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Elder0001:
Lol.. when did men start registering women for those stuffs?

Thought you even meant financial support..

He should render support only when there's an existing agreement that if DNA test is conducted and the pregnancy turns out not to be his then any money he spent must be refunded.

Not just that ,he should sue her for emotional blackmail.

I agree with the last part but this is where most men get it wrong assuming financial support is the only supported needed from a potential father.

If it turns out he is not the father he can sue her but if he offers no support she has the baby and it's his then he has missed out of the bonding opportunity with his baby

Elder0001:
Support her in what sense?

Antenatal enrolment, ensures she takes her drugs.

oloyeagbaakin:
Just once and I cleaned every mess

Whatever this means, you should have used a condom.

Pregnancy is usually estimated 2 weeks before the last period, if you are in doubt wait till she puts to bed and get a DNA test but in the main time try to support her through the pregnancy

While I am totally against bride price this post is a lie.

This is the gift parents and give daughters when they are moving to their husbands

This is what I suspected

KEVIND:
I know Ahmed Issa is fearless but what I'm saying is that his claim that OBJ siphoned $16 billon dollars from Ajaokuta steel is not correct. His claim lack all the verifiable facts.

I am saying the same thing

KEVIND:
Yes. I hope he make amends cos a lot of people believe in what he's doing. Expecially the way he help the helpless in the society. I do follow him live online quite often. but to add to your observation i was taken aback when he said on live programme OBJ siphoned $16 billion dollars from Ajaokuta steel complex. Journalism is about fact and figures & not just moving with the tides.

What people do not understand he does this with every government, he praises them when they are in power and accuses them of all sorts when they leave.

There was one former FCT police commissioner who he was always praising, who will always pick calls and respond to him, when the man was transferred he started abusing him and accusing him of stalling his case, I was shocked

People will come and attack you, it is common with abusers to endear themselves to large audience who will cheer and defend them.

The sad part is any agency who will try to call him to order will be bullied and blackmailed, he has mastered the art of bullying heads of agencies so much that they do what he wants or he harass them till they get sacked. Unfortunately he befriends all leaders who are afraid of his large reach so nobody can do anything to him.

I lost it the day he refered to women who give birth via CS as fake women, he said real African women only have vaginal birth and very easy fake women will be making their husbands waste money, unfortunately this kind of mentality has led to the death of so many women .

I really hope he learns and understands that even him is not perfect, the way he talks down on people, cuts guests off and imposes his opinions hmmm but talk now they will abuse and attack you

emyemconcepts:
Haba...the phone no is there for verification. Help the needy if u care, I just know OYE ekiti is on.

Lmao are you being serious? Smh

ImaIma1:
Funny @ lesson teacher for a 1yr and half .

I am not putting myself under pressure. She will be fine

Good. Definitely she will be fine. One woman tried this silly comparing thing with someone close she said her daughter 4 can write 1-200 my friend told her, her own son 4 wrote WAEC and Jamb and scored 400 na so the woman discover brain no try am again

No name, weh done. When you are ready you will provide full details for verification. Meanwhile the people you kept money with to give you at short notice will be here soon

ImaIma1:
It is funny how some other parents will be like "my child walked when he was 7months" "my child started growing teeth at 2months.

My daughter was 1 on Saturday and she has 2 teeth and two just starting to grow and she is not walking yet though she is the daring type...not scared. Hopefully we will get pass this soon

You need to ignore them, with my first child that walked at almost age 2 nothing I didn't hear but I stood my grounds and told them the child is fine and each child takes their own time and he was still successfully meeting his mile stones. Those ones are competing with themselves, they will be the ones to get lesson teachers for a baby that is a year and a half

Finally a beautiful and honest testimony, congratulations Ma and your wonderful husband, I will share this with a friend who is about to give up

Osibanjo running from pillar to post to gain support, now I know they are afraid, he even scheduled an appearance on the popular hembelembe program. Smh.

kay0195:
My hope is not in man but in God

Then you should have gone directly to ask God not man. You seem to believe that you kept money with someone to just collect and pursue your dreams.

While everyone goes through challenges and asks for help you are not entitled to that help, you have to rely on somebody being moved enough by your plight and the way you present your case and respond to queries determines that.


Good that you no longer need help. I wish you and your family the best

kalu61:
Without being bias here

Adams is doing good job to rid our system of godfatherism and giving power to the masses via his direct primaries but as usual, its being resisted while youths are bashing him.

Adams may not be loved by many but he is fighting a good fight. Forget about Saraki's issue and reason.

Adams is principled in his stand

How please? Is it in Lagos where the NWC said it hadn't conducted primaries then turned around and declared winner, or Kaduna where they said Shehu Sani was only candidate cleared then went ahead to submit another name? Or in Akwa Ibom where it was festival of blood?

You didn't say how old your child is, however I guess the child is under 2, please no reason to worry, children take their time to reach some milestones.

You can help the child by holding the hand to walk or encourage using a walker. Ensure the environment on the floor is safe for exploring

I read how Governors and even the presidents wife want APC Chairman out.


Instead of preparing for APC Primaries he spent all his time chasing and fighting Saraki, now he has turned the whole APC into a giant house of commotion, Saraki he didn't even successfully impeach, all the law makers he was using to threaten Saraki are now aggrieved over the fall out of the primaries.

Smh.

This is what it means when they say confusion in the camp abi?

While you are busy wondering if she is the witch the man will mount her and get her pregnant again.

kay0195:
I have worked in 4 places with my HND. D last paid 25k and stressed me so much. I was working and using half my salary to pay transport, my dear it wasnt worth d stress. I found out that my business was better off. I still believe I can make it big in d business someday as i was doing well before d misfortune. its just a matter of hardwork patience and determination. Not everyone are meant to sit in d office. If not there wount be thriving businesses everywhere. Some employers of labour aren't even graduates. My husband on d other hand is not d business type at all. He prefers office work. Thank 4d advice anyway.

You don't make it easy with comments like this, people you want to help are probably managing jobs thez don't like just to keep body and soul together, you can get the stressful job! Pay bills and save a little towards your business.

Making statements like this and expecting strangers to fund your dreams sounds a little entitled. You cannot be making such choices when your family is hungry

NoHoper:
No, man, I don't don't see myself as a victim and I'm not here for pity party. The situation is just complicated. I agree that the best decision is for me to grow a thick skin and turn a blind eye to the plight of my family members as much as I can. I however fear that that will totally alienate me from them and I will be more or less a loner in this world.

I'll still take that difficult choice though.

So what is the benefit of their holding you close? You are miserable and frustrated not to talk of not having any sort of growth, ignore them, send them a basic allowance, build your own future for a few years, it serves you better that they allienate you

lightwhite:
Sorry dear, your pain is understandable. But be the better man.
I will advise you to put all these behind you, stop brooding and to find a good woman, introduce her to your family, and start making preparations to marry her. Then if they bring overbearing demands, just tell them firmly that they can see you're preparing for your marriage.
Expect tantrums but leave them to throw as much as they can

But you also have to help them siblings by teaching them how to be responsible for themselves the way you did for yourself.... By the time you get married and start your own family, they should have learnt to fend for themselves.

I think that's the best way to get of this mess. Find a wife and start working towards marriage in the eyes of everyone. Don't hesitate because you don't have anything or any saving. Start the savings now and let them see what you're up to.
They're your family and while they may upset you so much, you can't really turn against them.

No way so they can abuse and frustrate the woman abi? No, he should sort his family issues out by himself stop bringing women into dysfunctional situations and abandon them to suffer abuse and blood pressure

Husband wants to kill you in a functional society and instead of calling police you are doing live video

These kind of family members I can tell you free of charge will squander any bulk money you give them for business then be back begging in a few months

NoHoper:
I really listened to the advice I got here and that's why I got involved in ajo. I'm in a very difficult situation right now. I never expected such reaction from my mom.

Develop a thick skin, they feel entitled to your money, they call, blackmail and you withdraw your savings and give them, it will be a constant circle till you grow a thick skin

NoHoper:
Why is my family always unwilling to listen to me.
Why is my own family my main source of emotional pain and sadness. I mean, family is supposed to be there at your times of needs, but my case is different. They bring so much sadness to my life.

Because you let them, maybe you enjoy the savior complex but you don't seem to want to grow at all, we gave you loads of advise but you don't seem to want to listen

NoHoper:
Mehn, these things are just getting worse for me.

So early this month I sent about 60k home, dropped 50k for ajo and the remaining for my upkeep and some bills.
Mom just called demanding for more money for her church stuffs. I told her I don't have money right now and she angrily hung up the phone. I called several times she refused to pick.

I am so confused right now...

Stop trying to call back. Ignore her calls for a few days, don't let anybody emotionally blackmail you, the church should be giving her money since she has no source of income instead of taking from you to give church. You need to put your foot down, this cannot go on, if you loose your job today and have no savings they will abuse and maltreat you

tetralogyfallot:
its obviously molestation bro! Not any infection

Let her take the child to a hospital, only a hospital can determine if it is molestation or infection, stop wasting our time on nairaland Abeg. Take the child to a Government hospital, what kind of mother is that who will leave her child itching for days without going to a hospital a real hospital instead will be lamenting to a neighbor

LadySarah:
They are not, stupid ppl!!!

2 weeks ago I reached out to them when someone close to me was arrested unjustly and request of #80k bail money was required.

I went outside the gate and called them and they warned me not to pay the bail money and also requested to speak to the case IPO .Can you imagine that I went back inside and redialled their line to speak with the Ipo,till 3 days later,nobody picked the call anymore.Thankfully the IPO tot it was the person bringing the bail money that wanted to speak with him ,if not I for enter cell join.

I messaged them on WhatsApp,10x.Till today,they come online but are yet to reply me.

I would later pay 50 k as bail before he was released.

What a shame, they were very effective in the days of Arase because he personally was involved in the monitoring. Now these ones just want to claim glory with zero work done

TAKE THE CHILD TO A GOVERNMENT HOSPITAL IMMEDIATELY, stop all the guess work let her get to a hospital so she can get help for whatever is wrong first, if she is molested the report from the government hospital will show and it will be taken from there. If it is in Lagos there are social welfare who will talk with the child and get the actual issue from her.

I don't understand the need for these people to lie
IGP Arase started this unit and was very passionate about it, he personally responded to some complains then and anybody can check Google to confirm so why do they need to lie that IGP idris started this?




Complaint Response Unit

The establishment of the Complaints Response Unit,CRU can be described as a positive and landmark initiative by the IGP , as it encourages citizens to monitor Policemen as well hold them accountable for their actions and inactions. Complaint on policemen conducts are sent. The CRU unit is monitored by policemen at the Force headquarters , Abuja and personally supervised by Arase. At the last count, Saturday Vanguard discovered that close to two thousand complaints were received from members of the public on its online platform; www.stopthebribe.com. . This platform has no doubt been an efficient mechanism for deterring some policemen from corrupt practices as well as for investigating erring officers, while communicating feedbacks to the complainants.