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bestman09:
Marriage is sweet, but not for children. It's not for a showoff too.

If you can't tolerate nonsense or forgive senseless behavior or endure rubbish or overlook foolish things, don't dive into marriage.
This is my 23rd years of marriage and its been beautiful though not been rosy always.
Don't quote me if you are not married for at least 20 years

If you can't tolerate nonsense or forgive senseless behavior or endure rubbish or overlook foolish things, don't dive into marriage.... Can u tell us who is tolerating this? And which gender is dishing out that?

That's the negative effect of freedom, human right, humanism, democracy......... Freedom to misbehave, to become extremist, to vanity, insanity, impropriety...

We just have to live by it....There can't been a universal rule as to how human will behave.

That's there own cup of tea as far as the US don't impose such on other countries of the world.

Uhmm... So CBN can't dispose it's own waste much that they give license to someone...

Indeed a useful waste from looters.

No prosecutor on this matter.

I wish the video can be more clearer...

Well, She needs to be careful because when religious /ethnic fight broke out, the same Almajiri boy will locate the house for action.

VoltageDivida:
As much as it's commendable of them for standing their grounds and refusing to be part of what they don't believe in, they must also know that they are in another man's land with their own set of rules and beliefs which must be respected.

As long as the law of the land permits homosexuality and the church there accepts it, they must find a way to accommodate it themselves.

You have said it all...

emmaodet:
My friend, so you want men to be sucking it up and move on? For God sake, where did we get men like you?
The reason all these things as been happening for so long is because Men are not speaking out, so alot don't know what is happening and falls into the same pit.
Pls, let us encourage people to keep talking because Evil grows, thrieves and expands in Silence.
Evil likes silence
That is why women like silence - that is why they are frustrated that men are coming out to say what they have been doing codedly for so long without interference. They quickly term such guys weaklings, sisy, cry babies, men that are not like their fathers of old.
Bro, in life when there is a cry out, there will be an awareness which will usher in movements and campaigns to stop the rots.
The reason we are in such mess is that the stupid forefathers kept quite why the evil/monster keeps growing.
E.g imagine if HIV/AIDS was kept coded, do you know virtually everybody would have been infected due to no awareness?
It is the crying out from govt using media and all possible means to tackle the deadly diseases.
Contrary to what people believed to be a Real Man, a Real Man is someone who despite the mockery, scorning, abuse, jest etc he is going to face, he still summoned courage to come out and speak about what he is facing.
To me that is a Real Man and not the popular weakling we think they are.
They are the Real Men and needs to be celebrated.
Evil thrives in Silence and wants Silence.
That is why in the olden days, the so called

Women like Silence and that is one good character of Evil plans, they don't even know this. It is a default setting in them.

Cc

Ubunja
Martinez39
Pansophist
Franchasng

You pointed out a very salient point.
Imagine, a lady would do something wrong repeatedly, she expect you to keep silence.

Somehow, you told her female friend, she cried cuz you did.

Somehow, you told her mum, that's only when she believe that she is wrong then apologized.

If the society, Pastor and Fore- Father entertained the same issue, they will tell u to ignore, indirectly encouraging such acts, why can't the truth be told, so that she can amend her ways. They failed to realised that the attitude of female folks of their generation isn't what we are witnessing.

mariahAngel:
You should've reminded her of all the ones you've done for her before.


@bolded, we're naturally entitled beings.

Meaning, she forgot? Or loss of memory or what other excuses?

Oooopps, naturally entitled being.... OK, I guess she is entitled to a reminder to remind her...

Lionize:
His end had come, everybody will die someday, just be prepared at all times. Live everyday like it's your last. People always think they should prepare for death only when they approach 70, rara, it doesn't work that way because you don't own the life you live. Be prepared always, and make adequate preparations for those you will leave behind, very important, else they will keep cursing you even though you are dead. One woman still curses her late husband because the man was rich but hid a lot of things from her while alive, including his businesses. After he died, the woman only survived on the little available resources she only knew about and then suffering st in.

One woman still curses her late husband because the man was rich but hid a lot of things from her while alive, including his businesses. After he died, the woman only survived on the little available resources she only knew about and then suffering st in.

In most cases, her predicament is not the husband fault. If you are not convince, you can enquiry on such matter, then you will understand.

Kingcalls:
Any woman that uses the phrase " how can u do this to a woman" is highly manipulative, selfish and self entitled..... they are the ones that will physically abuse men , and when u give it to them back , they throw that manipulative phrase

In addition, words like do your worst?

Is that all you can do?

Also, the idea that the female gender give birth to life doesn't place them at a vantage position to be worship. That's their divine and biological mandate. A man till that soil to make that possible with his sweat and money.

You will heard in courtship, a woman must not do this and that, but u never heard they say it vice versa that a man shouldn't be doing this and that.

The Pastors should learn to balance marital issues rather than praising one than the other.

I discovered that some fathers, mothers, pastors etc are yet to realise that things are not the same from the viewpoint of their own generation.

They failed to acknowledge the fact some of the female gender that becomes wives aren't with the same personality that they(our fathers, mothers, pastors) knows in marriages.

They(Pastors etc) needs to update themselves with reality and be careful in making some proclamation in allusion.

They need to learn how to balance issues.

There are some Bible verses that command the husband to care for the wife and vice versa but you will rarely heard them quoting to the end, why? Because they want to eulogize the church.

Some words like, if a man will enter heaven, the wife can tell. If a woman will enter heaven, who can tell? Our pastors never tell us till today? That's hypocrite.

Also, there is a notion that place the female gender

No blame, they are both adult.
Uhmm, why is she gullible?
Ans: Low level of reasoning, high level of emotions.

Maysdevices:
Repeat this to your mother and sisters at home.

If then no break your empty head

Don't be shock to hear that he said it. He mayn't but his father can say it.

I have heard that in public space even from a woman in a singles gathering and from a counsellor.

Sometimes, they will said woman has a fish brain, or small brain.

It is not a fact in size but their attitudes shows it. - Low level of reasoning, I guess.

Baitullah:
Sadly, there's no law protecting men against such breathe-taking fraudulent sin from women.

Sincerely, u are on point. The society will tell the man to ignore and be patient to such bad behaviour. Both gender has no monopoly of committing fraud or crime but I wonder why the society assume no consequence for bad behaviour from female, the society is indirectly encouraging such bad behaviour.

Humm, humanly speaking, they are gullible.
Their presence in place of worship can't be differ from being an instrument of rise and fall of a their fellow being. Hence there large concentration and connection at place of work... Check this out, it cuts across all religion.

dyera:
And the pastor will not see any need to talk sense into the head of the irresponsible young man who has impregnated three women and refused to marry any of them. What will matter to the pastor the most is the fat offering Davido will drop after coming to his church. Like no need to embarrass the young man by telling him the truth. SMH

If you have been to that church before, you will understand that Davido isn't the best you can see there. that church has several influential people that share sociopolitical and economic powers in this country.

femisplash:
Effect of feminism.. You hung up because he said he works more but you would rather he said you both work 50-50.. una go learn by force.

That's what spark the issue, underline the need for money.

Since she work more by taking care of the kids, let her carry the financial responsibilities.... Her mental state is borne out of 50/50 Feminist agenda.

chigoizie7:
Can you even listen to yourself? This man was disrespected by his wife, he became the bigger person despite the disrespect and then called, sent texts, sent voice messages for four whole days to sort things out, what did she do? Cut him off for a whole 9 weeks. You think that while 9weeks he wasn’t trying to reach to her or the kids? And then out of the blue, after 9weeks, she reached out to him over an unrelated matter, bro are you even listening to yourself? And all you could do is try to blame the guy for not being mature? Where is this world sense of equity and fairness? All the time people find means to blame men even on the mistakes of women. Bro men are human beings too with emotions too, he have lives to live too, they shouldn’t always be emotionally blackmailed or abused. They also have the same blood running through their veins. They also have the right to be angry too, they have the right to express their emotions too. Atleast this woman was the one that brought this her problem here, she is reading the responses from others. And instead of correcting her mistakes, help her find solutions to save the marriage she messed up, you are here talking rubbish. I pity men. Alternatively you are telling this woman that what she did was okay that the fault is from the husband for not being mature and man enough. Cut men some slacks, call a spade a spade. Tell the woman that she is wrong and she should find a way to fix it.

There will be exception to every rule... That Bro is one of them. Don't bother yourself on much analysis.

2elliot:
Don't mind them. Someone I know wants to remarry again. Already, they were having problems before they left for them. In fact, once, I was the one who settled their beef anonymously by sending apology messages to each of them. They didn't suspect. They settled. Then they traveled to Australia. The man already had a daughter in his young teenage age and she was already grown. So, he also brought her the abroad including his wife's maid who was from his community. Immediately they got to Australia, he wife and their maid conspired to be thorn on the man's flesh and that of his first daughter. On one certain day, the man had a big celebration in his office and wanted to treat his guests and colleagues to African dishes. So, he asked his daughter to prepare the food since she knows his tribe's delicacy. He asked her to bring the food to his office when he she was done. But after a long waiting at the office and the occasion was set, the daughter was nowhere to be found with the food. He tried to call to no avail. So, he quickly left the office for the home. When he got home, he saw his daughter fighting with the maid, and he asked what was the reason for their quarrel and also why she didn't bring the food he asked her to prepare. Then the daughter narrated that she was already through with the cooking and was about packaging it when the maid took the pot and hid it because of a quarreling they were having, and that she refused to bring it out. The man became enraged. And when he asked the maid where she kept the food. She said that she kept it in the garden outside, out in the cold. He was very mad at the girl, and thus he confronted the wife with the matter. But instead of pacifying him, the wife was equally rude and was in support of her maid who is from her tribe. So, that angered him and for the first time in their marriage, he slapped her. The wife in turn called the cops on him and had him thrown out. She equally tried to damage him and his job by getting him fired. But luckily for him, the cops didn't find him much at fault. That made the man to abandon the marriage for her.

Na waohhh...

ShenTeh:
Confirm guy.

It takes two humble or humbled people to make marriage work.

You dropped the call on your self-proclaimed husband, ignored his repeated attempts to reach you including his message and want him to respect your wishes. Come on.

Respect is very important to us men regardless of how much of a s!ssy the world wants to reduce the gender to today. You treat him like shit but still want him to come through for you and your family.

As we grow older, we cherish peace more. He is probably evaluating his life and happy to miss your drama in it at the mo.

Let them know ohhh... After she dropped the call, the man make efforts to reach her back for weeks. You ignore him, he ignores you. He grant her sister audience. Yet another lady still comments here that the man is not mature.

Not to ignore the bone of contention that led to the issue on I am working hard than you. Both are working their ass to better their lives and family in general. She is taking care of the kids shouldn't be an excuse not to work, make money to support what the man does except the kids are still very young. I can assume the issue is on money not sex.

I think she's yet struggling inside her spirit, soul and body, that she has done nothing wrong to apologize. If she does, she won't bring the issue here, she ought to be sensitive that she needs to apologize by every means necessary to restore communication. But not surprise, it is some of their kind of makeup, finding it difficult to say Sorry Dear, Thank you Dear, Please Dear.

BRATISLAVA:
Why should women be expected to pay bills and not also hide their incomes, like men are saying men should do, so that everyone in the relationship will pretend not to have money for things that need to be paid for? Or is it only men who know what it means to work for their keep?

Let everyone lie about their incomes, and nobody should complain that the other doesn't want to pick the bills.

Bills are meant to be taken care of by both.

There are some bills the man takes care when he was single. Hence, any other bill that affects, surface or come up or increments as a result of marriage are to be shared by both...etc Child cares, House Projects, Cars, Family welfare, School fees and Feeding will be taken care of from their common pool of savings to avoid issues if both are working class, in which I believe no man wants a liability as helpmate but assets.

DHaran:
Why collecting the money later is your son not your responsibilty too
dont be selfish, pls pay bills too.
what do u ladies really offer in marriage sef

Actually, they offer sex and food.

mediclife1987:
Then you'll never marry.
What you said up there about your sisters affected me with them till today. I just realized how stupid I've been revealing and helping them so far, by telling them how much I collect.
I remember then my brother acting the broke guy and saving up to Japa, while I was busy helping my sisters.
The same sisters refused to help me when I was in need and swore that I NEVER sent them anything before in my life.
My mouth was left ajar like this
This same blood sisters would fast and pray and be singi church song upadan oh.
The thing dey really gimme trauma till now sha, cos I no really gbadun women again, na just fvcks I dey see sey dem useful for, nothing else again.
Them no too geh sense at all...

A wonderful experience...

Tzar:
They lie because most Nigerian women are greedy & selfish parasites. They think all the guys money belongs to them, but all their money belongs to nobody else.
Once these kinds of Nigerian women decide to date you, your income is budgeted as part of their revenue.

Bro, u just make me laugh with your analogy

Arelyn:
Although issues like this are not for public consumption but the truth here is that you won't know the full gist of the matter between your parent until none of them are no more responsible for your upkeep.....

Women are naturally more deceptive than men and more often than not, society have made men that express their feelings to be weaklings, I don't know your story but will advise to be cautious and make the best of the situation..

A broken home should not make you a broke and broken person......

You have said it below
Women are naturally more deceptive than men and more often than not, society have made men that express their feelings to be weaklings.

Sad to know that she died as a result of her husband.

Can the female folk tell themselves the truth about being a woman.... A problem solver, no to indecent dressing and pride of a feminine.

The fact is that adultery, fornication, indecent dressing, rape, domestic violence and divorce won't cease in life until Jesus come, you just have to manage the pressure it comes with

Sincerely, the NA needs to intervene to enact law to jail and sentence any policeman that seize phone and collect bribe. Imagine the PRO want the citizen to report to same NPF that will twist story? In the process of gathering even evidence, the same police officer will intend to snatch your phone to avoid been recorded. If an officer does no harm why does he need to be scared from a camera that inflict no harm?

The instance that the IGP said no to seizure of phone, is like the common tag Police is your friend, Bail is free. That's meaningless even at the NPF Headquarters at Ikeja.

Can the toughest & most skilled of the NPF visit those NDVF or Asari boys in the creek? even Army reckon with respect.

Adeling:
The guy is must be a simp!

I had this friend back then in secondary school who was always chivalrous with his money, yet the girls chuck insult at him at every given opportunity despite spending on them.

But when I eventually gave one of them 10 naira to buy water back then (she asked me to buy her water. She didn't think I was going to buy her water. It's a test. ) Omo come see the way they were rejoicing (ya, the girl I gave the money went to tell her friends about it). I swear, no lies, I was shocked. Because as a guy man I give only my fellow guys money in school.

Ladies respect you more if you know your worth and don't see them as one special being. We are having more sissies and simps in this generation than ever before. I keep telling my younger brothers never to raise their hands on a woman or allow any woman born of a woman step on their masculinity.

U have said it. There's a notion of being a special being... Both gender are special being.

Religion & cultures aid that thought of a female gender as being special than the male.

Imagine, when some elders will say that the prayers of a mothers, is it that the father can't pray?

A Pastor will say "your wife can tell if you will make heaven" to a man. Who will tell if a woman will make heaven? Guess what the Pastors don't tell us that... Maybe a man will be the answer... because they want to edify the woman, they won't say it.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 KJV.

Just like other Bible verses that balance marriage, some of our pastors will speak loud on what the man should do, then silence or ignore "likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 KJV.

Then logically, you care for your wife, your wife should care for you. You get her a gift on her birthday, your wife should get you a gift on your birthday. It suppose not to be one way...

A woman is special, a man is a special being.

in other countries women buy gifts for their hubbies or boyfriends as an appreciation of their love but when it comes to nigeria the nigerian woman will never buy anything for her husband or boyfriend to show their so called love for them.even little things as a necktie or socks will never be bought by a nigerian woman for her boyfriend or husband.its we naija men who spend a lot on our women just to show how much we love them an yet they dont appreciate it.we spend a lot of money buying blackberries,expensive automobiles,clothes for these naija women just to show them how much we love them and yet they are so ungrateful and on top of that very unromantic.the other day i bought a bunch of roses for my oyibo girlfriend and she was so happy and she gripped me and gave me a deep kiss.tell me wich naija woman would act like that

What baffles me now, is like some women has an entitlement mentality as what defines them. A Nigeria wife based in Canada for years, still finds it difficult to think of buying gift for her husband. Despite how God has helped his husband to be a blessing to her in numerous way that she often celebrated him at different point in her life.

That woman told her husband I dont have money but a dinner even when the man asked her of a gift in expectation on his birthday.

Yet, she hope the husband buy her a private jet or cruise ship soon.

chigoziri2403:
You migrated the south in 2019, and three years later, you are yet to migrate the North, three years of price discrepancy, if it was something that would benefit the North,it will start there
What was the reason for starting in the south,and not pick some states in the north, not even one northern state

U have said it all... Indeed, a clear case of disparity on ethnic bigots.

Respect to all rappers....

There is no GOAT what each of them did was to make the rap act better.

Believe me!

I don't like the strategy of visiting religious centers. will he visits Mosque and Shrines too? Because they have humans there, who are Nigeria Citizens, a registered voters.

He needs to be more strategic than showbiz.

He should be concern how the 90 % of Voters Cards will be released by INEC, studies opposition gameplay, what Federal Agency needs to be checkmated to avoid loopholes in the coming election, which professionals or industry sector can he sway or persuade to his side, seek for political elites in North, South, East West, if it is possible to crack the enemies camp to gain support.