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Looks funny.

I hope there is more to her than her waist line

Charleys:
What would you have expected him to do?

No woman wants him anymore and the daughter looks like his wife.

He's just a lonely man that needs to be forgiven.

I hope this is sarcasm

Something classless about her.

1Sharon:
From your post, it seems you implied the OP got what he deserved cos he goes any girl that Isn't his speck.

Why should you feel insulted?

When did I say I felt insulted. I don't understand your assumptions.

My post is simple...if you go for just any girl just for the sake of it, you have to catch whatever she throws at you.

And in this case, the op went for the classless type that ended up asking him for money. It's not every girl that should be "toasted". Or perhaps the op and the girl one of a kind. They both wanted something.

chenzen:
Nigerian stock Exchange ☺

Little wonder

chenzen:
99.9% of female Nairalanders are in their late 20's, 30's and probably 40's

66% are single (looking for a rich, handsome guy that will save their lineage from poverty and bad looks)

10% have been engaged for 9 years (the fvckboy keeps posting them)

10% are hoeing around (as baby mamas)

3% are married (out of desperation & fear of reaching menopause)

10% are about to be used and dumped

.9% are my friends

This your statistics ehn!

Where did you get them

1Sharon:
So it's ok for a gurl to ask a guy she just met for money??

Is that what I said or what you implied?

MrBrownJay1:
Sista, you are changing your tune, check what you wrote below in bold

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So as I say again, me I would stop a hawker and get to know her before I would judge such person as unsuitable/incompatible...that's the 1st rule of relating with someone. If I see someone that fires my desire to know them, then I would talk to them, regardless if they are selling in the street or changing tyres.

My standards are very simple.... If the initial physical attraction is there, then why not engage them?

I am not changing my stance.

I am saying people should have a standard and not just ask out any random person.

And as I said, I don't conclude about people before relating with them. It doesn't mean I would date anyone just to prove that I don't look down on people even when it doesn't work for me.

MrBrownJay1:
But if you don't approach them because, as you stated , they are hawking/vulcanizing, then how can you relate to them?!



On this side of the world, people would hawk in a different way... They would lay a blanket on a street corner, put their items on it and sell to people passing by. Nothing wrong with these people... Yeah some are just lazy good for nothing people begging, but the majority are just fantastic people going through an unlucky moment, trying to stay afloat.



You are talking to someone who has travelled the world, and dated women from all walks of life.... The list would be too long, but let me tell you a true story. I had an ex in Rio that you would give ONE look and you would automatically think she was a bum. She was always talking to the street girls at night... Turns out, the babe owns a dozen hair salon all over Rio, and she made her fortune opening her salons at night catering for all the prostitutes beauty needs. Same as I Dated a girl in China that I had met in a biz where she was like the errand girl (all the BS jobs she would do it) turns out she is the daughter of one of the richest man in Beijingt, doing an internship there.

I am talking about those I have personally related to, not just judging them from far. I can't possibly speak to everybody. And I won't date someone just to prove a point if the person and I are not compatible in any way.

You dated people that were unassuming but turned out they were actually knowledgeable and exposed. It's a different thing if you say you have dated our regular uneducated and uncultured ladies here.

A lady that you can't communicate with because when you are talking about how Trump is making racists comments about Dem congresswomen, she is talking about how the price of ponmo has gone up.

On this side of the world where you come from, the knowledge gap between two people can be very wide because Africans do not read leisurely as much as non Africans.

So when a guy just shoots his shots at any lady just because she is female and he has no particular standard, he should catch whatever she throws at him in good faith.

kenigwe18:
Hmmm
Lemme reserve my comment here

Whatever rocks your boat

MrBrownJay1:
I am sorry but I don't judge people based on their jobs, and I certainly don't automatically assume that I could never be compatible with a hardworking person who don't have the perfect job. You first have to communicate with that person and get to know them before you can judge as to whether or not you guys are compatible (emotionally/physically). Just giving them a look and saying that you ain't compatible, without knowing anything about them, will make you pass by some fantastic people in life.

How can you say that someone is not on your mental level, solely because, at that particular moment in time, they don't have a great job?

The fact that you believe that a person in Nigeria with such job is automatically "far below" you, IMHO, is totally wrong but also very sad.

It's not by merely looking at the person. It comes from relating with a person. I know you understand what I mean and you won't just date anyone for dating sake except it's konji as some guys blame.

Even if you want to claim that you don't look down on people, I am sure you have never dated ladies in the category i mentioned.

Ok. Your current girlfriend... what does she do? Or your past girlfriends, what were they into?

Sharming95:
Amai d only one dat doesn't get move by all dis trending stuff

You are not alone

amaniro:
Between Tonyi lawani toke makinwa Mercy Aigbe one of these is a hoe. Just who??

Amongst the three you mentioned, Toyin Lawani has a business empire with a rich client base. She's into organic beauty products. I can't really say about Mercy and Toke though.

ericsmith:
you are right, perhaps you like taking ur time b4 you go into a r/ship well there are few people like that but you should know these days things happen fast".
just as people react on NL n think later that is how relationship happens now, sex go don happen we study ourselves later. lolz ! people just go with instinct.

Yeah everything is fast fast and sometimes I move with it. But I have always been slower when it comes to my heart.

I try as much as possible to minimize regret situations later. I can't come and be crying heartbreak everytime when I would have taken one moment to think and avoid it.

kenigwe18:
anywhere belle face... That part got me
Well anyway hope you know same goes for babes too

Same goes for everyone. But in this case, we are talking about the op...a guy. Many guys allow konji direct their choices and now come to cry foul.

MrBrownJay1:
I guess we are different...I see nothing wrong with a hawker or vulcanizer, so long as they provide the desire to know them (that I seek). You would be amazed the type of down to earth gem you find in such environment, and most importantly, you wouldn't be limiting yourself.

Especially in Nigeria where jobs are scarce, you could meet a hawker/vulcanizer who are highly educated, and thus showing the proper character by doing something right (rather than looking down on HARDWORK and instead selling themselves to the highest bidder)

I don't look down on people. Infact, the woman that used to clean the compound where I live is my friend. She was even the one that gave my baby het first bath when she came from the hospital.

Some people can be casual friends, acquaintances, etc. It's not everyone that can even be close friends because you need to share values, ideas and be on the same page.

When you now talk of a relationship and eventually marriage, there should be compatibility. It's even taught in marriage counseling...mental compatibility, physical compatibility, etc.

When you are with someone that is far below your mental level, it's hard to share ideas and communicate effectively. You will end up always talking to someone else and that won't foster closeness. Trust me.

I can relate freely with every kind of person but when it comes to who I share the innermost part of myself with, I don't take it casually

[quote author=ericsmith post=80379903][/quote]I am hardly the shy type. From what I know that period as, it's a time when you are just getting to know someone. If you want to get too familiar, you should be able to read the other person to know if it would be appropriate.

Love at first sight is superficial... without knowing what or who you are loving...naaah.

MrBrownJay1:
Sadly, it's the law of life. We all know that the more women a man approaches, the better his chances are... The reality is that there is nothing like "specs/level", but there is only DESIRE. If you see a babe and you feel attracted then go for it. how you react when she says "no thank you" is the real issue here.

There are specs and levels. It's the reason why you won't just stop a street hawker on the road to "toast" her.

Or an average educated lady would date a vulcanizer for instance. I know what I mean by specs and levels. They exist

ericsmith:
was it the part he said he took spoon instead of fork n op naught mind drifted to Bleep ..was that why she was clenching her fist underneath the table ..or that part
gurls have tiny mouth buh it can strench n accomodate any big thing ... c'mon even tho that line sounds whack, buh experience as taught some of us that no matter how offpoint or whack a joke might be to a lady. her love for the man will make it funny infact she we laff. bottomline OP no just like the bobo jor !

Her love for the man? Which love already? It was a first date

ericsmith:
maybe !! just maybe most of these female monikers are just late teens with little life experience or maybe they just derive joy in fooling themselves ... cannt take nonsense ... on top nothing !
It so obvious the OP is not into the guy, his jokes are whack ,talks to much & he ate from my dish are just filmsy excuses.. when you don't like someone sneeze on the first date could be a deal breaker.
@naughtybabe grow up ..its a date meaning getting to know each other, not an interview ..fvck formalities or save it 4 magas , 1st date could be fun, could be like you've known each other for long , could be no limits. swallow ya pride jor

I probably wouldn't have taken offence if he had eaten out of my food. He could just be trying to be free. But that joke... already sexualizing her and being vulgar.

It is not every lady that a guy should approach. You just meet a girl somewhere and shoot your shot. Is she your spec, your taste, your level...or anything goes for you.

Some guys don't have a spec. It's just "where belle face". They will now come and open thread to insult us all.

handsomeyitayo:
joy Wich level nah....wetin be your own.... don't let me deal with you...who is a pester..fish brain ...ode oponu...suberu apa... come make I Bleep you ..give you money werey ...ole .. hypocrites..

When a man is not brought up to respect women, what you get is a man who victimizes and abuses women

I am quite sure there are nurse wives there who are still married and living peacefully with their husbands. And there are men who are earning more than their wives and are maltreating their wives.

It's really about the character of the person involved, the state of their relationship, the level of maltreatment from their husbands before they blew.

It could even be that the men cannot handle the fact that their wives are richer. They are no longer the ones in control...the one with the money to control and bully. He may have been using money as a power control tactic. But now...

lefulefu:
tiny mouth but can still streatch to fit big things

That is the one you will see

Imagine him eating from her food when he had his own in front of him. Hungry guy.

His lack of composure and his dirty joke is a big turnoff. Not every girl can take such nonsense.

Baby mama loading...

WhiteJacket:
Thanks.. It's funny how I was thinking of asking for a space, but eventually said I m done for whatever reason.

Maybe it was what was in your heart to do.

Rider007:
U see d tin is dat u over reacted....u called it quit out of anger,..now ur nerves r relaxed,u r not getting d result u desire....

U av to hold- on and may b move on if she no show interest or remose.i bet u,d moment u made an attempt to call her,u increase her audacity...from dia u have to b d weak one to keep d relationship...she might not pick ur call immediately self ...if u want to initiate peace talk(indirect begging) it's ok...but my question is how will do dat and still have her respect and regard... remember if u beg to start/ keep a relationship,u might have to beg to sustain it... sometimes when women act like dat,...its either they are gone or going...its d hard bro.

You analyzed it well. She was wrong for switching off her phone especially as it is something she does often. He would have just ignored from then instead of sending that text to put her in the right.

So now she has the upper hand and she will do shakara. And she will feel it is ok to switch off her phone on him.

WhiteJacket this is a dicey one. If you can go see her, do that instead of calling. Tell her you are sorry for saying you are done. That it was out of anger.

After she has loosened up and warmed up, tell her that you think you guys need space to figure out if you really want to go ahead with the relationship. Her reaction will let you know how to proceed hopefully

mayim:
Hello romancelanders, so my wedding is next month and I really want to have a memorable honeymoon, especially for my wife to be. Dubai, Paris and all are way above my budget for now or let me just say I have bigger priorities. Nonetheless I strongly bliv I can honeymoon here in Nigeria and it’ll be fun. I’m based in lagos and would like to travel outside lag. I’ve researched and see. places like obudu, yankari games reserve etc I know these places were top notch when they were established but u can’t guarantee what they look like now due to d poor maintenance culture of Nigeria. I need suggestions pls, valid ones. If u had ur honeymoon recently, kindly share the location. Also if there is any African country I can travel to with my wife on a budget of 400 to 450k max, I’ll be open to it. Thanks in anticipation guys. Cheers

Inagbe Grand Resort. It's a cool resort.

Claimsfit:
How to make spaghetti(Delicious jellof spaghetti)

Though spaghetti is cooked with the same method of cooking nigerian jellof rice, it still got it's own unique taste.

In this article,am going to show you how to make spaghetti



Ingredients needed to prepare the delicious jellof spaghetti



1 packet of spaghetti.

3 fresh tomatoes + 1 tin tomatoes

1 sliced onions

2 teaspoon of crayfish

Vegetables oil.

A teaspoon a grounded pepper or fresh pepper.

A teaspoon of Mivina (spicy), curry and thyme.

3 stock cubes.

Vegetables leaves.

Salt.



Steps on how to make spaghetti


First boil the spaghetti for like about 20 minutes and then strain out the starch water and leave it in the strainer.

Next is to prepare the stew for the spaghetti.



How to prepare stew for the spaghetti.


Put the pot back on the cooker

Pour some vegetable oil and let it heat for about 30 seconds and then add the 2 teaspoon of crayfish and 1 sliced onions into the hot oil to give it a nice aroma and stir it for about 30 seconds then add the tomatoes (fresh tomatoes and a tin of tomatoes) to the pot and a teaspoon of pepper and stir for 5 minutes for the tomatoes to fry a bit then pour in some water into the pot and cover the pot for about 7 minutes.

After about 7 minutes, open the pot and add the spicies, a teaspoon of curry and thyme to the pot and the 3 stock cubes and stir for about 2-3 minutes and cover the pot.

After about 10 minutes open the pot and pour the pre boiled spaghetti into the pot and add a teaspoon of salt to the pot and taste, if not yet ok add a little more, stir and cover the pot.

Keep checking on the spaghetti, so It doesn’t get burnt. it should be done in 20-25 minutes time.
You can boil 2 eggs and enjoy it with the spaghetti.

So there you have my friends,how to make spaghetti(delicious).



Watch video;


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQfUh1HT96M

Source; http://www.dietfitelt.com/2018/08/how-to-make-spaghetti/

Spaghetti doesn't take up to 50mins to cook. After pouring it into the sauce, it 3-5mins is enough for it to properly mix. That would mean adding very little water in the sauce before adding the spag.

YouareaBITCH:

If u people still come here to side wizkid after all the attitude from all his baby mamas then you people are just fan blind. This dude definitely has problems.

That's the phrase "fan blind".


I don't know how people just stick out for nonsense. If someone is wrong, they should be sensible and unbiased enough to accept it especially when it is glaring.

Seems Pastor Fatoyinbo is distributing money to "aligners" and some "Gehazi" CAN members greedily went to get a piece of the action.

Past Fatoyinbo is making it difficult for fence sitters and his rape apologists.