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Hhmm.... I don't know why Africans always resort to flogging. Dogs in Nigeria aren't better behaved than dogs in many western countries, but these guys hardly hit thier pets. Unlike other pets like cats and birds, dogs are known to be very forgiving. But this does not mean flogging them cannot deteriorate your relationship with them. You can't get the best of the dog ownership experience if your dog fears your presence. There's a level of bonding you can never get to with a pet of you hit them. Suffice to say, flogging is a lazy man's way of training pets.

Sorry, I just wanted to register my disapproval. Now, let's get back to the issue. Your dog isn't aggressive, he just doesn't know your pain threshold (assuming it's a male since I don't like refering to pets with the impersonal pronoun). If you flog him, he would interpret it as you being mean. Why would you flog someone for playing with you? He might end up scared of playing with you. Why not adopt the correct-and-reward approach? This approach, also called the positive reinforcement, works like magic.

First, you need to let your dog know the word you use to express disapproval. For me, I use the word "NO". Anytime I say it, I make my voice loud and firm (and sometimes, stop giving him attention). The dog would normally stop whatever it's doing to process that. Then I'd put him in a situation where he would repeat the offense again and again, I say "NO" in the same manner. I repeat this process till he is reluctant to commit the offense, and then I praise him and give him a treat for being a good boy. The moment the dog understands your disapproval word, it makes subsequent training easier. When he bites you, say the word and if he stops immediately, praise him and reward him; otherwise, stop playing with him. He will gradually stop biting you over time.

Note: It's important to let your dog know your praise words top. A combination of body expressions and treats can easily achieve that.

Good luck.

Lol... you guys are not intelligent. Sometimes, I wonder if you're all budding teenagers on this app. You just say the stupidest things.

SHINJA:
Igbo gals and house work sha...

If no be house work na olosho work..

Thank God for our Southwest gals ..

God bless southsouth and southwest

So after reading this terrible news, what's more important to you is to score tribalistic points with the story? How will you guys get the country you dream of when there's always a group celebrating misfortunes and crimes because they dent another group? How are y'all not seeing that nobody gains from tribalism? Nobody at all. It's been in Nigeria for ages and the country hasn't moved forward.

The fact is that people transgender in the US. It's acceptable there and you can't hide that from children. A trans woman on TV will not make a little boy want to be a woman. It'll only make him know such people exist.

It's all about sex sex sex in Nigeria. They're all having sex while waiting for some imaginary youth to take up the government and turn things around

They're all saying what they have to say just in case BAT wins, nobody would say they didn't contribute to the victory.

EmiDior:
While i was growing up people used to admire my gap teeth.,
But now i feel like it is a curse to me bcoz pple use to laugh at me bcoz i am having a problem in pronuncing some letters like S,T,C,X and so on.,
if there is a way i can spend money just to close that gap., its embrassing me too much.,
If u know a way pls help

In my response below, I assume you're a teen or just a bit older than that (forgive me if I'm wrong).

Yes, there's a dental procedure for it. But as fully grown man, I wouldn't bother about it myself cause I know there are thousands of people like me and most grown-ups wouldn't laugh about it anyway (except I'm surrounded by idiots). I'd say, don't go for any medical procedures for any insecurities you have at a young age cause you'd likely grow up to realize it wasn't worth it (except it's been proven to be crucial to your mental health at that formative age).

If, however, you still want to get rid of it (or you're already a grown up man and it still makes you feel bad), it's a valid desire. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting to get rid of your insecurities. We all have some things we're insecure about and we'd gladly get rid of them if that can easily be done. Just ensure you go to a professional dentist for the job. Oh... it's also not cheap, by the way.

Wives? With the way women are seen as gift items/palliatives/properties in Africa, the feminist movement is clearly justified. I mean, some parents actually use thier daughters to close deals.

Lol... the VP was probably saying "... before the party dies". FFK who was eager to identify as a PDP leader decided to bite.

They're dragging an American artist in pidgin? Waste of time. Lol.

Toktee:
And so with the western woman, she can just wake up one day and divorce the man leaving him stranded.

But the OP is not in the West and the laws aren't same here. Thousands of marriages in Nigeria today were done in the court, how many of these wives have woken one morning to kick out thier husbands in Nigeria? Court marriage in Nigeria does not necessarily mean western principles because the Nigerian laws aren't the same as western laws. It's not about the fact that the marriage is done in the court, rather it is about what the Nigerian law says about marriage.

Besides, even the Western laws you guys always make reference to does not give the woman the right to kick out her husband at will. In the West, both parties have equal stakes in the marriage and for any party to kick out the other, you must obtain an occupation order from the court (UK). Such orders are granted on the basis of physical harm (assault) or emotional harm (e.g. cheating). Whiles any of the two parties can get such an order, it's mostly the women that get it and that's because men are mostly the defaulters. A cheating or abusive man would normally accept to leave the house even before the wife requests for such an order because he doesn't want it to be on record. So yes, men have as much right to kick out their wives as women have to kick out thier husbands.

Marital laws in the West are rooted in equality/fairness. For someone from Nigeria where men are considered superior in marriage, it makes sense to say this egalitarian system favors women, but it does not necessarily give them more power than men. Even in the so-called West, many old laws still favor men up till today. Only one country has succeeded in achieving "perfect" gender equality in law.

jumper524:
This is the same thing Peter Obi supporters would do. Only yorubas have had the courage to criticize and attack their own.
Igbos and my northern brothers would always support their own sin or loose.

Is this really true? I do not think any tribe in Nigeria has the tendency to call out thier own people as much as Igbos do. And that's likely cause of thier lack of central leadership system.

MadarasBlade:
Ok.

Better.

MadarasBlade:
And in the presence of laws in the western countries, women hold more power, you and i know this, or why do you think the OP wants a court wedding?

That's another argument. Have you accepted that in the absence of the law, men have the upper hand?

I don't do directionless discussions. You guys always do that when you are cornered. I argue that in the absence of such laws, men have the upper hand. You said that's not true. We can move to what happens when the law is in place, but that will be after you've accepted that my statement is the reality. Let's not chat for the sake of sounding smart. Let's separate concerns and put logic before emotions.

I'd gladly tell you how it works in the western world cause I live here. I'd also remind you that millions of Nigerians have court marriage already. So if court marriage actually gives women the upper hand, then it would imply women have the upper hand in all these marriages. But then again, that's after we've agreed the initial bond of contention.

MadarasBlade:
This is not a time to argue.

When two people are bound by law, it affects both of them just as when there's no constraint, it favours both of them as well. Stop making it look like it favours men only.

You are the one that just wants act blind and argue. Stop pretending as if you are not African. In the absence of any law to bide them, the man has the laissez-faire in Nigeria. You and I know this. Why do you think the OP's fiance doesn't want the court wedding? I just gave you a reason above, you ignored it and came back with 'it's not time to argue'.

MadarasBlade:
And the woman can also wake up the next morning and decide tp quit the marriage and no one will do anything. So you see.

How can you compare what you just typed with what I typed? Did I mention quiting the marriage? I said "kicked out". Women are the ones that normally get kicked out from the house when there's an issue. You hear things like "I'll send you back to your mother's house" once it's no longer rosy.

MadarasBlade:
But the man and woman would have no constraint, so why are you talking like it only favours the man?

Because the society/culture already gives the man the upper hand. He can wake up tomorrow and decide to kick the woman out and nobody will do anything about it.

princewarri1985:
FTC simply means "first to coment" the first coment i made was the first here, and i only discovered i made FTC only after posting the coment, and that was why i made another coment to celebrate it. only special people make FTC

Hahaha... You're a funny guy.

Congratulations again.

RIP

Silentgroper:
Where's the attack in the harmless question i asked..

i must confess, most times u sound like a woman.

What I wear or don't wear shouldn't have a bearing on this conversation except you want to make it all about me.

I sound like a lady cause I don't condone the glaring gender bias on Nairaland? I see. I'm not really worried about how I sound. I'm secured in my masculinity and I don't believe disparaging our women makes us more manly.

princewarri1985:
Wow! This is my first FTC in nairaland after being a member for years off and on, i never thought a day like this will come that i will be the first to comment, to everyone out there i just want to let you know that impossibility is nothing. please chase your dream

Congratulations, bro.

What is FTC?

Silentgroper:
Which do u have on?

When you leave the points and start attacking the person, then it's clear sign you've got nothing to say. I am a man and I don't even accessories.

In her house enjoying her life, I hope. Life is all about phases of self identification and actualization. She could be onto something better

TakeBackNaija:
So, you're still expecting tinubu urchins who are mostly agberos, bigots and religious fanatics to change their mind about their bullion van rogue?

This particular demography are already delusional, even if you convince them that Obi and Datti will make Nigeria great, they will still prefer to vote tinubu because that's how small minded they are! People like MC Oluomo, tunde poly and other miscreants form the bulk of his supporters. Others are those eyeing some droppings from his bullion vans. To these people, even if tinubu becoming president will make Nigeria to burn, they wouldn't mind seeing it burn to ashes so far their Agbado master achieves his life ambition.

The good thing anyway is that they're not the majority.

Do you stay in Lagos or anywhere in the West? Have all your Yoruba colleagues accepted your preferred candidate or do some of them still support BAT? If the later is the case, then it's obvious the people you're insulting aren't just lowlife touts but also people in your own social class. The more you insult them, the more they're encouraged to gang up against you. Even if they're all agberos, I fail to see how insulting them makes things better for Peter Obi. Why not concentrate on saying good things about Peter and telling everyone why BAT is a wrong choice? That's the basic nature of campaign, not insulting the people you should be wooing. I don't know you guys don't see how that works against you.

Anyway, it was just an advice. Good luck!

Ohraykon:
whatever gender you are, thats your biz. You have a low grasp of comprehension, mr or mrs simp/woman keep it up!

I'm not going to engage you in your gutter chats.

Thantayo:
So in summary... you value court wedding(which is just paper and signatures) over your potential husband and you are ready to be single again till you get that paper?

Why not ask her to just pack into the man's house and assume the title of a wife? Oga, it is not just paper. It is a legal identification of marriage. If the value you have in your man is all thar counts, why do people bother getting married? Why do you guys give women all the wrong advice just to bend thier will? A man vehemently rejecting court marriage is a huge red flag. He doesn't want to have constrains. You wouldn't accept that if you were a woman.

Nigeria isn't easy too. Nowhere is easy. The only thing better about Nigeria is the social support you get from colleagues, friends, family and other acquaintances.

Nurses and doctors takes pictures at the hospital. Why should this young lady hide herself because she works at a mortuary? It's not like she displayed the corps. My dear, please slay!

Y'all insult women and call them cheap, yet you live to impress them.

So y'all will believe this because one blogger said it? Did he come out to tell you he wanted to marry? And the OP had to use the girl's old picture to sensationalize the whole thing as if her current look is not young enough. Lol

blazingblender:
That legs chain ehhh
I hate it like shit
They no even know wetin Dem resemble
Jonsing girls
But I love waist beads Sha

They don't resemble anything, it's just your personal preference. Some other people will tell you waist beads make them look like native doctors. It's only in Africa that people use thier personal preference to judge others.

Just look at the OP confidentiality typing trash about another person's sense of fashion based on his personal opinion and still having the guts to say "it is what it is". Why not tell us what nose rings mean? What about necklaces and bangles? Oh... because those are common, they're meaningless? Funny lot.

TakeBackNaija:
Tinubu urchins and agberos won't like this. The fools are so delusional to believe that Northern Muslims will vote for Tinubu.

Ask them to give just 3 reasons why they would vote an old criminal instead of their own, and they would start saying crap.

Leave Tinubu's supporters and promote your candidate. The more you attack Tinubu's supporters, the more you harden some people's heart against your preferred candidate. The goal is to win as much people as possible because, whether you like it or not, politics is a game of numbers. This idea of insulting others all the time is counterintuitive. There are other ways to demarket someone than insulting his supporters. You dislike Tinubu but you need his support base to boost yours. Why not be smart about it?