aisha2:

@Leliah
Am sorry did not mean to sound like that, it is just that you always seem to have something to complain about your husband.
Please no relationship is easy, you just have to learn some tolerance and try to communicate more with him. Try to concentrate on his good sides because everyone has bad sides but when he does something you deem as inappropirate, try to talk to him nicely don't nag him.
Then Concentrate more on the things that led you to fall in love with him.
I believe marriage is sacred and a lifetime commitement you should make the best out of it.
Once again am sorry

I concur!


@poster,
Please, find it a thing of joy that ur hubby still finds you sexually attractive to pounce on you in the middle of your sleep. Some hubby will prefer to try it on hookers after getting drunk.

If you dont find it enjoyable, talk to him (lovingly) about it when he becomes sober.

Goodluck!

Lets know more about urself and ur past relationships.

"to ba tori obirin kan ku, egbegberun e a gba ori iboji e koja" (meaning): "If u die because of a woman; a thousand and one will pass through ur grave".

Hence, I can wait for life for any gurl. Most an't worth it. Wait a minute, _{am i being realistic}[s][/s]

I married from another religion though my wife changed to my religion before we tied the knot.

I believe its good for couples to belong to the same religion, it ensures peace and oneness. Shalom.

Will go for any gurl I love irrespective of the height. (with the exception of "KUKUTES").

JustGood:

How dare you complain?

Know ye not that whatever is practised is America and Europe is something that Nigerians must copy?

Do you not realise that we must practice everything that our OGAS are practising?

too bad!!!

@tpia & Karmamod

U gurls should help if u can and if not; leave that poor lady alone. HABA!

Be a man and make the right moves.

Thank God say our gurls don agree say no be everything weh man fit do nah im woman fit do.

MAN NA MAN!!!

playboi:

[b]Dear friend,

I read your post and I feel sorry for you man. I think you are beginning to lose it. You are the cause of all what is happening to you. You never allowed yourself to control the moment, you allowed the moment control. When you met your gurl, what really attracted that put others off? is it her looks? is it her shape? is it the way she plays with you on bed? I am sorry to tell you this, You have judged the book by its cover. She expected so much from a J.J.C like you who just arrived from abroad but unfortunately when you could not really deliver, she got disappointed and began to misbehave.

I simply want you to try as much as possible not too get too carried away by her actions. Begin to act like you care less now. Stop doing the house chores and cooking, that is not HOW TO SHOW LOVE. Scold her when she does anything wrong,let her know you are the man. Let me tell you my philosophy about LOVE." Never hold love too tightly because it might break in your hand and Never hold love too Lightly because it might slip away from you" Just hold love like you should hold it and hold it like you should not. Now! you need to Take back your position and the first step in doing that is by never saying sorry when she is wrong, she must learn to say sorry. Stop the house chores and cooking, if she can't do all these,let her go stay out for some time.
Now if after all this, she refuse to change. Guy you need to look at yourself and your future. Tell me how old are you? You need to work so hard and make that currency good. When you are made,she will come back knocking at your door and then you can do whatever you like. I tell you this and believe it's true. YOUR GURL IS OUT THERE, SHE WILL MEET YOU SOON OR POSSIBLY YOU WILL MEET HER SOON. Don't force love, it's like forcing a huge Tree for dew drops to come, what can that do

You can hit me up later on my phone, 08056280300 or email gbemmyvibes@yahoo.com. I have to get back to work now, money is calling me. See you at the top,

[/b]

I totally agree with u my guy.

I believe a lady also has the right to express her feeling. But most often than not, good girls don't come first at guys.

I always appreciate it whenever a lady walk up to me to express her feelings (either verbally or "otherwise")  but will always let her know how I feel about her.

Moreover, if she proves herself to be matured and focus enough and provided I feel thesame way, I go dey serious with am me brother.

All you have to do is let him be and focus on better things. If he really cares he'll come back begging. Trust me!

He wants to be the first to be invited to ur wedding.

@ poster,

From ur description of ur friend's ailment, it shows that hers is a clear case of magun though different from the generally known ones.

This type of magun works in such a way that she will always desire (as a result of this "heat" or "itching" to have sex with different men. It will come to an extent that she will not be able wait a minute without someone digging her honey-well. Eventually, she will strip herself naked and start behaving funny.

My Advice:

Let her go to her supposed husband and confess all her atrocities before her MIL leaves. Who knows there may be a remedy to her problem.

Its just to have a good feel of the goodies, abi if na u nko?

sistawoman:

it is a huge deal breaker for me.

Meeting my Dad says that I am really into this dude and I want you to give me your feedback on him.

If I had been dating someone for over a year and they had not met my parents yet then they can assume that I am not interested in the long term with them and if they have not brought it up then I can assume they are interested in anything long term with me.

It does not mean that I am introducing him as a husband but what is the purpose of dating if not for marriage.

How many them be self? Small small o my sister.

sista-jay:

No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.

sista-jay, i hope u're not going out with AKUDAAYA. May God help you o.

Hmmmmnnnn,

Will love to share this story with you all just maybe someone will learn one or two things from it:

A Couple has been married for 5 years now. They have a 2 year daughter.


Like any couple they have their ups and downs, that's life.

One day just after they had a fight over their differences of opinion, the wife went shopping at the local mall, where she bumped into her ex-boyfriend from varsity. After a chit-chat, she discovered he was doing well for himself in business. They exchanged numbers. From that day on, they started talking daily over the phone. Plans were made to meet, but where, when?

That's when the ex-boyfriend came up with a plan that they should meet in Cape Town to spend a week together. The ex-boyfriend would organize everything; the plane tickets and a nice beach holiday resort for them to enjoy.

She would have to lie to her husband, saying she is going to a conference in Cape Town for a week.

Her husband took her to the airport on Sunday evening. 2 hours later she was met in Cape Town by her ex-boyfriend who had arranged a very romantic evening with her. After the romantic evening they went back to the resort, made love without a condom, of course they have known each other for a very long time.

For the next 5 days they had a wonderful time jollying / quad biking, up the mountain in the cable car, swimming and sun bathing etc, wining and dining at the Capes top cafe's and restaurants, something she had rarely done with her husband.

They enjoyed everything money could buy, until she left on Saturday afternoon back to Johannesburg .

They used different flights to avoid being seen together (you know people talk). She was waiting in the airport for her husband to fetch her, when she received a call from her ex-boyfriend, who told her he was HIV-positive and that it was not a co-incidence when they met at the mall.

The reason why he infected her with the disease was because he was jealous of the family she has and the beautiful woman she had become and the fact that he was financially successful but he is not happy because he knows that he is dying.

At that moment she just stood there and froze; thinking about what to do, as it was already too late to take anti-retroviral. She could lay a charge against him; it would only expose her for cheating on her husband.

That's when she took a taxi to her best friend's house. She told her friend everything that had happened and ask for advice. The friend advised her to come clean with her husband, tell the truth, she has just lost everything and has nothing more to lose. She then phoned her husband and explained every thing.

To my surprise, the husband collected his wife from her friend's house; he sat down with her and told her how much he loves her and reminded her of the vows he took at church and that it was a terrible mistake she has made, which unfortunately she has to pay for it with her life.

He told her that he is never going to leave her; he has forgiven her and will stick by her side no matter what happens.

Now she stays in another bedroom and he shares his bedroom with their daughter.

What is currently happening is, the wife is terribly sick and might die at anytime. He told me this because he was asking me for prayer support, because he believes that a group of friends praying together, the stronger the prayer might be.

And the other reason was that I should let you guys know of such happenings as a warning to anyone contemplating cheating, to weigh up if it's worth it!

As I sit and think about this experience, I thought to my self: why him?

But I can not seem to come up with an answer. Then there is a lesson here;" You never know what you've got until, "

@posters

* Not all bankers are flirts though some ladies would throw caution to the air to trap one. Hence, bankers
without self-dicipline will not only be termed "flirt" but DOG.

* As a result of the aforemention, bankers hardly find it difficult dating whatever class of girls they desire.

Hello Nairalanders,

The case be4 us is a very simple one. From my observations, most girls say "no" when they actually mean "yes" and any guy who does not take the clue and do the needful will be termed "EGBE" or "SUEGBE".

@poster
The guy did not rape u but only gave u what u wanted , oh no, what u needed!

Guys, when next you're with a girl alone (for the first time) on your bed and after the whole fissy fussy, if she refuses to let u log on; do more of the pre-intimacy, pretend as if you're angry and leave her alone in the bedroom. Believe me, she will beg you to come back and dig the hole.

_{They need it more than we do.}[s][/s]

The bible says: "looking unto Jesus, the author and the finisher of our faith". The standard that God has laid down for those that are called by the name of Christ is in the BIBLE. Any idea or believe not founded upon the Word of God is mere human fabrications and as such, is nual and void either it is backed up back supposed MEN of God or not.

I'm not supprised to see that many people actually believe this falsehood because the bible said that the road that leads to hell is broad and wide thereby accomodating large numbers of people.

Please note that the standard of God cannot be compromised. The Holy Spirit of FROM GOD is gentle and He is a comforter promised by Christ to teach us all things and not to torment us or teach us gymnatism. The Spirit teaches us to leave a life that is consistent with God's words and ways - a holy life. How many of these self-acclaimed pastors lives a christ-like life; how many teaches their congregations about salvation and the victory that Christ has worn over SIN and DEATH? How many will see a poor (I mean materially) sinner on the street and park their cars to preach Christ to him.

Lest stop decieving ourselves; God is not mocked and the Holy Spirit does not make BELIEVERS fall. His powers only knocks down those that are possessed with the Demons. So, beware!!!

@googles advocates

Please note that true christians do not need google to learn and know the truth. Everything is contained in the B-I-B-L-E.

@Zoraro,

I totally agree with u. Skinny/Slim girls are harder to bring to sexual organsm than the phat ones.

My skinny/slim girls; what do u have to say to this?

That the poster is a transgendered does not really matter here what matter is the lesson our ladies can gain here.

Some ladies are just like who the poster described. I once had a girl when i was in campus, she was known by one and all as a shedog. She doesn't care who you are or what you have in your wallet so far you have the third leg under your you, she doesn't have to know you aforehand; once you're able to conner her in a place you will have your way.

There was another one who was very faithfull and caring but was highly sexually demanding. I was very roboust before I met her, 3 mths into the relationship, I became skinny and worn out as a result of her daily multiple sexual demands.

Such people therefore need to see doctors and or spiritualists.

@spikedcylinder,

Someone once said that long relationships hardly end in marriage. But as for me, I dated my better half for 10 years before we got married. Notwithstanding, I think most long relationships end in disaster because there is no clear understanding between the parties of what they want from the relationship.

A guy may get involve with a lady for a long time because of the good sex the lady gives him. We must realise the fact the sex in itself cannot sustain a relationship for life. You can only get married to your friend, someone u miss when she is not there (not just for sex), someone you can watch talk, someone that stirs something deep within you when you're just looking at her, someone you can spend long time with without getting bored, someone you can do things for or to which ordinarily u will consider absurd were she to be another girl,

@ Steaming,

Although an average girl when asked will tell you she would like a guy that can treat her nice. Notwithstanding, that a guy is nice to you does not mean you have to fall in love with him. This thing call love comes naturally. You cant predetermine who you will fall in love with. Most girls will list qualities they want in their men but may eventually fall for
people without any of those qualities.

I once had a girl that behaved so nice to me. She was so respectfull, kind, trustworthy and committed to the extend my family members wanted me to marry her at all cost but I couldn't cos I did not love her. I found it difficult hurting her but I had to.

The first time I saw my wife, there was a connection and I knew she was my missing rib despite the fact she was 18 and I 22 as at the time.

You snuggled your male friend? He didn't feel violated?


Believe me, he was shocked!

For my girlfriend, no way!!!

For my wife, I'll do anything, wash her undies even the one she use for mensuration either she's ill or not. In fact, I do our cooking if I happen to get home before her. It doesn't in anyway make me feel less a man.

I personally think good women (although very few) should be appreciated in all ramifications.

My wife and I usually sleep snuggled and sometimes in spooning position. She kinda like it and I love it too.

I think I should also tell u this story: I once had a girl that loved to snuggle real tight. We continued sleeping in this position for about 3 mths that the relationship lasted. Later, a friend of mine came to pay me a visit and as usaul we slept together on my bed. The next day, my friend called me and told me he could not sleep because I nearly crushed him.

So, beware!

Hmmn, I believe no man in his right senses will be comfortable with his woman (either wife or girlfriend) providing for his needs or his families'

Although I personally don't see anything wrong with a lady assisting her man but for a man to solely rely on his woman for his needs is totally unheard of. Nature even frowns against it. The sexual act between man and woman sheds more light on this. Women are therefore created physically, mentally and emotionally to receive while men are meant to give.

Therefore, a man who derives pleasure in obtaining from his woman rather than give should not be condoned. In fact a man who truly loves his woman will prefer to go hungry than see his woman live without basic necessities of life.

I will also want our joichi and other ladies to note that good sex should not be the only yardstick they should use to measure their dream-men. It may sustain the relationship for a short-run but will definitely not in the long run. That a man is sexually good now does not guarantee he's going to be for life.

Sex is good and a relationship without it cannot thrive, notwithstanding some other ingredients are necessary to ensure a long lasting and sincere relationship.