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missimelda01:
Doing a 9-5 isn't the problem, the way some people get comfortable with it is where the problem lies. The advantages of being an entrepreneur are numerous, I don't think anyone would like to do a 9-5 till death but that doesn't change the fact that a 9-5 is necessary sometimes to source for capital. So I think a 9-5 is important, while being an entrepreneur is importanter

BTW is it 9-5 lagos? Most private companies no Sabi this one o, they would use work to kill their staffs

No one is importanter. Abi let all your workers resign and become entrepreneurs so that you can entrepreneur your business alone na.

Many people doing 9-5...their pension fund alone can buy the business that one entrepreneur is making noise about. People have different dreams and goals in life. Not everyone will run a business.

Mcslize:
I speak for everyone. Do not deny the fact that you girls take kind gestures from guys as equal to a guy being so into you whereas the guy is just being hospitable. When a guy treats a girl with too much niceness, it never ends well. That's why we guys have come to the realization that all that really do not make a girl like a guy. I will prepare food, serve you and then you will start misbehaving at the end thinking I did all that because of one thing called love.

I thank ubunja for all the miseductaions he dished out to guys. Trying to please a girl is the one very stvpid mistake a guy will ever make. Girls love to be handled with full dominance.

Even if I want to cook for a girl, not now again. If she wants to eat, she needs to buy the ingredients and cook it herself. When she is done, she should serve it and we eat together.

I have cooked for many girls over time. But does that really count? When quarrel burst, they will forget all those good things you've done in their lives and will make it looks like you've done nothing. Absolutely nothing! That's why I have changed never to treat a girl with any form of preferences. I will treat you just like how I treat a fellow guy like me.

I once told a girl that I see her as a guy so she should not expect me treating her like a Queen. After all we are all equal right? You girls have been clamoring for feminism and you are all equal to men.

Thus, we will treat you like we treat our fellow guys. We will talk to you like we talk to our fellow guys. Don't expect any preferential treatment from us. We are all equal now. If you can't cook, cooking for you won't make me be the best boyfriend to you in the world.

The moment quarrel burst, you forget all those good things the guy had done in your life. You see how you girls are wired?

Life is not this hard and complicated. And it's not supposed to be a competition or battle of the sexes.

When you truly love the right person, all these ubunja gospel, baggage and biased notions will drop like bad habits.

BobiNick:
I so much love this your post. Thank me when you find good husband oooo because I know many have spotted you as a wife material.

Hahaha . Funny guy

Sammy555:
too much tomatoes Mehn are you igbo?

No I am not. The tomato paste is for colour and the fresh tomatoes(i usually chop it) is to add freshness to the food instead of just using tomato paste. The fresh tomatoes is optional.I included fresh pepper also. I guess you didn't see that.

BobiNick:
Let's assume as a guy you have a lady friend who you both have been chatting and meet in fast food from time to time and you both are attracted to each other. For the first time she will be visiting you at home and you are a bachelor that stays alone. You are not really so buoyant that day let's say because you havent been paid your salary yet and all you have in the house in 5k.

What easy nice meal can you prepare as a guy with like 2k so that she can eat happily and enjoy herself.

Please no bashing.

Spaghetti 200
Titus fish. 350
Tomtao paste 50
Fresh pepper/tomatoes 100
Green peas/carrot 150
Veg oil 100
Drink 100.

Fry the fish and serve with your spaghetti. You can slice a boiled egg add to it

Indomie is too basic and cliché.

Justice434:
The more you try to pull this man down,The stronger he becomes.All the allegations that came out before now.Where are they now.Please and Please lets direct our energy to our govt to give us better life.

It's expected that someone your age should talk with wisdom. Just read what you wrote and judge yourself if there is any sense or wisdom in it.

Don't just type to get likes from perverts and disturbed people. Type with empathy and a large doze of maturity that should come with your age.

GreatResearcher:
Man, a lot has happened. I wish I took the advice of her dad. I now understand why she and her dad her cat and dog.

Victoria is not the girl I met before marriage.

Fear animals that have no teeth. They are more dangerous than the ones with teeth.

Your experience happened based on your choice (which you were even warned against). Why are you now generalizing your situation and stamping all marriages in line with yours?

Your mistakes and wrong choice doesn't mirror every marriage.

dukeprince50:
either your husband is a civil servant who doesn't go to work or he is an employer who stays at home and have others manage his business. whichever way I think he has so much time for himself

Naaah. We both work. No house help. Some are routine while some are not that often

Baller93:
Am not kid, why will I pity my family when my married sister is in U. K with his family doing something meaningful with his life than gossiping on nairaland,, I did not say you should not discuss freely, but discuss maturedly like a married woman,,
stop acting like a kid, must you support a lady when you know she's wrong, why not caution her to stop, but you will not, instead you will support her,, I don't know your like they others.

Yawns* I don't care if your sister is in Honolulu selling fish.

Just the way you as a single guy can comment on this forum, I as a married woman can also. That should not be your business.

Baller93:
Am not a kid like you,, you behave like a kid, why don't You face your home than gossiping on nairaland,
I feel sorry for your husband,, he married a pained kid as a wife...

Pity your family.

If you feel because I am married, I should not have a life outside them to freely discuss on a forum, then you are really a kid.

Baller93:
Stop all this red pill stuff and face your family....

Hahaha silly defence. You must be a kid.

I am not interested in red, yellow or white pillers. If only I had known this was an ubunja thread, I wouldn't have quoted Maria here. So don't flatter yourself

Baller93:
Your a married woman for God's sake... ..

And your point is?

MariaLavina:
You don't know how ridiculous this sounds.

Your thread has been closed as you predicted.

There's nothing out of the ordinary here. My husband does everything... change diapers, cook, buy foodstuffs (meats especially). One thing he hates is doing is dishes. He can pile that one well.

You just did this today and you are feeling good...lol. That means I am in heaven married to an angel.

kunleweb:
Unfortunately a few disagree even on this thread.


Anyways, that's why and how people end with people who don't deserve them. Caused by selling themselves beneath their real value



Happy Sunday

How do we know if the wife left him because he lost his job or it was something else? His introduction has invoked pity on him but isn't it possible that he could be bad-mouthing an innocent woman?

I am not quick to trust someone who is quick to paint someone in a bad light while painting himself innocent. The lady that has shown interest should tread carefully.

Godoverevery:
have u ever heard of D's sentence ***always speak for yourself***
is unintelligent to generalise a view....**did u just say no woman*** u don't even have any right to talk wat ur sister/daughter wants or can take in life not to even talk of people in Nigeria and u took it all d way to the whole women in the world haba!!!.....FYI D's might d type of man a woman is crying and praying for somewhere if u don't know

note: Always speak for urself at all times in all discuss anywhere.....11 commandment

Intelligence detector. You don't have to agree with me.

Godoverevery:
dat ur own veiw and the way u would av done yours......it makes no sense trying to undermine him or neither does he need to make sense to you cos u are not him......dere is no one way of doing things in life .....d only thing dat matter is d end result...... look up a woman has already show interest and dat wat important .

ur way of doing things is never the best way we will all have our different ways...wat is u wrong to u is right to someone else.....that is factual common sense my dear

It's not about my way, your way or his way. It's about communication. And communication has stages. The first stage is usually superficial, void of too much information.

But I am not here to talk too much. If he doesn't want people to respond out of pity, curiosity,etc, it is better to give only necessary information especially in an introduction.

kunleweb:
Thank you for seconding the thought sis.

How is bobo?

He's good.

It's just common sense and a silent code of conduct not to give away too detailed information initially. You don't introduce yourself with

"Hi, my name is.....my wife left me because blah blah.... I am struggling to make ends meet..."

Such information comes later after getting to know the person.

It's a hard pill to swallow. But if two have really become one, she should give her kidney to save "their" life. But as I said, it's a hard pill to swallow. If she doesn't go through with it, she should not be condemned. His siblings would probably decline too

She is hurt obviously. Those kind of words leave a deep wound that takes time to heal.

Maybe at this point you have to report yourself to someone older that she listens to. Then start doing some little things to get her attention. Buy her gifts, leave love notes where she will see them. Have a cake delivered to her at work, business place(at home if she's a stay at home wife).

Just do things that make her know her importance in your life. You can get ideas from Fire Proof's 40, day challenge. And next time, be careful what you say because words, when spoken, cannot be retrieved.

How do you even house your friend(whether best or worst) in your matrimonial home. Sounds foolish. Small girl is worrying her.

Love4God:
Maggot ?Yes you are one.
Only a worthless person tackles someone who is criticizing indecency.
Use your dictionary to see for yourself if i wrongly judged you by calling you a maggot.

Will leave you to your ignorance and abusiveness.

Love4God:
Maggot get lost.
If you see someone smoking in pictures and you can't conclude the kind of person that he or she is then you need deliverance.
If she were to be responsible it would reflect in what she steps out with to take pictures.

Maggot? Really? For a person who is trying to preach chastity and condemning others, your choice of language doesn't depict you to be a moral person. You are spewing this nonsense out of the abundance of your heart.

You have just proved that you are not better than the lady because your clothes cannot hide your dark heart.

Love4God:
If you see Buhari's wife dressed like that in pictures what would be your comment ?
You expect me to be optimistic that a lizard in Nigeria would turn into a crocodile in Japan (you need deliverance) ?
Read my comment immediately above this one to end your bad belle for decency.

Hmmmm. Does Buhari's wife's dressing make her a better person? Some people will cover from head to toe but their hearts and character...very ugly and wicked.

Except you know the lady in the picture personally, everything you are saying is nothing more than hasty generalization, baseless assumption and a malicious conclusion.

See what konji has done to him. Nobody put a gun to his head. He got outsmarted. He should count his losses and move on instead of ranting like a deranged man on top 9k.

Notification of baggage will drive women away... whether a good or bad woman. No woman goes around looking for a man with baggage to be with.

The moment you are already talking about how and why your wife left you and how you are struggling to make ends meet, that is already forming a perception or idea about you in the person's mind.

It's best to give general and basic information and let the person get to know you without the tags you already added to yourself.

They have to change the venue of the wedding. It is wickedness to let people pass that kind of road because he wants to.marry.

The bad road is not the family's fault neither is it the inlaws fault. Venue can be reviewed. It should not be cast in stone.

AntiBrutus:
Babes should focus on people that matter and leave IQ detectors to do what they know how to do best - type like bots on NL.

Life outside NL na the koko and it is a different world out there.

Right!

Seems the ones that are always wailing and spewing venom have sad lives and Nairaland helps them ease up tension and feel important.

The will be fine las las

Love4God:
I believe this invitation is childish.Do yo expect people from nairaland forum you have never met before at yo ur wedding ? It is not security wise and childish to do so.

The lady doesn't look responsible to me.
Always seek the face of God before choosing a spouse to avoid divorce and single parenting.

What do you mean by the lady doesn't look responsible? Please stop trying to use your negativity, pessimism and bad belle to spoil their union. Be happy for them or remain silent