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Who get that time. Reading even during break time coupled as an S.U executive cum president

Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

you want to dump a good woman all because of her siblings.
I will just ghost them like they don't exist. Frown my face anytime around them, give them money at will not necessarily

OBJ said Jonathan was training snipers and most Media outfit carried it. Was it verified?
What the lies APC told concerning Jonathan's government, were they verified?
Most importantly things that were written about men of God, were they verified?
Now you are being fought for things you could put in place before now, you're writing long epistle

lampi:
my brother I've passed through ur state on many occasions going to calabar. no one uses those flyovers. do you even know why flyovers re built... to reduce traffic not for decoration or sign of development

just shut up. Your ignorance is becoming annoying

iambabaG:
All hail.. China.. The new world power.
They will be the ones to end the reign of the USA and westernization.

lol, is it China u re talking about, or

paulolee:
lolz...finally one of his fans have already started singing his praise but guess what
messi won d golden boot
messi was d player with most assistance
messi scored most freekicks, more than total in euros
messi gat more successful dribble
messi won d most man of d match in copa
messi won d tournament MVP
messi won d cup
which means dt cr7 wining just d golden ball n nothing else is nothing compared to wat Leo did so reduce ur voltage..
am not comparing BT jus say mk I update u

lolz, Farmers tournament

Spontaneous007:
Good evening my fellow nairalanders,

I hope you guys are safe and sound wherever you are?
Please let's continue to be watchful.

Today, I saw death with my naked eyes.

It all started around some minutes after 4 when we heard gunshots fired into the air. I was at work at that moment and we had to stop everything we were doing and move out immediately. Though before today, we were warned that there will be cults clash in Ojota on the 7th of July because that day was known to be the aiye confraternity day.

My boss volunteered to take us home in his car and drop us at the nearest stop to our house. On our way, the atmosphere was tensed and everyone was running helter skelter. We could hear sporadic shootings Faraway. When my boss dropped us at our nearest bustop, I amd my colleague took a bike going to our street. On our way down the street, a police bus hit our bike so hard that we fell to theground. They shot at us but we had gotten to the ground before the bullets could get to us. My colleague was badly injured but I wasn't. Though I was the must vulnerable because I was sitting behind him.

They pursued us thinking we were cult members. Omo come and see race ... I never know I could run so fast. I threw away my phone and bag... I later went back to carry it after they left. Thank God for life.

thank God for ur well-being

Codding

debbycreamy:
Hello nairalanders,

I won't say it's my friend sister or whatever,it's me. It's my question

For 5years of marriage, it's been conflicting about this church matter.

Where in the Bible did they say it's compulsory for the wife to go to the husband's church? I attended dominion city, and he attends redeem (RCCG), I tried for the first two years to follow him to redeem, but I couldn't feel it, every Sunday it's like going and coming from a wedding not a church, that feeling of feeling the Holy Spirit and being blessed is not there, I don't know who understands this feeling.

I talked to him in d third year he allowed me go back to my dominion city, and in d fourth year he stopped me again, I'm a worker there o, now till the fifth year I'm still forced to attend redeem, I have tried my best to open my heart to the church but no way...

Their ways just tire me at redeem, I miss the love, togetherness, prayers, worship and preaching at dominion city. Please I'm sorry I mentioned the name of churches i know some people love redeem, so I'm sorry.

Now for a month now, I have not gone to any church, and I'm tired of the whole thing, please matured advice needed.


Thanks

it's either you are lying to yourself or trying to lie to yourself.

What are you saying?
Who's a kid here?

Sometimes I don't just know what women.

I stopped going to church because I don't feel it. Flimsy and childish excuse. May God guide us on our choice of wife in Jesus name, amen

amiibaby:
Wow abeg dash me 2k nah.... Lolzz

hy

Kandeed:
You're a real nigga

lol, I was crushing on a bae n she was jus whining me o. Saw her with another cutie,told her, confirm from ur friend if she has any guy. She did, and even told me the girl has told her to give me her number. oya aunty Tex me the number nau, I'm still waiting.


The lady doesn't know what she want

Uchasa:
Imo has the highest gas reserve in Nigeria, seconded by Delta and Anambra.

your stats are inconsistent

MANDIPUTIN:
Imo holds over 200 trillion cubic feet gas deposits – Sylva.
https://www.businessamlive.com/imo-holds-over-200-trillion-cubic-feet-gas-deposits/

sylva told you that or facts

smeag0l:
Where do you people get your stats from? The states with substantial gas reserves in Nogeria are Imo, Rivers and Bayelsa. Delta and akwaibom have gas reserves but not up to these three. The government in conjunction with some oil companies are building several gas plants in imo state to process and take away their gas.

what are you saying, which imo, where in imo? Talk with facts and stats

clarocuzioo:
Imo state have the highest gas reserve in the country today.

lol. Imo doesn't even have half of what Delta central has.

SweetVibe:
Could having a slim body despite being tall be a reason a guy is not getting female laid Or Could it be because he is an introvert who gets clingy once he find a girl he like.

Am asking because I want to know what will make ladies find a guy unattractive.

ifa hear

Onepeople:
criminals are giving ultimatum to an elected government, it shows the foundation of our country. If tompolo believe he is powerful he should give directions on how the Niger delta region can control their resources.

is this not hate speech

prezidob:
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. Honestly he's such a sweet guy and every lady's dream man. We're both course mates in the same university. We love each other and have pledged to get married after graduation. I'm a very beautiful lady as there's no day gone by without a toaster.

Because of financial difficulties, I took a job in a club as a waitress and recently, secretary to my boss... combining both work. I go to meeting with my boss to plan for the organisation of the club and I do come late and sometimes I sleep over.

My boyfriend reprimanded me for late nights and I told him that he's not my father and should not try to control me. He is so jealous!!
But the truth is he doesn't hide anything from me. Throughout the lockdown he was there for me.

I don't like the work but it's the only way to get by since my parents are not helping and my boyfriend is a student too.

How do I convince him that I love him and I will not cheat on him?

He doesn't want me to do the work neither do I. But we can't help it.

Please your opinion matters a lot to me as it will help me manage my situation. I don't want to lose him.

jus imagine, I am ur boyfriend, I complain of ur late nights and all you could say is 'you can't control me, cos u re not my father' so if I can't control u now, is it wen we re married, that's wen I can control u. Aunty, go and speak with ur man than looking for sentimental suggestions of which u will possibly get but trust me u will destroy ur good relationship because of little trivial issues like this

Emzenoz:
you are totally correct... The natural gas in the east hasn't even been activated ... So and not even as lucrative as crude "at least for now" ... But you should also know most southerners don't want to form a country with the east bade on fear of marginalisation and tribalism issues ... The east doesn't tribalism even more than the north... I know this because I stayed in the east for years

thaaaa..... An average ibo man is tribalistic in nature. Don't lemme spew things o

Simeon88:
Underground?...bro u don't know what is going on in this country.

leave that guy

Wahalaperson:
Forget tompolo, the useless federal govt knows the country will cripple if they carry out the threats of blowing up oil wells and installations. If govt want to flex power tompolo is too small for any niger delta governor to handle. Where was he when Buhari declared him wanted ?

chairman jus try come warri

U mean River is safer than Delta
Lol

Nigeria is a whole cruise

dahnimoh:
i guess the guy is not mantally sound

lol, leme give u a first hand information.

He actually killed the deceased and was told to s*x it for seven days. Even wen it's decomposing. He got caught jus two more days to go.

paulolee:
funny seeing cr7 fans now shifting d table n talking about his total achievement instead of him running after failing in Turin...
this is not the GOAT discussion bt am jus surprised about mr champions league planning to run from his "new challenge" without d UCL he promised, and also his fans are blind n aint talking about him leaving Italy without the "holy grial" dt made juve splashed such cash on him..
assuming its messi dt seeked for this same "new challenge" in Italy only to quit n leave a trophy laden team like Juve we used to know in 4th position, I know many cr7 fans dt would create a lot
of topics about "HOW MESSI FAILED IN ITALY".....funny hypocrites

He has nothing to prove. He has proven all

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing

Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

calm down dear. There's more to this story

xpool:
Are you typing from a prison yard?
You must have been there since 2015, of course.

probably okowa made it a prison yard then.

favour32:
They said he is a road master.

who are they? I want to hear or even see one economic viable road initiated and completed by okowa in these past years till now

AnonPoet:
Okowa: Building a new Delta the SMART way


https://leaders.ng/okowa-building-a-new-delta-the-smart-way-by-okestalyf/

the same Delta I live in or this is another one

Annoms:
I'll try to make this short.

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria.

I was relating this to my fiancée yesterday in a phone call, when she flared up and said I should have consulted her to seek her opinion on this marriage arrangement before going to my family to seek theirs because I said my mum's advise seems okay.

What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds?

She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper)

I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous.

She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for.

It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now

Pls advice accordingly. Thanks

lol, phone talks doesn't seal much deals concretely.
Let her come over to ur place, cook some nice dishes, eat together and bring out the matter stylishly with some humour and strong logic. Buht remember, those guys are emotional beings. So, tread meticulously

Feelings for ex?
Hmmmm
Why didn't marry her then

CharisEleos:
There are people two times older than you earning lesser than 60k yet they are grateful and contented.

Be contented with whatever you have now. It's only for a moment. It can only get better.

content wetin. Abeg Op double up o. No time

Misternas89:
Give us the Enerhen gists too na. Make we gather learn their own tricks too. E be like say na fufu n soap format dey for computer villa

enerhen and Robinson plaza