She's CONSIDERED innocent until proven guilty. She might be guilty but an independent investigation is in order not beer -parlor styled allegations....

I like the not trying too hard look.

Have you considered seeing a paed or therapist to check if he's on the spectrum? Apart from the ADHD, hiding under desks, I'm bothered about his seeming strange reaction to lights. In the interim, limit screen time considerably. Reduce sugar and so much processed food while increasing his physical activities- riding a bicycle, going on walks etc.

Say it as it is. Your user detection skills are on point....

ibechris:
U need to watch him...such a man can still come back to Nigeria and marry another woman behind u.

This man didn't try at all.

This is a text book example of being wicked and selfish at the same.

Just negodu

Gainman:
if you truly have Christ in you. I don't believe u will have such problem in your marriage. A real man never leave a wife who truly have Christ.

Just too generic to be a little experience....

Mygoodnessx:

What's your wife's opinion?

He's cheating and you know it. Several things u can do but you know what works best - report him to someone he respects, or ignore him. Sha protect your mental health and use protection. Always say a prayer for your sanity and your home. If you're not working, aim to be financially independent of him. Have a life outside him....sometimes see finish dey set in after a while. ✌

At all, at all na im bad pass

JohnnyBling:

Sapa lol. I need that soup to last till weekend

As I said earlier, there's nothing worth bragging about having covid, unless I'm missing something. However, there were genuine covid cases in Africa which may have defied the known norms in the Western world. All that is left is for researchers to look into all that if there's adequate interest. Nuff said

armyofone:
Having witnessed how the infections spread - at churches, schools, bus, playgrounds, workplaces, stores etc we just didn't hear of those kind of COVID-19 spreading, surge etc in Nigeria. People were still going about doing business, going to church, large market gatherings etc
I thought it was flu not COVID-19 that happened.
Anyway research is on going.
Since you guys want to brag about experiencing COVID-19, all good. I want it over.

But u put water

JohnnyBling:
https://www.nairaland.com/6997268/afang-soup-three-easy-steps
First time cooking afang and it came out just right after using pocohantas recipe.

Lol. I don't even know if having covid confers some bragging rights on the sufferers...

Tranquility2345:


How can you open your mouth and say you don’t really think there was ever COVID-19 in some parts of Africa and Nigeria? As in are you really serious? So those people that are testing positive and falling sick with loss of taste and smell all over the place are ghosts? If you are not knowledgeable about a topic, just shut the fukk up and stop displaying your ignorance for the whole world to see….

There was covid for heaven's sake. People died and I know folks with personal experiences...

armyofone:
I don't know if it is the food and strong immune...maybe...they are researching it.
For real, I don't really think there was ever COVID-19 in some parts of Africa eg Nigeria.

Right - trying to get similar food by buying organic - money grabbing. For example - I buy organic brown egg because I just don't understand the taste of White eggs.

This is some irrelevant bull

Gaddafi1:
So long a letter.

About 70 percent of bullies are male, and about 30 percent are female.
Both male and female bullies are more likely to target women.
Sixty-one percent of bullying comes from bosses or supervisors. Thirty-three percent comes from co-workers. The remaining 6 percent occurs when people at lower employment levels bully their supervisors or others above them.

INFORMATION IS POWER

Read the op again

Ximenez:

Wetin be history sister abeg?

It's the husband's outside brothers and sisters that are aware

While the history sisters that share the same mummy and daddy don't know

Mase2020g:
Anyways, matter like this are very sensitive, and to rush and make decisions on this, may probably not be advisable.

They see, don't involve third party in your marriage, not in this type of matter.
I
Since your partner siblings are aware of his unhealthy act, involve your mother and the pastor who wedded you guys.

You need to learn not to to make decisions with long term consequences based on short term conditions. You and your wife can still disagree in future but give yourselves some space before taking actions with drastic consequences like retrieving gifts.

With the way you were going, I was expecting adultery not just a quarell. So you were going to kill a Mosquito with a sledge hammer. If you continue this way, she might start to hide her investments from you. You are the Head of the home, please set a Good example for her.

Nacoss25:
I and my wife just settled our fight.
Thanks all for contribution and suggestion

Business before pleasure.....

lalalista:
Hello all,

Now here's why I'm down.

I was staying with my siblings before, I bought generator and rechargeable fan with my money while with them, now I'm in a serious relationship that will lead to marriage. My fiancee set up a business for me. I've been staying with my fiance for 6 months because my business center is close to his house. For 2 months now, no light in my shop because of some unresolved bill issues. My fiancee is having some challenges in his business so he couldn't buy me a gen. I needed a generator badly, so I decided to go and pick that my generator that I left with my siblings. My brother is making me feel like a bad person. He said I'm not supposed to take the gen. That what do I want compound people to think? That it's not fair. Since then, I've been feeling like I did something bad and like I'm a cruel person. Was I wrong to have taken the generator?

And if you know the answer to your yeye weeding question,
does your bank balance increase? And even if she's not morally
sound, today is not the right day for the clown to show how ratchet she is. A whole first lady even if Bianca slapped her should have just pretended and continue her catwalk at least for camera.

EnglandAmaka:


I be no won put mouth for this Anambra slap galore but when allegation of ashawo cum enter, I go must talk.

Since Obiano’s wife, Ebelechukwu, made video of going abroad to take COVID-19 jab, I lost the mandatory respect I had for her as a Governor’s wife.

But today’s cat fight, should be sociologically examined.
Why did Ebelechukwu walk all the way to where Bianca was seated?

Obviously she had rehearsed today, days ago but didn’t rehearse what Bianca’s reaction would’ve been.
Calling Bianca ashawo is a heavy punch.

Who has been weeding Ojukwu’s farm since he traveled to join Zik? Or did he seal his farm before jetting out?

Could it be that Obiano’s wife had been caged as Governor’s wife and today being the last day of her limelight, chose to let the world know who Bianca is or what she has been doing since Ojukwu transited?

Could Willie the outgone Governor, be having crush, fantasy, featuring Bianca and his wife kept stomaching it until today, she unleashed the dragon?

Or is Bianca known to flirt around holders of power in Anambra, seducing with her beauty and the men wanting to chop, so as to collect some of Ojukwu’s leftover powers, indulge her?

Let us look beyond the slap and ask questions. I am going to Google to ask if Bianca had been called Ashawo before or fingered in one kind relationship when she was Nigeria’s Ambassador to Spain!

You're welcome again

Mercychen:


Ok. I will increase my intake of them.

Thanks.

You're welcome. Food like ugu leaves, unripe plantain, garden egg leaves are also excellent sources of iron.

Mercychen:


Yes. It's usually caused by iron deficiency. I placed myself on pure ion supplement some time ago. It worked but a pharmacist later advised me to slow down or stop taking it when I started having tension headaches. He said too much of iron can cause it. I stopped it and the tension headache disappeared. So it's been a while I took blood caps. I guess that's why the pica is stronger these days.

Thanks so much.



Ok.
Thanks.

from what i understand, pica is usually caused by a vitamin deficiency, often iron. i think u need a blood test to identify the vit u need so u can attack this from the root.

Shes not the one o

Kirkman:

Yes o!

is bianca the one in pink?

chiedu7:
Both women are out of order, with Bianca behaving like a little B*tch

Please advise her on nairaland first....

spice123:

I am a married man and a relationship counselor. I am bigger than this so I wouldn't blame you.

Why not give him the cash?

Awon goldigger ti de.

spice123:

I sent you an email. Let's talk or you can chat me on 08063064569.

Is this a thing? What does it taste like?

DenreleDave:
Groundnut stew


Taken with bread and tea

We meuve after learning. No single soul is worth committing suicide for. U dey hear me as per wetin dey im body?

Look, my honest opinion is that u dodged a bullet and u better thank ur stars that u saw for yourself so no time for him to cook up stewpid cock and bull stories and that you hopefully dont have an STI. Above all, u caught his cheating self before marrying him.

Look, never outgive a NIGERIAN man in a relationship. Whether u request a penny or not, he should be generous and give thoughtful and not necesarily expensive gifts, which u can reciprocate. N what are you calling him for? He's already showed you the stuff he's made of , collecting money from you when he earns more and cheating, so RUNNNNN

thatthickgurl:
I was a perfect and dutiful girlfriend.

Spent all my savings on him when he was earning higher. I made him feel comfortable with me, I never requested a penny , so he doesn't think I'm materialistic

Lol. I'm such a fool

Cosigned apart from him being reported to the govt...

slickycee:
But why did you still decide to date him after everything.
Now you've seen the bloody red flags and you're still confused .

My dear , you're not a therapist, you're not Jesus Christ, you can't save him.

The only way to help him is to tell him the consequences of his addiction and report it to necessary authorities.
(Parents, church leaders, even the government )
From what you've typed , you're already on the road to becoming his co addict.

The person that unconsciously motivates him to use tramadol.

Stop trying to control his life,
Have no reaction to his addictions, if he takes it, he's an adult, he knows what he's doing, if he doesn't take it, he also knows what he's doing.
Quit trying to save people, you can't.

The more you try to exercise control over him, the more he continues the addiction to keep you dedicated to him
.

He unconsciously knows that his addiction, makes you more closer to him
Like you feel he needs you now than never, so you would be more caring, loving and supportive now.
Which enables the addiction


The best thing you can do, is not to give the addiction any attention,
If you want to help him, report him to the agency in charge of drug abuse, involve his parents and religious leader.
Keeping and addiction a secret, makes it more powerful.

The more you tell people about your addiction, the more others are aware of your addiction, the more control the addict would have over it.

So he needs to stop hiding that part of his life and publicly tell his loved ones.


I want to advise you but then again isn't it futile to advise someone in love.

So do as you please, may God see you through

I'm not a hypocrite dear. Just trying to steer him to what I perceive is the right path. I'm not asking him to be chummy with her but he can treat her as you would a stranger in need of help.

1Sharon:


And what about the Bible verse where it says to not provoke your children?
Hypocrites.