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BIGGIE121:
Women,womem ,women, the fear
of women the begining of
wisdom. I blame the guy though,
for getting so absorbed in one
woman. 21st century girls have
taught him a lesson he will not in
forget his second life . Rip mr nice
guy

The fear of the Lord not woman....

This only happens when u devoid ursef with reasoning, hence allowed ur emotions dictate space of your relationship with opposite sex.

Moderate things...

Scream a lot .....Ariwo ko ni music ohhhh.....

Lot of sleepless night as inspire by motivational speakers.

Balance homefront with your profession, no they won't hear.

That's not just old age issue...

Long life and prosperity to her.

That's not enough deal to inspire scientist to start doing research for a cure here...

If the minister actually talks about Coronavirus, it is indeed a misplaced priority.

Let's think about it, the same FG sponsored PH.d, Msc in medical science through scholarship years after years... Are those people has no usefulness for the country?

Same with our lecturers winning grants, fund from foreign donors and FGN to embark on research in medical science. Does those set of people has no result to prove than paper based knowledge?

If the minister has a ministry, what has the funding from FGN and foreign donors used for all these while?

Well, womanizing & clubbing(Drinking) is just like liars(Lawyers) mode of relaxing...

Banging in the office is just a normal thing.

So, it is unfortunate the liar overstepped his boundaries.

Well, lemme make it clear that cultism is not good.

I pity the guy, that he finds himself into it...

It is possible he was charmed, drug or harassed to that point...

That night not be it started that day....If u have been harass by those cult guys with the intention to join them, u will understand.

If he was a member before now, it would not be that day of incitation that this incidence would have happen since he was a student before becoming a SUG President.

I want to believe, either the cult has been instrumental to his bidding at different time like paving way for him to become the SUG president.

Otherwise, he was threatened, forcefully or cajoled for backup needs and grant their supremacy through friends and colleague that brought him to their midst.

If his conscience is clear, let him fight for himself.... If not let him learn from that....or bring others to witness the carnival since they couldn't protect him....

Such a wasted years and effort derail .....

Na so NYSC corper and N-power become mate be DAT ohhh


PMB needs to increase N-power to #45,000 ohh...to balance level ohh...

Racoon:
Sudden NIMC woke up from it protracted inactivity of corruption.Give Nigerians their cards having registered many years ago mbok!

We need someone to fish out the corruption against Nigerians by NIMC. Someone name need to be drag into jail for corruption in that NIMC....

Every year funds are allocated by govt for this project but nothing to show for it than this useless thought of jail term by one stupid idiot at the top.

12Monkeys:
Waiting for Femi Adesina to warn Ananias Adeboye to stop playing politics

U just make me laugh....


Well, I am waiting for Adesina to insult PST Adeboye....then see reaction but I doubt if he will try that....


Remembered, the VP na RCCG Pastor...


But PST Adeboye ought to call the VP to speak on how and what is being done to tackle insecurity and see to how RCCG can help.

Pattypatt:
I'm sure she has someone outside she wanted to marry, spend 3m on a wedding and you misbehave, you must vomit my money

U said the fact about the issue....She has someone else she wants to marry not that guy....

femalecobra:
But in summary one thing I know
1. You are married to a lady who wants a friend and companion in a man not a bossy person. Someone who can allow her think n reason with u. You bring your idea and she brings hers and u reason together n male a logical conclusion.
Imposing yourself won’t work and that’s just the truth.
I am that type of lady too. “You can’t tell me to always DO your decision” you have to bring d logical analysis that led to ur idea...I may have mine and suggest and if after you advised and I do mine having considered both options ....I need you to respect my choice as a “human” not a compelled slave called “wife” that must do what you want” . After all, I would respect your choices so I expect you respect mine when the sometimes differ from yours.

But when I know it’s what u want that must work out, Then I feel I am dealing “with a bossy man” and I can’t stand it...hell cant...I would be miserable.
Why would I choose that for the rest of my life?
“Why would I want to choose submitting” to a man Dt “compels” submission for the rest of my life when I can choose to date a man that is a friend in a husband?

So if u wanna keep bossing ....as per I am the man!!!!...you must do as I say.....from the message I think there would be a problem....
Cus your kind woman no go gree

That cost me a relationship but I walked out of it. I cried. I loved him. But I couldn’t think of forever with a man that wants to “lord” “rule” “question my friendships or even cut my normal ties with male colleagues” simply because they are males etc on top of “marriage”. He too was in a haste like you that we married. But having seen people’s experience in life, I Was of the opinion we get to know each other....and I greatfull for that that I over stood my grounds on that.
I cried n wept but I know it’s the best choice of my life!!!

2. You love her more than she loves u. Why it’s true it’s good for a man to love a woman very well and sometimes they say even more than she loves him....you must be sure she at least has 70% of what u feel for her....else she would treat you anyhow ooo....except over time and experience she gets to see that u are a good guy and begin to value u.

3. No doubt she is quite rude. So sorry to say. Because that tone is not even one that would bring peace. Even if you are bossy to her...it’s not by her being bossy in addressing the issue that would solve it.
Her tone is not one of love....that is crying desperately for a bossy husband to stop as she can’t stand it anymore and would likely quit if he doesn’t.

How did u guys date for 5 years and not get to be friends
Or fully understand each other
Was it 5 years or 5 months?

I don’t know the solution ...what I can identify here though is the problem�

Well my solution is that if you want the marriage to work you would need to sacrifice more as it’s obvious you are the one that loves her more for you to have said the marriage be rushed.
Just ignore her rudeness, do what you are to do, play your role, Love and gentleness in most time calms a lady....our conscience tells us to act better as we get to know it’s only a man that loves us that has come so low to take our bullshit and we just get to know that we just have to treat him right over time.

But if you keep fighting same way with a loud mouthed lady...you won’t make progress...
Resentment would only just Set in deeper and deeper!!!

So the ball is in your court,
Is the marriage worth fighting for?

Just ignore her rudeness, do what you are to do, play your role, Love and gentleness in most time calms a lady.... (That is a fact that has been proven)

our conscience tells us to act better as we get to know it’s only a man that loves us that has come so low to take our bullshit and we just get to know that we just have to treat him right over time.....( That's the selfish part of the female folks, have u considered that vice versa)


U have really analysed the topic....Kudos to you.


The guy has lost...."Stop nursing a lady"....It is an investment with no returns...

The lady has someone else in mind for her to say that she was forced and her mother was the spokesperson for the guy tells that...

Just a bitter experience, he will learn from and teach others...

I just hope, it wasn't her show of force and strength that led her to sudden death...There is a difference between the devil (M) and evil (F).

That is what happens when some ladies do think, they are dare devil with their mouths... The evil that lives inside a man is the one with action that the devil doesn't dare herself.

No job is easy....From day one, the soldier boy knows the end point...So, the family should often summon courage to live after their lost one....No empathy can replace a lost one...,

This video is an evidence that the some of the armed men are out there to task civilians....

If one wont blame it on the forces....

Can govt take up their blames?

There is no professionalism about what their duties abound....

Frankyboy1:
Stop the entitlement mentality, he doesn't owe the guy an obligation to pick his calls, if the guy is talented, let his gift speak for him, and God doesn't necessarily use those you know or those you expect something from to help your cause, he uses the most unexpected avenue to pick your call, so guy hustle your hustle and forget olamide, he ain't God and must not be your destiny helper

Thou has speak some sense into the guy....

Officially approved.

theButterfly:
1. The girl is 15. "GIRL", not woman.
2. At 15, she's a child.
3. She's a relative of the wife's.

Idk what sort of useless discomfort the wife could possibly feel over buying the clothes for the girl who also happens to be a child and her own relative. I doubt OP is having any affair w/ her b/c this sounds like an innocent, non-threatening situation and it's not everybody that sleeps with their househelp. She should be the one to apologize to her husband for her dumb accusation and she should grow up b/c someone might end up maltreating her own kids the way she's doing with the girl. It's called karma.

Thank you for responding to TonyeBacanista...

BeachTime:
Having 17 kids out of wedlock is already a sign of recklessness,immorality, and lack of self restraint. So don't be surprised what happens next.
17 kids , that's why there should be 1 or 2 child policy . Nigeria's ideal population should be 50 million, but I don't understand why Nigerians take pride in large population and extravagance , breeding poverty,diseases,lawlessness, and general underdevelopment.

How old is the man to have 17 children?

There is a sort of exaggeration...

Whatever the reason can't be far fetched from ethnicity & religion... The OP has informed us about the cut-off marks...

While i was in school, a lecturer once felt the pain when it happened to his cousin from that same ABU. He took revenge on those Northerners, denied them admission into the University w/o apology and clear evidence.

The lady might have chosed ABU cuz it is Federal Sch....Those who own the Federal Might supported by the constitution have just exercise their dominance.

What i have heard subsequently, these Federal schools in the North own good teaching health facilities than those in the South, hence the need for her choice of ABU.

Enterusernamehe:
Just do what your heart tells you to do

The heart must tell the OP...that Nursing is the way forward...

jahsharon:
The OP's plan is to graduate with a degree in Psychology so that he/she can join the several millions of unemployed lazy youths and later join Yahoo Yahoo, but NO, the parents won't let the plans of the enemies to work.

Psychology is NONSENSE in Nigeria. In no distance time, that Course abi curse ni will be removed from the list of degree courses. It will just remain a General Study course.

Do Nursing and you will never regret it either you are in Nigeria, US, Europe, Asia or even in Oceania

That's the truth of it all...the little advice here is enough...

Hello....Study Nursing.... That's the best offer ...

Exc2000:




who cares?

Mr Dokpesi isnt politically relevant he only exist because of the publicity he gives PDP through AIT
,

APC dont need him, they have NTA , Channels tv and TVC

las las even if you defect or not your jail term sure gidi gan just like Orji Kalu


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Yeah...u are right....if that mam defect PDP publicity will be dead...

VirginSearcher:
Do you know what is 30 good minutes and u survived, if they really wanted to kill u, they would have.. this story looks fishy to me

Don't mind her....She was saying they spray rubber bullet....If they want her dead, they will use real bullet.

She is lucky....Let her lay low to find her killer...

But of course, she won't....social media ringing her brain

This should be well cited in the North not in the South....There is enough land mass that are already wasted with low density population in the North...

GeoAfrikana:
Lalasticlala, other side of the story.

Emotions and sentiments apart;

First, sincerely when I watched the video yesterday I was confused. I didn't see any persona that looked like a DSS officer. I've once had an 'encounter' with DSS officers.
They escorted the corpse of a federal icon from Abuja to our village for burial. They arrived early in the night, witnessed the burial, shot guns in the air and drove off.

It was an intimidating experience. They were so organised and gallant. Their men were heavily built and their guns were sophisticated. No one in that video is similar to the typical DSS officer in my imagination.

Secondly, the word REVOLUTION that Sowore used is enough crime against him. I'm almost certain that if someone tried a tenth of such in the US he would be corpse in less than a month. Or at least be undead in Guantanamo.

Note: I'm opened to objective counter-arguments. If you rationally, objectively and politely debate my points then I'll listen to you. I'm willing to engage in intellectual debates.

But if all you have is insults and curses then expect no response from me.

Thanks for reading.

To ur second question, if it is crime to call for revolution by Sowore citing US as example.

Learn from historian about revolution in the US...so as not to bother u with much thought process and stories.

At the moment, Trump has been called out for impeachment at different intervals cuz of his unruly behavior. Have u heard those that calls for his impeachment are dead now.

Calling for revolution against govt maybe a crime..Ain't a lawyer/....liars...But not against a government that disrespect thesame rule of law & with disregard to Law Court.

People call for revolution at different times in human history to become a renowned person in their country/space...Rawlings of Ghana, in SA, in some Latin American Countries, Martin Luther King.

Sowore didn't toll a radical approach...If he has chosen a radical approach they can't find him as an easy prey where some DSS can summon and subject him to unhealthy conditions.... Learn from the Arab revolution...

Nigeria case is special indeed, that's what I accept...You can't forecast how political events will turn out here in Nigeria...That is the Black man case studies in Nigeria.

GeoAfrikana:
Lalasticlala, other side of the story.

Emotions and sentiments apart;

First, sincerely when I watched the video yesterday I was confused. I didn't see any persona that looked like a DSS officer. I've once had an 'encounter' with DSS officers.
They escorted the corpse of a federal icon from Abuja to our village for burial. They arrived early in the night, witnessed the burial, shot guns in the air and drove off.

It was an intimidating experience. They were so organised and gallant. Their men were heavily built and their guns were sophisticated. No one in that video is similar to the typical DSS officer in my imagination.

Secondly, the word REVOLUTION that Sowore used is enough crime against him. I'm almost certain that if someone tried a tenth of such in the US he would be corpse in less than a month. Or at least be undead in Guantanamo.

Note: I'm opened to objective counter-arguments. If you rationally, objectively and politely debate my points then I'll listen to you. I'm willing to engage in intellectual debates.

But if all you have is insults and curses then expect no response from me.

Thanks for reading.

Well, u said u are open to objective counter arguments. I have met DSS officials escorting to personel in Lagos, Abia and Abuja...I have walked into DSS office in Lagos at different intervals.

There are times they don't go out with guns, work as undercover operations and intelligence gathering.

I don't have an evidence to proof who are those 4 guys that presented themselves to arrest Sowore...who could it be than the DSS....Maybe u want us to assume they are APC thugs or the Presidential Cabal thugs or Government volunteer supporters cuz they ain't armed...Yet they have the gut to enter a law court, during proceeding to act in a Federal High Court....

Who does that without Federal might/ power?

Well, I never work in such a demeaning status like where I am. Fast forward, the job is not the problem but the kind of boss u have.

Sometimes, u have to fire back when the heat is hot in a diplomatic approach.

Ignore fear, be confident to speak up.

Ensure u don't do extra that automatically is excess(abuse) to ur own health, time and life.

Know how to keep memory of instructions, so that ur punch line can be logical when u speak or act to defend ursef from any abuse.

Be conscious of time. Anyone who take ur time can waste ur life.

Don't beg or seek for money from such Boss.

Actually, it is a right question to ask.

What, i think is that most shows like that are either sponsored by some black men who still hold pride in the African race. Literally, they are from their root as Africans but as part of the Black race, they are welcome.

Most times, the organiser might even be a white guy in collaboration with some Africans, as a businessman, they can only seeks for maximum profit and suitable for them...

Maybe as times goes they might retrace their step that, such event are meant to be held in an African country....... Rather the "African" should be replaced with "Black".

stanliwise:
Mediocrity is the characteristics of simple minded individuals like you. If students beg lecturers for sex, can he simply reject and likewise report to authorities?
Lecturers are role models and at almost every point would be blamed if he/she indulge in the dastard act.
Youth vices and student indecency should be curbed also and this is the job of both the society, school(lecturers included) and every parent and youth themselves.
So it's unethical to claim that you as a lecturer indulge in sexual scandal because you were invited by the student.
It is outrightly against policy of Nigeria Education system.

Mediocrity is the characteristics of simple minded individuals like you. If students beg lecturers for sex, can he simply reject and likewise report to authorities?...............

Hello Bro, calm down............ I gave a viewpoint from a broader perspective by creating a balance.... To ur question.......... If students beg lecturers for sex, can he simply reject and likewise report to authorities?............... Yes, there are lecturers that have done that..............From your question, i can deduce, u are myopic in nature.....U would have thought that no lecturer would ever reject such offer by some female students?.

etrange:
Sorry, bro.

I think your question should "how best do I part ways with my girlfriend whose blood group does not match with mine?"

Bro, u are too straight to conclusion.

That is the best advice.....I hope the guy can reason that well as the truth.

I hope BBC will cover scene when these ladies beg for sex and the lecturers rejects it....

I am waiting for that............... if they can't get that out.... We will help them out soon....


Bad enough, that it happens and not to be accepted..... Both sides, the lecturers and these so-called *vulnerable but not* should caution themselves.

Let the First Lady tell the public what has she done or contribute to indecent dressing around her?

A sex for mark...Mean either the lady fail conditionally or unconditionally that prompt such.

Either way, it might goes the female folks who are often the weak one here to negotiate don't take the chance to do the right thing in school. Indecent dressing can attract Sex for mark, ur thought of being sharp and smart to know the lecturer can attract Sex for mark, ur plan to make up test u didn't write can attract a fine of Sex for mark............. No man is entitle to a lady as the labour room has thought so many men a lesson.

Let the First lady goes to hotels, club houses, banks, government office in Ekiti to prove if Sex for Mark should be the issue to tackle here.

I don't expect her to tell us or her husband, she was fully involved.

So, let the First and Last female folks earn their respect by doing the right thing.......... And stop being an array of sex object....