I think you’re selfish and the man too doesn’t know what he wants. Sis he wants you to do same too so you both are sterile not you taking him off the productive line and tomorrow you leave him and he can’t even have a chance with another woman. If you want to go sterile pls have a discussion and let you both remove your stuff. That he said it would be done on you too clearly shows he is afraid of being alone in bearing cost of a decision you brought. But then again why don’t you find your type and stop forcing your opinion on someone. You might even find divorcée who has had all kids and doesn’t even need a child and you be good or just stay single.
This thread doesn’t make sense at all. Imagine if it was him who says hey I want you remove your womb after 2kids how would we look at it?

Where is for better for worse in all of this

I don’t understand this
How long did you date that you claim he dumped you
Did you both discuss and agree this from day one when you both agreed to date that no s*x and now he wants it or what?
There is no write or wrong in a relationship
It involves 2 to agree and no decision should be forced on the other. He wants you don’t so move on to your next as am sure he will and you both will be happy.
Don’t see the reason for “men” in your post. If men are so bad, well stay off completely and create a thread for that so we celebrate it
Also for the guys saying women…let me not assume everyone is so bitter at other gender yet every weekend marriages are happening. Where do these ones find themselves?
State your relationship criteria from day one and if your toaster can’t deal move on to next and if you can’t find your spec become a nun or stay happy choosing. We don’t care what your opinion is of the other gender

Her family has said their own, so what does your intending spouse say. It’s you both that can decide where to go from here and that part wasn’t in your post. Even after marriage there will be things in-laws wouldn’t agree. Secondly I don’t like that you both took 4yrs to make your intentions known to family. Discrimination will always be there and has nothing to do with you. You both should decide what to do and proceed if you are determined but shouldn’t be about your opinion. She what does she want? Bcz somehow I feel she too has started feeling that way as you didn’t give us that. Goodluck though

Next time learn to discuss the brief you’re given before you go ahead to. Sit down with your boss and tell him the different scenarios available and let him choose. It’s his business and he has right to choose what he wants to do. Yes he is not in tune with tech but you created this problem. You could have asked support to change your email to his and make him primary before exiting. I think you should ask him to block his card and use your own card or he gets a non funded account you both can use to try to use. Also let him understand he can then log into the link and contact support to confirm he is the only admin. It’s your duty to show transparency as he has more to lose it’s his business and do not put yourself in positions where you have to explain so much next time. If he doesn’t believe as him to get another tech person he trust to work on it with him so he takes control fully, let the new guy contact support to confirm he is only one with access and show him the mails from support

You refused to resolve your preferences before marriage. You both can’t do this to yourselves. What of pregnancy? How can a spouse be complaining about size of other. It’s meant to be both parties work out their preferences not one party playing victim. Even if the other party needs help he or she must show effort in both parties looking for the help. Not someone crying that his spouse wants to. It’s marriage not relationship. What kind of ignorant partners are these. Look at your posts you’re now frequenting Olosho groups. Better walk out of that marriage before you harm yourself looking for public toilet outside. It’s one year. Sit her down and ask her way forward and you both can explore it and if there is no way forward walk. You both will find who you can cope with. This is wrong on every side. Did she tell you during courtship? There are lubes and you both can take a vacation but it’s feelings first if she isn’t interested there is nothing you can do. Forget the crap of some feeling pain but I ask do you know all those still find a man they relax and have real fun. It’s about the mind and if a spouse doesn’t feel like it why torture and marry who you don’t want? And yes next time be sure you see and confirm what you’re buying. Just pissed reading your post.

There is no where in the world where such doesn’t happen. Question is what are the facilities needed to check these for our shops and are they properly manned. I entered a supermarket where the monitoring screen has no staff but put by the busy cash point. We need to get serious and face the crime as it evolves. People steal phones and we are here complaining when it should be he was caught. Can you imagine things that has been lost in that shop. The issue of the other day fire is another subject. Why is no one monitoring the screens and are they enough? Of what use is the CCTV if it’s only used to see who stole after he has left

Rather than hate on the guy for his strategy, I wonder what is his own strategy?
Why is he not taking over the kitchen himself if he has the skills and patience to cook for that number daily?
He isnt the only one who noticed and attempted to stop it so why arent you also mentioning the names of the others so people can know about those others.
Isn't this conspiring?
This is a game and who has strategy and who is jealous should be left to play their game by bringing something better to the table. Let him steal the show and you steal it from him but not acting bully. If he started a song who says your favorite shouldnt introduce another song for the house?
So by this post ladies are meant to be the gender meant for the kitchen? smh
When bullies are out of options they result to violence. Play your game but getting others to see something so they hate him/her is not a winners way

Policies that can’t be sustained and how does this test decide their graduating CGPA? Will it be like a course of its own or will the students GP which he earned over several courses cause them to reduce his grades of the courses to drop him to 2.1? Quantitative reasoning and testing at best should be introduced as a 0.5 unit course which everyone must pass. Let’s hope there is a policy document and NUC approved it

I do not understand why some always compare
The economy is different and not same currency even.
Minimum wage per hour is 8.91 so 45hrs per week you get 1600GBP per month and your spending just around 450GBP for accommodation and complaining? Well you have 1000 to play around though not sure about tax rate and you can do extra hours. How much percentage of your pay were you expecting to save before? All of it? Try come home to do same cleaning work and see if you can afford a studio in decent location like you have

There is this maturity that comes with when one takes step to get married and responsibility too. All I see in the last part is each party trying to manipulate the other (blackmail) to submit. This shouldn’t happen after proposal. If a wife or husband doesn’t see how the partner is not comfortable with a particular relationship they keep both parties ought to be able to discuss it but where you’re calling and she isn’t interested I understand you’re in love but my brother whatever brought you to this forum should give you energy to accept what you can or refuse what you can’t. I will not tell you to continue or end it but look at yourself and imagine if this is what you can handle in other pressing issues. Will this be how your wife will just wake up and want space or rush you to drag her phone because you touched it. For me if there is no sincerity atleast after rings there shouldn’t be any advancement. Forget we discuss it . Over a call she gets a lady you proposed asked you give her time over one week my dear she believes you will beg soon. Goodluck

Yet you both made each other do tests before you accepted marriage. People must be let to satisfy their fears legally. If you don’t want it don’t even give him the test serve him the papers and walk. Getting fed up with each gender blackmailing the other. Have there been cases of fraud yes. Does anyone deserve to confirm their fears yes pls
Even if not for anything this test should be encouraged same way we criticize cheaters so the ladies who are bent on this can know they will be caught

There is something about this story sha
One time best friends, guys leave them to their fight

Move on there is a way guilt when allowed for too long makes you loose yourself. You made a mistake and she wants it to end so move on. And next time be certain before you take some decisions and know the implications and ready for them. Also I must point you guys dated for too long, 6years is too long. While you beat yourself up the lady has moved on. There is nothing in this life that happens that God hasn’t ordained so grow too and allow her grow in her own way. After all before she chose you she had feelings too for other but chose you. It has ended move on! If you were married and one party makes a mistake would that also be how people dump each other? Point is she must have other reasons and this just the smoke but it’s her life and you stop beating up yourself 6years you stayed faithful, repeat that feat in next relationship and do whatever you want and can stand the consequence as am no morale preacher. The worst thing you can do in life is to stop growing and start chasing people. Even roadside mechanics are busy making a life. It takes two to have a relationship stop this obsession as one party has said it’s over. A no should mean no

When you recognize that only what God has allowed that anyone can do to you, you will learn to forgive. Your maker allowed it! Learn to trust he knows why he allowed it and be at peace. What’s the desperation to feel offended?
How can you trust he can save your soul but you can’t trust he knows what he is doing?

How can you date a man for 5yrs? And saying al these things to each other and all it’s unimaginable
Really I think you both are wasting each other’s time.
My advice, be like a man when entering a relationship, know what you want and always insist on it while playing your part in the relationship. Discuss everything and decide what to do at each instant on how you both can handle it. Just saying I like you and sleeping together isn’t a relationship. Seriously after 5yrs you both are still at this stage then I blame you both. Sit down and talk and if there is no future you both end it peacefully and pls do this talk in the morning so if it ends you part and you leave. At this stage even a new born would have almost entered primary and that’s where you both are still arguing over cooking and sweeping and one party even abusing the other that she is talking marriage. My dear don’t waste your life that’s all I have to say

Don’t just suspend the marriage walk away from him as in stop the relationship till he comes back from his senses and assure you too that he has cut ties with his ex’s and other women of no value. This guy asked you out my dear stop making him feel he own you or only eligible man in the world. He even proposed to you and it was only when you accepted it worked so why am I sensing he feels king already? What’s this thing about past if he feels he can’t live with your past and acting all childish why don’t he go be with the ex. Your not trying yourself. Define what you can tolerate now why do you owe him explanation for what someone told him?
And pls before you leave take your boyfriend to her house and ask her husband to join let her say before her husband all she has been telling your boyfriend and please she should prove them too

Date and if isn't what you bargained walk
Don't know why people breakup second time and go back. Not everyone you ask out must end in marriage so what's this fuss about. That bad person will still find love. It just didn't work with you so move on

I think this guy is in his second tenure right?
That's when they always feel they figured it out.
How can any sane person who has led state security council believe a new Major General or equivalent learns the rope if appointed?
Maybe he doesn't even know what the rank entails. Does he know these are security professionals who have committed years in service and trained to attain those ranks and their mates around the world man better positions even in industries.
maybe he views the rank as normal party faithful who get to learn a position after he is appointed. He should focus on development which he is doing ok and leave matters he has no idea

Will how she feel add 10Naira to your investment?

If you’re in Abuja locate Federal Ministry of Women Affairs I think they can help you.
While you are at it go to Berekete Family radio the convener he his way with police high authorities so your matter is on air and they pick your father to tell them what happened to your mother and hope they didn’t harm her. How come you don’t have uncles and relatives something is wrong in this story. Truly hope she is safe for everyone to refuse talking about her and why will the person who told you not tell you who she is

Your picking wrong fight
Your brother is your only challenge. Do you want to be poisoned there or accused of rape. Your brother added 5yrs to you serving him and you dont see anything? What business is this and what is your plans if you go to the village? What has your parents said? What skill can you learn to become independent. Can you raise money from home to come start yours. I would have said ignore and focus but your brother arbitrarily changing when he settle you is wrong and you might serve and be sent out eventually. Try to figure out a way for yourself that makes you make progress as i see no future with your brother

Hope he knows she will counter sue for comments he made about her character on public TV too like the 4 husbands issue on how that has made her lose business interests. If I were her lawyers I wait to see what he is asking and double it let court award his and mine

Something is wrong with this article. One hand its criticising names not trained on other hand its asking why some states dont have nominees. A particular year in Nigeria a top foreign diplomat came into the country and got married to a Nigerian hell didnt fall in his country. Every constituency is represented in senate and if your people dont agree with the list pls get your representative to oppose the list. Point is we also have party system and if these are who the party wishes to send and confirmed by senate let it be. What have we achieved using these career diplomats? They are all serving alongside even when these guys are recalled they are incharge and show no reforms so pls stop crying for them.

Dont ever be the sensible one in a relationship makes you come off as possessive. Takes 2 to be in a relationship. Your choice for me I let her go,its turning toxic and dont wait for something worse. How can you date a girl who is available to other guys and lies to your face. She doesnt see you again as anything.And Hey what are you doing dating a girl for 3yrs more like you both are sleeping together and figuring things to work out. Whats the plans? Focus and get established and stop feeling entitled to have a girlfriend and when your ready get married. So your that cheap a partner can walk out and walk in and your seen as pitiable. Sorry bro

Truly the guy must have been pained. The Sam I know over the years wouldn’t want any negativity at all. Someone even Dangote respects and almost instrumental to his success in early 2000s before he diversified. Just pray he comes out of this as he likes his image like anything. Pls next time do better verification and punish staff jeopardizing you Sir because now it’s just the boys what of next time who knows what they will board for you

You will never see the opposite gender being business partners or anything productive as besties rather what you find are two lazy people claiming besties and all they do is waste reasonable time and gossip about each other’s private lives. Why will you sit and listen to a friends intimate details or their issues? There are trained professionals who get paid for it and produce better results. Watch most of them with such mindset always people without direction feeling they know what the modern world offers and zero financial power

All these issues and writup over 5k...smh...hmmm

There was an order and said to be renewed whether it didn’t follow procedure is an academic exercise until the SAN goes to higher court to show it was wrongly extended and set it aside. I wonder why an SAN would want the President to ignore an existing order based on he thinking “how can he have ambition when others are there”...If there is a recognized chair by the other camp why didn’t he sign on the letter to inec on Ondo? there is an order deal with it. This nec can atleast save the party as without it sitting and confirming things the party stands to lose Ondo and Edo even if they win. That’s why there is a court, Sagay should get his gang to go to it and learn to appeal that’s why despite his SANship must come before a judge and argue his case. Anyways today is here let’s see how it goes

Something is wrong with this story

Guys while I mightn’t support extra judicial processes if your a tenant and can’t pay move out and move into a smaller house within your budget. Your landlord deserve his pay as he has needs too and maybe your house is his only means of livelihood. You don’t have to live in a big house if you cannot afford it,yes you used to. Max you should ask is sometime to move out. A lot of tenants are becoming something else especially in Abuja where so many not so rich try to show off. I have said my own

Now I understand
You’re not a lesbo nor bisexual trust me if you’re you wouldn’t be asking
Youre just damaged psychologically by your experience.
See many of rape victims get to outgrow it and move on just like as males survive bloody beatings and still make excellent husbands who don’t raise hand on others. First you need to find a way to leave behind that encounter. Personally I can never date a rape victim because of the baggage except she shows she has outgrown the shit. Terrible things happen and people should stop playing victim and suffering their partners. You need to show the will to live. Stop the porn and love for yourself some ladies Dnt like penetration doesn’t make them lezbos. If ur in that shoe you focus on pre-intimacy and use various lubricants. Sex is an art and should be expressed when you think of trying to satisfy the other that’s when you lose sense of it.
Even if you chose the gay route understand you still need to study and adopt. It isn’t as cool as it’s portrayed I have never seen the level of jealousy like those express. Point is try to undo your past. Start afresh. And you have to really find love as most people I see have no idea what love is and be responsible. You’re alive make good use. You survived the rape and abortion don’t see why you should stay damaged. Even some bisexuals get married. Take charge of your life as you can achieve anything you want including developing any sexuality you. Goodluck whatever you chose to do with your life