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Jeez! This is very disconcerting! The paedophile should be arrested at once! NB: Nairaland boys are not shouting "girls of nowadays!" or "fear women!" as they usually do when a case involves a girl. Any reason? |
WoundedLamb:You've said it all. We make excuses for the boy child and expect the girl child to be safe; how logical. I've heard a girl complain of how a particular boy would always pick on her and his cousin (a grown up cousin of the boy in question) said, "I think he's just playing around. Or maybe he likes you". This is how we go making excuses for boy child and teaching the girl child to be docile and accommodate the excesses of the opposite gender. She learns that when he behaves in a naughty way, it's likely out of likeness. We try to clip her wings with expressions like "don't you know you're a girl?". We see two teens being naughty and we call the female one all sorts of names while the male is considered to be just shooting his shot. In fact, the only solution we have to the boy child's misbehaviour is to reconfigure the girl child to be able to deal with it. And then we expect our daughters to be safe out there. Again, how logical. For clarity, read the post below and see a Nairalander's solution to men's disregard for their wives who toiled with them.
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Ybaby:You wrote beautifully but something about the ending prompted me to quote you (if you don't mind). You pointed out some masculine tendencies (which are flaws, by the way) and in conclusion, your solution is that the woman should aspire to meet up with the these flaws. Intentionally or unintentionally, you heaped the responsibility on the woman and excused the man's stinking attitude as "the way men are". "A woman should aspire to be both". Really? That is the solution to men who think with their di.cks when they get rich and discard their wives? I do not mean to sound cliché but this like saying ra.pe is caused by the way women dress. So the aspiration of the woman is, in other words, determined by the desire of the man while the man is left off the hook because "men will always be men". Misogyny has eaten deep into our society, I must say. Nice observation still. |
ndidibabe:Log book. When you want to kill a dog, you start by calling it bad names. This seems exaggerated but then, sleeping around is terrible nevertheless and could bring problems to your household. Just wondering, would you have sent the house-help away if it was a guy? |
SILVERLINES:... a nairalander can do better. |
OritaIbadan:You're neither thinking as a father nor as a manager. A father will not sack her and leave her at the mercy of those men. A manager will not let her personal life affect her job provided the job is not the type that could be affected by her lifestyle. If she's a good sales girl, let her be. If you care so much, advice her. |
You don't even know how to use the word "threaten". Who is she threatening? |
A hawk? |
PericomaNwankwo: |
Lol... nice one. |
And she had the same dress on throughout the transformation? Lol... |
Fear men! Men of nowadays, tufia! |
u11ae1013:It would be nice if we could desist from making jokes that water down the effects of rape |
missjekyll:You're still not wrong. That guy seems to be an ass. Lol |
bigmodo:This selfish and wicked. Save a child this misery, please! |
Jeflox:How is she holding you? It's her Instagram nah. She can post whatever she she wants there. Did she post it on your Facebook timeline or did she ask the OP to bring it here? Nawa o |
iLUCID:It does not apply to rape cases. |
iLUCID:Dude, rape has no statute limitation in Nigeria. |
143WaZoBia:We mustn't always side the outsider. This is not a religious thing. It's business and competition is an integral part of business. It's simple economics. Those Dubai residents buying from the cheaper vendors don't have Qur'ans? If you were there, would you buy from the more expensive ones to please the holy book? Fact is, Nigerian vendors wouldn't reduce their prices if they weren't still making gains with it. Others can reduce theirs but greed wouldn't let them part with that extra income. Didn't the qur'an have anything to say about greed? Except there is a written agreement signed by an association, I don't see any reason why you'd fight someone for his selling price. If it's a sin, pray to Allah to punish them. |
AlphaStorm:These jokes you guys make to water down something as serious as rape is really unpleasant. |
Digableplanets6:That's a cocktail ![]() |
lexyking:Nice. But distant from reality. Short response: It is impossible to ignore the society you live in. Long response (read if you have time or do not agree with my short response ):We always think we know what ladies need to do. Your take is just like a white guy telling blacks to damn racism, roll with just blacks and keep living their lives. Where? How possible? Fact is, we are all humans and you cannot just not care how others in your society perceive or treat you because, at the end, you're joined at the hips with the society. It's someone from the society that will marry you. It's someone from the society that will employ you or patronize your business. It's someone from the society that will be your friend. It is someone from the society that constitutes your family member. Even the people you think are like minds are products of the society. Unless you are very rich, you cannot live in isolation. A girl got into the dm of a guy the other day to woo him, he showed his friends the chat and they laughed and advised him to "use that olosho". Another guy created similar thread here on NL and even exposed the name of the girl and people were calling her "destiny killer". I'm sure even her family members would organise a town hall meeting for her. These girls have been labelled and the effects of such labeling ripple down. Nobody would bat an eyelid if it were a guy. They'll even insult the girls for exposing the chats. There's such a thing as the male privilege. As a guy, you're almost guilt-less regardless of the situation. It's like the only thing that's considered sexually immoral for guys is rape. Any other thing makes him 'my guy!'. Some guy here even created a thread on how he rubbed his genital on a girl in a bank and his 'guys' where hailing him and even went on to call the victim a pretender. The male liberty is almost unhealthy for the society. You say she should ignore the society and role with people of her type and I wonder who these people are. People that, lowkey, see her as a bad girl that's only suitable for fun? People that hope to find a 'wife material' when they are ready? People that wish thier daughters won't be like her? Cause we both know what the idea of a good girl is there in Africa. Even if these people are any different, like I said above, she will still have to deal with the rest of the society at some point. The person whose monica you mentioned in your post is hidden behind the screen on a faceless forum, that is nothing to judge by. Bro, if you aren't a lady, you may not fully understand their situation in a society like ours. I'm not trying to put everyone in a box but being born with male genital in Africa already makes you guilt free and you can't even begin to imagine what it costs the other gender to level up. Good morning. |
Chuky7:What do you guys really want? If a girls sleeps with two men and does all sorts of things, you call her ashawo, olosho, etc. If she doesn't, you call her boring and unexposed. At the end, guys are the real oloshos. |
So No To Rape! |
Men of nowadays! |
See the kind of petty things these ones are there discussing. Igbo is older than Ijaw; Ijaw is older than Igbo. And so what!? How does that add value? |
BlowYourMind:I don't get, what are we supposed to see in the picture? |
Everyday, Nairaland boys call out "girls of nowadays" for for miscellaneous reasons. You hear things like "fear women", etc. Yet a lot of men are committing such a hideous crime as rape and no one calls out "men of nowadays". I've said it over and over again, sex related crimes will not stop until we stop shielding our fellow men from blames. The other day, a guy was being praised here for rubbing his genital on a lady in a queue and the lady was labelled a pretender. Accept it or not, boys/men of today are also nothing like our fathers. The perversion is alarming and the way we condone it is even scarier! #FearMen #SayNoToRape |
These guys have got everyone by the balls this corona season. |
Davash222:As expected, the very first comment is already tending towards sectionalism. Can we just appreciate these guys and leave their ethnicity for now? I'm sure you only called out the North cause there seems to be a balance between the East and the West. Otherwise, you would have channelled your missiles towards one of those ethnicities. And that makes me wonder, have we gotten so addicted to tribalism that regardless of the post, we must find some group to call out? It's almost like a vampire's thirst for blood. And it's so not cool. Y'all need to outgrow this. |
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Asking for my neighbor, sha.