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Iamafinegirl:
Please I need your help or view point in this matter. Am I just over reacting at is this a red flag to which I need to run far away from?
My current boo asked me out for like one and half year, it was like it’s either me or no one else. His friends and bosses in his office had to speak to me to consider him as I might be missing a good man and how crazy he is about me.
I finally accepted.
I decided to move in with him after a while just to see what marriage to him would feel like with him. I have stayed a year with him and it’s void of sex and kissing.
When I came he would say they should put on the gen anytime there was no light for me and all, he was sweet.
With time he started complaining that he was buying all the food in the house and I wasn’t contributing as much as he wants.
He eats about 5 times a day while I eat twice or one and half times (fruit, oat and pap) a day because me I am watching my weight.
He would complain the milk he bought had finished and all...and it was with some level of anger or bitterness about buying the food stuff.
Pls note that I consume 25% - 30% of all he eats.
I later started buying my milk to avoid issues since I knew that’s what I consume most (with my oat or pap) which makes one of my meal for the day but he was angry about me buying it separately but I did that because I felt there would be peace that way. I would still buy milk and keep and he can say I am using more than he is using inside the milk
He complained about repairs (light), complained about buying dstv subscription, nepa light payment etc. You just list any house thing he started complained about doing it.
I on my path do contribute the way I spent before I came to stay with him. (I wasn’t a huge spender as I eat very small food) and so my money use to remain which he used to borrow from me when we werent together.
We had a him 60k and me 40k arrangement for food fuel light etc but we never put it together and so each week I did ensure I spend 10k. But apparently he wasn’t seeing it. I would come from market and he would say what is all this, this is worth 5k. It use to hurt so much because I wld show him the list but he would still say this same thing. I have never asked him how much he bought things if he goes to market talk less if say it’s not up to a certain amount.
He said later that he can’t marry a woman who works and won’t contribute for light, food, repair, gen etc....
So even today we contributed for dstv 4700, I paid half and he paid half.
It looks sort of absurd and a no no to me
Yesterday he bought apples 800 naira and I paid half and he paid half....
And so that’s how the current life would be....
I contributed to the rent also but he said no... that he would “dash me” rent. I shouldn’t pay so I won’t come tomorrow and say I contributed to the house rent. I even said ok use the money for food and other things you complain about, but he said he won’t collect it under the umbrella of house rent that never.
I see it upside down for a man to be saying he is paying rent and see it that he is dashing me. When I can pay my rent by myself and he knows fully well. If I was living alone the same way he has been living alone, won’t I do my repair, dstv subscription etc without asking anybody? So why is it a big deal the moment I stepped in? This are things if my friend came to live with me to God who made me I would do/ take responsibility for because the dstv subscription I would have paid for before won’t change with your presence...the only thing that may change is water and food and so if they contributed it would go towards that.
This is dating phase, please what marriage would become of this.
Am I the one at fault?
I need honest reviews so I can know if I am having problem and if I need to work on myself or if I need to run.
My parents marriage wasn’t like this my dad bought food and mum did other investments for the family or so and it was never an issue or was there a specific fight that you, you are not buying enough milk on the house or I can’t see d 10k food u said you just bought...it doesn’t look it etc.
He would also say me I want to be saving my money and all.
Pls what’s d way forward or backward married folks, married men and women, what am I not seeing that you can see?

Poverty everywhere.

He should up his game with a better stream of income. He's not ready for marriage financially. I don't know why you are cohabiting with him, that's how "see finish" they start o.
Go back to your parent's house

thesolutions:
The phone is techno in spec with media tech helio p35.
4gb 64gb for 65k
4gb 128gb for 71k

Sammy has always been no1

NaijaBoy213:
Dis is wat my mtn (Sim 1) is showing me since morning. I have restarted my phone, even removed the sim and also switch Sim slots. Yet the problem persist. Pls is it only me or anyone else is also experiencing dis?

You may be experiencing damaged sim if after rebooting the phone, you still don't have network

uuzba:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5NV6Rdv1a3I

Thanks for the upload. Never knew their names were daft n punk

Innoson has never recall...they must be mr perfect

fablouzLeged:
Pls I am 22 years of age a student but my damage hair is making me reluctant to even meet my Friends I am alway in face cap

It started in July 2020 when I decided to start bathing cold showers in the morning everyday and each time I enter the shower I always put my hair directly I will use brush and scrub my head hair because of dandruff I don't know that I was harming my hair I was doing that until one day my sister tell me am loosing my hair as I checked the mirror I was shocked and we are about to resume to school for that reason I started buying different oil ,and plenty hair products but no result



In early 2020 I have my thicker hair until July 2020 this thing Happen

I shave my hair but the back hair always grow fast and thicker


Pls help me I finished all my savings in buying hair products just to see quicker result but no its even started affecting my concentration in school I Always hide from my Friend s

My fellow nairalders please if you have any recommendation on how to revert my hair please help

No big deal, go on la skin (skin tight) like 2face and IK Ogbonna

#teambaldnproud

BUSHYANUS:
Please who is karma

You are not woke at all. No wonder, she scammed you successfully

BUSHYANUS:
My fiancee made me take loan with my teacher salary. Big money for her which I am going to repay in five years. Just after I gave her the money, she has blocked my number.

Please help me

You must have been dating yourself.

Stop calling her your fiancee....she just robbed you financially and emotionally

usman3688:
Hello everyone, please I need your opinion on this issues. I got an employment letter for federal government job I interviewed for last year. During the interview the panel actually told me I am way too qualified for the position they are interviewing me for to which I replied them I will take the offer as long as I can progress and grow through the ranks and they told me that they loved my reply that that was what they were expecting me to say.

Today, I received a mail containing my appointment letter and I see the gave me grade level 3 step 2. Although it is a newly commissioned government agency and I am a university graduate with about 5 years work experience. Now I am confused with the grade level I am being offered.

Secondary, I currently have another appointment letter with a private company lacated in the north east, the salary is good with allowance and the working condition is not so bad, I would have loved to take that offer but the location is not favorable to me as my family is scattered between the north west and south west so going to the north east to work will be a difficult thing for me.

I'll be glad if I could get your opinions on this, I don't know how much the Government job would pay yet.

Entry level for graduate (fresh) is usually gl7. This your GL 3 is very low and it's for non graduate. Don't ridicule yourself with that job, that's the level of cleaners, gardners (O level)

Flamemignon1:
First and foremost, you made a generalization that gay guys don't know how to talk to girls which is really wrong and I countered it because you never stated the mode in it

"how to talk to girls" means asking girls out not having conversation with them. You just jump into what you don't understand

Warripikine:
Is it just lack of money or is it a case of no virtuous women out there?
You people should tell me ooo, cos ayam not understanding today's men anymore..
Is Marriage now a death sentence or what?

Lack of steady income, you don't want to transfer poverty to the next generation

BareFacedLies:
He will soon use oversabi and kill his career like Gordons

Gordon that is chopping glo money

Beckysexy:
Please who is he and is he married?
Just asking for a friend.

He's only after beauty pageant

Dem be 2....

AwesomeStormy00:
You can't judge them bro. It is what rock his boat.

I m not judging them. It's just the normal cleanliness of the body rules and regulations that they refused to follow

RGBshield:
im still enjoying the phone no lagging oooo

We never reach June now

shegra58:
.250M also mean #250,000
The 'point' mark have meaning bro

No point there before. He just edited the title

Those of us that viewed the post early this morning know what we saw

Flamemignon1:
You do realize that most gay guys are besties with women right? Please do your research on human sexuality, it's 2021

Olodo!
Being a bestie is not same as being a lover

Dat2jo:
No she'll not, Sir. I love it that way.

Not shaving your armpit hair is a dirty habit. What a dirty couple

Desmond eediot

Ipob should face their problem

1000 indeed

FactBoyz:
God still speaks through seemingly controversial people..

fake prophesy

He said plane crash around the World

He was not specific. Don't be fooled

Good night for fireboy

slex:
Car works, drives

AC works

Clean Interior..

Issues.. Crankshaft to be fixed or replaced rather..

Bring mechanic oo.. To those who are interested

Fix the damn car before selling

dollytino4real:
which one be coward?

When you cannot face your fears and look for cheap alternative way out

The car suspension go hear am

Bloggers and lies

Na them