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esegiftbebor:
This really curious
She can't even say it out to any one
Please your contributions are valued, help save someone from depression and help her make the right decision.
Right now she is in a Fix Dilemma.... Her family / the man/ doing d right thing.

Once again ur contributions are valued
Thanks

Poster many people who would have contributed cannot understand the abbreviations, I advise in future that you write full words instead of abbreviations so people can read well and reply.


First of all there is no actual marriage because the man was still married legally and till he gets a divorce from the first wife and remarries her.

I advise that the man and his family pursue an amicable settlement with the estranged wife, beg her, bribe her if possible to give a divorce if she doesn't want the man again but if she still wants the man there might be tricky.

The lady involved should not stay in depression, she made a mistake and it is not the end of life, legally she was never married and she should not let her age discourage her from moving on if it comes to that.

The man and his wife may settle their differences.

You can have a savings with Sterling bank Asset management, you can save from 20-30k a month for a year or two, they will even give you interest, not as if there is a card that will tempt you to be withdrawing, discipline and no deduction for card maintenance etc your money will just be growing and when you want to take it out after a year or two you will be happy with your savings and interest



You have to let your family know you cannot afford to carry all their burdens do it now before you marry and they blame your wife

These ones visited him too? They didn't take picture with him ni?

Idrismusty97:
Don't forget the NW, NE and NC are basically one region who will all vote similarly, then the SW . Next election would be a monumental landslide. The SE will simply go back to screeching Biafra Upanda once their Northern candidate loses, then on 2023 they will all gather again to present another northern candidate .

Leave North Central out of this, after herdsmen finish killing and occuping their land, they are not buying one north this time

elmagnifico411:
if Mike is wielding is bleeping rod anyhow, it's only becos the ladies are spreading their legs anyhow too.. yes, Mike should make use of condom, but the ladies don't even talk about protection, they just want him to fire away. Anyhow jam anyhow and gave out a banger! Now that Phila has entered the Tory, she too would get the banger. O ma badt ghan!

I have no problem with the women and Mike choosing to be irresponsible with their sexual health I only have issues with the kids they are bringing into the world with zero plans for them especially Mike. It takes a lot socially, emotionally and financially to raise kids and I believe we should teach young people about these responsibilities and realities instead of this situation where one will be having kids everywhere and not even thinking about how to take care of them for one minute

PurestBoy:
He takes Golden Morn every morning before his main meal from when he was 1yr old

Golden morn is for kids three years and above, parents please read the pack instructions. It should not be given to kids below age 3 please

frozen70:
Lol, he wants to be 100% sure of getting his satisfaction

Satisfaction by bringing kids unplanned into the world and sharing STDS among the women and even children, he try

frozen70:
Lol
If he marries Sandra, all those mess will come to an end

The mess cannot come to an end because he already has kids he needs to take care of, the mothers of these kids will always be connected to him and whoever he marries because of the kids. One cannot be having kids all over and leaving the mothers alone to fend for them

frozen70:
I said it
That Sandra will collect that car from him it's hard for her to swallow that bitter pill

Well it's certain that Ruth will either lose the pregnancy or have it and live be a single parent

Mike can't afford to lose Sandra
He will definitely go back to her but if he marries Sandra, whatever that comes out of it he must endure

I don't even care about the grown women making bad decisions my concern has always been the kids he keeps producing with zero plans or consideration. He can sleep around and marry who he wants but he should use a condom and not be producing kids he won't care for up and down

frozen70:
@ eketem
You see what I predicted
A woman can not be spending for you without interest
It's very rear.

True. I sha hopes he starts using condoms and stops getting women pregnant up and down

doubletroublmum:
My husband is never around when she starts her insults. She is smart and she will our a big show for him to believe her.

You may need to do a video in future, I am not one to tell anyone to tolerate what hurts them

Sigh, no concern what so ever for the second baby or third one Sandra is probably carrying just like that Mike is moving on to Phila abeg use condom this time not be making babies all over you won't care about for one minute

frozen70:
Lol, I actually made that comment because she boldly told Mike let's get married and as the relationship blossom she bought an suv car for him

It's only a woman that wants to settle down that can do such for a man

True but with her level of exposure and beauty she can surely do better.

Why is your husband father to your 4 kids not taking your side?


Two choices, either you stay apologize and tolerate her regardless of what she does or you call his bluff and let him leave with his mom

More than enough.

Have the service and reception the same day probably on a week day.

After the service go home change into traditional and do the reception as the traditional wedding

frozen70:
The whish as been blown

This Sandra will make Mike to suffer for pregnanting ruth

Most of the crime Mike committed Sandra has been the one shielding him from arrest and pressecution

Sandra will use all against Mike unless he proposes and marry her

You think she will be so desperate just to be married? What do I know about women sha lol.

Another pregnancy, another poor baby will now be dealing with this level of parental irresponsibility.


Condom is cheap but oga Mike seems allergic, get one pregnant and be running around trying to get some others pregnant again

bitbillionaire:
I know the teaching is bound to irritate the arrogant 'feminists' who always like to believe they are even superior to men including their husbands!

The essence of this teaching is that there can not be two masters in a boat. In any institution, there has to be the head or the master(not two heads or two masters!) and God made a husband the head of the wife, the wife's role is to be submissive to the husband irrespective of her social status! Unwillingness to accept this fact by arrogant women of this generation with their puffed-up ego is a reason many marriage is bound to crash!

Eyaa, sorry for you and your pastor, May he find healing for his broken heart instead of using that to mislead other married people so they can join his divorce group.

crackhaus:
Provide everything for? Are you very sure about that?

I think what you mean to say is most men will like to have a working independent woman who would share bills and STILL be submissive.
There's no law against independent women being submissive, or is there?

Do a poll and see. They will say they don't want a woman's money because she will grow wings. Yes independent women can be submissive but the Nigerian man definition of submission is the woman who will never question his decisions even when it is a disrespectful one, who will roll and cry on the ground when he hurts her instead of having any liver to call him out on disrespect
Submission to them is seeing a woman suffer nothing more

Ioannes:
That explains a lot then.

He expected her to stay in London all alone for years building the church there while he stays here with rumored mature church sisters who take care of his needs, even when he travels to London there is no chance for them to be together. He is still very angry that she finally had enough and left him. How dare she? She was supposed to stay and keep up the perfect family happy image while she was miserable hence his regular sermon now is to tell wives that they were not part of God's plan

Name and location for possible verification

The one who the wife dumped like tissue, he has been very angry and aggressive with wives since then, those mature single women hanging around him make him believe he is actually a god

Ioannes:
Which of the Rev. Chris? The one that just divorced his wife or the one that has married about three times now?

crackhaus:
On principle, what you typed makes sense.

In reality however, a lot of these independent women who earn their own money still have the mentality that a man should be the one providing the bulk of the finances in the home.

Don't get me wrong though, I'm not implying there aren't independent working women who handle more of the finances in their home but let's be honest with ourselves, most of you would rather not be doing that when you have a man by your side.

Yeah you are right, they are the ones who are feminists when it Is time to cook and wash plates but remember bible verses when bills come, however there are genuine ones as you stated but do a poll most men will prefer a submissive one who they can provide everything for than an independent woman who will share bills with them, nothing wrong with that choice but make dem no complain

He is just angry that his wife had the guts to leave him

For single people you have to be at least 35 years to be eligible for adoption. This is because there is a probability that you may get married, have your own child and then start finding faults with the adopted baby.

tabithababy:
. . Everybody wan hammer for nairaland

May not be wanting to hammer issue, I didn't intend to make it sound like that it may be the poster needs the money for something but I am advising that it should be a little cheaper than a brand new one

Maybe if some of you men were not so obsessed with submission and wives who will rely on you for every need you may have an easier life.

How about marry a woman who earns her own money and who has a healthy attitude towards it, who is willing to sit with you before the wedding and say please let us not spend so much on a wedding, let us first plan how we will rent a house and run it before we use whatever we can spare to have a wedding that won't run us broke.

A wife who is willing to selflessly sit and plan with you on household bills, based on how much you both earn who pays for what, also sit with you and plan major projects Eg build a house, buy a car, pay fees.
No, you want weak women who will be slaves to you and your relatives, who has to make fresh soup everyday, who you can just wake up and throw out of your house one day and have her crawling and begging because she has nothing else.

Most of you don't want women who can stand strong financially and also refused to be bullied.

You only want women who can accept humiliation as a lifestyle in the name of submission.


Well don't complain, you should enjoy your self with the choices you make. There are other choices that will have you relaxing with your wife and 65 but no, you will prefare a submissive wife who drains you financially to a strong woman who will work with you to achieve financial stability

Stevewonder004:
.,.,.,.,.,..
You suppose to have asked for his email address....

He is real

Sir, even the new one is cheaper than 35k, some 28, some 32. Maybe downward review will help

MykOnyxo:
thank you.
the medicine is not weight gain medicine. it the medicine that was recommended to us by one of the general hospital my wife visited.
the food is not eba or rice. it's formula the specific one that was recommended to us.
thanks a lot.

Praying for you and your family, every parent will be concerned about their child's health. May she get better and stronger but please try to see a paediatrician

Which town do you live?

Unfortunately for years this nanny matter has been treated like it's a favor to the maid instead of a paying job.

Times have changed, please don't go for any village small girl who will feel her own life is wasting while she Is taking care of your child and grow resentful.

Invest in an actual professional with some training in child care. Our kids are our most prized possession, who ever we want to take care of them should be very qualified

MykOnyxo:
My baby is 3 months and 2 weeks old. But she is smaller compared to her age-mates. We have been to hospital, we have some recommendations by older parents. this is our first baby and we are so much worried. some people said there are some children like that but I have not seen anything like it before. we have been to hospitals and they said we should continue giving her her medication. But she is still so small.
Although some people say its normal that she will start gaining weight and size later.
we have introduced 'food' for since her second months but still the same.

Please has anyone experience this before or has seen it in babies?

Please which hospital did you go to that told you to give drugs to a 2 month old baby for weight gain? Real hospital or killer maternity home?

Why is a 3 month old baby being given food? Please see a qualified paediatrician in a general or teaching hospital not all these quacks that will give you concoctions and God forbid make your baby develop complications.

Please stop giving her concoctions go to a real hospital and see a real doctor for kids