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pryme:
thats very discerning of you
Yeah, I hate that show to bits,
But No - it applies to everything else, if my partner gives her job more time than me, I walk.
If may partner has anything that keeps her away from me for days that is within her control, I walk.

I have walked out on a serious relationship cos of this, cos scenarios like this creates a conducive setting for cheating.

I see now. I am indifferent about the show. I can't keep up. So I don't bother.

It seems you like to "walk". Just make sure you have comfortable shoes on

pryme:
Its bigger than just the picture here, this simply tells you where you are placed in the relationship, and that is a very big issue and a very big reason to leave the relationship.
Maybe its because am a man that believes in putting his woman first, thats why i think its good excuse to walk when you recognize your partner can "invest" more time in a tv show than to be with you.
Maybe someday you will understand its the little things like a straw that does break the camels back.

But we both agreed it's not a good reason to leave; especially if it's a serious relationship. That might be her flaw even if I am not endorsing it. But is the guy without his own flaws and obsessions? His own might not be bbnaija. They should be able to sort it out.

But why do I think this has more to do with the fact that it is bbnaija than anything else?

pryme:
Good then stop arguing cos it wont fly, the only wrong the Op did here is not breaking up with his gf officially.
If you can be in a relationship with someone that puts a tv show first ahead of you then you obviously dont have self worth, it not that you get ignored because your partner is busy making money, but instead its a damn tv show - no, that means you could get ignored for less.

And whats this you talk about football matches, is 1 hour 45 mins the same thing as 24hrs? so you are saying your partner cant have at least 2 hrs of the day to himself? compare that to having months to himself without you in the picture (tv show or not).
The op is just playing nice, if you think its fine that your guy will put more value on a tv show than you in his life (and this will go on for months) then thats fine for you, but dont make a mistake of thinking its normal or the op should take it laying down.

Bottom line as you stated which was my point...it's not a good excuse to break up.

Skmoda360:
You are Barca fan?

Nope. I won't tell you so that you won't torment me with it.

Skmoda360:
I won't be biased on this but look at it from this angle.....EPL is only on weekends and Champions league is only at nights on Tuesdays and Wednesdays twice in a month for the duration of it and Carabao cup is also at night except FA cup which is also weekend things, so what are you saying? .....BBnaija is all day for 99days ...think again.

I won't argue on this. I am married to football so I can categorically tell you that the time we watch football superceeds every other programme. Not to mention lawn tennis and their long games. Lucky for me Iam not a Zeeworld, Telemundo or bbnaija person. But when I want to watch movie or series on tv, I have to sacrifice a lot of it.

Skmoda360:
But football is not everyday for 99days now?

But how many days are the different football leagues in total almost all through the year? Bbnaija is 3months and that's it till the next year or two years.

It's just that you will judge the one that affects and benefits you more fairly than for others. To you, soccer probably makes more sense but Zeeworld is somebody else's EPL.

Skmoda360:
But football is not everyday for 99days now?

But how many days are the different football leagues in total almost all through the year? Bbnaija is 3months and that's it till the next year or two years.

It's just that you will judge the one that affects or benefits you more

Skmoda360:
This is her second time ok....she might switch to Zeeworld now after bbnaija. I hate those kinda girls mehn!!!

If ladies can keep up with their man's divided attention when Premier league, Italian Serie A, La liga, League un, Carabo cup, Europa League, UEFA champions league, etc are in season, there should be a way to balance and reason together.

Do you think ladies like such guys at those times? Everyone has what they love to watch. Some might be annoying.

Skmoda360:
This is just the victim card we talking about here....someone ignored his bf for bbnaija, that useless show that doesn't put money in someone pocket and now you are here saying his babe is lucky to lose him.....how do you girls normally think sef? Irrational way of thinking is typical norms among girls of nowadays always supporting each other especially if they are doing the wrong thing at the right time.

Victim card? So a guy leaving someone he supposedly loves because she ignored him for a tv programme is rational?

If you are thinking rationally, you would know that is not a good excuse to quit a serious relationship. If he is asked why he broke up with his girlfriend, he will say bbnaija. So as a man, he was competing with bbnaija and he lost .

It's obvious she is done. And it's better you move on while you still can. And please, stop sending her money. Pay your daughter's fees directly to the school. Buy whatever she needs but avoid giving the money to your wife.

She has chosen her path, let her handle herself

Just say you are tired of the relationship and you have been eyeing her friend. What's the flimsy bbnaija excuse? If you loved her, you won't even be thinking this.

Your babe is lucky to lose you and her friend is "inheriting" bad market. Chai!

PabloAndreas:
This won't be a question by the time someone like DANGOTE or OTEDOLA is involved...they won't even mind being "house-maid-wives"

Not every woman wants to be a liability. Some of us actually have dreams and ambitions.

sylve11:

They can even claim to have sexy pictures of Mummy Adeboye, Mother Theresa, Aisha Buhari, Theresa May. Sexy pictures indeed

But they still add comfortably side chic to the list. They don't complain about that one

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Why do you guys always have to drop this lie here? Just for people to visit your blog, you claim to have sexy pictures. Is this what blogging is about?

What do you even bring to the table yourself?

If only she knew that her tiny waist is not enough to keep a man

Didn't you say the first guy was very loving and caring at the initial stage?

What's the guarantee that this new guy will not exhibit the same traits? He is loving now. He could change later too.

I am not saying you should go for the first guy. I am just saying there are no guarantees with both.

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psucc:
You can only boycott what you have an alternative to. In Nigeria who is competing with DSTv, even in the telecom, other brands are still miles away from MTN.

To worsen, matters, even the poor no longer patronize the kiosks in their neighbourhood but root for ShopRite. The list is endless.

It's only DSTV that has that strong hold with no good alternatives. We have Airtel, glo, 9mobile. I have never retained an mtn line aince GSM came out. I don't even know when last I went to ShopRite even before this xenophobic attacks. When there is hubmart, SPAR, ebaino, etc.

Daviddson:
I disagree with those of you talking about karma when the OP made it clear in his other thread that it was the brother's wife who seduced and practically threatened him into sex with her. Though that doesn't totally mean he's innocent, it's wrong to say he's experiencing retribution. Notwithstanding, this is obviously a spiritual case.

What this young man needs is deliverance and salvation.

He didn't have to give in. There is always an option. And he even engaged in it for years.

There is always cause and effect. His past actions against his brother cannot just evaporate. It will definitely have an effect. Marriage is meant to be a sacred union and sleeping with someone's wife, whatever the situation, is a very serious issue.

Vincent88:
Thank you ,, I didn't confess to my wife or my brother about my niece . My brother was stabbed in the nightclub where he went to drink with friends. I have seen some people here reminding me of my past which it is painful , hopeful that my wife has not read it yet or else it will make things worse. I just want her to be home with us, myself and the kids are missing her every day. The house feel so empty without her

"The kids"?

So you have your brother's whole 4 kids with you? That's not an easy task for your wife. Plus she is still trying to conceive. May God help you both

Though I have the opposite, I will pick "bad cook"

jclassiq:
Oga, 6 million naira per annum is like 200k monthly. Not saying its poor but you make it look like the guy collect #6 million naira every month. Which multinational is that? And what does he do for them?

More like 500k monthly

franchasng:
I disagree with the part in bold, because with Nigeria's salary structure, no salary earner working for government can afford to do that if he or she was not corrupt taking bribes, looting company fund, taking kickbacks and engaging in all forms of office corruption that is rampant among Nigerian civil servants.

Only the few people working in top IOCs, FMCGs, and some few multinationals can afford that without engaging in office corruption.

So don't use them as a yardstick because it is corruption, looting and bribery that make most salary earners in Nigeria appear like they are making money, if they stick to their salaries and allowances, they won't afford some of the luxury lifestyle the live, except for the few executive directors and top management staffs who are very few in number, you know what I am saying.


I have been there

I work in hr, so I can say small about this. I am not talking about govt jobs. Besides, a whole lot of people are not govt workers. In my office, aside the percentage deducted from your salaries for pension, the company also has a contribution they add for pension. It's not a multinational or FMCG. Some people's pension will shock you especially someone that has worked for 10-20 years. Don't underestimate it.

But pension is not my only point. I pointed out that it is people's lifestyles and bad habits that sink them whether 9-5 or businesses people.

franchasng:
You are more than correct with the parts in bold.


But very wrong with the parts in red font, and you know why I will explain in details below, the reason why entrepreneurs have the last laugh.

No matter where you work or which company or organization you are working for, you cannot work beyond 70yrs at most, and imagine at 70, you stopped working, and assuming you married late or gave birth late, maybe at age 40, that means your first child is probably 30, others below 30 and probably still in higher institution and you have stopped working.

No matter the level you retired at, your pension stipend cannot take care of you, your family and children's education if you don't have a business to support. And most businesses started after retirement usually don't succeed because they didn't study the market and haven't mastered the art of the business, they just used their gratuity or savings to startup a business based on hearsay that so so and so business is moving well, and some venture into it and lose all their life savings.

If you decide to stay idel after retirement, you are likely going to develop various sickness and be spending most of your life at the hospital bed, and will possibly die before your time.


Now, on the flip side, entrepreneurs already have a thriving business they have struggled to build while growing when their mates were working 9-5 job and enjoying their extra time and having lots of fun with their family and loved ones when the entrepreneur was busy slugging it out to make his or her business have a stronghold.

The entrepreneur have no retirement age unless he decides to retire himself and hire managers or let his children take over while he supervises, which means, his children will not be struggling to find job to start their life with, because they already have a job in their father's or mother's business to start life from at least....while the salary earner's children are busy looking for job to get started, just imagine how difficult it is today for graduates to secure a job, then think of 20 - 30 years from today, do you think there will even be jobs for graduates whose family does not have a job to offer or whose family is not highly connected politically and otherwise Think about this.



I like using myself and people I know as example....

I have 2 family friends I will use as example for you to drive home my point.

The first family friend, i won't mention his name, he was my dad's close friend (my dad senior him though), he retired as a director or a federal ministry, i think level 18 or so...he was a really big man then....but he gave birth a bit late, so some of his kids are still in university now, and the man is freelancing now as an auditor for private firms at 70yrs+, just to raise cash to support his family and kids still in school....and his first son that served since 3 years now, only managed to secure a small pay job not long ago, the daughter is still job hunting as we speak despite her good result.


Now, there is this second family friend, he was a business man then.....he also married late, this man's first son is now the MD of his business, the boy took over the business as soon as he graduated, so he did his NYSC at his father's business...now his father has retired, the guy now runs the business and the boy has taken his father's business to the next level that this business is now booming like kilode....he pays his father 500k monthly, and pays his mom 250k from his father's business....the business has grown so big that most of us now use it as example.

One of his younger sibling that just graduated is now employed there for the mean time while waiting for NYSC. Imagine if their dad didn't had that business

Cases like this abound all over Nigeria.

Nice examples.

But do you know how many examples of people that were into business I know that didn't make it. And of people with 9-5 jobs who have been successfully and sent their kids for master's abroad with their pension and savings.

Lifestyles vary. It is how people lived their lives, spending habits, lifestyle,etc that really is the culprit here. You see a man as he is working, he has investments, builds houses, has lands here and there, etc. But then another has mistresses or other habits that depletes the funds.

It's really about discipline and thinking about the future. One of my dad's friend's was a goldsmith. He made a lot of money then and never even built one house. Another one was a big man in mobil then but his love for women did let him achieve much.

If some people calculate the money they spend on alcohol monthly, it will shock you. Bad habits are what limits people, not 9-5 or otherwise.