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DamianDd:
My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.

I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.

But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true

Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"

It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.

What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.



What's your thoughts on the matter?

All you said was because of Anger

I feel for dad when he said, when he have money he will be paying the rent

I think you should go to him to apologize to him for reminding him that you pay the rent and after that, dash him some money to go and entertain himself

Next time talk with cation

Am sure he is feeling that word

Wizywiz:
HAPPY birthday to you Chief...wish you all good things

Pls I stopped responding to that mechanic of a guy

He has gone senile

I will be glad you don't respond to any of his mentions

He is supposed to be the class prefer of those in psychiatric hospital yaba

Oxfordgrade:
Just like Samsung mobile phone with nice features but bad screen, majority of our faithful wife is said to be liken to that.
Without wasting time, the following are the common deffect found in most of our faitful wife attitude: 1.Lazy 2. Not goal oriented 3. Lack of creativity 4. Lazy in bed 5. Lack good dress sense 6. Not always too neat 7. Religious fanatist

Many stories here plus personal experience, has been my reliable source to have reach this unveriviable conclusion.

Your free to add or refute. May God bless our faithful women_ and give their husband grace and patient to correct them in love.... Amen!

Men wants all goodies of a woman in one pack

The moment she starts working she can afford lovely dresses

She will understand that she need to look good and charming because she servers the public and not her husband alone

Her sense of dresses will highly improve as she will wear beautiful clothes and her gowns will be knee length, her shoes will be high Heals and she will be visiting salons to have a pedicure so that she will look lovely on sandals and slippers, including under her feet

She will wake up very early to dress for work and catch up with staff bus just to be in the office

She will be online most times because she has mails to respond to

She will be using high end phones that befits her status and will be in phone all the time because she has to do her office work even from home as the case maybe. By the time she does all these things you will be accusing her of not being faithful and all sort of nonsense biased statements on her

When she gets home she will be too tired to even prepare meals and may choose to buy fast food for all or ask her husband to microwave food

As a career woman she will have goals and will be oriented yet focus on achieving her goals

She will. Watch porns and understand that sex style doesn't end with missionary style, that there are more styles to explore

Lastly she will have just little time for religion and may not be punctual with church activities because of her schedules

Look you guys should appreciate women and stop looking at where to pick faults from her

Give your women chance and power to rise

Ngozi Okonjo Iwuala was given such authority by her father who educated her and her husband who never restricted her from achieving her goals

We still have more women in that category

You can compare the above and choose what you want in a woman

Tayorshd87:
Can I divorce a wife full of stretch mark all over her body after birth?
because presently i don't feel attracted to her anymore because anytime she is naked her arm thighs laps etc are all full of stretch mark and she added fat after birth which caused all this like am not interested again 😭😢😭

Although she be 99% wife material but 🤔

What can I do on this case cos am feeling like getting married to someone else.. 😡

Dey play

piperv:
Am feeling so downcasted, am the only one feeling the pressure from left and right in carrying the family burden, whilst still dealing with how to survive on my on. Eg I pay house rent for where my sibling and mum stays, I pay mine too cos am in sch, I still sort myself through schooling, right now am feeling so much pressure. How can I stop thinking and feeling depressed pls.

Why dud you load yourself with so much load and you are a student

Dont you know that schooling Isa stressful

Seat your mum and sibblings down to let them know that you are going berserk

Reduce some so that you can u can concentrate and graduate from school successfully

eni070:
I own a three bedroom apartment but due to undeveloped area that the house was built I move out to a developed area. I was call by my neighbor that live with the undeveloped area that someone is interested renting the house and he want to use it for a clinic. I don’t know if I should rent it out or not. I don’t know if they can handle the house well.

I think you need to visit the person that you wants to rent it to

Both of you can meet there to discuss, find out what he needs it for

If he is a Doctor ask him of his MMA ID card to be sure he is a registered Doctor so that one day they will not seal your house for being use as a quack Doctor operation place

If he can't defend that he is a doctor

Then it's a no for you

Alternatively, carve out a self contain apartment to put there out for rent because it's not good to abandon that house just like that

Regie2bless:
people need to know der health status, people can actually drop dead in their sleep due to sudden cardiac arrest, trust Nigerians dem go start to find family members wey fly kill d man, but of a truth most people are just moving without being known dey are actually not sound. A simple blood pressure check will do the magic.

tonywonder:
One of the prominent actors in the Nigerian movie industry, Mr Brymo Uchegbu, otherwise known as Don Brymo, is dead.

This demise was confirmed by one of his colleagues, Mr Mayor Ofoegbu, who is also a well-known movie director in Nollywood.

According to the information gathered, the actor, who prominently plays the role of an Igwe (king) in movies, passed on in his sleep last night.

Mr Ofoegbu, who posted a quote, “Plan for tomorrow but live for today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed,” accompanied this with a condolence message.

“I wrote those lines on my WhatsApp status yesterday evening. My man, my 5 & 6, Don Brymo Uchegbu, passed in his sleep.

“I received the shocking news this morning and had to verify from his family. Chai! Don Brymo my manchi. It’s had to say goodbye. Nnukwu nwa na Enugu ukwu,” he posted.

Don Brymo, who hails from Anambra State, was born in 1966, but officially joined in the film industry in 2000, and has acted in several flicks.

Source: Business Post

https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2023/06/15/nollywood-actor-don-brymo-dies-at-56/%3famp=1

I love his acting skills, may his soul rest with God

MechanicMike:
bro. .you, ForChrist1, Persephone1, obembet, Okoroawusa, Ebenezer2021, & every other guy on nairaland (me, included), seeems to be intressted in only frozen70.. WHY SIR?

is she a wifey material & is she halfcast or lightskin & does she loook like a londoner living in london sir?

Am very sure that weed has done so many things to you

You need to be evaluated by a specialist on psychiatric matters

Goalnaldo:
Ekpa amu nnadii! no oofeincse!

Hapu onye anwa, agwu di be ha

Obanai:
I don't think explaining my problems are of any use since even people around and those that claim to care no longer look me in the face.

How can I live this world without going through the pain of the soul exiting the body?
I've become heartless? Filled with hatred!
I don't want to see anyone around me alive.... I sometimes wish I can kill them myself.

Don't talk about my family loving me..... All of them only see me as a failure.
My friends.... I feel they hate me.
Relatives? None even reply me.
Pastor? Like I give a damn about them.

Thought of chaing religion if I'll find peace but I guess I can never find peace.

What can I do to leave this world.... Without pain.

Can you tell us what exactly is wrong with you that you are already tired of life

Because you don't even know if you are going to heaven or hell

Whats your problem exactly

Whats your age

Why do you feel your family has nothing to offer

What do you want Nairalanders to you do for you

Wizywiz:
good morning Nneoma...hope ur good this morning.. have a blessed and lovely day...u are always special

Am good nawnnem
Good morning to you
Noru ofuma

Noblemanonpoint:
This is the first time i ever used hurtful words on her and called it off. The other instances have just been quarreling over trivial stuff but we never said hurtful things.

I'm trying so hard to control this and i apologized the moment i knew i messed up.

She said she has accepted my apology which i doubt because she's changed and i just can't bear it.

Ok then

Give her time, she may come back to you

But keep checking on her on social media platforms

While you work on yourself

But the ability to stop getting angry any how is in you

If you believe, you will change it

Gabreil2121:
I have never made my girl cum in our 8 months relationship and have been putting more effort on that I just promised her to make her cum tomorrow what’s it the right thing to do?

So far you are not a one minute man

Ask her how she wants it and be fully ready to be patient with her

Some women needs extra lessons to understand how they are wired by their own nature

Not her fault anyway

telkevog:
Please, I don't really understand the reason behind my landlady's action. She spreads her washed underwear outside as she goes out.
Meanwhile, I'm the only tenant in that compound and we've been very cordial. We've not had any issue at all. She is a widow. She has three boys and two among them are in school, while she stays with last one.
The first time this happened, I reluctantly packed her clothes together with the underwears(panties and inner tights), as well as her child's own to my room when it started raining. Since then, she has been doing it repeatedly. The last time I did morning shift, the clothes were drenched. So she jokingly said that it seems I worked morning today, and I said yes. She said no wonder their clothes were drenched, even mine.

Now, my question is; is she not worried that a young man will keep custody of her panties till she comes back from her business? Is she trying to pass a massage? Will it be wrong if I allow rain to beat the panties one day, as a way to tell her how uncomfortable I feel? Should I play along to see what is in her mind?

Please, I need your advice, no insults. I'm really bothered about it.

As it is now , you must finish what you started

The first mistake you made was packing those undies in the first place

Dey play well well

Noblemanonpoint:
Hey guys. I really need advise on how to resolve this issue with my woman with whom i am already planning marriage with.

So let me start with the root cause here. I am a very reserved person but can be quick to anger even over trivial issues, this is something my woman is very aware of and I'm trying so hard to change but she's okay with it, especially as i could never bring myself down to hitting a her in a fit.

There was a misunderstanding btw the two of us earlier and i abruptly called the relationship off and left her. I was so pissed due to external factors that made me angry all day.

She later sent me some msgs and we talked. I realized once again that i was actually the one at fault because i didn't pay attention. I noticed she was deeply hurt by my words and was accusing me of always causing fights. She cries easily and i was hurt seeing her in that state.

I have apologized to her and promised to go for anger management but she's still resenting me for saying that.

Please, what do I do here?

It's like i broke the trust and she still resents me and acting so cold for making that childish move. I honestly don't want this to linger, else the relationship would be over. She thinks i want freedom with other girls that have been hovering.

How do i truly extend the olive branch and get on a clean slate here guys?

If pride is your problem then you still have a long way to go

But you really have to work on your anger because marriage itself have the main anger triggering agent

So how do you intend to cope with that, couple with when you have children that will still trigger your anger

You can see that it's a long thing

The lady in question understands you and your behavioral attitude and she is willing to cope with it

But your keep using naughty words to worsen a case that she is trying to deal with

If you don't find your way to bring her back, the next relationship you will enter may not tolerate such from you and that will make things worst

So the best option for you is to go to her and this time around tell her to assist you on how to control anger and there after let her accompany you to a counselor who will talk sense to you

Wizywiz:
choose fire....I can't choose any one of them.....leave Frozen70 she is special oooooo...can't mix her with any ooo

🤣 🤣 🤣

Meri2020:
Yes I know about been a sales rep. I have tried severally but I wasn't taken. Most prefer men and people who can drive. I got the nursing form already. My exam is month end. I will write it with hope of finding a way somehow. Hopefully before then, I can find a way. Thanks for your input.

You studied Bio Chem as first degree, that's nice

So which school of nursing form did you buy from

Where are your parents residence in

Where is the location of the Nursing School

What the duration of the course

homesteady:
I've seen some cases where some men don't eat their wife's food because she made him angry or they had a little disagreement!!But is this really a punishment?? Who bears the brunt of the punishment?? Is it not the man?? LOL!!
I need married Men and women in this forum to give us answers!!

This shouldn't exceed a meal or two meals of which by then they can make amends

But once it gets beyonds 24hrs

The man is dealing with himself

Zuji15:
Good day nairalanders. Sorry to bother you, but I have a problem and I am hoping to get help here.
So my husband and I are a new couple living in Abuja. We had a baby and would be expecting my mum, pastor and friends to the house soon. The problem is my husband has been feeling really down lately. He doesn't want anyone to come around but I told him that wasn't possible. How can we ask people not to come around when we just had a baby especially my parents. The reason he doesn't want any one around is because we basically live in an empty house. It's a one bedroom, but we have no properties. My husband was living in a self contained we we got married but we moved to a room and parlor afterwards. My husband wasn't rich or anything. He only had a bed and a wardrobe but got a tv later. All the money he ever made, he invested in one man that said he could help him travel out, about 1.2 million gone. Now he can't afford anything asides food and every other thing went into getting baby needs. He has been so down and feeling dejected ever since I told him my mum was coming, and other people too. He said it's too shameful for him and would make him feel like less than a man. I don't know what to do, because I haven't gotten a job after serving. Please nairalanders, if you have any property you could do away with or give away, most especially living room chairs. please help me. I live in Abuja, and can pick it up.

If you find such situation embarrassing then you can travel to your mum place where you can stay with her for Omugo

But left for me, let her come and see your situation so that they will understand your condition and not expecting anything from you guys especially your husband

So many women moves to their mother when it's time fir them to put to bed especially first child and also situations like yours

We must stop padding or pretending so that those who wants to assist us can do so when they see our condition

Alternatively, get two plastic chairs

Any one that comes will leave early as their is no need to Stay long

If you are feeling down about your living conditions before your mum ans pastor
Then you must have been living a false life

Tpave:
It's always very challenging for a man when things are not going well and your wife is the one taking care of everything in the family.

You know what it means for a woman to be the one taking care of a man and the children especially in this part of the world.

Some men who have been providing for his family and taking care of his wife love wise and still have time for the children, will not have problem in this kind of situation, their wife will definitely support him very well whike he source for another source of income

But you see those ones that will do half work at home and still chase women outside and still treat the one at home as less attractive and doesn't even care about the children welfare because he used what was meant for the family to entertain his women outside

These are the category of men that it will affect most

No body should ask me why

Compare the above two paragraphs very well and see the reason there

whizzler:
I agree with ur last assertions, they make sense

Lol

Busybrain2233:
Well said bro, but that's if the woman doesn't get older in appearance than the man.🤔

Would the man get younger at that age

HRprof:
Oil dey your head. You have said it all

Lol

MechanicMike:
bro chooose between rokiat or Siofra?

Wetin concern me

maasoap:
Laughing. Una no trust us again?

Because men will always be men

Tpave:
Is it ideal for your wife to insist she knows your password as a husband because she wants to be checking your phone anytime she wishes?

A house wife read on the Internet how a married woman kept another lady outside for 7 years without the wife knowing and he also did not tell the lady he was married.

Some wives on the comment section threatened that they must start checking their husbands phone and he must give them the password.

Any woman that wants to cry daily, as a dose of drugs, are the ones checking their husband's phone

Any woman that wants to get BP should keep checking her husband phone

saintbillion:
The Federal Ministry of Agriculture and Rural Development has raised an alarm of ponmo now being dangerous for Nigerians to consume following the outbreak of Anthrax in some neighbouring countries within the West African sub-region.



Nigerians have been asked to desist from the consumption of hides (ponmo), smoked meat and bush meat as they pose serious risk until the situation is brought under control.



The anthrax outbreak was first recorded in northern Ghana bordering Burkina Faso and Togo putting the whole sub-region at risk.



The statement read;



“The disease which has claimed some lives, is a bacterial disease that affects both animals and man, that is a zoonotic disease. Anthrax spores are naturally found in the soil and commonly affect domestic and wild animals.

“People can get infected with Anthrax spores if they come in contact with infected animals or contaminated animal products. However, Anthrax is not a contagious disease and so, one cannot get it by coming in close contact with an infected person.“Signs of anthrax are flu- like symptoms such as cough, fever, muscle aches and if not diagnosed and treated early, lead to pneumonia, severe lung problems, difficulty in breathing, shock and death."



Nigerians have also been warned against closeness to non-vaccinated animals with Anthrax as it can easily be transmitted to man through the inhalation of Anthrax spores including consumption of contaminated/Infected animal products, such as hides and skin, meat or milk.
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/6/ponmo-is-now-dangerous-fg-raises-alarm-about-a-dangerous-virus-2.html

So far the particular cow is not carrying a killer disease
Ponmo has come to stay

If not a certain tribe would have been wiped off

falcon01:
I'm convinced this account user has some mental problem!

She has issues with herself and everything around her

Most of her posts are out of point

Maybe e get as e bi for her

orohbiro:
I and this guy has been dating for over a year now he pay my bills and take Good care of me he took him 2months before I agree to date him . the issue am having with him is that he is too Jealous of a human being I can't even communicate with other guys again anytime a guy call my name or sees me talking to another guy he becomes Jealous. Abeg abeg am not up for this nonsense am not in bondage am thinking of quitting the relationship.

Since he does somethings to satisfy your needs and wants
Why not be obedient to his rules for once and see if he is too jealous or too protective

Then with time you will understand him better

It takes time to study people amd understand them for you to flow with them

Pinnup:
I have never double-dated before. Many of my friends do and even have up to 4-5 boyfriends.

I have a boyfriend that I truly love and he loves me too. I'm not cheating on him and he has vouched he never cheated on me before. But there's this other guy that is troubling my life to consider him, a mere thought of giving this other guy a chance to come in makes me feel guilt already.

I don't think it's something I can do without guilty conscience killing me.

So ladies and gentlemen, how una dey do am? How una dey take dey double date without feeling guilty?

I think the question you should ask yourself is

Why do you want to cheat ?

Is it to have a back up boyfriend

Is it to taste another guy and compare both of them

Is it because you want to know what it feels like to cheat

Is it because your peers are cheating and they are laughing at you for not cheating

If you don't have a good response to these questions or a good reason to cheat

Dont cheat
Rather practice how to be faithful to one partner so that you will learn how to be faithful to your husband when you marry

boborosky:
Firstly, I am a guy who is goal driven. I work my ass off to ensure that I earn a living and this has left me with hating anyone who is lazy.
I met my fiance about a year ago. We don't reside in the same town but we talk everyday. When we started dating, she had told me she was done with schooling but she had a few issues which have prevented her from graduating. According to her, she finished in 2019 but has not been cleared because of those issues.

In the first few months that we started dating, I asked her why she was idle since the school was yet to clear her. I further advised that she should start something rather than stay at home. She told me then that she would like to produce and sell a particular commodity. I asked her what it required for her to start. She told me and I provided those things and travelled all the way to see her and hand those items over to her. Few weeks after that, I asked how the business was doing - she went from one story to the other. I was pissed because I thought she could have put all those excuses into consideration before letting me go through the stress of providing those items - It is not about the money for it wasn't much, but her lukewarm interest in pursing goals. Truth is that she never started the trade.

I let that slide and we moved on... Each day I noticed she doesn't have the desire to pursue goals. I mean, how could she have stayed over 3years at home without learning any skill or being purposeful. When it was clear that she wasn't being purposeful, I told her crystal clear that I would not want to be with anyone who lacks purpose or isn't resourceful. In response, she told me that she would work harder and do something. But as each day passed, it was the same old story. Right now, she teaches at a school - this was after a lot of pushing, and forcing and begging and all of that. Even, of the teaching, she complains that it is stressful.

She visited my family house twice. The first time she visited, I had to literally tell her to help in the sweeping of the house the morning following the night she arrived, which she did - I mean, I expected her to know (without being told) that that was expected of her as a first-time visitor in the frame of a prospective wife/in-law. Even as a man, you don't stay inside the room when you visit a family especially when they are doing chores - that was how I was raised. Maybe it isn't a general expectation, but that was how I was raised (Don't crucify me).

As it stands now, she isn't cleared yet and each time I tell her to go to the school, she would either reply reluctantly or get upset. Moreso, she doesn't have a skill. The truth is that, though she is nice, a virgin apparently, she may end up depending on me 100%. Given the way Nigeria is, one needs a partner who can support one. Also, coupled with the fact that though she loves me 100%, she is not very exposed (a bit timid), and lacks the desire to be independent, hardworking or achieve her own goals.

We had discussed marriage, though I have not proposed yet. Conversely, right now, I am having a rethink which has caused me to be a bit withdrawn and retrogressive. I do not want a spouse who would drag me backwards, I have suffered a lot to get to where God placed me - I don't want a setback given that my family partly depends on me. From all indications, I don't know whether she will be able to handle and account for a business if one is established for her.

Even though the decision to either proceed with or withdraw from marriage is solely mine, I'd like a piece of advice.

For matured folks.... What do you think?

Base on all you have narrated about your girlfriend

She will be more comfortable to be a house wife

Even at that most house chores will be waiting for you, including nursing the baby

In another words she may not be lazy
But she can't kill herself

So follow your heart

uzomakanaki:
Fellow nairalanders, please I need advice from matured minds in this group.

I'm in a two year relationship with my woman, we're both working. I'm 34 while she's 27. My montly salary and commision is over 200k with other side hustle i do that bring in funds for me, i also just got a car i want to register with bolt/uber to still bring in funds in my free time.

My fiancee on the other hand is earning 75k monthly. I take good care of her needs and makes sure she doesn't lack anything I can afford.

We both plan to settle down by December.

Sometimes last month she missed her period, after the test we discovered she's 5 weeks pregnant.

I'm against abortion because of the dangers involved in the aftermath, i suggested she keep the baby while I come and see her family and do some necessary things before the main wedding. But she insisted in aborting the baby, reason being that she can't be pregnant and be working. Unless I place her on a monthly salary.

She has aborted the baby and had complications because of the quack nurse that performed the abortion. I spent a lot to make her back on her feet

I'm gradually losing interest in the relationship cos that single act of her. I've kept this to myself.

I just need advice on how to handle this. Cos I'm already fed up with her with her recent disrespect and the way she talks to me anyhow even in public.

I hate when women abort a pregnancy when the man says keep the pregnancy

Secondly she said she can't work with pregnancy, so she means that if you marry her and she becomes pregnant she will stop work and after winning the baby she will remain a house wife of go back to search for work that is difficult to get naw

You are yet to understand that lady and she have some other things about her that you are yet to know

For her to go ahead to abort that pregnancy means that you can't tell her what to do

So my brother listen to your heart and follow your heart