perfectly did Copy-and-Paste in all the other pages and removed all the original texts,
But they forgot to take a careful final look on that page-67..
..

A lot of things are really happening.

. There is a mix up somewherewhen preparing the judgement.
The procedure is that before the final judgement is read the prepared judgement is discussed with the AC court division judges and the AC president. It is here that views are exchanged and opinion shared

I am of the opinion that it is at this stage that mistakes and corrections are made in the judgement .

The same procedure applies in the SC too.
The mistakes here are embarrassing but what they pronounced in the judgement stays and. non negotiable!

Politicstoday:
Na you give her the copy niiii. If APC and gawuna like he shouldn’t appeal the Appeal court of justice judgement in the Supreme Court of justice. Na straight loss for APC and gawuna in Kano State. Appeal Court of justice affirmed governor Abba Yusuff of Nnpp . CTC copies are the fact copies that the lawyers used to filed cases in the court either Tribunal, Appeal and Supreme Court of justice. Deal with fact

let wait and see

Kukutente23:
All that one nor concern us
Na wetin we see we know

Let Wait and see

Kukutente23:
On the CTC of Kano appeal judgement we stand

funny people
They AC president has a copy of the judgement before it is read.
How will manipulation come in?

Politicstoday:
https://punchng.com/confusion-as-appeal-courts-certified-judgment-affirns-kano-govs-election/

Show Us the page 67 of what you have as the original copy. WE WILL compare it to page 67 of what was read . in the court .Investigation will continue later

Ideylook24:
What is the best advise for a friend who is facing serious mental issues in his place of work. The environment in which this individual is working is very toxic and staff have been reduced to not using their initiative. There is pervasive fear in the environment on what happens next everyday. The joy of going to work is always precipitated by anxiety. Is it advisable for this individual to resign considering the current economic situation in Nigeria. Please advise. Thank you

. People respect yiu because you have work. When you are yet to have another work ,please keep the one you have now! Don't resiign out of frustration. You have your life to live.

Islie:
Falana: It’s Dangerous for Judiciary to Sanction 165,000 Voters for Electoral Officers’ Mistakes

•Seeks review of judgements sacking three opposition governors

•PDP asks CJN to probe ruling party’s claim of controlling judiciary

•Atiku: APC’s ‘snatch, grab, run’ agenda inimical to democracy




https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2023/11/21/falana-its-dangerous-for-judiciary-to-sanction-165000-voters-for-electoral-officers-mistakes?amp=1

. In the case of Aregbesola vrs Oyinlola 2011 the AC cancelled elecions in 10 local governments in Osun State for non compliance. If that of Kano is also established so be it.

Politicians know how they play their games!

Odewaleadesoye:


DAILY POST

what about those he gave people as gifts or threw to the spectators after the matches?

Thonyboy:
https://.ng/2023/11/21/how-we-lost-election-for-not-bribing-inec-police-obasanjo/

How did he become President in 1999 and 2007? How did Yaradua suceed him? How did Jonathan come into power? How did Buhari come in? How did Tinubu come in? If the hand of the North is not in all instances what OBJ said is true. If the North is behind rulership in Nigeria ,this man is just telling lies.

Politicians know how they maneovure events to win elections.

OBJ go and rest!

ahnie:
Your English is not englishing sir.

It's Dora akunyili/ngozi okonjo iweala.
ngozi ou owe me a thank you.

Dora Akunyili Okonjo Ngozi Iweala

Proper nanes usually begin with capital letters .That is mechanics in written English.
Thank me too.

Racoon:
https://thenationonlineng.net/subsidy-removal-fg-records-over-n1trn-monthly-revenue-inflow-minister/

What about the pains of the effects on the people? Will it not be better to prepare ground for it before implementation? The high cost of living must be addressed.

Icrave4u:
If you marry a lady via court wedding and you didnt pay her bride price are you legally married to her.

In statutory marriage ,the answer is YES!

popplm:
This is a nutritious meat that sustained most homes in my home town during the 1983 crisis and military government austerity that led to famine. Its called "kánnì" in my l9cal language and I don't know what it's called in English. Do you know this creature and what is it called in your local language?

Kanni


I am Yoruba from Ilesa

totit:
Group Faults Sanwo-Olu Over Failure To Appoint Ndigbo




https://independent.ng/group-faults-sanwo-olu-over-failure-to-appoint-ndigbo/

. Is there any Yoruba representation in the Enugu, Anambra,Eboyin ,,Imo and Abia cabinets? This group has drunk palmwine or "Ogogoro"
Gov Sanwoolu and Yorubas in Lagos I am proud of you all. Omo oko logun. omo ale!