Travel › Re: Moving Back To Nigeria After The Lockdown by ibkayee(f): 7:57pm On May 22, 2020 |
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Travel › Re: Moving Back To Nigeria After The Lockdown by ibkayee(f): 7:57pm On May 22, 2020 |
Bbbwings: In essence, are you saying people living here are nasty?  No, I am saying the frustration would push me personally to become nasty |
Family › Re: Sour Grape Syndrome!!! by ibkayee(f): 7:56pm On May 22, 2020 |
You call it lazy, what if the Fox was just being practical. Perseverance is good, but sometimes we also need to be realistic with ourselves lol |
Travel › Re: Moving Back To Nigeria After The Lockdown by ibkayee(f): 7:43pm On May 22, 2020 |
Lol living in Nigeria would turn me into a very nasty person |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Trump Asks Governors To Reopen Churches & Mosques (Declares Them Essential) by ibkayee(f): 7:41pm On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: No one is perfect, ❤️ I have issues with some of his utterances and I don't think reopening the church (in full capacity) at this time is the right way to go.
I also think the world has come to realize that Covid-19 is not as deadly as we were made to believe. Ok my dear |
Romance › Re: Will You Help Your Ex by ibkayee(f): 7:29pm On May 22, 2020 |
Take this plot to xvideos |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Trump Asks Governors To Reopen Churches & Mosques (Declares Them Essential) by ibkayee(f): 7:25pm On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: I like the fact that he speaks about his faith, the God he believes. I like to see great men acknowledge God.  Don't tell me you're one of those people getting hoodwinked by people of questionable character all because they 'believe in God'. Do you honestly think that God laid it in his heart to reopen them for the good of the people, or he just doesn't want to anger his main voter base |
Family › Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by ibkayee(f): 7:12pm On May 22, 2020 |
Eberex: There is surely a big difference in raising a child up there and in Africa especially Nigeria. Which child at that age will report to the government about the treatment at home? Such freedom is very limited here. That really played a key role in all these It could actually be a double-edged sword |
Food › Re: Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE! by ibkayee(f): 6:30pm On May 22, 2020 |
Lots of pastries and I'm loving it  Every time I go to the supermarket the flour sections are snatched clean, I can see who the culprits are lol |
Romance › Re: Can You Marry Someone Who Behaves Exactly Like You ? by ibkayee(f): 4:52pm On May 22, 2020 |
Plenty aspects of myself I wouldn't want him to have |
Romance › Re: Can You Sponsor Your Girlfriend Or Fiancee In School? by ibkayee(f): 3:58pm On May 22, 2020 |
Iceyjayz: Fvck off! It happened to you? Lolz sorry not sorry |
Family › Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by ibkayee(f): 2:11pm On May 22, 2020 |
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Family › Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by ibkayee(f): 12:59pm On May 22, 2020*. Modified: 5:01pm On May 22, 2020 |
This is heavy...by acknowledging your wrongdoings and apologizing you are taking responsibility for your actions, which is at least a step in a better direction and that's good, but your family members aren't obligated to forgive you unfortunately and it may or may not happen, most you can do is hope and/or pray (if that's what you're into)
I don't know anything about the custody process/logistics, but as far as things that are actually within your control I'd advise you to focus on taking care of yourself and seeing how you can best contribute to your kids' lives going forward (if possible and even if it has to be from a distance)
Good luck |
Romance › Re: Can You Sponsor Your Girlfriend Or Fiancee In School? by ibkayee(f): 12:37pm On May 22, 2020 |
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Romance › Re: Can You Sponsor Your Girlfriend Or Fiancee In School? by ibkayee(f): 12:33pm On May 22, 2020 |
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Romance › Re: Can You Sponsor Your Girlfriend Or Fiancee In School? by ibkayee(f): 12:32pm On May 22, 2020 |
I feel bad for the guy whose help is rooted in altruism and genuine care for his girlfriend who gets f*cked over...as for the ones with the questionable agendas who target vulnerable girls to use it as some kind of bargaining chip for control lool yikes |
Programming › Re: Help Needed With My Programming Ambition by ibkayee(f): 12:22pm On May 22, 2020 |
Tim1212: He really need to build his problem solving skills, while learning programming. Very true, learning the syntax and fundamental concepts is not enough. Most of my time is spent drawing out how I'm going to apply these things to create whatever it is I'm doing. Your suggestions are good, along with practice, practice, practice, that's why he should find projects to do or think of a useful system himself |
Family › Re: My Brother Scammed Me Of $60000 And Now Has The Audacity To Still Demand Money by ibkayee(f): 12:12pm On May 22, 2020 |
olabrinks: I never understand why people abroad always want to desperately buy land in Nigeria. The money you use to buy a property in naij, why not use it for a mortgage, eventually pay off the mortgage and get onto the property ladder in the country you reside. Set up generational wealth for your children. I mean unless you want to eventually move back to Nigeria, I see no point of this and it’s just a waste of money. I guess it’s a status symbol for most. Some want to do both, for whatever personal reasons |
Programming › Re: Help Needed With My Programming Ambition by ibkayee(f): 12:02pm On May 22, 2020 |
Tim1212: My candid advice, is try as possible to learn the architecture of how a computer works.
Learning programming is not the main thing, cus you may not know what to do with it.
Practically involve yourself in solving real life problems using mathematical techniques.
Programming is all about solving problems, become a researcher and develop your analytic skills.
Many programmers in Africa, don't know what to achieve with it, because they fail to understand the architecture of a computer. I can't agree with this enough. I found this REALLY helpful when studying programming |
Celebrities › Re: Timaya Daughter's Clocks 8 Today, Celebrates In Pillow Dress. PHOTOS by ibkayee(f): 11:12am On May 22, 2020 |
pocohantas: All these Instagram parents will not kill us. I am so disgusted |
Celebrities › Re: Timaya Daughter's Clocks 8 Today, Celebrates In Pillow Dress. PHOTOS by ibkayee(f): 10:59am On May 22, 2020 |
These pictures are high key inappropriate, more than likely posed innocently by an adorable child having fun, but whoever posted them should know better, especially the one with the finger in her mouth. I wouldn't have known she was that young if her age hadn't been mentioned |
Romance › Re: 3 Things Women Do When They Are Cheating by ibkayee(f): 10:35am On May 22, 2020 |
emusmithyy: Hope you're good? I'm good thanks, you too |
Family › Re: How Will You Handle A ❤️-CHILD In Your Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 10:09am On May 22, 2020 |
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Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 9:22am On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: Lmao! Which of my views need tweaking? Lmao *rolls out scroll* |
Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 9:17am On May 22, 2020 |
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Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 9:05am On May 22, 2020 |
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Programming › Re: Help Needed With My Programming Ambition by ibkayee(f): 8:52am On May 22, 2020 |
Look for big projects to do online, or...maybe think of some kind of system you will find useful and create that |
Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 8:48am On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: It wasn't intentional Abuse in any form is not something to be taken as a norm.
I had to throw in the meaning of endurance because I believe that not all forms of abuse in marriage must lead to outright separation. But OP said it's a continuous thing. I recognize that there's a difference between say...a one off, atypical case in 10 years of a relationship vs being regularly abused. It will still be a heavy choice, but there's more room for giving someone the benefit of doubt in the first scenario than second in my opinion. I don't get the impression you were making much of a distinction between these types of scenarios, felt more like you didn't give it much thought and just threw it into the same basket. Anywho...nevermind sha lol |
Fashion › Re: Bianca Schoombee Withdraws From Miss South Africa 2020 Over Old Tweets by ibkayee(f): 8:24am On May 22, 2020 |
JaceBlaze: Is it really offensive in SA or people just love drama? The word doesn't even have a history in South Africa Nah, as long as you're black, the offensiveness of the n word transcends countries. Don't think it needs to have a history in the exact location you're from to recognise the negative weight it carries |
Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 8:19am On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: I understand the concern. I'm not trying to justify domestic violence or abuse instead I've tried to answer the question: Why do Nigerian women endure abuses in marriage?
It is not a question of whether abuse in marriage is wrong or right. We all know it's wrong. But the knowledge hasn't changed the trend.
I'll still maintain that people endure abuses in marriage for many reasons that are related to the same reason we endure abuses at the workplace, family, nation, etc. I don’t think you were trying to justify it, and I get that this was your way of explaining the concept of endurance itself. But the way you kind of threw it in with those other examples (which are also unfavourable situations in their own way) came across as you somewhat trivialising it, as well as the complexities of handling and leaving an abusive relationship. |
Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 7:57am On May 22, 2020 |
bukatyne: What is the difference between a toxic work environment and a toxic marriage? For starters you aren’t bound to one legally |
Family › Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Endure Abuses In Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 7:56am On May 22, 2020 |
Acidosis: Lol. I'm smoking TRUTH You aren’t to be honest, and it’s concerning lol, so many things wrong with what you wrote, for starters imagine putting domestic violence in the same boat as ‘difficult customers’... Lol it is well |