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Ebenezer2021:
Frozen70 please tell the useless ahnie to upload a screenshot of the accusation @bolded.
Tell him to show us the pm I sent her.
Na today your blackmail go end for this forum.
Nitwit

Lol

Ebenezer2021:
please ignore that woman.
You of all people should know that lady is a jobless attention seeker..
She's envious of you cos in that thread someone admired you and i also commended you as well.
Ahnie is jealous and bitter.
Ignore her please.
I'll deal with her when I visit asaba

My dear be calm and don't take it personal

I have also adviced her that it's OK

This forum is like our play field
We will still come her to play any time any day
So no need for long exchange of naughty words

So let's be mature

ahnie:
Nne eeh,o bu ro obele ife o,isi adi nwoke nka oma.

I ke uwa agwugo ya really Maka chi.

Hapu ya, just zereya
Ufodu umunwoke chere na, anyi enwero Uche

MAna oburu na owetero gi, okpo gi ajo mmadu

Owete gi, okpo gi onye nzuzu

Me move

ahnie:
I trashed his sorry arse in one thread yesterday,I told him the story of his life,he felt pained and the akwa ibom roach has bn all over my post.

This same roach has bn harassing me for years,I kept him quiet,but unfortunately for him my skoin skoin was high yesterday and I took him to the trash.

I have told him politely several times,to leave me the hell alone,I m someones wife,but moomoo continued catching feelings.

He has to call the mod on romance section on me and my acct was cuff there.

His ranting shows he was really pained by what I told him yesterday
Doofuz forgot that....where his kolo stopped,na there another person own start.
He got so pained,that he automatically made me his muse by following me .
Talk of low esteem

I have moved on,and Mr Annabel Ebenezer2020 has refused moving on.

Mrs frozen70 come see the man begging you to recommend your younger sister for him,I m glad you were smart enough to see thru him and politely dismissed him.

He has bn on this forum begging married ladies for relationship,and when you turn him down,he tags you a singlemum .

Abeg GloriousGbola pls leave him to his foolery and allow him entertain us.

Ahhh, was that what it is 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

ahnie:
Mrs frozen70 come n see our prospective inlaw ebenezer2020


Sweating like billy goat....the renowned nairaland ocho nwunye madu
One of akwa ibom state.


.
Sifia painment.

I pity the unlucky woman that would end up with this type of damaged person.
Tufiakwa.
Chineke ekwe'le nka.
Aru!!!
Pours spit

🤣🤣🤣 Hapia Ike uwa agwugo ya

We are stronger than anyone abusing any woman
Single or married woman

pachigo001:
I value my mental health bro but my mind is telling me that if we finally get married it will stop

Just follow your mind

Marriage is not something you have to beg one to accept

Be a man and be yourself
Dont let people determine your future amd happiness when they are not God

You sef help yourself and drop her

If you don't drop her you won't get another one

If she doesn't have a say of her mind now, then she will run her home base on instructions from her brother and her sibblings

Hope you know what it is

Cloudflare:
Where did the OP stated that the girl aborted the child? Or you just wan talk?

10million is even too small. If the OP takes her court, she'll be punish for "malicious attempt, false accusations, lies and deceit against the OP". . You cannot lie on a guy's head and go free. In court, it is known as criminal offence and you must be punish.

Of course, the court will ask the girl to go conduct a DNA test and report back to the court, that is the proof!!!! And you'll be fined too, the court will order the girl to pay the OP 15million for damages. It's high time you Nigerian girls starts taking responsibility for your actions.

So your court ask a girl to do DNA test

What do you understand about DNA test

Is it a man or a woman that is needed for a child DNA test ?

sunnysunny:
Hello Nairalander. Pls i need ur advice.
There is girl i love so much. She claimed to love me same way too.

Her birthday was on May 9... i kept on talking about unitil the day came. I started wishing her birthday wishes n even prayed for her n gave her gift. We started talking about mine which is in June 5. when the day came. My babe has forgotten and did not wish me and birthday greetings.

I felt within me that she doesn't love me as she use to say becos if she do she was not suppose to forget.

Pls i need advice on what i should do with her. Should i tell her and let her go her way or i should tell her and forgive her.

She didn't do well
You know what

From next year
Move her birth day to your day since it's a month difference then both of you can celebrate it together

If she ask you why tell her that you love each other ans should celebrate things together

Is she fumes, then she has never been yours

Case closed

Ruthie0224:
I'm a long distance relationship with my boyfriend.

He's talked to my siblings, I've talked to his siblings too

I'm always sending my greetings to his mum, and she sends her greetings too.

I feel like I should actually speak to her on the phone, but I'm scared due to the many mother-in-law story I've heard.

And I don't know what to say to her.

I'm thinking of speaking to her on the phone next time he visits her, please what do I say apart from greetings and 'how are you'?

We're both in Nigeria.

Speak to her about what?

Dont be too forward, just keep greeting her as you have always been

When it's time for your boyfriend to take you to her, you will see her and when you get there, talk less before you go and say some things that will be held against you in her mind

Bethuel2022:
Hello nairalanders, I need some advice.
My marriage is barely two years, and within these two years, my husband has been unfaithful, and has hit me sometimes. I always fight back though, so it doesn't get out of hand. I don't want to go into all the details of how I met him and ended up his wife. I sometimes regret that decision.
A while after being married, I got pregnant, but unfortunately my husband couldn't raise the money for the baby stuffs. I struggled so hard to do that myself, this was about the time I caught him cheating, I didn't waste any time to pack my things and go to my parents.
Now my problem is that he is not a provider. He stays months on end without sending anything and I am struggling so hard because I have a child to look after. He has been trying really hard to win me over after everything, and I mean it when I say he is trying hard. I married him because I thought he had purpose, but I don't know about that now because the money struggle is something else. Believe me when I say the struggle is too much for me because I don't work yet and nothing comes from his end, but he keeps apologising, saying things will get better. I want to believe him but is it not his reckless lifestyle that has kept him where he is. I need advice because I don't know if I should take him back and work with him for a better future. He has made all plans to relocate to where I am so we can start afresh, but my fear is, a man who could be cheating with the little resources we have when we had baby things to buy, can he be trusted again. I feel resentment and bitterness because I practically used all my savings for the birth and up until now, every little money I get goes towards my child's upkeep. Isn't he coming back now because he is flat broke. A man who can cheat when we could barely feed, can I really take his word for it? Do you think I should give him a chance. I am not a saint because I can be very stubborn when I know I am right, but I married him a virgin. Take into consideration that he blames me for some of his actions. Doesn't that show lack of accountability. I was very naive when I married him, otherwise I wouldn't have. There is no pleasure whatsoever in a marriage without money, moreso one with the accompanying issues mine has.

You know what, be prepared for part two of what made you to come out and became free from traumatic turture

Use your tongue count your teeth

That's a proverb

Forrkke:
He’s a cousin to my cousin.

He’s the son of her dad’s younger sister.

My cousin’s mother is my own aunt

That guy is getting mad and if care is not taking he may enter street

Lady is very innocent of what is is happening to the guy

The guy parents are fully aware that their son have problem

So let them go tradition to cleans themselves to save the girls name from the show of Shame

Dont be surprise the guy is on drugs

Davizee:
No hope for school again

Ohh my Gosh
Was that his reason

Chai 🤦‍♀️

I hate seeing youths not being able to go to school higher education

So sorry for him

DonroxyII:
Who tell u University no be Street....

Street na Anywhere wey na u dey Hustle your way Out ... U will face Exploitation, Sicknesses & Near Death Experiences Because Home Ain't under Ya Grasp ....

If you read well, he is not in school and I will prefer he experience the street inside school campus and still acquire knowledge

Than the conventional street that will expose him to nonsense

Ebenezer2021:
the ones around me here lacks sense that's why I need your recommendation. I promise she'll be eternally grateful for connecting her to the man of her dreams she has been anticipating all these moments.
Check for the unmarried ones around your workplace, relative, church, etc.
Daalu

Odi mma Nsogbu adiro

Humble432:
Thank you so much!!!!!

You are most welcome dear

Cloudflare:
OP, avoid this kind of emotional manipulating advice. This will make the girl even end up manipulating you the more.

Dude, sue that girl, take her to court and demand for 10million Naira compensation for damages. These olsohos needs to be taught a bitter lesson. It's time they start taking action for their responsibilities

I know you are not intelligent so no need to argue with you

10million for aborted child or living child with no prove
You are a Gold digger

Go back and read his response to my suggestion
Ode first class

Humble432:
I knew this girl because her mother and my mother were friends back then. They both had shops in the same market back then thought the shops were not close to each other.

I was in SS3 and a boarding student. I was home for first term holiday & used to help my mother at her shop. This girl sometimes pass through our shop while going to their shop & stops to say hi once in a while. My home town is less than one hour drive from where we lived so my parents usually visit home most weekends for either burial, wedding, church program or for other reasons.

That particular weekend(Saturday) my parents travelled to my home town & I was alone in the shop. My two siblings were in the university and the other ones have finished and were working & living on their own, so I was home alone. The girl was going to their shop & stopped to say hi as usual. We talked for a while & told her my parents travelled home so she said she will come back later. She came back in the afternoon and we talked about many things, from life in school to family issues, I also tried to introduce her to James hardly Chase because I was already reading & enjoying it. Later in the evening she came back while I was closing & helped me to pack the goods and we both went to my house together. While at home we played, kissed, I touched her breasts few times but we DIDN'T HAVE SEX. She didn't even pull her pants and my finger didn't even touch her private part. I walked her to the road & she ran back home. The next day was Sunday and in the evening my parents returned from their journey. The following weekend school resumed & I went back to school.

I was in school & life was normal until one evening I went to the business center to call my mother. I wanted her to bring money for my extra lessons while paying next visit but she told me to come home next day immediately after school so that I can return back to school same day. My school had both DAY STUDENTS & BOARDING STUDENTS, and like 40mins drive from my house. Her voice was a bit harsh & I could sense she was sad.

The next day I went home immediately after dismissal. I met her at the shop & she welcomed me but there was something different about her that day. She bought food for me and immediately after eating she asked me, "what happened between me & Ukamaka"? By then I had forgotten the small fun I had during the holidays. I told her nothing happened then she called my name and asked again, what happened. If my mother call your name in that manner before asking you anything, just tell her the truth because if she finds out you're telling lies,,,,body go tell you. I told her what happened the weekend they travelled home while I was alone. I admitted that we kissed but there was no sex. I saw the way she was looking at me, she believed me BUT NOT 100%. She thought I had sex with the girl maybe I was afraid to admit. She told me the girl was PREGNANT and told her parents I was RESPONSIBLE. At that age I remembered I didn't have sex with her but I was afraid because of the little play we had, I was even confused whether that could result to her being pregnant. My mother was mad at me, she told me none of my siblings ever brought such shame to the family. She gave me money for the extra lesson in school and also small extra cash and I went back to school same evening. I told few friends in school and they laughed at me and called me "Daddy twins". The whole thing affected me psychologically & my studies as well.

During the next holiday I was expecting my parents especially my father to ask me about it but he didn't, neither did any of my siblings. After my WAEC & NECO exams I got back home and one day my Mom started advicing me about life & mentioned that issue again. She told me the girl's father threatened to arrest me back then but because i was still a minor & also in school he didn't. She told me the girl's parents especially the father was very angry. Fear didn't let me ask if my Dad was aware, infact I was thankful my Dad didn't ask me about it so I kept my mouth.

I left home to join my elder brother where he was working and while there, I gained admission & started school. whenever I visit home & see the girl's mother, she won't respond to my greetings and would always look at me with this bitterness. She believed I was truly responsible for what happened to her daughter. I saw the girl few times but we never talked to each other again. My father passed 2015 and my mother 2021, may God bless their souls in Jesus name, Amen. February this year I was discussing with a friend about childhood and remembered this incident. I felt the need to clear myself and let her parents know I was innocent of the allegation. I called my Aunty who also do business in the same market and request the phone number of the girl and her mother, but she told me the girl's mother died even before my own mother. She sent me the phone number of the SISTER TO THE GIRL'S MOTHER who now sent me the girl's phone number.

I want to confront the girl and also make contact with the father hopefully my next visit to home state. I will like to tell the old man that I was totally innocent. I wouldn't know if the man and his wife laid some curses back then. This might open old wound though but I am planning to settle down soon so I feel the need to clear myself on that issue.
Kindly advice me whether or not to confront the girl or meet the family.
Thanks.

Its not really necessary, but If you insist, ithink you should called the girl in question and book an appointment to see her face to face

When that day comes, take her to a place where both of you can set down and ask her why she lied on you that you were responsible for her pregnancy

Listen to her and ask her more questions

Then ask her about the pregnancy and the child

An sure she will also confirm that you never touched her and the pregnancy was actually not yours but that she has terminated the pregnancy

Then tell her you deserve an apology for putting you and your late parents through embarrassment

After that if she apologizes to you, you can now tell her that you want to clear yourself before her parents

If she accept and allow you, fine and if she doesn't then accept her apology and move on

Ebenezer2021:
does she know you're a jobless failure?

Ebenezer2021:
so you have anyone to link me up with?
I'm in search of a partner and I want you to be the middle man that will recommend that missing ribs for me.
I'm serious

My dear you will get a good partner, assuming I have one, I would have recommended

But make sure she has a good sense of reasoning, that's the most important thing to look out for

ForChrist1:
Sisisioge

I follow her on nairaland because she sounds very intelligent always. I would love to sit with her on a casual date to exchange ideas.

Hello sis, you are welcome my dear
Any day any time

Wizywiz:
guard room dey hungry u ni u wan do frog jump

🤣🤣🤣

Ebenezer2021:
please ma'am do you have a sister that is unmarried and she also has not just a good heart but share the same ideology with you.
Assuming you were unmarried omo na you I for chose ooo

🤔🤔😂😂😂

Wizywiz:
waooo thanks Mama I just saw it...God bless you..

Bless you too

Wizywiz:
good morning Mama... always ur no 1fan..09121501743 that's the number... Airtel... gracias

I just credited your line now
Did you see it

advanceDNA:
Great this is coming from a woman....if na man talk am now...u women go call bashing and hatred


Na who dey take una serious, dey use him hard earned money to make una happy in the name of being a man i pity.......

😂 😂 Lol
Some people don't want to accept the truth, but it must be told

Wizywiz:
Frozen70 oooooo...
But she is married Sha ..can't help but admire her intelligence here....wish to meet her real life

Waooo, splendid
Send me your contact number let me recharge your line this morning

Whizzy080:
Hello house! I have a very serious problem here
End of last year i lost my job, got another one on February this year but the paying wasn't enough..i and my woman thought about it. We suggest i should get a car and start bolt to also give me time for our new born kid, i bought the car toyota corolla but unfortunately bolt wasn't doing well in my state
Small money i have I've been using it to maintain the car since it was Nigerian used and also buy things for the house
Something happen this morning, his brother wanted to travel to Lagos yesterday despite not having fuel due to recent fuel hike i manage to take him to the aktc park but he misses the bus because it was late already i bought the ticket and told him to try and come go early, this morning he came to the house instead of going to the park and i told him to pay less than 500 to the park instead of having to buy 3k fuel only for trip of 500 naira
While on his way his sister called that i shouldn't touch the car again that if I do God will punish me that since we bought the car i was supposed to be paying her that she's going to sale the car and recover her money. I've already made up my mind not to use the car again but I'm done with her
I'm wondering, was it wise/right to be paying her commission?
Please my elders should advice
Thanks

You guys would have discussed how the joint business will run to avoid this nonsense

Just be calm and calm her down and talk things out

Women don't just dash out things without a return on investment

xammax:
Found out the man was a fraud

Waooo, thank God for your instinct

Failure2019:
My grandpa just died. My grandpa didn’t have a whole lot of wealth to his name, but he did own a house.
An old house out in the village by a stream, passed down through my family for countless generations.
My family may’ve not taken as good care of it as they should, but I still loved that house. To me it was more than just a house.
And now in his will, your grandpa has left the house for me to look after, in the hopes my family will live in it for many generations to come.
But, there’s a problem.
Before my grandpa had passed away he’d lent the house out to my uncle and his family.
Now that the house was my, I kindly let them know they can no longer live there, and that they must move back to their previous home (which they still own and visit from time to time).
But they refuse. My uncle says that because his family currently lives there, they have just as much claim on the house as you.
And because my uncle and his wife and children (each) are in greater need of the house, it now belongs to them.
He explains that as long as they live in the house they have the right to be called its owner, no matter who lived in it before.
Besides, why should I care if my uncle's family takes over the house? It’s still the same house no matter who lives in it, right?
My uncle then tells me to leave his home, or he will call the police.
How do I react?

E bi like say life done tire you and you want him to kill you

In my own opinion, stop telling him that they should pack out

Find your level before they make you miserable in life because of an old hurt

Giftedhands45:
I have to join this forum to post this tonight.

I'm in my early thirties, my husband is just two years older than me. My husband has always been neglecting his responsibilities even before we got married, but I was seeing it as he doesn't have a better job and a struggling guy whom we can both join hands together to build each other. I endured everything with him. I have always supported and provided without complain.
Since last year my husband lost his job, since then, he has refused to look for any other source of income. Even when he had a job, he always have one story or the other to tell about his monthly salaries. So, he still doesn't provide.
Once, there's nothing in the house, he will keep watching because I can't watch my two children Starve. I will try everything, even call friends, families and borrow. He doesn't care how I borrowed and how I paid.


Now, he wakes up every morning and still go back to sleep. Whatever I asked him, he don't always have. He's response always is ''I don't have money ''
I am the only one sourcing out everything in this house, I don't have a job as well, just struggling up and down with a business I do.

There's no food, school fees, bill, everything, he will ignore. I can't watch my children suffer. So, I keep struggling without any help. But he eats food and uses everything in the house with us. He wouldn't provide, but he can use them once they're available.
Our house rent will soon expire and he has no plan towards That. The previous one I paid, but presently, my business is down

Lately, I've been thinking. I've never cheated since I entered this marriage, but If I keep struggling all myself like this, my children will suffer. I feel, I need someone who loves me and willing to support me as well.
My children are too used to their father, it borders me if I separate them from him.

Leaving a marriage because he's not taking responsibilities, does that make me a bad woman?

What could make a man to be very comfortable not providing for his family but wouldn't want to loss the said family?

Have you ever been in my shoes, what would you advise me?

Relax my sister because so many women are wearing this same shoe

I think for now, stop having kids to reduce the future load on you

If your rent expires, look for just one room self contain if you can afford that or oay for the rent

Let all of them pack along with you including your husband

Stop expecting things from him since he has swore never to have or struggle to have

Face your children and be there for them

Buy few food stuff that will serve a meal at home and cook just little, give him the same little portion your give your children and eat same portion.. Start seeing yourself as married but a single mother

Dont keep money or count money in his presence he will assume you have enough

If he ask you for anything tell him that you don't have, keep singing that to his ear so that he will stop asking from you

So far he is not violent or harsh on you, keep on keeping on

Stop telling him to get something doing, just be looking at him let him be the one to advice himself

When he realizes that the food portion is small and he can't get anything from you, he will dust his shoes

The more you spend the more he will become a lazy man

You don't have to leave the marriage because he doesn't take responsibilities, but once he starts treating you like a rag, find your way

He is too young to be dodging his responsibilities

Rock your would and be happy for your self

Curious345:
Hello guys..

Happening right now. I just chewed a fat healthy Coackroach. It was hidden inside the full spoon load of beans I just scooped and gulped now.

I only later started feeling the aftertaste of Coackroach after some 2seconds later.

Please what do I do?

Any drug I can drink to forestall any Impending negative scenario?

They are all protein, you will be alright just take a purge medicine if you insist but it's nothing

Alternatively take antibiotics

NewsLand:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNeyZJVIP3g



https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/6/delta-man-cries-out-for-help-over-wife-allegedly-assaulting-him-repeatedly-video-2.

So this man can't sent his wife to her father's house

Even if the wife is the one that is the bread winner, he should just pack out of that house to an unknown place

I hate any kind of domestic violence

TitiAbeo:
My budget is 500k

Since you can give out such amount of money to her as birthday gift shopping

Why not add more, get a land go with her to inspect the area and if she likes it
. Let her know that you want us to buy a land to mark her birthday

If that's OK, then get the land write both of your name on the land give her the documents to go through so that she will see her name there, then keep it safe

She can't sell the land without you
She will be glad you guys have gotten a land
Both of you can join heads together on the designs you want and ask her to chose her kitchen spot

If you already bought a land, the use the money to start developing that land and always carry her along

If you have already built a house
Ask her to mention how she wants her kitchen design to be

If assuming all these are already in place,
Then use that amount to open account for the children and tell her you appreciate her on her birthday and wants to open account for her children so that you guys can save for htier university

You know why I mentioned all the above, men should stop dashing women huge amount of money that both of them can easily invest for the future of the family

The more money you spend dashing your woman, where as you have a lot for the both of you to handle, the more you spoil her and she may be too lazy to hustle

This is just my own point, you may have a different options