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Nice2023:
I don't think some men here would take this,there is a growing trend among Nigerian men of today.

And that trend is lazying around,leaving all serious domestic responsibilities for women to carry. Go to every streets in Nigeria now,u will see men,I mean married men doing virtually nothing and feeling good about their new found life,that is,not working and not earning any form of income and wouldn't like to learn any form of trade.

The agonising part is that,they now rely on what the woman or their wives rake in just to survive. Many women especially the married ones are now competing with young girls in having boyfriends all around just for the money to take care of one lazy bunch at home.

Men,rise up to the occasion and stop killing your wives with over work and help them to grow and make them better wives devoid of infidelity. It is ur actions that is pushing ur wives outside.

Stop wasting the little u have on betnaija shops and expect nothing back because u are simply wasting away.

Some of u here may not find this one easy but that is the truth.

Let me just keep quiet because if I talk naw, this table will tremble 🤔🤔

Albertone:
Why would she look cheap by telling him?

That's the question you will ask the OP

I only mentioned what she said

I am not the one that said so

I will not advice her to toast the guy or wait for the to toast her because I will not play any one roles for them

But I only gave his near close to toast ideas

That the area you can ask me questions and I will defend it

So ask me questions about my comment not about Op comment pls

Albertone:
Why do y'all think same way? Asking a man out doesn't make you look cheap.

Go abroad where in 3 years a man might not even ask you out. Nobody will teach you how to ask men out on dates and how to woo them.

Go back and read my comment

This time around read it with caution and understanding

Then come back with a feed back

Nicenancy:
I am in love

Am glad you found a man that you love but you don't want to look cheap by telling him

Well you can start with a daily romantic and sweet messages to gladden his day

He will decode you

Respect him and appreciate whatever he does at any point

Get gift for him if you can afford it, men love gifts and they love surprise ones

Be humble to attract him but don't pretend because it will bust out

Lastly and the most important thing

Does he feel the same way you are felling

Find out before you come here to complain of him not responding

Afonjacrusder:
Having spent over 7 decades here on earth, I have concluded that single mothers are very toxic pretenders. They are also very easy to lay because they have learned the hard way how to attach nothing special to sex. If you are dating a single mother just know she's riding another pimpim. I am not here to advise you not to date or marry one I wish you will [lol] but be sure to regret it.

You can spend a century on this earth, that's for you not us

But don't I'll advice people

As an elder you are supposed to be gathering people to creatya bond not spoiling their mind towards single parents

Will you swear that you don't have family members who are single fathers

Did your society rejects them

What is your lineage has a single mother, will you ostracize her

Pls learn to say things that will give people hope

For every single mother there is a single father else where

If you had a child outside out of your careless life, will you reject the child as you rejected the mother

Ladies of these days are making the mistakes of becoming pregnant to trap a man, any woman that finds herself in that position should deal with it

You can't pin a man down with pregnancy

NoToPile:
You both have solid points.

Thanks dear

Nonywendy:
I can relate this scenario at CMS

Lol 😂

Draslo:
This says a lot about you

You will still read more of my post to understand a lot about me

Keep following

Wetin concern me

darealez:
Luckily she seem to have found a resolve. Good for her then. The foolish man should get lost, and probably just get a divorce. That way, she can live well and proceed with her life.

😂, you are special
Don't thise people saying what they think ans not what should be done

alobright17:
Madam if the said man the lady is cheating on happens to be your husband will you accept her wholeheartedly after she said she's doing so to feed her children!?

Hope you'll hail your husband and call him a hero and say go on and even help others in the same situation?

If your answer to this question is otherwise then there's no justification to what she's doing.

Everyone has reasons for doing bad things.

Wetin concern me
If you bring children to this life feed them and provide for them

Bennycollins:
I fear your type. Na them be this o, guys beware.
No one supports the man's misconduct here. The question is, is that the only means the wife has to survive??
What if she had a caring man but maybe he happened to die, become handicapped or probably lost his job?

Are we talking about a dead man that has since been buried

Or we are talking about an able man who has lost his bearing by neglecting his family but having fun outside with other women

7upnigeria:
Maybe, maybe not. But the sure thing is she was probably raised to depend on a man for EVERYTHING, IRRESPONSIBLE UPBRINGING. Imagine the children not being able to feed because their Dad is not providing. Even if its POS business or selling indomie and egg as a mother, your children should feed. Shes not doing any work except to open her legs for sex and have children. Which woman does that in this century, moreso the husband is irresponsible.

You have said it all
. There was a fault in the upbringing

Draslo:
Shame on you. I was expecting you will write something like she should have gone out to work/hustle. You people are quick to rubbish my gender all the while depending on us for survival.

Shame on you because you want her children to starve while she is thinking of how to get work as if the work search is assured ans automatic

Shame on you for not being ashamed that a stupid man like you is starving his wife and 3 children and still expect her to be faithful while he is busy sleeping with women outside when he could have brought that money home to feed his family

Shame on you that men like you forced women to go out to feed their children

What makes you think this is the first time she is going out or probably the children are his biological children

How will he even know if the children are his biological children when he is busy fucking out

Why is he getting depressed that his wife has a sugar daddy that is feeding his children while he is alive, does he want the children to starve to death

If he had met his wife in a brothel, why is he angry over what she is doing to feed his children

alobright17:
Madam I’ve seen rich married women cheats with small boys they themselves even gives money to, when they’re caught their usual excuses are my husband is too busy for me he doesn’t last in bed bla bla bla

Madam many ladies in the exact or even better position you’re cheats , some cheats and end up blaming devil when they lack excuses of the the husband not having their time or not caring , this is where my point is .

If I understood what your point is, it's centered on those women who cheat and gives reasons that their husband is too busy and doesn't have their time

Let me classify something here

This post that is dragging on, the woman is cheating to feed her children in her husband house because the man has not been providing, is it supposed to be so from the man, even if the woman works or not

In your own comment, you said that those women you mentioned Said that their husband have no time for them

Their case is different those ones are sex starved

The woman issue here is hungry with her kids

So they are doing the same cheating with different reasons

If a man makes love satisfactory to his wife, what will she need another man for ?

If a man provides food at home for his children, why should a woman have a sugar daddy to feed the man's children

Ok if a woman doesn’t respect her husband and doesn't cook for him at home, yet the man provides food at home amd he decides to have a girlfriend that will be giving him what he is lacking at home

Will you blame such man

I will not blame such man

Let's always do the right thing to avoid nonsense

Marriage is not a game of gambling

sweetkev:
Stupid comment. A prostitute spotted.

You are a male prostitute that's why you use that word easily

Come and beat me in my husband house

Jman06:
Why do you always find a reason to blame men in everything As if we don't know that many of you ladies crave men who would keep you at home as housewives? That is why you look for an already made men for marriage? Even after wasting spaces in schools and even when you have gainful employments Now, you're making it look like the man prevented her from working against her own will, like though you were there when he did that.

I love amd respect men especially those who have shown thst they are responsible

They will always earn my respect

My problem with the man was thst he doesn't provide amd still make them starve for days

I never supported her having a sugar daddy amd I Sam's so in my earlier post

Now that she is stranded under man's roof

What do you want her to do in the interim whereas the man is busy rocking his world outside

That money he is spending out, is it not enough to feed his starving family

Some sensible men spend jolly time with women outside but yet the make sure the home is stocked with food

Food is one essential thing in life, no one can survive with empty stomach

I am working and I don't have any reason to have a sugar daddy to will support me to feed my children

In her own case she is jot doing anything, what do you expect

And now the man is depressed

What is making him to be depressed if not what he brought upon himself

lopjohnny:
You were making sense until you said "she had no choice"

Look the choice you saw her made is what is called immediate choice that was needed to feed the children who were neglected by am idiot who doesn't want to provide for them

Maybe as time goes on her sugar daddy will help her to get something doing so that she won't be a more burden to the man who came to her rescue to feed those children

00FFT00:
A woman who doesn't do her work, another woman will do it for her?

Yes and so it goes

isabi2lof:
Look at them wailing, same men that goes out sleeping with prostitutes leaving their children to die of hunger .

When a man cheats on his wife , he's tagged as an alfamail according to Nigeria standard but if a woman does the same , she's tagged as a prostitute .

Hyprocrites everywhere, they can't take half of what they dished out to women.

Most of them are looking for women that will take care of their responsibilities whilst womanizing at the same time.

They should allow women to breath.

You have just narrated all what we have been debating on

What is good for men is equally good for women

For a woman to be in her husband house and have a sugar daddy who takes care of her and the children

Shame on such man

alobright17:
The cheating started way before the lady is just using the lies to cover up, it’ll shock you when the husband open up his own side of the story.

Is like a lady never fabricated a lie that shock you before , they’re manipulators.


So if the sugar daddy is no more the lady will find another sugar daddy? She can’t start any business? Is sugar daddy a work ?

The same way men finds fun in cheating on their partners

Same way some women does that especially when they find themselves in a tight corner

I am married with children
I work in a place that I don't want mention here

When my husband can't provide, especially for the children, I do so with out hesitations
That's because I work and I can afford to raise my home

Now don't be surprise this woman may have just be seating idle at home with no source of income and all the man does is come home pregnant her and so on

Still the man have women he rocks with outside his nome

Is he doing himself or doing his wife

Women who can afford to raise a home because they are working have left irresponsible men long time ago so face their family

A helpless woman have no place to go wi b those children especially if she is hot working

That's when this kind of nonsense things comes up under a man's roof

lomprico:
Gbam!

Lol, you gerit

joyandfaith:
Are u sure the children belong to the husband? He should have divorced the man instead of messing around. Women should learn to provide for themselves and their kids.

I like your statement, yes she should have divorced the man and live her freedom life

But do you think such woman is intelligent enough to do that

She seems to be helpless and may not even have such sense

Dont be surprise that those children may not be the man's biological children and he may not have the sense to go for a DNA test

Now tell me are they not deceiving themselves

7upnigeria:
Staying away from cheating is about the dignity and value you place on yourself and by extension your husband. There are so many women who are separated, widowed who are not sleeping around because they place so much value on themselves. ONE THING IS SURE, the woman has been a hoe all this while. The husband not providing for her is just an excuse to resume her JOB.
The husband's irresponsible behaviour is something very different from her actions and should be handled differently.

If I should follow this comment, then the man must have met her in a brothel amd if that the case

Get a pig and bath a pig
If the pig sees a dirty carnal he will go inside that cannal because that was where you saw the pig living a happy life before you took it home

rockmite:
U guys don't know how difficult it is to care of 3 kids. Kids? Kids can hardly do anything for themselves. In developed world, once u have kids as couples, one person must always be in charge of the kids at a time. U can't do a full time job as woman with 3 kids. My wife left her career for 7 years for our 2 lovely kids. But thank God, she is doing greatly now as a career lady. It is not easy unless u want to compromise d wellbeing of the kids.
Blame the useless man not the poor woman.

This is one respond I was waiting for

Yes I said I don't support her actions or attitude

But the man in ability to provide for his family, made her to start running to where she found herself

Its always good for both parents to have a source of income

Anyway
Thanks very much for this input

I hope they read and reason with you

All of you mentioning my quote
I have not read where you condemn the man for negligence on his family

If you as a man fails to carry out your duty

Deal with what goes after it

Wether the wife is working or not

Go and face your home while you rock outside

Women are supporters to the man

You can't have kids and neglect them yet you have fun out there

Why get pained when some one is assisting you on your job

Those of you calling her a prostitute
She is not a prostitute

We still have men that sex women for money and get paid

No one is talking about that

blackgold2018:
rubbish..Mumu opinion. The woman doesn’t have hands to work abi. And leave the marriage afterwards.

Oh.. sorry it was a ladies comment. Lazy fool

Is a big fool like you that pushes women to go and meet other men

So deal with it

creolehunt:
So if a woman has financial needs, instead of getting a job or business, she goes into prostitution.

Is that correct?

She hasn't been identified as a prostitute

The story didn't say she is into prostitution

The story said she has a sugar daddy not sugar daddies

The question is what made her get a sugar daddy when she has a man she birthed children for

Honestfrend:
God forbid if your man was late; ashawo will be your only source of income,?

Men like you that patronizes ashawo are equally ashawo

So if you are their customer them you are the reason they are out there

Honestfrend:
Keep kwayet must your become a prostitute to become a provider?

What will then happen wen the man dies?

Every one will die, if he idea first his family will not be buried with him

For every prostitute their is a man prostitute patronizing her

If men don't go to them, they won't be out for such

Robchuks77:
U see how u dey sōund like broda solo..
So the only means to escape the hardship is selling her body... Sorry for una

When the man kept her idle at home how do you want her to cope

Most men doesn't want their wife to work because they don't want her to get too expose

What if it happens that the man is no more just suddenly

How do you expect such woman to handle the family

Assuming that woman is working, she can take care of herself and her children in situations like this

But you have to condemn the man who neglected his family

To the extent that the children were starving
No woman can stand the starvation of her child

Robchuks77:
U see how u dey sōund like broda solo..
So the only means to escape the hardship is selling her body... Sorry for una

When the man kept her idle at home how do you want her to cope

Most men doesn't want their wife to work because they don't want her to get too expose

What if it happens that the man is no more just suddenly

How do you expect such woman to handle the family

Assuming that woman is working, she can take care of the children

But you have to condemn the man who neglected his family

To the extent that the children were starving
No woman can stand the starvation of her child

Joey4321:
No where in the story did it mention the lady was paralyzed or armless to make something of and for herself and children.

I agree with you, is there a place it was mentioned that the man was disabled