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bukatyne:
Thanks for the accolades.

All the best in your upcoming nuptials.

Thanks.

bukatyne:
@bold:

Very true.

Not conventional in our society though.

Very unfortunate.
You're one of the few people on this forum whose post/comments on threads makes me go to the 1st page to follow the story from the beginning. Well done.

Acidosis:
You're a wise woman. Wish you the very best in your relationship

Thanks a lot.

Acidosis:
You're blessed. Are you married/engaged?

I'm currently courting. Amen o.

Dear OP, I know a woman but not personally that retired as a level 16 Federal Pay Officer last year. She worked in Ibadan and the hubby was in Lagos with the children. She visited often and she did this till her retirement. You both should come to an agreement as the kids you're emphasising on are the products of the LOVE you share with your spouse therefore he ought to come first. This is what a friend who is married for close to 15 years taught me.

Imogenn:
Now I recently just turned 25. I feel like I’m getting to that undesirable age and I just feel that I will never find a serious guy. I feel like I’m never going to find someone, I’m so lonely all the time I’m just fed up. I’m that anti social type that hates being in crowds so it’s sooo difficult to meet people. I’m just fed up of everything. I just feel damaged and I feel like I can’t trust anyone and i don’t want to waste my time with unserious men.

I need help.

There's nothing like undesirable age as someone stated earlier. From your former post, I think you're a church goer but you should be conversant with the Word as it's the man's duty to find and you preparing yourself to be found by getting better emotionally, financially.... I hope you're not someone who thinks she must be in a relationship to be complete and at all points in time, you never want to be single. Singleness is a very good chapter in everyone's life and it's your duty to make the most of it. What achievements will you show your kids to spur them to greatness when you get married?
Concerning your worries about being antisocial, i know that its the possibility of not being found by a man that's your fear but I'll tell you about an antisocial friend of mine that detests hanging out and after getting to the same undesirable age as you, she had challenges that made her depressed but upon recovery, she thought no-one may want to identify with her upon hearing her story. She maximised her singleness and a colleague from her university where they were both served in the choir, came and started expressing his interest in her, she was sceptical but gave it a trial and in less than 6 months they're planning their wedding. In the WhatsApp group of the choir they both belonged to back on campus, she's a passive member to have been noticed by the guy since years after we graduated but he came out of the blues and the rest they say is history.
In summary, stop worrying about your singleness and if you'll see a good man. Start working on the value you'll add to yourself, your man and your unborn kids. Be optimistic but not anxious as everything will happen at the right time. Listen to Myles Munroe on The Myth of Singleness.

I'm happy for you.
Do have a safe trip home.
You're welcome.
Looking forward to your update. Take care and all the best in your endeavours.

nwanneni:
Alright,i understand.
Well the trip has been worth it so far.
Was suppose to go back to Africa tonight but i have been very lazy lately.
I think I will move on Tuesday instead.
Thanks a lot,I appreciate.will update the thread more when I get back.

I no dey vex o. Never mind about the gift. Looking forward to reading your success story and accomplishment of the purpose of the trip soonest.

nwanneni:
alright.can I get you a little gift at least on my way back?
I might land in Lagos though.haven't made up my mind yet but it's a possibility.come on,no vex you hear?

Apologies accepted, I'm also sorry. I'm based in Lagos.

nwanneni:
I am sorry I made you feel that way too miss or Mrs?
Was never my intention.please accept my sincere apologies.
Truth be told,I have been really paranoid these days.
I am sorry too ok?
No need calling me sir please.i am a very young man,like you I presume?
Come on,chill a little,ok?
Are you in lagos?

No need to call you Mr Nwanneni. I now understand what you meant earlier. I don't stalk you Sir. I only came across your thread on family section few days ago. Do have a great week ahead.

nwanneni:
I never said you were stupid.i said you telling me "okay" sounded rude and stupid at the same time.
I even advised that you saying stuff like that might make you look stupid.it was an advice.
And a stupid person never makes it anywhere.not now,not ever.
Are you bothered about early success?why do you keep repeating it?
Sounds like there is an undertone to this message.is there?
If you have something to say,go ahead and say it.
You have been stalking me so by now,you should know I am a very open person.
Or do you want me to call you so that you can tell me whatever it is over the phone?

You were the first to use the word stupid now you take offense when I did as you did. Stupid people have capacity to make it even if it's on rare occasions Mr Early Success.

nwanneni:
she even knows I am logobenz
Don't you even dare guilt trip me because it won't work!
Did you not call me stupid?so I brought it up so you know I am far from stupid na.abi stupid people dey make am?
And yes,you were rude by saying "okay".like what the hell was That?
And yes,I am proud of my early success.call it whatever you like,I really don't care.real talk.

I was never rude but the over bloated ego of your early success has made you think everyone should always align with you at all times. I don't stalk you Logobenz but the forum is open to all Mr Smart. I wonder what your comfort has to do with the topic of discussion. What's the essence of you singing your praise when you're not listed on Forbes List or Who is Who in the world of anything with your early comfort Logobenz.

nwanneni:
nope,you were rude!!
I don't need any professional help.
Also,I am not trying to sound smart.you know why?because I am smart and I know it!I really do not need your validation.
Reason I have been able to make myself very comfortable in life this early.
Thanks in advance.
Btw how did you figure I need help
Someone has been stalking me

Okay meant that I get your point but as you tried to sound intelligent you rather showcased the extent of your stupidity. How dare you accuse me of being rude and stupid. You have a very big problem. Just seek for help from professionals because you need it.

nwanneni:
you don't need to okay me or try to be rude and stupid at the same time.
It makes you look stupid

Okay

nwanneni:
has his OWN money is what I said.
Whether she makes or have more really doesn't matter.
If a man has all the necessaries in life,I see no reason why he wouldn't go for any woman of his dream,except the elites of course!
I've dated a woman(a doc) that was way more than what I was worth at the time,but she knew she dare not bring that up!
Made me wanted to "do pass myself" but I realised it may not work cos I did not like the way her parents(dad especially) treated me,not her!and she also wasn't sure she wanted me.
Was an on and off thing.but blessing wants the op(big difference)
Well the OP doesn't sound confident so I understand why it might be a problem for him.

He said Blessing is lives larger than him Sir

nwanneni:
control him how?
Did the op tell you he is jobless?
No woman can control a man that has his own money.never!!unless the op is a sissy.
And blessing sef doesn't have much.
Stop sounding like na dangote pikin.
But she is connected and will be less of a financial burden to this op.
But no,e want go carry stress put for head.
I wish am well sha oo

handie:
Mtcheeew. This one na Mumu. In 2010, I got admitted. My admission got into my head...... When you fail, dust yourself up, learn from ur mistakes, apply the lessons learnt and give it a push again and again till you succeed. SUICIDE IS NEVER AN OPTION.

Wow. Your story is inspiring as you didn't look at how far you ought to have gone. I pray that you go over those that think they have gone ahead of you. All the best in your endeavours.

truthsayer009:
This is a lie abeg, infact a very big one at that. These signs always show when you are dating.

You will notice people who are Proud, Cheats, gets angry at the slightest provocation etc

Nobody should come with this crap that they never knew when they were courting. Please.

I think you quoted Acidosis wrongly. Reread his post.

logan2:
chei nne you talk am well, if all girls are bad ,how come it's only my first girlfriend that was bad (who tot me the lesson not to look outwardly when looking for a good girl for a serious relationship) and all my other girlfriends are are so down to earth including the current one

Thank you for being honest. You learnt your lesson and learnt to define what you want in a woman.

I hope you've taken your meds this cool morning. I don't troll so don't be silly. You can comment without quoting me and typing nonsense

AstroG:
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RUBBISH

You attract your kind OP regardless of sex. Good ladies abound I must tell you but what type of ladies are you attracted to. The type that are visionary, focused, loyal.... are boring to you. It seems you prefer the flashy ones/slay queens that are adventurous..... and you complain of their greed. Do a deep soul search and be honest with yourself the kind of ladies you approach and tell yourself the truth. Don't generalize please. I speak on behalf of every good lady you have find it hard to decipher because you may have been attracted to glitters as it said that not all that glitters is gold. What do you look out for in women before making out with them?

This thread is front page worthy MODS. Depression is the topic discussed now on all media and even in religious places (churches) but when someone commits suicide, it graces the FP. Seun if this can be Nairaland CSR project by promoting this thread to help people struggling as we don't know if the next news of suicide that'll grace FP will be that of a nairalander that would have had a rethink if he had seen this thread. Let's do the needful and not only everything Regina Daniels, Tonto et al should always be on FP, some of us are TIRED.

I was gisting with married male colleagues who wished they had taken the risk of getting married earlier (24-26) on their lower income than waiting to be comfortable but reckoned that the current state of the economy is not favourable to take such risk only if you marry your best friend and other factors.
I know a man that got married in his late 30s when he was VERY comfortable working in an IOC, moved to a bank and also worked in big4, life happened and he became less comfortable and is still working to train his kids in the university in his 60s and his friend that graduated from the university and married immediately after his NYSC finished training his 2 sons about 15 years ago and this man I mentioned earlier depends on him for support to run his home.
We don't know tomorrow, a man that is comfortable today may not be in couple of years to come regardless of the structures (investments) he has put in place only if he's certain of generational wealth that may never run out. There's no guarantee that he'll recover and do better when it happens. The Holy book says despise not the days of little beginning but it seems some of the men here don't believe in such. What if the man becomes incapacitated tomorrow after waiting to be comfortable to get married, the monies will then be used to fight to keep him alive when he could have started the marriage journey earlier with the passion to get better financially.

Why do you need a calabar girl?
What do you have to offer her?
Why do you deem yourself worthy of a calabar girl?

OP, it's not enough reason for the girl to live a wayward life. In govt schools, it's easier to do business than private universities. She should have looked for how to earn a living alongside her studies. Children of nowadays have entitlement mentality. The parents have ensured she gets university education. She could have resolved to reduce the burden by helping herself legitimately. What if they're no more, she'll become a high class prostitute or Dubai porta pottie would be an option?

Thanks but I wanted recommendations as Jumia has wide ranges of products to select from so I don't make a wrong choice.

Chukwurah003:
Check jumia

Good day, my friend is an upcoming artist that likes to play the piano but unfortunately doesn't have one. I want to gift him one for his birthday if it's affordable.
I need help on how much it would cost, type and brand as I know nothing.

Mods please move to FP.

Your try. Well done.

nosigho:
i finally transferd them the 10k.... i guess that will close the case.

Why do we support absurdities in Africa? He's billed for the wedding, get ready to be billed for naming, child dedication..... Some women advising him to pay as much as half are funny to me. Coming into a family doesn't mean I should be taken advantage of. The groom to be could have pleaded for support through the wife and not DEMAND as if they're doing him a favour because he married their daughter that brings nothing to the table currently. I'll be a wife tomorrow but should my parents try that with my hubby.... I hope this will not be passed to generations and we term it normal in the name of one family. The groom to be should cut his coat according to his CLOTHE as na so e dey take start. I'm struggling not to be tribalistic here but I can't help it as I know the family would likely be from the south **** likewise the supporters club.

Samshumy:
The Bible says wives should be submissive to their husbands and their husband is their small god

Your addition @ bolded or prove me wrong. I pray your wife in the long run would always be grateful to God for being her hubby but if otherwise, you've failed as a husband.

Good for your woman. Do you live by the precepts of the Holy book? If yes, state where it said that men should be worshipped for us to learn.

Samshumy:
Any woman i marry should be very happy that i marry her. Yes men are to be worshipped by their wives. I’m a Christian and Happy Easter

A good man does a woman no favour marrying her. The good book says in Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. I hope you aren't a Christian and even if you claim to be one, you may just be a churchgoer. Happy Easter.

Samshumy:
I will be doing her a favour to marry her