₦airaland Forum

I know we will get to a point where we will be heavily dependent on computers but saying AI will take over the world is grandiose. Just saying.

Even if he is, why call him out? We should go ahead and stigmatise him? There are impotent men out there, they didn't chose to be impotent. Focus on your life.

Kobojunkie:
Nah!! It's sort of pricey. I hope the price is halved by the time it arrives in the U.S so we can get a taste.

It could be really, no doubt. My point is, it would be hard to tell by just looking at the amount because "pricey" is very relative. It's a function of the purchasing power and the cost of living in a given area. Converting that sum to dollar might result to an amount you'd call pricey (or cheap as the case may be) but that will be you judging by the salary potentials and the relative cost of things in the US/Canada. It's not really different from someone in Nigeria converting the price of bottle water in the US to naira and screaming at the resulting amount (just an example, I don't know the price). So except you stay in the UK or you understand the cost of things over there as it relates to production and people's revenue, you can't just hear how much a none luxurious commodity is sold somewhere in the world and determine if it's pricey or not. As for the selling price when it gets to the US, will the US really import that? Unless the demand is high and the cost of manufacturing it in North America is higher than the cost of importing it, such items that translate as "pricey" in a different region are not always exported.

Just to buttress my point; still using haircut as an example, I once cut my hair for 70AED in UAE. I complained that it was too expensive and my friend converted the amount to CAD, showed to me and said it was almost the same as the amount I use to cut my hair in Toronto. But then, I insisted that that wasn't a yardstick. I'm sure I was actually cheated because judging by the price of other commodities in Dubai, I could tell that 70AED was a bit on the high side for such a small salon and the cost of living is slightly higher in Toronto.

I don't know if you get me.

babyfaceafrica:
probably, but you know how many hair he go barb per dey, per week, per month. Weekends lásán he will make 50% of that.... Those guys are balling men

Funny how we moved from how "expensive" kirishi (an other goods and services) is abroad to how "big" people make it out there. At the end, it all balances out and it will just be a matter of how much you are eventually able to save. It's not always that much but yeah, people make it. I mean, if they are not making money, they won't remain here. I only wanted to put thing into perspectives for better understanding.

babyfaceafrica:
you cut your hair 20 dollars... Hahahaha.... Bet why na?.. All these barbers dey ball for abroad gaan ó... These our certificate na scam.. Make I go learn barbing abeg... Less stressful and money dey.. Who suit and tie help

Well, they are making money but it's not really as it seems cause they also spend in a similar fashion. The barber might be paying $1,500 per month for a one bedroom apartment. Revenue cannot be treated in isolation.

majamajic:
That's almost 3k

**Modified**

Yes but that could be the ideal price. It's not all about converting to a different currency, it's also about the worth of the money in the home country. I cut my hair for $25 (or sometimes $20 cause the guy is Nigerian). It'll be mad of me to start considering the naira conversion cause in that case, I'll have to convert my salary too, the guy's business overheads, etc.

Officialgarri:
She graduated, but with what grade?

These kind of girls simply went to school because others did. They really can't tell the use of education other than partying and hooking up with rich dudes

Lol... you need to see my friend's graduation pics; this one is angelic.

My friend is a medical doctor.

IamMichael:

You guys will just enter into someone's life, the next thing you start complaining about them answering calls... So, because you entered their life, they should un-know everyone else they know because they're in a relationship with you?

Are you going to un-know everyone you know before you met her, or because you met her?

Men should try and curtail this possessive attitude over women. You don't have any right to expect anyone to change their lifestyle because they met you, unless they decide to.
When you understand this rule, you will always know what to go for and who to go for.

P:S- Marriage is different, because in this case, you guys have agreed to be one intentionally.

Lol... Bro, you need to understand that most people here are lads. You can tell they are kids by their comments and excessive desire to belong. Watch out, they will call you a simp (whatever that means). Hahaha...

The 'childishness' onhere is alarming. It's actually very funny when someone says "I want mature people here and not simps" and then you look at the mature people and be like WTH!. Imagine the OP calling someone irresponsible as if he had a 'responsible intention'. Or maybe the girl would have been 'responsible' if she had gone to his place instead of opting for a restaurant.

Dude can't just bear the fact that the lady did outsmart him and she's probably having a good laugh about it with her friends now.

Two people were seen having s.ex but the title called out one. Was she using a s.ex toy? Such a skewed society we live in.

Meanwhile, to those saying there's nothing wrong with it, such display is actually a crime in Nigeria and many other countries.

Oluromantic:
No na. I'm too big chasing after it. My presence is enough to scare it.

OK o... make I no fall your hand

Oluromantic:
Lol. No be so o. It came to my house by itself, it's shd leave by itself too. That's the honor I'm giving it.

The honour you're giving to an intruder? A ghost for that matter! It means when you see thieves (fellow humans) in your living room, you'll first boil some egg for them and then take your gun, enter your bedroom and swear to deal with them if they ever join you there!

_{Honourable scaredy cat}

Oluromantic:
Go to another room and sleep with a Cutlass in my hand. Ghost or not, I will pieces it if it comes closer

Then why not just go ahead and pieces it? Why leave your room for it and then wait for it to come to the next room?

_{Sounds like you use style dey fear}

This is sexual cannibalism, some male species of bugs/insects do it too (though not as many as the female species). And for those guys above queuing behind wild animals and insect to bash their fellow humans (women), also read up on infanticide and see how a lot of male animals kill their babies as a lifestyle. Maybe we can also say "fear men"?

Lol... wonder who the dull one is here.

360clips:
I entered one Nigerian University till just 200lvl. And one thing I noticed is that my confidence level started dropping and my low self-esteem! When I came home, I just isolate myself and be on my own all the time. Wasn't long till I noticed that it's this Nigerian University that's doing this to me. Cus before I entered I was full of life, but as I entered this Nigerian school, my life became a nightmare. Can anyone relate to this?

Nigerian institutions are not close to the best when it comes to impacting knowledge. But saying they take away your self confidence and make you more withdrawn when dealing with fellow Nigerians is, in my opinion, far reaching. From an academic perspective, I do not see how our poor education system would make you have low self esteem when dealing with people are products of the same system. From a social perspective, I think the reverse is in fact the case. Dealing with people of different backgrounds (as is the case in most federal universities), having to speak before fellow students, etc. should make you more outspoken than you were prior to gaining admission. They, at least, make you know yourself and your limitations better.

On that note, here is what I think (hypothesis): I think you are on a journey of self discovery. I think the university did not change who you are, I think the university actually revealed who you are. Perhaps, you were used to the company of familiar faces and personalities and then the school yanked you out of that comfort zone and exposed you to an unknown territory full of people of different types; some good and others, very vocal and unwelcoming. You withdraw to your shell. You didn't know you had this withdrawal tendency cause you had never been in a situation that called for that. Now, seeing how withdrawal (action) has helped you scale through (reward), you adapted and learned to apply it even outside school. Now, it's logical to think the school made you this way but the truth is, any such huge institution could have had the same impact.

If my theories are right, then the school is actually doing something good for you, it's making you self-aware and that's the first stage of personal development. The next is to be able to manage your shortcomings and consciously make efforts to change the undesired behaviours that can be changed. When you make efforts to change them (action) and you get a positive feedback (reward), you'll will adapt again and for the better this time. This is natural process.

onadana:
Every body wants to help now.But at the height of her fame she was on top of the world.Surely Jude Okoye is not a mad man something must have transpired.Moreover,before she signed a contract didn't her personal lawyer advice her.This is what you get when you let your pu...ssy do the thinking. When you mix business and pleasure.

Bro, but why the dirty talks? What's the big deal if she was once on top and now needs help? That can happen to anyone, you know. You are making a lot of assumptions just to arrive at your conclusion and that's fallacious. We were not there, we don't know what transpired. Besides, people lose legal battles everyday regardless of how good their lawyers are. This is not the time to for cyber bullying. Someone's is reaching out to her and that's a nice gesture. Just saying.

Flairoqy:
The probability of ever meeting an equal level of cognitive mind like yourself is probably 1/9999, but like minds exist.
Actually no one is unique.
Nice having you around, and I'd like to keep in touch too.

See you around then!

EDGEof2MORO:
Yes

I respect your opinion and frankness.

Now, I my own imperfect opinion, I think such generalisation and the resulting impact on you depicts the danger of stereotyping. It contradicts the principle of open mindedness.

Flairoqy:
Best described as free thinkers, or maybe something more specific I don't know a word to describe it, maybe there's isn't a word for it yet because in the real sense, we don't exist as a body of people or organization, just rational set of individuals.

I see. That's interesting. You remind me of my "brother" who is also a programmer like myself as well as - permit me to borrow your words - a "free thinker". In the course of advising him sometime ago, I said, "... and we are all different and unique". Then he laughed and said to me, "it means no one is actually unique".

EDGEof2MORO:
Yes

So do you hate Nigerian men?

Flairoqy:
Was an actual compliment not a critic in any form.
Maybe I perceived the word from a different point of view and misused it but not limiting the word "stereotype" to a particularly just group of people or beliefs rather with idea which may be factoid (Not entirely true) like saying "You don't judge a whole group of people for the sins of one man" but the opposite perception rather do that because the opinion is subjective. So we both share the same view, which I believe is our own stereotype on this particular point of view.
But I stand to be corrected, as I am only learning how to be versatile with words and thoughts. Thank you

I'm a bit confused. Actually, you knocked me off, lol.

Here is what I understand:

You think not judging people or a group of people by the activities of a few could be said to be stereotypical to us since it is, in a sense, a common trait that could be used to generalise our personalities, right?

Deep. That's an idiosyncratic way of thinking, quite intriguing.

But who are we? I mean, stereotyping is always with respect to a named group of people, right? A stereotypical politician is a thief (the named group here is 'politicians'). A stereotypical Jamaican likes partying (the named group here is 'Jamaicans'). A stereotypical lawyer is a liar (the named group here is 'lawyers'). So when you talked about stereotyping above, what group or type of individuals were you referring to? Who are we?

This part deliberately mixed up the currencies for sensationalism.

Flier:
Anyway we need to hear the other side of the story
As popular she is,she has no reason to go broke or depress because I can’t understand why she can’t just start her own label,rent a big hall,hire a very good DJ and hold a concert, beside she knows it,several millions is already in her account
As for MR,he should thread carefully
Kiss Daniel faced the Same problem and bounce back hard

Let's not downplay other people's problems. We're not in her account and we do not know the peculiarities of her own situation. We do not the circumstances surrounding that of Kiss Daniel. We do not the connections each of them has.

Flairoqy:
That'll be all, thank you for your stereotypical ideology.

Stereotypical? Sorry, how did you get to this conclusion? Asking for a balanced and less biased story is tantamount to stereotyping? Remind me again what stereotyping means.

Educate me a little this morning.

OFEMANUGURUMARA:
Yeah, I guess you are a saint and have never wronged anyone in your life. Mr holier-than-thou

Sorry, what's your point? How did you get to this conclusion and name calling?

Truthspoon1:
it is ideal for a husband to also speak well of his wife before condemning her but it is not realistic. At this point there is no love only hate, everything he sees about his wife is wrong. Her mistakes become exaggerated and he becomes blind to his own. If at any point he begins to see his own shortcomings then the problem would have been half solved.

What he needs is a therapist not online opinions from a faceless forum. Too bad he already filed for divorce.

I agree with you. My point is that the story is just extremely biased. There's a problem in the family, he summarised his own part with "I'm not a saint" and then went on to detail the lady's bad deeds. Well, the lady is not a saint too. If you're going to detail her bad deeds, detail yours too. We want to know how "you're not a saint".

Well, another person that knows the family has come to share the lady's sided of the story. That's balanced it out. It's only sad that it came late.

Sarang:
You are a good mahn and there is no way on earth with this good head on your shoulder that you will not have a good marriage

Lol... thanks ma'am!

Sarang:
Exactly! He probably treated her like trash in Nigeria and still is and came here to cry foul

Thank you.

eyinjuege:
You were right.
I was almost deceived by the OPs narration of the story.
I also wondered why he just glossed over his own misdeeds by only saying I am not a saint, but it didnt just register in my mind to question it.
This NL sha.
People will just bring up stories and if you hear the other side you will wonder if it's the same story.
Why do people want sympathy or advice from strangers but they won't say the truth but give an embellished version?

Thank you!