₦airaland Forum

Stephen2324:
Men who married at 24, 25, 26, 27. Do you regret it? If you could, would you have it different next time?

No regret. Trained kids when the economy was good

Smile4mee01:
I have been abroad for a while now and i am curious to know why some of our ladies decline dating or marrying fellow Nigerians in the diaspora. I have tried to date a few any they are often quick to assume i am after them for their papers while i just prefer my own, someone who understands my culture and where i have come from. Even when i try to date the ones that don't have paper, regular work visa holders like me. They seem to want to be with the guys that have papers.

Also, when i am old, i would like to return to Nigeria. Marrying outside would make that transition very difficult.

I study other races, Immigrant groups from India and Asia. they work together well, and don't have these difficulty.

Should i give up on being with a Nigerian or keep trying ?

Regards.

No papers. It makes no sense for two people without papers to be dating themselves

robosky02:
Do you really understand what a vow is


It's actually a life and death matter

All your politicians are still walking free with looted funds after leaving office. They took vows too

robosky02:
Do you really understand what a vow is


It's actually a life and death matter

yinmu...no consequences

Omenlon:
if you do not protect the local industries how will they grow. the so-called foreign companies started from somewhere, their home govt protected them to grow to international standards. Nobody can help you other than yourself.

Nonsense
Let both compete on a level playing ground

Where is the local rice today? Now you are buying foreign rice @ 50k plus

Supremos:
Buhari minister really nuked Nigeria .

Tinubu is tactically demarketing Buhari's government by deploying his foot soldiers to do the damages

Who signed such slavery contract

Goalnaldo:
Recently I fell in love for the first time with this 23 year old. It felt great. this was the first time someone is calling me baby and having sleepless nights because of me (before you people begin to ask how old I am, I was born in 1992).

About three days ago we were texting on WhatsApp and I asked her how many ex she had had and her reply was "I can't remember". I was shocked 😲 I asked her if there are too many that's why she can't remember and she said "yes".

I'm concerned.for a 23 year old to have dated many men means she has multiple body counts. Will this affect me in the long run? What advice do you people have for me?

PS; I'm not a virgin

You aren't mature yet for relationship, let her go

Truths9ja:
you mean she will have steady sex why she freeze her eggs? I don’t understand ooo

frozen eggs never get fertilised

Stephen2324:
One wrong sex fit steal your peace for life

HIV and STD no dey look face

Wisegeek01:
Here's the opinion you wont see anywhere on the internet . .. and you are hearing it for the first time
Sit tight !!


The phrase what are you brining to the table .. has grossly been misunderstood, some men that even ask the question don't even know why they are asking the question, while on the other hand some women fly into a fit of rage or keep dodging the question, why they are angry they don't even know, its just a psychological impulse,

first of all it is not mandatory for the lady to actually bring finance into the mix but it helps so that should not be the centre of the question, so the men asking and referring to finance really shouldn't do that, focus on what she is supposed to bring

.. its not her job to bring finance, so if you are referring to that you are asking the wrong contextual question, a lady actually has what she should bring to the table, but sadly not a lot of ladies have taken their time to sit down and think about the question, because the are always offended or defensive, its just a simple question, that you need to understand, its not you mdfkn job to bring finance, that is what the man should bring to the table,

what the lady brings to the table .. ranges from
great values
Emotional Intelligence
Attention to Detail
Organizational Skills
Nurture and Care
Empathy and Compassion
Collaborative Spirit
Multitasking Abilities
Intuition
Social Skills
Diplomacy
Support

when you list these features and tell the man you posses these traits
now it's your turn to ask him
what does he bring to the table
...
he should have most of these below
finance
protection
security
Leadership
Decision-Making Skills
Stability
Emotional Support
Problem-Solving Abilities
Initiative
Adaptability
Sense of Humor
Integrity
Shared Responsibilities

marriage or relationship is team effort, not competition
the next time i hear that question in the wrong context I fit flog person

You are biased

Is finance gender biased? Why didn't you add finance to women list.

Mercylike:
Egbon.. I don't snore.. Never snore..

Nobody has to tell me. I have stayed in different place with different people, I have never snored

No be fight, I said what I said

robosky02:
If marriage vow include may I die. The day I ever cheat on you.. Will you still marry?

vows are mere cheap talk. No consequences

TemplarLandry:
https://www.ndtv.com/world-news/north-korea-claims-new-spy-satellite-took-photos-of-white-house-pentagon-4612274[/i]

Joe B will handle it

He's no longer in the news. His time is past

TemplarLandry:
https://www.merriam-webster.com/wordplay/word-of-the-year[/i]

Chicago

Ebola

Escobat

Mercylike:
I never snore.. Never

Lolz. You can't know if you do. Na people around you go tell you. Better still, put your phone in sound recoding while sleeping. When you wake up, play the recorded file back to yourself

Supremos:
Meanwhile, the Balogun of Eko Abisoye Oyeyemi Oshodi said his lineage is Nupe.

Does it mean there are indigenous Nupe people in Lagos?

There are indigenous Benin people in Lagos?

There are indigenous Braziliana in Lagos too?

There are indigenous Yorubas in Lagos!

Lasgidi is for all

Zonefree:
I stand with Oba of Benin.

He's wrong. Benin itself is under Odùduwà Republic. If Benin cannot lay claims to cities around her, it makes no sense claiming to own Lagos

porthouse7:
In this life just make money and more money

No be because of money in this case, Davido helped her career

GVTAsiwaju:
When I was with my wife I never cheated on her, loved her and she knows... I think the only issue was my unstable finance then and her parents ungodly attitude that really irritates me( I should have managed it better though).
We have seperated and her divorce case in court but I don't stop thinking about her against all odds.
I have dated NUMEROUS ladies while she left yet it doesn't help me forget, whereas, she never look back...

Divorced persons, how do you forget! I want to feel love again. I cannot marry or be with anyone if I don't love them, sex is truly overrated. Your suggestions pls.

No solution, until you meet someone that can match or surpass what attracted you to her

Solofresh2:
I came across this thread https://www.nairaland.com/7922825/husband-before-ask-wife-what and I see the OP trying to justify the saying "what does a woman brings to the table" anthem by men nowadays.

Saying a woman facing a difficult time giving birth to her child is a sacrifice is a no no.It is natural for a woman to give birth to a child,either difficulty or not.

It is also natural for a man to releases sperm,so as to impregnate a woman.

If a man find it difficult to impregnate a woman, will you call that a sacrifice too?

Infact,sacrifice is when a man provides everything for his woman because it is not compulsory.

Anybody can make money to provide for their own needs, not always waiting for your man to do everything for you.

It is your responsibility as a woman to carry your pregnancy if you want a child.

Don't mind the guy....Na woman wrapper. As if the egg fertilised itself

Mercylike:
Is it normal to wake up and experience mouth odour?

I don't like talking to people very early especially when I just wake up bcoz there is this odour when I smell whenever I try to smell my own mouth..

Is it normal or it is something that has to be treated?

If i have brush, I don't have any odour from morning till night except for night to morning sleep..

You snore and open your mouth while sleeping. Normalize brushing your teeth before you go to bed and always sleep on your sides. Let it be your habit

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

Simple, insist on pregnancy before marriage

atiku4President:
It's global best practices for one devil to replace another.

Exactly, imagine Tinubu replacing Buhari

Ablemax:
hello my fellow Nlanders, yo those who have successfully japa we also need your contribution to this,

as we know getting or raising money for japa is not easy, I've been thinking cracking my head to see on how to raise funds for japa but non ideal is coming forth except beting hoping some day I'll hit jackpot..

s to my good people please kindly share how you were able to raise the money for japa so that us here can follow too. (legal way)

Borrow from banks and people that are already there

Eminentworld:
Due to current Naija Economy, is Kuwait a good country to hustle and earn a better living. Please 🙏🙏 kindly share your experience and advice. Thanks

That's where the strongest currency reside. Just be law abiding

naptu2:
Thank you.

Mr evidence...enough receipts that cance all manner of explanation

3triple:
Hello guys, M22 here, I have a very oily face with constant pimples attacking it, I’ve used a lot of things from those tube creams usually in pharmacies to locally made black soaps but my face still remains the same, they work for some time but it’s like my face adapts to them, I really don’t know. Do you guys have any tips for me? I’ll attach a pic of the skin if it’ll help… thanks

Do the following religiously

Avoid all manner of frying foods and sugar

Make powder your friend during the day....no cream on the face.

Wash your face before going to bed with soap, soap alone, no sponge. Don't use anti septic, use shampoo

FitCorper:
Helen I’m happy your are married and wish you all the best. The only thing I can say is relax, the truth behind that statement your boss made will soon unveil itself.

No truth. It was because of her academic level then and background

Asawoboy:
Abeg my people,na beauty still be this one or road cleaner because I no understand🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Operation Keep Lagos clean

Rich4god:
Am lending my voice to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/7922406/wife-why-life-women-complicated#127165126

A couple of days back, my wife put to bed using CS. Initially we had a baby before, I a know how complicated and painful the pregnancy and childbirth was.

Now I was in the theatre during the CS and I saw first hand how someone's abdomen was sliced open and the baby pulled out. I also saw how doctors were putting their hands into someone's abdomen and how they finally stitched her up. It wasn't an easy sight to behold. Right now, she's recovering, but the pain she's passing through is much.

To me, this is the highest form of sacrifice that someone can give for the family.

So to the men and husband out there..... before you ask your wife to be "what she is bringing to table", kindly think about the sacrifice they make in bringing your children to the world.

Nonsense

So men that put the seed there doesn't deserve to be praised

The pregnancy didn't get there by Bluetooth

We should stop putting women into a box of kitchen or other room material

tsdarkside:
what is a elu p....??

i thought it was a nigerian musician....

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