lovat:
I'm with you all through but i want you to drop the past and bloom out. The past is a lesson to make us have a fun filled future.


Have you ever seen a chick being hatched? The struggle to break out from that shell with its weak beak but determination from it. It tries and the strong among them hatches while the weak dies.


Make yourself the strong chick that fights to break out of its shell

I will. Loving someone doesn't make me weaker. It makes me stronger.

Owliver:
hmmmm. *passing by*

What's your problem?

lovat:
Its your responsibility to monitor your heart and emotions so you need to know your bf very well or else your precious heart suffers the consequences.

I can tell you that after i loved blindly and it hit the rocks I've always enter into every relationship with my eyes and ears wide open. Dynamism of humans makes me to be alert to what might pop up so i guard my heart jealousy for any blowback.


Another thing is dwelling in your past makes you miserable and fate has a reason that it didn't work out the way you thought it would

Ok. So you agree with what I said. You do your best, get to know someone and pray it turns out well.

You can't control others with your own actions. What they do is their responsibility. At least you can walk away from something knowing you tried very well.

joey4sheva:

Yea you are right, But you know how these things start, guy makes the effort and gets the girl, girl falls madly in love, girl struggles to keep him. . Guy feels like he's gotten what he wants..

I don't know if that's the trajectory of every relationship. Girl struggles to keep him? I disagree.

seyema:

That's a different kind of love now

It isn't. Love like God loves. Sex is separate from that, but sex is still intertwined with a marriage relationship.

schumastic:


I wish I can explain to you but I doubt if you will still understand..am not being cynical about it, am just saying we humans believe love exist(in our mind) but in reality we don't practise it or show it, can we then say it is love?.. I believe ther have to be another word for what we feel or show to our partners and stop making mockery of the word love...is more or less like saying one v Christ in him or her but yet, he or she stil lies n commit other sins considered little.

I thought the idea was to love like God love us. When we love in godly way, then there is no other word.

lovat:
I feel your pains. You will find love one day and it will change your perception about it.


My advice to ladies is always Love with your eyes wide open because that time you will see his shortcomings and manage him better than seeing him as Zeus

It's not my responsibility to manage another person's actions or emotions. All I can do is my best, be the best person i can be and pray that God deliver what I need.

Certifiedbillio:
hey

Hey what?

lovat:
Why did you break up


The answer to the OP question is No 1

I didn't break up. I got dropped for another girl. We had a few fights (normal), finances were good, we had sex erry day and I kept myself looking good. He just dint love me.

seyema:
No way u can love someone without having lust for him/her

Incorrect. You love your parents? Your siblings?

Depends on the relationship.

Rich people still break up. Poor people stay together.

People who fight sometimes stay together forever. People who have communication break down can split up.

And so on. It's individual.

schumastic:


no such thing as real love cus it doesn't exist and reason why there ars lots of cheats in a relationship..am surprise people can't accept the reality of life, is it that hard.

Maybe not for you. But other people find it. No need to br so cynical.

joey4sheva:

I agree, but it's easier for guys to win their ladies heart... Esp them players

Partnership has two people, so two people should make an effort.

Zealoy:
initially I've never wanted to sleep with her without condoms but she insisted we do it raw, what I don't understand is y she refused to take d pill I bought for her it's for d gud of both of us

Because she wants to get pregnant.

If u really don't want pregnancy then take responsibility for yourself by using a condom. You can't force the girl to do anything and now you know that.

The chances of her getting pregnant from one nut are slim, but it still possible. Also that pill isn't 100% effective and may just result in ectopic pregnancy which can kill her.

Do you know for sure she hasnt been fukking with a lot of other guys so an can get pregnant and trap someone to marriage?

I'd be more worried about catching a disease. Get yourself tested.

Men should do the same.

Are you fishing for compliments or looking to validate your judgement of yourself?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ok? Or in the eye of the beer holder.

You can't blame your looks for everything bad that comes your way. Looks fade. Character doesn't.

Oh wow, I'm really crying for all cheaters now.

Can't remember his girlfriend/wife, can't even remember colour of underwear.

No wonder you guys get caught so often... you're stupid.

This guy is a boss!

I want to marry someone like this... someone nice

This guy sounds like an ass.

He gets mad that you won't have sex. He doesnt comfort you when you need it.

Time to move on. You deserve more. You deserve respect.

Steve Hardy is a woman-hating idiot who says that men are uncontrollable animals and it is a woman's responsibility to control all men's thoughts and actions.

Men are capable of controlling themselves, they just use flimsy excuses for doing the wrong thing against their partners.

Time to man up and take some responsibility. Own yourself and what you do.

Well, that explains a lot.

Good luck, hope u find peace soon.

Sounds like you have a face that invites slapping bro.

Ever heard that expression: has a face that makes me want to slap it? Lol

bitchcrafts:
The way you feign ignorance at full blown oddity amuses me I must confess, Keep it up! And don't forget to dress up well so that people won't start mistaking u for a woman who's got few bolts unknotted against their will up there.

I'm not ignorant, I'm asking you to expand your thinking.

You assume that men are lunatics who uncontrollably think of only one thing - sex. That no man is capable of thinking anything further than sex when they have a woman in front of them.

I think men are more intelligent than you give credit for. A man grieving for the loss of his child will hardly think of sex all the time. A man who is talking with his mother won't be thinking about having sex with her (I hope).

Furthermore, you also purport that it is a woman's responsibility to control men's thoughts by dressing "modestly" - whatever that means. Do you really think it is possible to control anyone's thoughts?

How do you know that men confronted with a woman dressed in a niqab aren't thinking "I wonder what is under that niqab, if I will want to have sex with her".

Just because *you* think a certain way, doesn't mean everybody else thinks that way. You do not speak for everyone - and you certainly don't have the right to label or influence other people's actions based on your illogical emotive processes.

For my part, I hated all men. But I have come across a couple of lovely men on this forum. My views have changed.

I think maybe you should change your views on gender - that both males and females are human beings. That you can't judge any book by its cover. That women have the right to dress any way they should want without fear of retribution from you or anyone else.

And btw, I will dress any way I please. If it's warm weather, I reserve the right to wear small clothes for my personal comfort. If I'm going out, I reserve the right to dress sexy for my mate (if I ever get one). If I'm ill and staying at home, I reserve the right to wear sweats all day.

I'd be interested to hear what other people think, though...

Dauntless15, domislaz, evegran, withambition, breadmaker, halfricanadian, blackfire... anyone else?

Be careful.

I gave my ex money and he used for his wedding to other girl.

Onlu one rule - crop out your face.

Then it doesnt come back to haunt you later.

Also, send nudes you find on the internet that could be mistaken for you. Crop the face out. Done.

Fighting... over a man :/

Why bother. Just let him go...

bitchcrafts:
Its like you can't understand simple notion... When yo standards, starts turning heads and jutting mouths open involuntarily, then its extreme hence toxic; that personal standards needs to be checked

Turning heads and jutting mouths could be for any reason. Like you have really pretty face despite having your body covered. Or you could be dressed in niqab, but you're unbelievably fat, like 300kgs. Or you could have something covering your body totally but it's a very bright color.

It's not up to a woman to read everyone's minds and dress according to a bunch of strangers unknown minds. It is up to men to control themselves.

bitchcrafts:
If preaching the gospel of dressing moderately ( not necessarily the Islamic way) is extremism to you then I think u deserve a whole ward to yourself at the psychiatric hospital.

It's like you can't read.

Standards of modesty are different for everyone.

dauntless15:
one like for you

Lol

PunkyV:


Seems to be her MO, the paan chewing scum

Lol.

dauntless15:
seriously? Men are the worst? When i started liking you, you just have to throw salt in my injury i withdraw all my liking lets start afresh

I'll rephrase. Cheating men are The Worst.

bitchcrafts:
1. You were not spat on because you weren't covering your face! I got a friend there whose wife doesn't wear the 'niqab' ; apparel that covers the face. So, stop telling me about a lie u read in a book written by some bloody Islamophobia!

2. Rape is a disease of a perverted mind that is not visible to the human eye or even to a microscope, so, If Saudi govt is making laws aimed at quarantining the vulnerable (women) against these diseased, then I don't see any reason why we shouldn't be singing their praises of being sensitive . Yes stigmatizing rape victims any day anytime is a bad habit. Personally, I have a principle that frowns at mocking others unless on an objective inclined motive . That said, women should at least try to always shield up and make emselves less inviting to the vicious, diseased and perverted minds, moreover the old saying you're addressed by the way you're dressed. First impression matters most of the time ykno?

Women should try to shield up? Make themselves less inviting?

I just got finished telling you women get raped no matter what they wear. Women that wear full niqab etc. still get raped.

Excuse me if I don't subscribe to your backward views. You can have your views, I'm keeping mine.

And I'm not am islamophobe - I am an extremophobe. Extremism in any matter is dangerous, religious and otherwise.