Op. Am already growing white hairs that my wife started clothing biz without consulting me first. Her sis in US has been sending them. I have had nothing to do with d biz or the clothes so far. Meanwhile I have been foolishly open to her, even faithful to her. Because of God though. Still thinking a reaction. Yours is a tougher call. D catholic church is dying by d day.
Prayer is not enough. Forgiveness is out of it. If it is me, divorce cannot be an option because of d kids. Not sleeping with her is easy but not eating her food is a real tough call. Eating her food is invitation to known death. Will you have your own kitchen. For how long. Sending her away is licensing her into promiscuity. How about bonding with your children. If you are a jealous kind, then d untimely death you fear will still come. Women are Devil we cannot do without. Am yet to hear sorry from my wife lips. But I can bet it, the one your wife said is acting and premeditated. Remember too God is interested on how you handle this matter. Your ideas are good.

May I suggest this: visit her father or whoever represents him if d dad is death. Go with an elder in your own family. Do not plan the visit. Go to him and say what happened. Do not say your plan to anybody. Do not entertain discussion on the matter with anybody thereafter. As you have requested, the documents must be given to you before any further talk until then cut her off your life. If any of your kids is up to ten call that one and explain events. When the document comes sell off the building & give d money to charity. It is not foolishness, that is the condition for the marriage to go on as though nothing happened. If she is like my wife she will refuse & say over her dead body. Then grow up & rent a place without her knowledge & move her things there. She on her own may repack to wherever she wants. By this you have not divorced her. You have separated from her. Keep her off your home. Your kids can stay wherever till they mature. But harden up to face any man that comes close to her, the priest inclusive. Take care. A tough call.

Re---tunapawizzy
"I duno why these Pro-jang idiots are displaying their stewpidity 4 d whole world to see, u voted in an election and because the outcome didnt favour u, u now come out to say d election shouldnt have held, the joke is on those 16 idioots posing as governors"


i pity you. keep cursing yourself. is any of the governors your age mate? you have phone and access to internet, therefore a right to hide & abuse your fathers. may God forgive you.

OP, everything said is right. the practicality is the issue. let's agree, with training, u can hit off your toe on a rock and simply smile. yea.

OP I agree with you 100%
but I hate your grammar

ROSSIKE

well done

abysirius

For complete 1 year I stayed in Aba and I doubt if Aba is as terrible as u're painting it. Most especially all these areas that u mentioned. Fine, Aba has a drainage problem. But if u've been to a place like Onitsha then u will understnd that Aba is better. For your info, I stay @ Omenazu (corpers lodge). Umunghazi, Ariaria and even 'aiorun' permit my spellings, are our catchment areas where we (family house) do our monthly shopping. Aba to me isn't bad. Let me ask u: have u visited Ajegunle b4? Boundary, Alakoto, and all those places them. What will u say about those areas? Aba is okay joor. Abi na where all these lawless pple no dey sef? Na for Osusu town hallan very close to BTC I do inec reg as Aro1. So I know aba wella. Aba, I love Aba.

Examine yourself, you may have been to Aba, but Aba did not pass through you, The OP is incontrovertible....Ijiot

how about genetic bad breath ?
found mostly among babes
that get wet easily

it is a fact of nature; that before middle age, the main asset
of a woman is youthfulness / productivity, character only complements
while the man must showcase emotional / financial stability.
Whoever falls behind equilibrium flounders with age for acceptance.
Remember ladies have menopause to contend; & must keep your focus away

A guy with financial inequity yet unmarried at 40 stammers when
asked his age. But a lady with loving hubby & 3 kids at 38 corrects you
at any age under-estimation. but with our present digital clime
age declarations are atavistic as NPC certificate is demanded at entry
to nursery, primary school when a child's future is unknown.

Thus at a later age when need for modifications arises, the system will
scoff at it. The developed world is there; else the whites are no different.

Simply reality. Those cheated by nature & overly looking young lie most.

POSTER u bi FOOL SHUTUPID IGNORAMUS
for calling IGBO ibo
IT IS IGBO plz ijiot

Guy, you need to interact with divorcees to understand
I behold a wise but insecure lady here
Tell her to go get a simple car (like Toyota Corrola)
she should forget SUV and flee building a house
she must avoid opening her legs (always) to whoever she wants for marriage
men are unpredictable. But there is only one formula that works for all
1. Be Humble and respectable
2. Be Humble and respectful
3. Be Humble and NEAT
On matters of money: be stingy with information about self,
never give loan to any man (but assist if a desperate case)
Good luck

Guy (OP), thumps up
I love guys who think down

Until a man's mouth is shut
it will continue to open and in fact BARK
it does not matter that he is on the ground
with his legs cascading the air in a helpless fall.

UGLY weds HANDSOME
in 16 mths they will come to NL
& tell us to save their marriage

Mod All these pictures are distractions. My dear OP look at yourself again. The guy is right, you are not the first to get pregnant. remember this guy is marrying for the first time, you are also being a wife for the first time. You are the first babe he is living with in such strange mood swings. He is seeing your disfigured shape for the first time. He is trying to cope with his new experience, but you are not letting him. your man may not be the best of men, certainly he is not the worst. YOU NAG A LOT. The pictures you paint here brings my MADAM RIGHT WIFE to the fore. Your man gets moody too.

Pregnancy is challenging, no doubt. Being loved is different from being pampered. If he cooks for you today, any day he fails to cook, NTA will read it. In between your lines, I can read that he loves you. Only play boys pamper. Real men love and care. Drop that pampering demand please. the chase is long over. You are now husband and wife, not boyfriend and girlfriend. We have three kids, I can't remember ever boiling water for my wife; though we had a helper. Good, you often apologize after accusing him falsely that he is into extra marital game. Those who play about don't show the babes to their wives. Wake up. Melancholy or whatever is an academic path for sympathy. My grand mother who equally was, knew no such, yet coped.

Please may this be the only side advise you are seeking about your marriage. Never bring any third party into your home else prepare in time to join the long list of divorced babes. Start the pampering, may be he will learn. Any how, think of a helper and do not run your mouth. Good luck.

AcidTalk is quite intelligent, certainly he is not smart. There were too many mix-ups especially with his quick trail responses to early reactions. But u guys need a caution, some of us treat issues from NL in dearie fashion.

where is Kitty Kat ?

OP, by any chance; are you a graduate?
if the answer is yes, then NAIJA schools are apologies.
By interpolation, if my understanding is right, I go with Kitty Kat
NO GUY WANTS A BABE THAT DUMPS HERSELF ON HIM. The fun is in the suspense.

My heart bleeds for Nigeria, my fatherland. it is unfortunate that the Fulanis arrogate mastery of violence to themselves powered by Jihaddist religion. A religion that is a threat to itself. Well, the Igbo's lost to Hausa/Fulani not because of inferiority, cowardice, or lesser might; but because the Igbo's had no clear appreciation at such a nation focused pogrom. Religion and natured animism favoured the villain. Also their propagandist capture of the beni, Yoruba support additional to the might of federal possessions did it. Now the middle belt, the Yoruba's, and the Niger Deltans understand the selfish agenda of Hausa/Fulani but cannot speak out else Igbo's assume superior wisdom. But they can never be used again.

Jonah Jang may wish to die in protection of his own. The problem is the center. GEJ is a craftsman. He wears the shoe and knows how much he is unwanted by his bed fellows WHO ARE BORN TO RULE (but can not lead themselves let alone others). But the die is cast. The end of Hausa/Fulani misinformation strategy and arrogation to violence has begun. The present evacuation threat may wane into half success (because GEJ does not want to die in office), if it is tried at all.

TERMINUS market is closed this morning in direct sympathy with Fulani protestation. Very soon the Fulanis will desire this Nigeria they are destroying. Then, it will be too late.

Kitty Kat. I have come to love & admire you.
Please do not follow half wits & tone.

NL should not be for persons that barely know how to spell their names
evidenced DROP OUTS may be allowed as GUESTS only.

OP please go and study GS101. Daddy asked that you
read your books, instead you were chasing boys about.
So you even have BB

One of the interesting chats I have seen in NL. but this Kitty Kat babe has good grammar.
I strongly feel she will be boring and a nag, a chitty chat. whatever you say gets fused.
You can only cope with her by just moping at her mouth else the legs won't open
Is Cuddlemii dead, I use to enjoy her controversy.

The brief illness tag is not quite right. the battle has been long.
I visit their bakery in Jos nearly every week. The husband tried.
I mean tried so much to save her, but God allowed the death to be.
Not gathered myself to call him since last night because he will
be devastated now. watched him cry last May by her hospital bed

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Imagine the two ladies in the story are my sisters
I will kill the OP with razor blade
FOOLISH MAN

Op has not scored high in my thoughts. She is a loser.
She got attracted to slowpoke man, and jumps about that she dumped a guy.
A guy that is up to those thoughts will dig into you. Capture those lies.
U are working, right! can't he check you out. Even if you are on leave,
there will still be a trace of you at work. What an idiotic guy that
dates you and won't know any of Your colleagues. Or, is your company
one man show....no gate man. dump a smart guy, and we shall hear you.
yea you were providing and suddenly turned a nag. Enough sign.
if the dude is normal, then he is inexperienced; maybe a teenager.

A responsible man
1. cares about his integrity (lawful) in every of his actions and reactions
2. dresses to the occasion. an irresponsible man wears track suit to church
3. follows etiquette during interactions. listens before he talks

when you hear strange voice, the type Samuel heard and ran to Eli, it may be coming from God or satan.
it may as well be mundane, in which case the person hallucinates. in these cases, the soul is under huge external influence.
The soul is the you. the spirit you. the unseen you. the you that reasons. the you that chooses. the external spirits often imposes choices on us. sometimes, it is advice. tiny voice asking you to kill your mother OR not to enter DANA aircraft.

BODY = FLESH
SOUL = MIND
(the real man that never dies. The soul that dies refers to the you that will stand in judgement after physical death. the soul that lives is in heaven, the soul that dies is in hell. For real, soul is the man that will never die otherwise called the spirit man)
SPIRIT = GOD or SATAN
for clarity: there are three major categories of spirits in nomenclatural palance. that is
spirit of man = SOUL
spirit of God = HOLY SPIRIT
spirit of Satan = EVIL SPIRIT
Thanks

surprised this baga got responses

I just want to comment becos of this Daresh lady. Madam, I thump up for your hubby. The example you gave shows he is managing u right, else u would be out there hating marriages.

I have a working wife. Her salary is for her, pocket money. My pay slips are everywhere in d house. Hers is sacred, unseeable. I take every conceiveable bill. Rent, electricity, food, kids uniform etc. Mind u, I have a good wife. But her goodness does not extend to sharing her income. So u are saying I should move with her to say Abuja assuming she is transferred with a pay of #500k that is twice my pay. You are sick

Did she marry me? David captured my thoughts, d OP needed to have provided more information, for meaningful advise.

God forbid that I depend on woman for anything other than intimacy