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ifyalways:
Keep your silliness to yourself . Where did I have this discussion with you ? You've been trying so hard to get my e-attention ; here you have it. Not gonna happen again so get lost in peace

Yes Ma, sorry

MadHeadLeft2:
Yes, i was using Australian account.

I tried to register as a nigerian but they didn't accept my account then I switched to Australia.

I was working on a very large project and Upwork said I should buy my town's newspaper snap and send them for verification because their system had flagged my account.

they gave me 72hrs to complete the verification.

I couldn't do it in time so they deleted my account.

They did not send me my $1350 in ongoing milestones, account balance and hourly payment that were going to clear the next wednesday.

I need help to create another account. This time I will be very careful.

You cannot create an account if they do not accept Nigerian accounts, don't boycott the system, there surely can be other means.

Be specific of what you need now so people who want to help can help.

Food? Writing work? Etc

You assumed a lot instead of asking and getting clear answers and a financial plan.

Mistake has been done, do you work? You need a financial plan, what do you earn both? What are your bills? Get an exercise book and write out every single thing
Reduce expenses until it fits into your bill and you can afford savings

Ifyalways, he has cleared the issue of payment, the company had health insurance on staff. Is there anything else he should respond to? You say you have other information on this.

frozen70:
@Eketem
Everytime you want to to be noticed by passing insults on my comments

Honestly I hate you.

Thank You

frozen70:
@Eketem, this is the third time you are picking on my post

My statement was not directed or targeted at you

I have warned you to stop responding to my post before

Learn how to be on your lane

This time around you have to go to yaba left for evaluation

Am sure you have stopped taking your drugs that's why your unbridled tongue is affecting your fingers to type to my comments

I will foot your bill, but just go early before it gets out of hand

Okay thank you

ifyalways:
Rada rada. Abeg face your audience and serenade them with your stories. It's very convienent for you to forget things and oh, I noticed a quick Google search actually have the exact date of the opening of ikeja mall.

You said KFC spent over 500K on your treatment right? The mall opened late 2011, by 2012 KFC spent over 500K on a staff medical bill. . . When I burst that lie now you will come up with another story.

You have a willing audience, face them jeje and enjoy . Sinestroo was a better writer by the way.

While it is good that you always have your detective cap on, it will help if you ask questions to clear your doubts and wait for a response instead of concluding it is a scam and all responses are lies.

You left the other issue with the lady seeking help with a tailoring machine despite the fact that her stories all over the years have been consistent, you made her loose any opportunity of getting help as you claimed you sent money and she said she didn't get any, no opportunity to even check if it was some mistake, your declaration is enough to declare her a scam even though from her history for years now her life has been he'll and she only asked for help.

While it is good to always bring out the truth and protect people from scammers the way you conclude is not always fair and when you taunt people and they finally prove themselves you hardly apologise.

Life is not like this oh, no matter how solid we stand life can always put us in tight situations.

frozen70:
The other time you kept us in suspense you said your phone got lost

This time around I hope you won't come and tell us that the brain you use in writing this story got lost

I find this unfair and rude.

You are not paying him

He is not an employee here

He is doing this on his own, he could have been making money from this series but he is sharing for free.

He could be facing his own challenges

At the end of it he doesn't owe you anything. First ask if he is okay before making such statements, at least he left his number, if you are so concerned send a text and ask if all is well not this kind of entitled response

MadHeadLeft2:
i shouldn't have left, but i was deeply disturbed by the skepticism I encountered. so sorry. i will write out everything here. at the very least somebody can read and maybe visualize life in another person's shoes.

I really understand, I am also going through a very tough time too, was doing a little better till two people did something I normally wouldn't even think about then I had a flash back it all came back to me and I was actually suicidal, I just wanted to end it all, this was just a day ago but unlike you I have a supportive family who I can always talk to, cry with and share my pain.

I really understand how it feels to have nobody at all, I don't know what to say, I am not in Lagos, I cannot offer much help, I really hope you find help or you have a journal here so you can share your pain or daily experience, I promise as long as I am still here, I will read daily and offer e support. Life is very difficult, Life in Nigeria is more difficult, no systems, it is very easy to break no matter how strong you are.

Most people talking down or being harsh may have never experienced hard situations so understand that their default is to disbelieve anybody saying this it is not about you.

Pipedreams:
Why did u deactivate

Please come back and share please please I am begging.

Ishilove:
I don't know why I don't believe this story

You guys need to stop with always accusing people who seek help, ask questions first and if responses don't add up then take it from there, somebody is sharing here probably as a last resort and you have sent him off to do God knows what

Saraki strategist, this made me smile

Teegirl7:
Thank God I still have the chat.

Buyer said all sort of unprintable things to me.
I am human too and I have feelings.

We sent out her order same day we said we were going to,but for some reasons the person she asked us to deliver to wasn't available.

You too be careful, you started well but then you became a market woman ish. Please the Internet is a place where one has to be careful running a business, I run one and I know the ish I have to swallow because I don't want drama with my brand

bukatyne:
What is the practical difference between marriage, civil partnership and cohabiting?

Co habbiting and civil partnership the difference is with civil partnership one can list the partner as next of kin in case of emergency and they can benefit from each other's health insurance, and have other legal rights a couple has without being married

1. 18- 26

2. N18,000 and above

3. Background check, BVN check, register them in a police station as domestic staff

4. No hitting, caution as I would any employee

5. No. My boss cannot take me for deliverance

ifyalways:
Unless she posted another person's account number.. . Then maybe.

I handled sending the money myself so Yeah, I am 300% sure I sent the money to the account number she posted.

Ah I thought you even sent it through somebody. Toh I rest my case.
Op I don't know what went wrong but I wish you well

tttmar:
Thank you very much sir for the kind heart you have to help people Almighty God will bless you and your family.
The person that blocked you from helping me will know in her mind that she lied against me, she is not blocking only me but also my children from your help. When someone sent a message to me that she will assist me with the sewing machine, immediately I let the person know that I have gotten the machine, I didn't lie about it.
I told her to check her bank statement because I did not receive the money but I know that Almighty God will judge both of us.
Thank you sir, I really appreciate you sir.

You need to calm down and stop talking with out a filter

Some of us are trying to help you but you keep running your mouth with no filter and making the situation worse. Don't you know how to apply tact? You are hurt yes but talking anyhow won't help matters

The Op is direct and lacks tact but is it possible that someone else got the money and not her?

Last time she lied that her father burnt her property for converting to Christianity

onegig:
Like seriously?


Only you Freezer, kunu, sewing machine and for you not to even state the previous help you got through here speaks alot about your character.

The way you were even demanding for the 20k felt like you were the one that put it in there. To even put a price to it seems a lot suspicious. I need help to buy materials would have been succint but putting a price tag and psuhing it forcefully seems a bit off putting.

Yeah, we all go through rough patches and need the help of people sometimes but honestly you are ruining it for others with genuine needs as someone who reads your half truths would be hurt to help another in full.

She says she didn't receive frEezer

tttmar:
Honestly I am not a chronic begger, last year when I asked for the freezer, I was just trying to get something doing because I was out of job and I cannot be begging people for food and I didn't get the freezer any body from here can show up if I got the freezer.
I used to be the breadwinner of my family so nobody could help me except to collect from me being the first child. There was a time my younger brothers were accusing me of being wicked because I didn't send money to my parents as I used to do when I was working and also seeing my children crying of hunger almost made me have BP. There was a time last year I borrowed money from micro finance bank to start food business at bus stop but the area boys were disturbing me to sleep with them so I had to stop the business because sometimes they would scatter my food this made it difficult for me to pay the remaining repayment and those people really embarrassed me in my area, it was someone that helped to pay the balance when she saw the embarrassment I was going through and I don't want to borrow money to start any business.
There was a time someone asked me to send my CV to him here and I sent it immediately but I didn't hear from the person.

So, I couldn't stay at home just because I don't have a job so I went for the fashion training so that I can be productive. Thank God somebody provided the sewing machine for me, I am very happy because anytime I wake up in the morning and see the machine, I am always happy.

Please let's take it easy on the poster, I have gone through her story, seems her husband wasn't very responsible and on top of that married another wife leaving her to fend for the kids. Seems she has been doing it all alone and is getting frustrated.

Poster needs to calm down too and stop with the rude reponses, as much as it hurts to be called a scam

Racoon:
Why the hasty hasty release of the ADC in an alleged criminal case of financial fraud nature So is the man guilty or the first lady just laid a reckless allegation on the poor man.
Alternatively, this may be a perfect cover up of the alleged crime.

It was false allegations. She didn't believe the police I hope now she believes DSS and apologies to him.

breadplanets:
OP e Don do. I was kind of embarrassed for you when you asked for the 20k. Before you got the sewing machine you were surviving with your kids somehow. Now with the sewing machine life should be a bit easier. You can't get it all you know. Show your appreciation and move on. You shouldnt have been rude to the poster that adviced you. I would have said d exact same thing but I decided to keep quiet cos me n you have met. You didn't know my moniker then and I won't tell you who. I know your story is true but don't overdo things.

I agree poster was too direct. Life is not like that, we all go through challenges and we hustle our arses off without feeling entitled to help from strangers, if we get help thank God, we don't thank God we keep striving. The way you just brought the request and responded to the other person seems like it is by force to get the 20k.

tttmar:
My sister, I think you are taking this too far. I sent the message to the person who wanted to help me to see it not you.
You are not the person that helped me with the sewing machine, Why are you so pained?
I don't think your kind can help people.
I have helped people in the past when I was okay financially, I just found myself in this condition and I have three children to feed daily and other expenses to meet up with.
Presently some people are owing me but mere looking at their condition, I couldn't pressurise them if you have experienced this you will know what I am talking about.
I sent the request to the lady if she can help me with the plan I have in mind I am not forcing her.
Learn to be soft with people, you don't know the condition you might find yourself in futures.

This now sounds like a scam

Your own son doesn't know you but your attention is on nanny Smh.

Stop harrasing nanny please

Is a woman still a woman her man does half the house chores?

nahzyla:
lol

your views are certainly not mainstream.

Thanks for all your contribution. I get your points.

People do not bother studying the Bible by themselves and only swallow what others interpret for them

nahzyla:
Ok so youre an atheist.

No I am a Christian and no where in the Bible was it stated that men must provide and women must cook and clean.

Where it has been interpreted to mean this was when the Adam and Eve were cursed and thrown out but Christ came and redeemed us from every curse including the curse of division and inequality there fore as said in Galatians we are all equal in Christ.


Ephesians 5:21 actually says we should submit to one another how that first verse is ignored is beyond me :

Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Galatians 3:28 ESV / 1,125 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.



Galatians 3:13

New Living Translation
But Christ has rescued us from the curse pronounced by the law. When he was hung on the cross, he took upon himself the curse for our wrongdoing. For it is written in the Scriptures, "Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree."

nahzyla:
Why did you focus your attack on women as if you don't know how things work in Nigeria. Women are raised to believe God ordained them as the ones to submit and obey while the husband provides.
All religions teach this so it isnt their fault for thinking like that.

Or are you atheist?

Which of what I wrote is an attack? A woman is an adult and should be trained to take care of herself, the fact that women have been trained to be depending on men like their brains are handicapped in money making doesn’t make it right.

I like how both Nigerian women and men cling to Bible verses when it comes to issues that feed their biases.

Anyway I believe in full equality for both men and women and would certainly not contribute to raising daughters who think their role on earth is to cook and clean and be submissive. They are human beings with functional minds who can do anything and everything including feeding themselves.


The Bible was written 2000 years ago the reality was different then

Because women are adults with hands, foot and a brain who should also provide for themselves.

If there is no man will a woman starve to death? Why the need to rely on a man for needs to be met?

The only group of people to be provided for are children who are to young to work and older people who are too weak.

A grown woman will make herself so helpless begging for food, ice cream and recharge card. If she doesn't have a boyfriend she will beg from random men, if she has a husband who looses his job she will turn beggar online. If she becomes a widow she will be sleeping with men to eat. All these because she has been told somewhere that it is a man's job to feed a grown woman. This is why they will spend all their lives trying to trap a man with pregnancy juju etc instead of working hard to make their own money

Everybody else should provide for themselves. Same way men should cook and clean after themselves. Money doesn't come with a pen-is

Love is important in marriage but not as important as a man who respects and cares for you.


Maybe you need time to discover what you want hopefully he will still be around when you decide you want him.

I don't like anyone pressured into marriage sha.

Na wa sha, poster came to ask for straight forward advise but people have turned it into a bash festival and unsolicited advise. You all assume that everybody's situation is the same.

Poster tried to get pregnant for 8years.

She tried so many fertility treatment
Finally she is pregnant but because it is so easy for some of us to get pregnant people are here shouting on how she is lazy because she is pregnant and not doing chores. Smh.

Everybody is different ohhhhhhh
Poster please don't feel bad about all the insults.

The maid is not a nice person she would have paid back your kindness with kindness not take it for granted. Set ground rules and watch if she will obey them till October

She is an employee not your mother don't be crossing boundaries

You need to listen and stop talking about tolerance else the stress you are trying to avoid will sadly get to you.

She is treating you like a daughter in Law, she is a maid not your mother please people should learn that this is a job and not family ties, if you work in an office you will relate with your boss professionally so why not in this situation?


Since you don't want her to go now set your new rules probably in writing not all this family meeting arrangements