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Jasiman:
Please, suggest a suitable gift items to give to a boss who helped you secure a very well paying Job.

I am just overwhelmed and I will really like to express my gratitude with a token of gift items.
Thank you

If you can afford a Ram gift card it will benefit the entire family

If you can afford a cartoon of big size turkey, it will benefit the whole family

The above two can only be delivered to his home not in the office pls

But if you don't know his residence
Let him know that his family wants to visit him them go with your parents or sibblings to appreciate him

Weevel77:
I applied as a contract staff at Nestle around May last year. I finished my youth service the following month and i was called up for aptitude test by an outsource firm. On the very day of the test we were checked in and addressed by the outsource staff. I guess some of the applicant had influential persons linked to the industry who promised to help them get the job. They were just there to fulfil all righteousness. The outsource manager said that very day that, he wouldn't condole nepotism and God fatherism. He said he won't forward the name of those who had someone but couldn't pass the aptitude test and interview. He wants a level playing ground probably at this stage.


The test was conducted and i was called for interview after a month interval. After the interview i got a success mail and i was called for medical. I met other applicants who were successful at Nestle clinic for medical. After our medical we all exchanged contact and looking forward to resume in no distant time. We did medical last year August. Sadly, we weren't contacted to resume throughout last year. No one among us was asked to resume. I was so apprehensive and perturbed as a fresh graduate. I assume i had gotten the job after a success mail for medical. Then why the delay? No one among us had resume yet. I felt so bothered. Although i didn't loosen up.


I was applying and going for interview. My uncle came around late last year to check up on us. He asked about my plan and i told him nothing but to secure a job. I relayed everything to him and he was full of amazement. He said he knew someone related to a King and the king has the final say. He asked me to look for money so that he can go with it to influence it since I've done medical. I didn't go with the idea because i was indigent. But as a fresh graduate who's in need of job. I had to empty my account and raise #30,000. I had interview the very day my uncle was asked to come. He went alongside my mum. She witness everything. My uncle gave him the money and my CV. I was told even the king was surprised why i hadn't resumed yet after medical. He promised to settle everything within a week or two.



Unfortunately, nothing was done till this very moment. I had gone to the management who conducted the recruitment process and they were even surprised neither me nor anyone among the name they sent to nestle was called. The outsource management claimed it takes maximum of 6 months to carry out recruitment process for a firm. They assume the top managers in the industry had swapped our names for theirs. The manager of the outsource firm was so concerned that he had to put up a call across and he confirmed to me they had resume since last year. I cried that very day in the outsource office. The manager told me "Welcome to Nigeria." He admonished me to move on. I cried for a fruitless efforts and being swindled by a King. I trekked back home crying like a toddler. I was thinking tif I could call him out on social media or Radio station to refund my money. I can't just let go of that money in this my present condition. He shouldn't have accepted the money having known he had nothing to do. My mum said i should forget about the money. She claimed we're the least of persons to call out such a prominent and influential person. She said she doesn't want problem. My uncle was in support of it but my mum disagree. She claimed the money in question wouldn't make any difference in my life. Perhaps, i don't know the aftermath of my actions.


Please what's your take on this.

If the king is influencial and respect himself, he wouldn't have collected any money from you till the job is done in this case because as king he claimed to be, no body will assist him and expect him to pay him money

So the money he collected was for his selfishness

So go with your uncle and make a request for your money that you need it as you have to continue another search

I don't even know if to trust that your uncle on this or not to trust him

As it is now
I don't know who is doing you

God1000:
It's too early to judge him, but the subsidy removal has compounded our problems.

To be fair and honest, things are really hard, there's poverty in the land.


Tinubu should please reverse the subsidy removal for now, it can be done later

He should not treat us this way

A good leader listens to his people when they cry.

Just bear in mind that he will load his citizens with tax upon tax

That's his own system of government

Though i like him because I don't have a preferred candidate

nabiz:
okay thanks
Pls note: not that she can't poor but she is afraid forcing herself to poo may affect the stitched wund

So far she is not in pains give her fruits and lots of vegetables to soften her bowel for easy poo passage

samology2000:
Gone are those days our forefathers gave birth to dozen of children and still took good care of them. Now a days it is very difficult to achieve such because of the hardship and economics situation of the present day. This would make one think twice before giving birth to one, two or three children. So my people what is the Ideal number of children that's an average family should have?

In my own opinion, three children are just ok, if you are lucky to have mixed gender then it's fantastic

You are not only planning for them
You have to plan for yourself too so that at old age you will have less worries

You may be well placed today where you are making rough money that is not accounted for because of that you start birthing like rats
What if tomorrow things turns the other way

Whats happens to you and them

You have to also consider giving them the best you can afford without tearing yourself into pieces

As they grow old, with less burden
You too grow old with out loosing your balance and still stay young while growing old

As far as life is concern, tomorrow is not even assured for anyone

Uniquechoice:
Am 19 I have no fatherly or motherly love.
My dad denied my pregnancy . I don't know how he looks or his whereabouts.
My mom got married when I was 3 years she abandoned me with my grandmother in the village and she doesn't care about me.
She is living a luxurious life in Lagos while my grandmother and I are struggling in the village. She had her fifth sons she complained to my grandmother that she is tired of having sons and she want a daughter.
How can she have a daughter when she doesn't care about me her womb opener my prayer for her is to not have one until she acknowledge me. She doesn't care about me today but tommorow when I will become a successful business woman she will come with the entitlement mentality that she gave birth to me and she deserve to be forgiven.
Even family members and friends will pressure me to forgive her and take care of her .
I can only forgive her if she acknowledge me now or else it will be too late for her .
It hurt so bad to be rejected by her .
I cry every night night asking God what did I do to deserve such ill treatment from my own mom but I am thankful for my grandmother for always being there for me she will live long to reap the fruit of her labour.
Does anyone else been in the same situation as me. I need words of encouragement on how to survive the heartbreak of being rejected by parents.

You are a strong woman in the making

You have to be who God wants you to be

You are a survivalist

Be strong

Forget about your mum and Dad, one day dey will look for you but till then hold on to God and make sure you handle yourself so that at the end of this tunnel, you will see light

naice:
I find myself facing a difficult situation in my marriage and would greatly appreciate your insights and advice. The issue at hand revolves around my wife's unwillingness to listen to me. I'm at a loss as to why she behaves this way, and it's starting to take a toll on our relationship.

To provide some context, my wife has a strong-headed personality, which often leads to conflicts between us. No matter how gently I communicate my concerns or requests, she seems to disregard them and even does the opposite. This behavior frustrates me and leaves me questioning our compatibility.

One possible explanation I've considered is her background as an orphan. She lost her parents at a young age and had to take on the responsibility of caring for herself and her siblings. While I understand the challenges she faced, it seems like her self-reliance has translated into a resistance to accepting input or guidance from others, including me.

At this point, I have contemplated divorce, but there's a significant factor holding me back: our children. I love them deeply and cannot bear the thought of being separated from them. As much as her strong-headedness affects me, I firmly believe that domestic violence is never an option.

I'm reaching out to this community for reasonable opinions and advice on how to navigate this situation. Have any of you experienced a similar dynamic in your relationships? How did you cope with a spouse who doesn't listen? Are there effective strategies to foster better communication and understanding in such circumstances?

Thank you in advance for your support and guidance. Your insights will be invaluable in helping me make an informed decision about the future of my marriage."

I was expecting you to make one or two relevant examples about her stubbornness but you skipped that part

Well you must have counseled her enough

You have to see yourself as the only ones standing in this circumstance

For you to live long for yourself and the children, just do what you can and move on

Any one you can't, just ignore it

You can force a horse to the stream but you can't force the horse to drink water

So just ignore her, life will teach her with experience

Hisbah:
Hello family, my elder brother has decided to be totally useless. He doesn't want to do anything. Just idling around and eating mama thank you. At age of 49 he is yet to get married. The only thing he does is pressing his phone from morning till night. He is a popular person here. He spends his entire time on this forum. Our aged parents are extremely worried about this unwanted development. Everyone in both our immediate and extended family have talked to him about getting any job but he is stubbornly rejecting every help offered to him. Pls house, what's the best way to go about this. He is my elder brother and I don't want him to end up useless for life.

I think his problem is pride coupled with laziness

He has made up his mind that he won't stress himself

My concern is your parents whom he has failed because they get tired of his idleness

My advice to you is to make your own way and get something doing to support your parents

If you dash him money regularly, that will make him to keep relaxing

All he knows is that he must eat at home

If he continues this way, he will be a family liability

Its just a pity, you guys can come ask him if he wants to drive Keke, if yes you guys have to raise the fund for him so that he can start one place then rent a room

If he is lucky to have a girl friend, that one will reset his head to factory settings

amadil14:
Good day all,
I met my wife 4years ago, before we got married she told me that she has a boyfriend and she do call him pet name as ( MAJESTY) and I do see it wen ever he calls her not until our relationship became strong and we eventually got married.
However, before we got married my wife changed her sim card entirely and even till today I have never witness any strange number call her and we have been happily marriage.

Not until last week, my wife older sister gave birth to a baby girl and we both went to visit her and the baby with gifts. Infact my wife took along with her so many things in our house including baby baff my mum bought for her wen she put to birth.

My worry now is that, my wife sister named her daughter after my wife ex boyfriend and that has been disturbing me because the name still rings in my memory and I'm yet to know why among so many names on earth why I'll she chose (MAJESTY) as a name for her new born?

Note: this my wife sister is not yet married, she just got pregnant for a married man even as I write, the married is claimed to have traveled to London.

Please ur kind advice is highly needed.

Thank.

I don't even know what you are thinking about with such name

You are just funny

Keep entertaining yourself, your wife, your sister inlaw and the rest of us here

OperationalVehi:
Hahahah haha

Lol, yes naw

talented321:
Na your type dey scatter people marriage.

If e pain you go to court

Animegirl:
I have said no, countless times. If I don't, won't he cheat on me?

Why are you afraid of cheating on you

When you are not around, you think he doesn't get it elsewhere since he is a sex addict

Anyway you can give him as much as he demands

You are the one running down not him

Who tells you that you can pin a man down with sex ?

Koki02:
I love my wife so much. But her two aunties don't want us together. They manipulated my wife and unfortunate for me she fell for their traps. My wife started misbehaving, abusing me, she tored my clothes, and disgraced me.
She said I don't give her food and that I beat her. And is not true.
On this faithful day, I went to work just for to come back and see that she have packed all her belongings. I have been patient with my wife. She committed alot of atrocities that I still fogave her. My wife was once married but she never told me. My wife was twice pregnant for me but she always abortion the child.my wife always goes out without my permission. This her said aunty is divorces already. My wife also is now with her. Two ladies divorced living together without going back to their parents house.

Congratulations to you for coming out of their crazy world

If she comes back, don't accept her

Hoc could she abort two pregnancys for you, is she using you to test the potency of her womb or what

Well, her case is a closed case and she has gone for good

siofra:
I understand this is Nigeria where people are crazy about connections. People think that because you're from their village, you're supposed to give them a free pass. They won't go through the normal process, and when you refuse, they start to hate you and spread rumours about you.

It is happening to me at the place I work. It's becoming too much because I won't budge. Sometimes I feel like crying. How do I get around this? Why won't people just do things the right way I've never expected anything from anyone because they are from my village or because I know them.

I feel like I won't be able to stand my ground any longer.

I think for the sake of your future career, if you can't bend rules, just take a posting to another unit or center

When they will set you up or plan for your removal, you won't be there

So it's either you mellow down and play along

Or you step aside let the person that will do their bidding dance to their tune

Bvlgari:
Is 6months enough or too early for a widow to start dating? Her late husband died in a hotel on top of his sidechick.

Whenever you are ready take of
The choice is yours

No one will blame you

Worst case he died on top a woman

So rock your world

Sapiosexuality:
Exactly. The moment you start visiting those guys your problem begins. Once a family member starts visiting them problems begin to arise in that family.

That's my point
Your closet siblings will now be acused for nothing that he is the obstacle in your life

Snakedoctor1:
He is abroad and gives N250, 000 monthly for the upkeep upkeep of his wife and three kids.

He buys electricity and gas and maintains plumbing etc from abroad + house rent and school fees.

Men and brethren, his wife cries wolf before 20th of every month.


Please should this money not be enough for food and other house expenses in one month?

She is just being wicked
I have a family friend here in Lagos that gives his wife 200k every month for just two little children

Yet she complains that it's not enough, whereas he pays school fees and house rent

As am speaking with you now, he sent her to family and she took him to court

They met in court and court ask the man to be sending 50k to her every month but continue to pay school fees and health needs and grant the divorce for the man

It was too late for her to regret because she alone knows her intension

Some women especially those who doesn't contribute anything to the family, frustrates their husband that carry the family burden

A very bad attitude from them

My advice to men
If any woman is frustrating your efforts yet makes no contribution, send her to her family for rehabilitation and retraining if she continues when she comes back, do the needful.

This life is too hard to add man made stress to it

eyinjuege:
That's how people make mistakes.
You will leave the person you know and understand their behaviour to go and marry someone you've just met in 3 months
Later, you start wailing about no peace in the marriage, you start chatting your ex upandan
Both of you need to come together and agree on what you want, agree on locking out external forces in your union and agree on having a good marriage.
Let each other know your deal breakers, agree on how you want to be settling quarrel, agree on finances and children now.
All that noise about pastors, abeg they should shift

klimkid:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married. One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it. So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy. There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work. He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it. He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship. Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.

The moment you start going to pastors and those prophets
You will hardly get a positive outcome from what you went there for
The next thing they will program your mind to do their bidding

But if two of you goes to God with prayers, you will get positive response immediately

You are a catholic, go to the blessed sacrament, God is waiting for you to make your heart desire prayer request there

Hopemanfx:
have done that she has a lot of Christian books.

She needs a friend, it could be a married man that is divorced or a man who has not been married and have passed the age of probably 50 yrs and needs a partner

What your sister need is a companion whom she doesn't have to depend on

You can start a small trade for her like small provision store so that she can be going out and coming back

God will see her through

adecz:
What are they bringing back his
rotten body for❓❓🤔🤔

Its a tradition that must be fulfilled according to them

vibrant40:
Okay. I met this girl in an exam hall, we were both writing exams, so we did the student things, she asked me a maths question which she was kind of afraid of and me being a maths person answered her question and moved on with with my exams. After the exams she search for me to say her gratitude and we moved on. I think after the results was released and she got an A in the exams was when she had to find me and got me on Facebook. She chatted me and introduced herself, so we began chatting from there and that was how I got to know she is my kind of woman.

I asked her out, we started dating or lemme say I started dating her because at a pint she told me we were only friends during the time, be she do come to my side, we do touch and kiss but no s*x. Down the lane I got to know she had a guy whom she was dating but she could not marry because she has so many revelations and dreams that he is not the one and according to her, the guy had so many red flags. At a point I put it to her she should choose what she wanted on time, the guy or myself.


According to her she choose me. Along the line, she told me about another guy disturbing her for romantic relationship, because no matter what she will tell me anything even if she knows I am gonna hurt by that, although I do take it that she is trying to literally tell me to do quick and pop the question if I really want to marry her. All of a sudden I observe she was receiving a Seyi call till like 12midnight, and I would want to call her only for her to be busy on another call for a lengthy period.


She will not stop talking about this guy whenever we are together, how good the guy is to her, she even was like we have the same character but only that the guy is taller than I am and she had also never shy away from talking about the physically height of her dream children.


I saw all these as competition and keep letting her know how much I love and want to marry her. One afternoon, she just rang me and said just a sentence, 'I will marry you'. Well that gave me the assurance I needed, I met her mother (dad is late) and I must confess she has a very good mother, the mom checks on me everyday (infact she did while I was typing this epistle). I popped the questions and she said yes. We had our introduction and currently planing on getting married.


The problem now is, she would still not stop talking about this Seyi guy. She even called me one to tell me she went to his house, that the guy called home to come, I confronted her so many times to tell her how I felt about it, she kept saying sorry and keep repeating the same thing of no cutting loose from the guy, she even claimed that at least she is not having s*x with now that they are just talking..


Some days ago we had a serious argument about this matter and she was like maybe we should even end the relationship if I don't trust her (and this has always been her anthem whenever we have serious arguments, she would say maybe we are not compatible). She later apologized and promised not to let that happen again that she would cut loose of the guy, only for us to be talking via whatsapp last night around 11:40 for to receive this guys call and they spoke for like 10mins. I ended my call, she called back later and was like it was just an innocent talk they had....


Seriously, I am tired and confused, what should I do? Please help me with your candid advice. So sorry for the long epistle and some bad grammar.

I think that girl is not ready to settle down and she wants to still enjoy her freedom

What makes you think she will be loyal to you at the moment with all these her gist of one or two guys toasting her

Then why do you tolerate those silly information she is giving you about other guys toasting her

What do you really need the information for if I may ask

Or you like tolerating nonsensical things just because you want her

Real men shuns such nasty Information from women

Apart from being heart breaking, I how do you feel after listening to such

Dont you feel hurt

Adonispco:
Am sorry for my writing pattern; I am in a serious dilemma since January.

I live in a face me I slap you house with just four co-tenants and the landlord.

There is this neighbour of mine that parked in on December 2021, a married man with three kids; two daughters and a son,the eldest daughter should be around 14 years old while the son and the last daughter should be about 4 & 2 years respectively.

We where living in peace although one has to make tolerance a friend for there to be peace.
These my neighbour's eldest daughter to be honest is morally bankrupted, she steals and lies without remorse.

My neighbour's wife always try to cover up her daughter bad behaviours. During christmas time 2022, I noticed a sudden suspicious behaviours from my neighbours wife towards me in particular; she does as if am a diabolic person, as a cool headed guy I focused on my life until on January 21 2023 when I heard the worst words towards my dignity and reputation as a common person;

Fellow nairalanders guess what? My neighbours wife accused me of poisoning his two little kids.

As a cool guy and from what i learnt never to take action when angry, I maintained like its nothing but told our landlord.

My neighbour who is a driver usually travels and can stay there for weeks, so I have to wait for the man of the house to return and hear from him before taking action, so on 29 January he returned, a general yard meeting processed; he was asked to explain more on the accusation from his wife towards me and this was what he said;

"Someone in our yard premises poisoned his children using mirinda and biscuit" that we all are lucky nothing happened to his kids otherwise he will call the police to arrest everybody in our yard.

When asked how he found out that it was someone from our yard and what sickness his children suffered; he said that his children were vomiting blood in the middle of the night, and he went to a spiritual doctor who told him that it was someone from the yard he lives in.

Please Nairalanders what will I do cause I have tried to let go of this heavy accusation but it havent been easy and to make matters worse the once loved innocent easy going guy have become a depressed soul due to the crack on my previous solid reputation.

Please anyone with a good pragmatic solution should help a brother.

A clear conscience fears no accusation

Find your way to pack out of that compound for your own sanity

Antell95:
Good evening Nairaland, i had a domestic accident and the left side of my face was badly bruised, but my main concern is the blood in my left eye, how do i get rid of it asap as its making me look like a cocaine sniffing drug lord? HELP!

Its a normal thing and it will go after 7days

talented321:
You have clear points i love them. Saying one should not build house for his own mother just because his siblings will inherit the house is not good idea to me, that means i didn't love my siblings or mother. My own joy is to be seeing my love ones living in that house. And i don't want anything to with the house because it is meant for my mother.

Ok naw

Efna55:
This brought to mind Yvonne's story, so in your case you find out later in life your dad isn't your real dad, you mom never knew she got pregnant on a one night stand and DNA reveal he isn't your real dad, how will you react?

Nothing, I won't react much especially if he that I already regarded as my dad has been responding and responsible for my upkeep

But if he has never cared, I will leave him to my dad especially when am still at school age

But if am already working and can fend for myself

I will leave them them to face the drama

Whoever have a prove that is my father is who I will relate with

talented321:
To the men, who will you buy or build house for among your wife and mother first, if you have the finance to build one house. And remember both of them don't have a house. Pls i need opinions.

Buy for mum and when she is no more, her children will her house before you know what is happening or your sibblings will drag the property with you because it belongs to mum, then you guys will start killing yourself to go and meet mum

Buy for your wife, when you guys have issues, she sells them and move on then what's the fate of you and your children

The best option is to buy in your name and you can allow any one to live there

Your children will inherit the property and so on

No one call sell the property without out the owners knowledge or his death certificate incase the person is no more

Juby:
Guys please I really need your advice.

On Monday evening while I was at home with my girlfriend, her pastor called her that he was coming over to visit of which she said ok, meanwhile, she has already told her pastor and some of her relatives that she was staying with her female friend and not her boyfriend, Of which she gave me her reasons that her pastor and other members of the church including her relatives, will not agree to her staying with a man without marriage. Though I'm a Muslim and a Hausa boy, born and bought up in Lagos were we currently reside, and she is an Igbo girl who was born and bought up in the north, only came here for her nysc and also secure a job at her church as the church accountant/ secretary.
So she told me that her pastor just called her that he is coming around to visit her, so I have to lock myself in the room to allow them talk. I waited for like 20 mins, before I came out to urinate. I peeped through the palour curting but they were not their, so i checked the other room just to be sure. And behold I saw my girlfriend and her pastor who is married with 2 kids on the small guess bed in the room all naked getting ready for sex. Men! I was shot of words, I almost killed that guy before he ran away i didn't follow him cus I don't want to attract the neighbors.
I really love my girlfriend and I don't really want her to go just like that, but I guess I don't have a choice. Though she is still with me now cus she don't have anywhere to go to except back to the north, so I'm still trying to figure out how I can handle the situation. And as for the pastor I'm thinking of reporting him to their head pastors. And I also have evidence. My girlfriend is begging me not to expose them.

So please guys I really need Ur advice on what to do cus I'm confused right now.

Dey play

VeryWickedMan:
Since the baby was born over the Mediterranean, what's it's nationality?

His nationality is going to be the nationality of the country his mum was going to because if not that his mum had a premature labour that led to his birth

He was supposed to be delivered there so far she already has a visa to enter that country

momsloved:
Good afternoon everyone, pls I urgently need your advice and suggestions on this.

My husband has been out of job since towards the end of last year. Almost the same time I had my second baby. The truth is, the same me nursing my baby has been the same person struggling to provide for the home.

Knowing that he contributed to his lost of job. He goes to work late, different excuses, doing the job anyhow that the management had to fire him. This is the second job he's losing due to carelessness.
He wasn't still meeting up with responsibilities even when he had those jobs. He was always complaining of TP expenses, deduction due to late coming, his salaries was not benefiting us.

Our present accomodation of 250k, one bedroom apartment is expiring ending of next month and I don't know how we're going to pay for the rent. The previous rent I have always contributed when I had the money.
Presently I have no job. I left my job during delivery, but I'm hoping to start looking for job very soon. Yet, I'm not idle. I'm still trying with little business to cartar for the house.

The issue now is, he has arranged his stuffs preparing to relocate to the village and he wants us to go together because he can't afford to renew the rent.
I told him I can't go to the village with him, we are too young to start retiring to the village. What about good school for the children especially my first child? But he has decided to go without us, leaving us with the whole responsibilities.
I'm afraid, I can't afford everything here either. But going with him to the village is also very scary. A man who ignore us when there's nothing in the house, waiting for me to fix, how can I trust him and relocate with my two children to his village? I can't speak their language and it's an interior village, How do we survive there?
He's not even considering all these.
Pls, advice me on what to do. I'm really fed up.

This is very sensitive

Seat him down to discuss with him and point out reasons why it's not a good option

Meanwhile get a self contain accommodation that you can afford to pay the rent

Flows001:
Alright.
I appreciate your contribution

You are welcome

Flows001:
Moderators please push this to front page.

My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.

Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.

My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her.
So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy.
Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything.
Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry.
Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..

When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..

Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price.
Her two options are:
1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand).
2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.

Please advice 🙏🙏🙏

I think the most important thing is, is this guy responsible, will he be there for your sister or he will abandon her same time ay he did with his first wife

She needs to do a discreet investigation about the man and his wife to be sure both of them are not doing stupid hide and seek game that will finish your sisters heart

Secondly he has to explain to her in details what lead to their separation and are the going for a divorce or they are separating to come back again in future

All this can be done while the bride price date is on going

If she is sure that the man has ended his relationship with her and they don't have hope of coming back again, she has to embrace the children and accept them

But she has to be sure that he will be there to train the children and sponsor their education

Not that he will leave them for her and start another relationship behind your sister

Her discreet investigation can be done behind the man so that she will get full details about him

So that when the man starts telling lies, she will know how to track him

ALABACONNECT:
Everyday they are launching something in this our Lagos.

Just to generate revenue

Federal own is loading and may be a heat