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See heavy scrap metals everywhere and aboki is looking for one.

DoctorOlasDesk:
How old were your parents when this happens ?

Let me guess. Old age. Meaning they spent significant part of their lives together


How does it seem to you that one enters a marriage and after four years the partner becomes incapacitated with no recovery in sight. Does this scenario appear the same with your parents whose significant lives they spent together?

Let's always be completely honest in our ways.

My father is 77 while my mum is 67. She's still doing the nursing of the old man. The prostate started in 2015.

They were 70 and 60, respectively when he did the surgery.

Stepping down is against the new electoral act bill. Those stepping down must officially put it in writing and must not be coerced into doing so or else INEC would not recognize the new chairman.

What is APC doing today? Are they electing their flag bearer for the presidential election?

Fafoba:
What is happening to our generation?

Look at our fathers. What is their secret?

My brother, I don't know o.

My father has been down with the usual old men sickness like prostate, mild memory loss, HBP. But my mum has been steadfast with painstaking love, feeding him, changing his clothes and dressing the bed for him. I have insisted on getting an assistant for her but she said no because of the negative news about house girls that connives with outsiders to murder the old people they are living with.

She stayed with him in the hospital for a complete year, bathing and dressing him. Our prayers is that we should all be there together for our partners - the man or the wife. Nobody knows tomorrow

yunqdady:
You would be glad you did.
Be careful, do it gradually.
One, it boost their confidence and self esteem.
Let them do house chores. Let them interact with the environment. Don't be too hard, do it lovingly and gradually.
I'm in my late 20s, though not the least pampered like yours but I grew up feeling something was missing, I didn't really blend with others due to how we were raised. In fact, I do get angry ay my parents for kind of shielding us. The world is tough, so shielding a child is you being wicked, you won't be with them forever, how then do they cope with the demands of this harsh world?
Had to learn street smartness in the university which I believe was kinda late.
Enrolling in a good boarding school at jss level would be perfect too.

You are right. This is what most middle and upper class parents do. They shield their kids so much that most finds it difficult facing the real world when they are eventually "free".

Now, I walk with them to the church, much to the dismay of my wife. I have insisted that they make their bed every morning, which they have been consistent on. I take them down on road walks for them to feel the "Nigerian heat" and develop love for exercise, understand their immediate environment and put them on enquiry to ask questions while we walked on the road.

I am happy with their progress. In terms of academics, they are always within the top two in their classes. Their school don't show overall class position, but shows position in each subject offered per term.

I need to inculcate the street smartness and sharpness of mind and character in them, with much emphasis on cognitive abilities. These are the enablers of success and not necessarily academic know-how.

LisaAnneMia:
I love this idea of kids being multilingual. Learning languages helps the brain development of a child. I myself am currently learning French from an app- Duolingo- so that I can teach my kids in the future another language other than Yoruba and English. Chess for kids is also superb in their thinking capacity and brain development. You should try chess for kids...maybe there are videos on YouTube that u can make them watch.
Apart from making your kids tough and strong physically, equip them intellectually. Introduce them to musical instruments too...these three are very good in brain development for kids, and helps increase their IQ. Dancing is also proven to be good in brain development especially ballet dancing but it seems u don't like the idea
I wish your kids the very best!

These are fantastic ideas. They are already into languages, Taekwondo, swimming and Scrabbles. My son is insisting he wants to do coding and robotics in school instead of music , which I got the kids iPad and he is doing well at it in their school. I will have to download more French language app for them. They are now 8 and 7 years old, respectively.

Stupid man. I wished DSS could trace this one and dispose him off. Living in another man's country and creating chaos in his own country, supported by even more stupid followers.

dasparrow:
Children should be raised by their father and mother under the same roof after all it takes a man and a woman to make a baby. This silly thing that I see Nigerians do whereby they get married but then live apart from their spouses for extended periods of time is not how a marriage should operate. It opens room for cheating and adultery. If you can't live under the same roof with your wife and kids as a husband, STAY SINGLE!

This is why I have refused to relocate my family. I made up my mind that I would not relocate but my wife has been persistent that we should move or at worst, move them and stay back in Nigeria and be visiting.

I can't imagine not raising my kids myself; not being around through their formative stages; not guiding and inculcating in them the necessary values and keys to success. Nobody can do that better than me.

The concern of cheating or not is the least of my worries. It's ensuring that my kids are nurtured under the right environment, with both parents playing their part. I may still move but that would be later in life.

For now, I am enjoying the country. My major worry staying in Nigeria is the insecurity. But for other Nigeria's problems, find ways of insulating yourself from other problems if you have the money.

Why has he not consecrated other African countries fighting wars and other disasters? He hardly comments on things happening in Africa or other developing countries. But once media attention is on something, Pope will comment. Venezuela that have been suffering US and EU sanctions for years have begged Pope to intervene but he has not done anything. Why Ukraine and Russia?

Oyibo people sef. Even as a catholic, I do question some actions of the church since coming to power of this current pope

For me, the last Pope of catholic church was Karol Wojtila aka Pope John Paul the second

I don't know the kind of markets people buy their materials that they are quoting 30 to 40M for three story building.

Budget close to 60M to 70M

I haven't completed a duplex and I have spent close to 40M, though inclusive of land

There is no need worrying yourself. You will just develop HBP for nothing.

If your instinct tells you so, bro, call it quit. There is no need wasting time. Once I start having trust issues on someone, my brother, I don move be that. There is no need waiting for any explanation. For the trust issues to have even arisen, then something must be wrong somewhere. People in relationship should never give the other party any concern to worry. Once there is a concern, trust is already broken.

Alternatively, if you could and is within your moral tolerance level, befriend another girl and be carrying and dropping the lady, with the full knowledge of your fiance. Before you knew it, your fiance will start getting interested in your affairs with the lady. No time please.

Nigeria should bring bamboo ladder for Ghana when they arrive Nigeria. The kind of bamboo made ladder used by mason people in construction sites. That's what they should use to come down from their plane.

Propaganda won't help Ukrainian. Since seeing a video of Ukrainians tanks destroyed by Russian being marked with letter 'Z' by a Ukrainian to make it look as if it was Russia's own that I stopped believing in all the stories from West and Ukrainian.

If it was other countries, the Western world will term it " forced conscription" , which is against international law. Coercing people to join a fighting force organisation against their will is prohibited and against UN Human rights charter.

Since the spotlight is no more on them but on the Ukrainian war with Russia, the Taliban is going to start manifesting who they really are. When the media attention were on them, they were trying to behave as if they had reformed themselves. Ideology hardly dies off.

Adedward:
boss no probs jare, I was not arround and my installer has back to mainland, I ask him to send #20k to him, out of my money as am not there right now, so dat he can go and see what he complained for, someone dat left ur site without #1k transport money and and I ask him to come and correct something with no Kobo, ? U are there when he is doing it, u left site before he finish,

Bro, I disagree

Egun has been consistent with one statement here: " When you decide to take a job, you owns that job". There is no need apportioning blame

If you send a worker to a site, it is your responsibility to take care of the worker and ensures he delivers based on your client's specifications.

Nobody would want to complete payment on a job that he is not satisfied with or has not met his expectations.

I come in peace

My love for catfish. Ofe nsala with ni'ji na die

I am so bitter right now. Nigeria is fast becoming the worst place to be a child. The kids are looking so traumatized. Why were their hands still tied behind their backs even after the woman was caught?

See how people were taking videos, unconcerned about the plight of those kids. Some may not have eaten and the onlookers didn't consider it necessary to offer help to these kids. Nigeria could make one to fall into depression.

I sympathize with genuine business men in Nigeria. Doing business in this country that requires you to move goods from one location to another is one of the most difficult and stressful business because of the corrupt nature of our law enforcement agencies in frustrating genuine business men.

After battling with the difficulties of logistics, you are faced with the intimidating presence of police and custom on the high. Many Nigerians could not find the bearings again after suffering several seizures and delays of their goods by customs. The high blood pressure that traders and some business people experience when moving their merchandise is better imagined than experienced.

This town was supposed to play host to the Anambra international airport by being centrally located. It is a driving distance to Onitsha, asaba, Awka and you could connect easily to any town in Anambra. Oba was the town Pope John Paul 11 helicopter landed when he visited Nigeria and Onitsha in 1982.

But the drunk Obiano thought it wise to take the airport to his strife ridden homestead, prone to violent crimes and robbery.

This one be like person wey go receive slap from Governor Ayade's wife. I heard that she is Ayade's lover

See how the plane divided into two!!!

Chinese investigators should use this disaster to tear Boeing into pieces.

Boeing 737 has been a disaster for so many airlines.

Imagine if this plane was made by a Chinese company, the West would use it to castigate China.

China should use this as well to mess up the Boeing.

Perverts everywhere!!! So shameful

These kind of men disgusts men honestly.

They all interested in seeing the woman's unclothedness. That's all

Poverty and wickedness are inseparable in Nigeria.

Police should do the needful just as they did in Anambra and arrest all these sex starved and perverts that calls themselves men.

That man on blue top should be arrested asap - He is the master minder of this dastardly act

Other EU countries like Germany continues to buy oil and gas from Russia and yet no sanctions from US. But when a developing country from Africa, Asia or Centra America tries to buy from Russia, US would threaten them with sanctions.

Chelsea should ensure that Mendy mans the post during those matches - the guy is good

If it is not Origin, no bitters for me.

Nothing new or wrong with the action Putin took.

As the commander -in- chief, if your field commander is not getting the right victories, fire him and get someone to do the job.

During the Nigerian civil war, Gen. Gowan fired Gen. M'Mohd for failing to cross into Onitsha on time. He was later recalled back and assigned a British commander as an assistant. He was finally fired permanently after the Abagana ambush that decimated his entire division.

Joseph Stalin fired his commander at the Stalingrad front for allowing the Germans to get to Stalingrad, thus commencing the famous siege on Stalingrad. The person that took over was later elevated to the highest rank of the Soviet Military by Joseph Stalin after he successfully repelled the German siege and assault on Stalingrad.

Appointment and firing of Generals in war setting is not uncommon.

I see Obiano filing for divorce. He is tired of that woman

Bianca too dey do sef. I trust Obiano's wife. Bianca deserved the beating

She must have stolen the money to give to one boy at Onitsha main market who had promised her marriage. Women can easily be deceived. She may not have stolen to use it for herself but to give it to her man friend.

Mehn, I need to keep up with my fitness. Not that I have weight but I don't like saggy stomach at all. I want it flatter with some muscle mass. E get why