₦airaland Forum

daewoorazer:
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Yes not unicorns like you stated earlier, but dumb-headed, half baked graduates privileged by politicians

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daewoorazer:
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I don’t think you understand my plight:

I mean what secures a future for your child in a corrupt country like ours after you as a parent leave this world...

Good upbringing and education will only land them 5k teaching jobs in Erinfolami community grammar school or Ochuko high school
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Skeendip:
So she's the reason she's dead?

djoe21:
Oya tell us the name na. You no longer work there

EbukaHades10:
So what made her a slay queen?

perforetti:
Couldn't have been better said. Do yo live abroad? Cos you hit the nail on the head. People don't have helps here because it is expensive, and the ones who can afford it do get it. I have a 1 and half year old and I know how difficult it was to cope, I had my mum come to help for 8months and my mother inlaw currently helping, and will keep recycling our mothers visits to assist I and my mrs. also add daycare 2days in a week. It's not easy las las and people find it easy to jump to conclusions about why others make the decisions they do without knowin fully well people have different circumstances they are dealing with, and nobody knows it all or there's no particular way of doing one thing.

Fountainofyouth:
Sincerely speaking abi nah typing I'm scared of having kids, I literally panic at the thought of it cos everything is just wrong in the world

dgee1:
I don't know why, something tells me you could help me in securing a job/getting productively engaged. Would be grateful.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.

Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

muyiwaadekunle1:
There are jobs and there are corporate jobs!
I've been to three offices at Victoria island and ikoyi while working as a logistics officer for a building construction company.
Apart from the decent amount of money these folks get at the end of the month, they were given flexibility to either resume by 8am and close by 4pm or 9-5pm and weekends are off except you've got unfinished tasks during the week.
These people apply for a year sabbatical to go study abroad and when they return their jobs are safe.
They take time off work during the week to attend to their issues and come back later in the day to do their daily activities .
There are still good jobs in this country, the sorts that makes a 40yr old look like a 28 yr old.
May God connect us to our destiny helpers.

budaatum:
I feel you should understand her feelings towards those who paid for her to be desirable enough for you to marry her (I'm assuming her education is a desirable of yours), especially since they are not her parents. They paid the piper in this instance so they ought to be allowed to chose the tune. Marry in a Catholic Church and continue going to your own church. If she loves you as much as she seems to do she'll get over it.

I got to say though that my position was the opposite in a thread where someone was going to take a job without marrying the girl who's family got it him. There, I said it was deceptive but here to hell with it.

Kirinwa:
Sort it out for them.

TheControversy:
Men go through a lot but don't talk about it because we've been brought up to believe that's the "manly" thing to do. But you ladies, you let the whole world know what happened to you and how xyz broke your heart and did bla bla bla. That's why most people believe it's guys that cheat more whereas it's the exact opposite.

Kiezodumah:
Sure.its expected cos ladies cheat the most. Thus una contribution would be very minimal while una sit and read the terrible tinz being done to guys.

Pharaoh4rin:
Ladies are selfish and coward daz why they hardly share their stories. Even on a faceless platform like this this they still had to back out.

Imoh555:
Swear you have never cheated in a relationship

pocohantas:
Lol. I like threads like this,

Gives everyone the opportunity to play the victim.

Everyone would suddenly turn the one that was cheated on.

Create another on "How were you caught cheating?" Nobody go gree comment.

I wonder who are the cheats.

FROGMAN101:
I have been smart about it mate.

Whenever I am in the country, I use Uber. I dunno the craze for guys with cars in Nigeria by “Some Nigerian ladies”

It’s like another day in the office abroad. You can split the bill monthly and pay.

No big deal. Nobody will look at you if you are 18 and drive a car here.

Chaiii.

lefulefu:
for chatting its not really about dating but wetin get d girl interest b4 she flow with u.maybe she like d way u look on ur facebook pics or ur sense of humour.when she dey reply u in monosyllable that should tell u she"s not intrested in talking to u .na for the guy to move ahead instead of him wasting his time waitin of k chats.for me i mostly prefer chatting with ppl i personally know not some random stranger.