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Letsmeet:
I'm in my twenties and he's in his mid-thirties, we have been together for about 8 months. When I go to spend a few days with him, we sometimes fight, I try to leave but he suddenly tells me to leave( this happens all the time and he will apologize after that he wants me to stay). The last fight, he made me sleep in the guest room because I didn't open up what made me upset that afternoon and I cried . He has never hurt my physically, but I can't say the same about emotionally because words get to me easily. I feel like someone who can be easily discarded from his life when I have done nothing but add value to his life. I have my own issues, but I do not cheat, I'm homely, I'm independent so I don't need financial assistance from him and I'm quite open handed and contribute equally to the house whenever I'm around. I loan him, he pays back. I think he's a good person but it's always one complaint to another. It could be as petty as me not washing the tiles outside as often as I should when I'm around, me grumbling to start making food because I feel it's too late to cook, me not giving him enough sex for a few days etc.
Am I overreacting? Am I the toxic one? Or am I not doing enough?

I think the two of you need proper orientation and friendship and courtship

Both of you refuse to understand each other and so you will keep having issues

You are an independent woman and you said you don't need his money, us possible you are not going to be humble to him

He is observant of your attitude and wants to impose authority on you because he knows that you are proving that you can take care of yourself, so why the control

In summary both of you are not fully matured enough to have a relationship and be ready to tolerate each other

EmiDon11:
Met this girl a virgin.
After some months of dating, i broke up with her.
She cursed me that i will continue dumping women my life, that i will be confused and it will affect my marriage.
I thought the curse was irrelevant but omo, e be things o.
I ve dated 12 girls since then and kept dumping them after having sex with them. (3 of them are after my life, threatning to shoot me on sight)
I am planning on going back to beg her to lift the curse, but for the meantime, what do i do?

So every virgin a man sleeps with and leave her for another, receives a curse ?

My question is, did you promise her something just to break her virginity

Did you just do it because you were trying to make the fun of her after sleeping with her

What did you do to her that is disturbing your life

At times we takes things for granted because we fill, they can't find you and so nothing dey happen

The girl in this picture can't just lay a curse on you for nothing

I don't want to know what transpired between you and her

Just listen to your conscience, if you know that your conscience is telling you that you are being haunted because of how you treated her that made her to curse you,

Don't bother going to any church

Look for her and ask her to forgive you and withdraw the curse, if you are lucky she did withdraw it, go to God in your closet and ask for forgiveness

There after, take correction and stop breaking women's heart

So that you don't live a miserable life

Tourist123:
I landed Nigeria yesterday from the US after 2years of Japing. Nothing seems to have gotten better, things have become very worse! How exactly do people live here in Nigeria? So many people begging you for money. Gosh, I can stay in this country for longer than 3 weeks. I can’t! I just cant!!!
The cab i took from the Airport to my apartment charged my 13k for a 35 mins drive It got me wondering how civil servants with families survive in this country considering how expensive things have become and salaries are constant.

Continue to dey show off

So you came back after two years, non of your family members came to pick you up from the airport

Not even your sibblings

Dey play

makeherscream:
🤔 I just hope so , anyway thanks for your concern , Jah bless you

Amen 🙏 and bless you too

makeherscream:
exactly what I will do I want to keep an eye on her now, we just finish our late night conversation and she have been giving me all her attention ever since she bought the phone ,

no change of attitude yet Sha , she's a good girl Sha just praying to God let it not be what am thinking ,

because it will affect my life somehow I pray against suicide oo , I love her so much and am sure she feels same for me ,

No wonder some people hardly fall in love this days , falling deep in love is very dangerous it's not good for the health swears , I just hope Sha is not what am thinking , if it happens and I survive the shock ehnnnn omo I will never fall in love again oo

Just relax, you could be having a hard working girl who loves you and wants to assist you

Nice2023:
Why do most govt employees end up retiring very poor and wretched.

What might have caused it?

Consider the followings

Poor salary

Lack of planning due to poor salary

Access to loan but can't service the loan because of poor salary

Having too many children to train out of the poor salary

Not every one is lucky to work where they collect bribe to support the poor salary

Living above income

Lastly, the job they do protect them to an extent that you won't notice that they are poor and once they retire, their true personal value appears immediately

That's when you can still access if they were actually poor or rich when in service

xammax:
Hello,

Sorry this may not be the right place but I believe I will meet the right audience here.

This is my first time renting a house, I saw a good house, I liked it and was ready to pay for it.

So my question is when I want to pay for my rent, I’m I not suppose to meet the landlord for the payment and tenancy agreement?

Now the agent is telling me that the landlord is not available cause he has many buildings and most of his tenants have not meet him and bla bla bla.

So my advise is, does this make sense. I for one, not willing to go ahead with such deal but I’ll like to hear experiences of people. What do you think of this.

Thank you

I think you need to go back to that same house and ask questions from the tenants their about the landlord and who they know as the care taker

That's the only place you will know the real truth about the landlord and agent connection

Fineman2:
Hello, I am a 34year old lady who has been unlucky with love. I finally met the man of my dreams or so I thought last year and we have been talking marriage. So, we decided it was time to meet each other’s family. The day I was taken home by my fiancée to meet his parents, while my fiancée and his mum went upstairs to talk, his father made a pass at me. I waved it off. But I do not know how he got my number and he has since been pestering me for an affair.

Few days later, the mother called me and asked that I leave his son alone as she thinks I am too decent for him. She insists that he has no other plan than to waste my time as he has a wife and child already. I was speechless. Later that day, I confronted my boyfriend and after several threats, he confessed that he had a daughter awhile back but he has never been married and has no relation with the mother of his child other than co-parenting.

I love my man so much but how has he been able to keep this away from me? Why did he? What else could he possibly be keeping from me? Which version do I believe? The mother’s or his? Why would his father be asking me out?
What is the best way to handle this? I do not know what to do. Please advice me.

The question now is, is this guy ready for marriage and responsibility

Is he prepared to settle down base on your observation

Does he tell lies, is he secretive

Is his mum telling you the truth or she wants you to leave her son

As for his dad, his own is a small case, you can keep ignoring him and stay away from staying with him alone

My concern now is that for a future father in law to be behaving like that

A future husband but boy friend to be hiding something from you

Is that family really organize
Are they real or any one there is just doing any how

I think you still need time to find answers to the above question

Who knows what more will crip out of them

makeherscream:
Good afternoon my fellow nairalanders I greet you all ,

my girlfriend who is still an apprentice bought a new phone yesterday , I was surprised when she came to my house yesterday holding the new phone on her hand ,

When I ask her how and where she get money to buy the phone , she said she have been saving money since January to buy the phone, am wondering where she get all the money she has been saving ever since from ,🤔

because she's just an apprentice she's not earning salary or is it the little 5k ,10k 15k that I'm giving her she was saving or is it what am thinking?🤔 I just hope is not what I am thinking 🙁 hmmmmm Nigerian girls will not kill me ,

She lost her phone last year November I promise her I will get her a new phone that she should be patient,

and have been planning to surprise her with a new phone on her birthday , her birthday is just few weeks from now June 20 ,

Nairalanders how una see this matter

Well keep watching her you will notice if she has another guy or she is still with just you alone but saved the money to buy the phone

But I would have appreciated her if she has brought half of the saved money and ask you to help her complete the money to buy a new phone

Like I said, watch her loyalty now that she has proved that she can do it herself

lovediehatelive:
So I came back yesterday and was told my neighbor just gave birth.

Well, that wasn't the problem until I saw her today.

But guess what?

Her stomach was still big. I was confused. If someone gives birth, shebi her stomach will reduce to normal?

If not for people visiting and that I saw the new born baby with my two naked eyes, I wouldn't have believed!


Is is it how things are

She could have given birth through CS
But whatever it will go down gradually

Pius4luv2023:
Please I want to stay anonymous I just open a new account, I have a girlfriend, we have been dating for the past 2 years now but I'm not yet ready to get marry to her yet because I'm not yet Ok, I'm Still trying to survive, I'm doing a menial job to survive for now, to cut the long story short I received a text message from her this morning that she is going to commit suicide, I was scared when I saw her message this morning, i have to call her immediately becus I was afraid, I have to compose a message to her that she should be patient that everything is going to be ok it just a matter of time that she should endure a little bit thou I don't always give her money whenever she ask , she is very understand, after sending her a text message this morning she reply me that she isn't happy that she has no husband no happiness no money that she is fed up about her life that she is going to prison, here is her text message she sent to me this morning and I'm not ready to get marry for now thou I'm a divorcee, I already have 2 kids with my ex , i hope she isnt teasing me, I will need a mature advice from you guys should I marry her or should I be patient till when every thing will be ok with me ?

You know what, I think you are her last hope on earth and if you love her, despite that you don't have money you can propose to her

Show her love as every thing is not money

Keep her warm and show her affection this her trying period

She wants you to get married to her or she kill herself

I don't know why she is having such in her mind

Despite no money, let her know that you still love her and will always love her

Give her a certain period of time to save some money, maybe 3/6 months time to go see her parents for them to know that you are going out with her

If after that she becomes pregnant both of you should keep the pregnancy and continue your relationship

Though her suicide intension is not a threat but you don't want to feel guilt if she does that and died because of the reasons she gave, yet you are free to marry her

But if you don't love her, honestly she may even take snipper and die right in your presence in your house
That's a murder case for you and only the grace of God will bring you out of it

olumided:
I met this woman around 2020 and was interested in her, she is a single mother (a girl around 5yrs old). I approached her and she agreed even her mum rejected the proposal but later they agreed. I went to their house to tell her parent my plan to marry their daughter.

Around, April 2021, she moved in with me and we are still living together with her baby girl. But in December 2021, we had misunderstanding, she is very quiet and calm, though I am older than her with 8yrs gap. She seems not to be taking to correction especially if she is angry and she is not easily provoked, there was a time, her ex called her, the father of that kid and I told her not to call him again and she should limit her conversation with him except if she is willing to go back to him.

Before we even started living together, she told me then that she want the type of husband that she can change her daughter name to his own but I said, it is not a big deal but I can't tolerate that because of the father surfaced later in future, he can sue me and also, she herself can also deny me later in future or even tell the kid that I am not her biological father. Though, she said the father doesn't even know the baby which is a complete lie.

So, December 2021, we had misunderstanding and I told her we can't continue in that journey again, though she apologized but within one week of that misunderstanding she had a thorough conversation with her ex, which I deduced from the talk that she was willing to go back to him because I recorded everything but she was not aware her phone was in recording mode. I told her, within weeks of misunderstanding, she still have the audacity to be negotiating with her ex and she said someone told her to be answering his call so that he can be sending his daughter school fee, I told her so since all this while, he has been the one footing the girl school fee and food right? She apologized later and we moved on. Last week, I told her to unlock her phone that I need to check something because she password her phone and WhatsApp and she refused, she said what is it that I want to check? I told if she fail to unlock that phone that it will be the end of our relationship and it means she end it herself and she is free to do anything she want and I won't send her away but I will move away from her. After some minutes, she now unlocked the phone which I believed she must have deleted some messages and she now said I should collect the phone but I dejected and told her that was gone, that I have made up my choice.

Ever since then, she didn't apologize and she said she will be fine. Though, I trust her that she is not promiscuous but she might want to try it and I only come home once in a while due to the distance of my job. Now, I have planned to send her money for food for next month and after this, I will stop giving her anything again. And nothing join us together yet because she is yet to conceived.

I think she is still holding on with you to know if the father of her daughter will ask her to reunite with him because I don't understand why she is still with you and still being stubborn over an issue that she would have just hand over the phone to you, when you requested for if she doesn't have any thing she is hiding

Giving her food money or no food money is not the main issue now

I think the issue now is that you have to inform her that you want her to go visit her parents and stay some time with them

You know why

You kept some one daughter and be sleeping with her, another's person's baby mama

Thats a big risk, if anything happens to her, that marriage rights that you have not performed will be performed dead or alive

Save yourself of that situation

When she goes back, change your keys, take a break and ask yourself if you are ready to marry her or you still want free relationship

The choice is yours

But it's obvious that you are no longer interested in her again

Aurelius1:
I got a job as a hotel manager some months ago. The hotel is a bit far from my house and I spend an average of N600 on transportation daily and the salary is 45k per month. Right now I'm fed up with the job.
The director is a man who doesn't take advice from anyone. He insults me at will and he says I'm stealing his money, even though he has no proof. I always leave the scene whenever he's around because he always has something to say and insult me at will even when I am not at fault.
He has gone round telling everybody that I and the bar man usually connive to steal his money which is completely false. The worst part is that he always threatens me with sack. If not for the fact that I have kids to feed I would have resigned. I usually have this feeling of fear whenever am leaving for work in the morning. Just this morning he deducted 12k from my salary just because the security man resigned and went away with a student matress. Right now I am in real distress because I am just so, so sad.
I just need some words of encouragement/discouragement because I am gradually loosing it.

Pls be calm, is quite painful but don't loose it

Continue with the job at the right time you will leave him when he needed you most

By then it will hurt him more

Hanneque:
You are right @ahnie

First of all sorry for thr abuse you went through from that beast of a man

I don't care if you are the cause of his problem, but he is just wicked and most wicked men vents their anger on their woman because they believe that's where they can show their strength on

I may not have a job to offer to you

But for your own sanity and for the good life of your daughter

Forget about that man for now and find your square root as soon as possible

If possible consider yourself not having anything to do with him

Marriage is not bye force

Go and find your bearing and once you can stand again on your feet, start a new life of self happiness

You escape death from his hand and may meet that death if you enter his hands again

Just face your child and rearrange your life

He will come to you when he doesn't get any woman to torment

But that may be the worst offer if you accept it

All you need now is to find your bearing that's all so that you can have a voice and some money with you

xin5:
I feel so relaxed about life generally. Even when I'm broke and I don't have the money at hand, I laugh because everything my parent own is all going to be mine in few years time. I don't bother them about money that much I just sit and enjoy the little I get.
Too much inheritance, including what they inherited from their own parents in different state and locations, that's all mine. Sometimes I don't know if I can take care of everything.
I already know the ones I put up for sale like my maternal grandmother side we rarely visit there.I have so many future plans, but wouldn't want to sound like I'm praying for my parents death. I love them so much but as a growing man I have to plan now.

From your write up, I doubt if you have any plans for yourself or any ambition

What you are after is what you are inheriting from your parents

I hope you know that he who buys lands, gives birth to a son who sells land

Dey play
Dont go and start planning on how to build yourself

When you get married, you will understand better

Fineman2:
My name is Dora.

I am 35 years old and everybody keeps reminding me that age is no longer on my side.

My fiance and I have been dating for more than one year and we are getting married soon.

My fiance is 40 years old and he has never been married.

The relationship was really good when we started but now that our wedding is in a few weeks time, he has shown how controlling he can be.

From the choice of the wedding dress, to the bridesmaids selection, to the colour of the day, he wants to be in charge.

He also wants his mum to buy the cloth for our engagement as well as buy our wedding ring.

He does whatever his family says without seeking my opinion and it almost seems as if I am not the one getting married.

I told my parents about how this makes me feel and they just asked me to endure because I am getting older but I really fear for what is going to happen after the wedding.

Are these not red flags I should run from?

I am confused, please advise me.

I think she should go ahead for the fact that maybe, is the husband to be that is providing for the finance of those dresses and ring

Because I can't imagine providing my own money ans my husband to be will be detecting who he will impose to buy things for me
That's by the way

Go ahead with the marriage and if he continues to be acting naughty after the marriage

Then she too will inform him that this is not how we started and we don't have to keep going this way

If he refuses to change you too adopt a way of following him so that he will feel it too

profsomebody:
If truly this is what happened, then it's a no brainer that the biological father is a useless person who deserves to be cancelled. However, all we're trying to base our judgement on is one person's side of the story. I've broken up with a gf in the past because I caught her cheating. Do you expect her to be sincere whenever she tells the story of why we separated to her friends and coworkers who all knew us to be lovebirds? Of cause, not. She'll most likely do and say things to portray herself as the victim. We've seen cases where a young guy gets a girl pregnant and the girl's parents make sure he never gets to see the pregnant girl or whatever comes out of the pregnancy again. We've seen people run away to be with a richer, "better" man. Would such people happily tell their children that they left their dad because they found a "better deal"? Now, no reasonable man wants to get married to the daughter of a dangerous woman because most times, the closest person to your wife is her mum, so you want to be sure the mum isn't a bad person. I know that you're a woman yourself and might naturally want to assume a woman is always the victim, but inside this life, a lot dey happen. Many men are terrible, but some women too would do things that will shock even the devil.

Well said
In this case, should the girl future be kept on hold because of the parents mistakes

Secondly, even if the mother may tell lies about she and her father, does that made the girl not to be communicating with her dad up to this present age of the girl

If her dad has ever been in her life, won't the girl be the one to insist her dad must be around on that day

Well I think the father was never there, so the lady couldn't even have any synergy with her dad

We can't keep the on hold, let her marry if they both agree

One day that man will surface

Tradition didn't insist that the father must be present

But tradition will also blame the man not not being in her life all through till she is about getting married

We can't reap where we didn't sow, let's keep sentiments apart

If it happens that the mother lied against the father, let her face it when the time comes

Successonpoint:
I hope my story will motivate someone to take charge of their life.
I lost my job last year July, and so a friend of mine introduce me to a poultry farm where I am earning 22k per month.

A man with wife and two kids o, my wife was not happy with the job even though she has been supportive in her own little way. And then, she suggested that I should learn handwork, and so I decided to learn welder.

On getting to the man, he told me I will spend 2 years o, I will pay 70k to learn from him. Me way I no get even 20k, I begged him to collect 50k and he agreed.

Then he asked me to make part payment of 30k. I went home and told my wife, and then she gave me 20k to give to the man. I gave the man 20k and he collected it, to my greatest surprise within 2 months I started doing the welding job perfectly.

On my own, I have paid up the remaining 30k with small small repairs job he allowed me to be doing for people. And by God's grace, I have started saving up for my tools.

I really thank my wife for the advice and the welder too. The man has been a tremendous blessing to me in many way. He even told me yesterday that with the look of things I may be free from him in 2 months time except I decided to still remain with him for a while.

Please take charge of your life and stop depending on people for survival.

I salute your courage

Your case is different because you are will to follow advice given to you

You were detrimental to face it and surmount any obstacles that will deter you

You are ready to humble yourself and throw pride away

You have always taken advice from your wife and not the type that ignores their wife's advice

You succeded because you are determined to make a difference instead staying idles at home and be suspecting your wife movements because that's what idle men does

God bless your wife for her support and encouragement on you

Congratulations to you because you will never beg for food

lovediehatelive:
Tenants have no business with the exterior of a house.

No need painting.

If we should go by this analogy, the house will look funny.

Let's say you painted the outside part of side of the house blue.
Your neighbor next door decide to paint his own part green.

Another, white, another neighbor paints her own pink.


Just imagine how clownish the building will end up.

As far as building is concerned, you only paint the interior of your spaces if you wish.

The outside is for the landlord.

That's true

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

For the fact he is your junior, he must respect you and respect the family values

I will not say give him time because he has grown wings and it need to be clipped

You know what, one bad day that he will insult you or your mum
Beat him and beat him very well with a hot slap

That will pass a war signal to him
So he will either adjust or get worst

Beat him very well and let him know that this is just the beginning and if he doesn't change his attitude you will beat him again

Just target him one day that he will insult your mother to your face

That beating will reset his brain

How can a teenager be this insultive, what happens when he becomes a full adult

If you don't take charge now you will loose your status and position as a senior brother

MetaBroadband:
Good morning mature men and women in the house. Please I need your help on this topic.

My Fiancee told me about how her biological dad abandoned her and her mum after getting her mum pregnant.

Her mum later married another man who adopted her as his child.

Now she's grown and I've proposed to her, I wanted to go for her official introduction and list collection.

Would it not be nice to hear the biological father's opinion? Should I just ignore the fact that the man is still alive and proceed with the marriage arrangement?

Although she said I should not bother about that, but this is Nigeria and as an Akwa Ibomite I don't think it's proper. Although she's against me trying to find out about the man's opinion. Should I care?

What can you say about this?

Note: she only told me that the man abandoned them, but what if it was her mum that actually took her away?

This is very sensitive

Dont go and start asking for an issue you can't solve or get anything out of it

I think you can speak with the mother to know the situation on ground

If she is able to explain to you about what happened

Whatever she tells you accept it

Then ask her, who you will be paying her bride price to

If she said it's her step dad, so let it be

If she says it's to her, you can tell her you did prefer to pay it to a father figure

I think she will handle that aspect base on your request

If a man who pregnant a woman, denys her and abandoned the mother and her child

And was never in the picture of the child till she is set to marry, why should the man have a seat on her marriage day

You can't reap where you did not sow

lovediehatelive:
The exterior of the house o.

Not your rooms.

The outside

If have the money I will paint if not I will not paint

But I will not likely paint

Tenants no dey plant flower

lovediehatelive:
Food, shelter and clothing.

These are the basic needs of man.

A friend has been house hunting for some months now and he's seriously getting frustrated because what he's looking for isn't forth coming.


Now he found an apparment that has almost all he wants, but the issue is that it is unpainted.

They've plastered it but not painted yet.

From findings, it has been this way for some years now and people are living in the unpainted house.


As for me, I can't rent an unpainted house no matter what.


I've even seen some living in uncompleted buildings.

Can you live in an unpainted house?

Can you rent an uncompleted house?

Painting a house is a thing of your choice

Yes I can rent unpainted house if that's what I can afford as at the time I am searching for accommodation then paint it over time, it's a normal regular thing

kekakuz:
My first daughter happens to live with her mum and i only get to see her Like once a week or less.

I have noticed that when ever she talks to me on phone, she talks like an adult. She says things only an experienced person would say.for example, she called me to buy 3 cakes for her birthday and I questioned why.

She said because the last time I bought her cake was for her 1st birthday and I have to buy for all the years I did not buy.recently, I asked her who is God and she said God is a spirit that lives in heaven and is on the water and he created everything from the the water.

Even though this sounds incoherent and funny, I don't expect such answer from a 4 years old girl.

Today, I called her to myself and ask her what of her mum and she answered "which one" I was shocked .

I proceeded to ask her how many mum does she have and she said "my mum dies long time ago and this one is her second mum" I was shocked to the bone.

So I separated her from her siblings and asked deeper questions even tho I didn't want her to feel scared. She also told me she had 2 othere siblings and called their names. Told me where she lived before and this is where I stopped.

I have always wanted to belive In Reincarnation and this is proof before my very eyes .

Guys what do you think and how do I handle this

She is a special child, however you need spiritual eyes to unravel who she is and her mission on earth

She needs to be protected because she has a lot to say

Keep your eyes on her pls

But you have to take her to a prayer house where more will be revealed about her

Finnese001:
Please help a brother, your contributions are highly appreciated

There is nothing like unloving some one

If you do to want the person again, stop seeing him or her that's all and end the affair

Veetee:
Please house

I will be very brief about this, I recently moved in to lagos, but as lagos is I had accommodation issues .
My elder brother who is married offered to help my renting a 3 bedroom apartment. But he told me that he will be making use of one of the rooms, which obviously i had no choice than to agree.

After settling in, I noticed he brings random girls to the house to sleep with, infact there are times he sleeps with 4 different girls.
He doesnt even use protection. The wife had before now complained to me, I didnt understand how bad the situation is until I saw things for myself. There is no week he doesnt bring in girls , the only time he slows down is when he is short of money.

I am fed up and scared of this attitude. he has a regular side chic, who is still tired of his cheating habit and has left him several times, but he keeps begging her to come back. I wonder how a man has such strength for sex.

I am planning on telling his wife what the situation is, although she is aware. I want to advise her to run for her life before it gets too late
he might infect her , but some friends has advised me against such moves, as it could destroy the marriage.

please what do you think i should do in this situation.

you can't do anything

If you must advice the wife, just tell her to always use condom with her husband

If she ask you why, tell her is fir her own health sake since she complains about her husband wayword life style

Newyorkitis:
I usually thought along this line until recently a married woman told me something very insightful and which convinced me view it in another light:

She said: No woman enters a marriage to get divorced, however they get divorced due to the advice they get from bad married/dovoreced/ single mothers who they keep and listen to as friends.

Let me give a scenario: a married woman is invited by her divorced friend/ a single mother that she should come to get together which will end at night. The married woman says that she must inform her husband to grant her permission.

The divorced/ single mum will likely reply this way: you are trying oh, me I can't take orders from any man to enjoy myself when I stressed out (which means the married friend is living under bondage.
Before you know it, the married friend starts rethinking if it's a good thing to seek permission before going out.
This repeatedly done, gives.room for lack of submission and consequently, divorce.
This is just one case out of many.

A man must know the friends his wife keeps; this is very important.

That's it

sniperr007:
People enter marriage with the plan to get married. They create scenarios and prepare their mind to divorce.

So yes. People enter marriage with intention to divorce.

Waooo, I wish you to experience that so that you will confirm your statements

plsdisvirginme:
Why are some women very stupid?
I went to visit my friend
A lady approached me to help her out charge her phone inside my car.
After 30mins, the phone didn't charge.
Seeing how depressed she is because for the past two weeks no light in their area.
I have to buy fuel for my friend's generator so that this animal can charge her phone.
I helped her charge the phone and I left.
When I got home I discovered that I lost my ID card.
I told her through text to help me look around their vicinity if she will see it.
She said no.
She did bother to ask me if I have seen my id card.
I have to move on.
A few days ago I texted her that I will like us to hang out.
She said she will not be around.
I said when will you be aroubd.
The response I got from her shocked me.
She said Oga what do you want.
I have vowed never to help any lady but to bleep as many as possible ruthlessly.
Women don't deserve pity.

I am yet to know exactly what she did that made you to classify all women to be same

You that offered to buy fuel and run the Gen to satisfy her and still lost your ID card, still went on to request for a date and was rejected

Are you not the real stupid man

Who send you

You dont just start insulting a particular gender because your ego was bruised

If she accepts and you sleep with her, you will come out to say women are loose

Just deal with your stupidity

Something must kill a man, but unfortunately it's mostly women

Hathor5:
I also prefer patience and talking over beatings. God give us a lot of patience.

Amen 🙏

Adekaka12345:
In addition, the children from broken home didn't play any part in the break. It's a factor that cannot either affect or change.

It really affected them because they are neither here nor their with the parents

Each of the parents are staying separately and you go to this parent he or she has something to say and you go to another same thing

It takes a rich parents lots of money to fill in the gap of the other partners vacuum