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Marrying someone from a different religion is not something to take lightly. Can 2 live together except they agree?

Not being able to pray together is an issue for me. A guy from a different religion was asking me out and I really really liked him. One day I went to his house and saw him praying. That was the day I knew I couldn't.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You dey mind that one. I really don't like sentimental people. If it were a woman, they'd have said, 'Divorce her'! She's not a wife material. Mehn.

Such people are not objective but very partial. The wife is more important to him than his siblings. But they won't hear.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Tell him! He's even unapologetic about the comment! Crass ass!

It is such a low and annoying character of some family members. They act entitled to their brother's wealth and make any woman that comes an enemy because he is spending on her. The Bible says that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. It means that once a man is married, the wife becomes number 1

nwanneni:
it's like you don't read and comprehend.
I said if one of them sees "light".now has any of you seen light?by that i mean real money.
No one expects a struggling person to lead others!
When a brother in our kingdred makes it,he trains his folks in the business and establishes them.
That is how we as a people became succesful.
Struggle on our own my ass

Others too should look for the light and not dump their life responsibility on another. It is called laziness

CanadianNaija:
Unfortunately it will never end, people like these are usually very entitled.

My father was the only educated and successful one in his family too, in fact he trained himself in school because his father felt spending money on getting an education when he could go learn a trade was a waste of money.

But he finished school and became successful and the leeches he call family came to suck him dry.
His siblings kept breeding and dumping in the village for him to train, burials, marriages of his sisters Nko?

My quiet mum became a nag because she talked all the time, and his family hated her and called her a witch that has come to steal their brother.
I saw all this growing up and it made me decide never to marry into a family with poverty stricken uneducated in-laws, they are the worst kind of mistake you will make.

You people will never be able to set money aside for any project, because something must always come up. While you’re doing family planning, they are breeding everyday because they know that you will always help even if it’s out of shame.

My father retired from the civil service at a very senior level with practically nothing compared to the people on same level with him at work, except for the properties and the houses my mother made him build and buy using fight and quarrel.
Most times when they save up for a big project, family problem will come and he will sometimes hide and spend that money without even informing my mum, lots of opportunities were missed out on because of family wahala.

All those his siblings that he spent a life time buying trucks, starting businesses and sending abroad not one of them really amounted to anything.
You won’t believe that he still fends for some of them from his pension till date. So my dear, your husband is enabling not helping and he won’t be able to stop.

Just make your own plans for yourself and your kids, and stop using your money to do things that he should do.

Wow! Your dad really sacrificed himself for them. I t is not easy to surrounded by people who feel they are entitled to your wealth. But these men do not see it. They feel they are helping. Once ina while, they should learn to say "i don't have". Their lives will be better for it

OP desperate times call for desperate measures. Instead of leaving, you could use this old trick.

Tell your husband that your salary has been slashed. You need to fabricate a payslip and show him if possible. He would have to start paying the school fees and a bulk of the bills which will automatically reduce what he has available to spend around and will make him focus on his own family.

However, you need to save the supposed slashed salary for a rainy day and not start helping your whole village anyhow.

Another idea is to call your family and his family for an elaborate meeting to air whatever issues anyone has and to let everyone know their primary responsibilities.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Imagine this! So, until he shows up, you can't judge rightly?

You're just the definition of a sentimental human.

That is what guys usually say when it is a lady telling the story. If it were a guy, they would have blasted the wife without asking to hear from her side.

dingbang:
Why is it that when a woman wants to make a complaint about her husband, she lets the whole world know she did things.

I pray I dont marry a non-understanding woman. To assist my family is now a problem..

So you will assist your siblings and their families at the detriment of yours?

chuksjuve:
It baffles me when adult expect children to act like adult.

Rather than thanking God for giving such s wonderful child, you are complaing of through least of problems associated with children of his age..


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We should not take things for granted because we are trying to appreciate God. If she notices something unusual against his peers, she should look into it. Many 5 year olds can focus on tasks. It is better to address it rather than neglecting it.

That is how someone i know didnt do anything about the fact that her child had not started babbling and making noises at a particular age. They were waiting for God's time. By the time they decided to visit a doc, it was too late to correct the deafness and muteness.

Don't take things for granted

Why would i waste precious time washing my mum inlaw's clothes? Can someone be paid to wash it? Can a washing machine be made available for a mum you so love? So your wife will leave the work in the house and proceed to your mum's house to wash...naaah.

You cannot say you love your babe because you take her to eateries. That is not a show of love. You even beat her. That is not love.

You need to start a life with your wife that means limiting third party interference...and in case you dont know, your mum is a third party. Please move to another location and detach from mummy.

Rextizzle:
You need that more than I do.

I wish you can grow up as well and see the truth. but it's obvious you are completely blind and daft.

Ok. Take care

Rextizzle:
If you can't accept the truth you can dive into a nearby lagoon, I won't stop saying the truth and can never support any nonsense blindly like y'all.

As I said, you will grow up. And you will look back at your childishness and marvel at it. But for now, enjoy your ignorance

Rextizzle:
Are you insulting me for saying the blatant truth

No. I can't blame you for not being able to operate above your IQ level or level of thinking. You can't do more than what you allow your brain to offer.

But I am hoping that as you grow, you will also mature because this is obviously as a result of childishness which you should outgrow soon

I was hoping that people would mature in this new year and we wouldn't see these low IQ threads. But it's ok...not everyone can have sense.

It is not about being a good or bad girl. It is about having information, mixing up with people rather than staying alone and remaining naive.

What the supposed bad girls have over the alleged good girl is knowing how to treat a man and relate to men.

MariaLavina:
Those elder siblings can mislead someone ehn.

I remember how my elder sister told me how she will fry mango and garnish it when she grows old. Foolish me was asking if it would be sweet and she affirmed. I waited until one day I asked her about the fried mango, then she only laughed at my gullibility.

She also made me believe that half pea of a bean will make a full spoon when it is cooked all because I was throwing them away.

My Sister did me bad oooo, funny enough I always believed her.

Sorry ehn. Hope you didn't try to cook the bean to see if it would fill a spoon

No such devil should come over a brother for him to have sexual thoughts towards his sister...a sister that he is supposed to protect from such acts from others. Such a guy is cursed!

harriet412:
Lol, I actually thought if u swallow orange seeds, orange tree will grow inside Ur stomach chai! Stupid me..

I was tormented for months waiting for the tree to finish growing inside and then come out through my head and continue growing. My brother really did a number on me

"have went"

elipheleh:
No. It's a self protection mechanism. "Wherever a man's heart is, there his heart will be" - says the bible.

I can't give away my heart to a covetous stranger just because she's a female. She should love me without looking at my money same way my male friend love me without my money.

Is this about relationship without sex or money because I am losing you

elipheleh:
Dating without sex is good. I have always accepted it on the grounds that my money is a NO LOOK NO GO AREA. And this arrangement has always gone well except midway the greed of those ladies start manifesting and they begin covetousness- the big sin.

I wasn't aware that sex and money was a trade by barter situation.

Your money, your choice.

truthsayer009:
That one no bad na, She will add it to her Resume and list of achievements when she is contesting for Local government elections this year.

Or chieftaincy title

You sleep with just panties beside him. And I am sure you also want him to cuddle you. Rubbish

Very annoying behavior. What did her parents use the whole 405k for that they still requested that soon for school fees?

The wife is starting what she cannot finish. Very soon, she will be feeding and sending the whole village to school.

Husband and wife are not in sync or on the same page. Because I see no reason why she should send all her money that is supposed to be for both of them to her parents.

There is too much bitterness,envy and anger in people. They castigate and bring people down probably in a bid to escape their own life problems.

If someone is 50 and not married... married without kids, it's actually no one's business.

Everyone has their battles they are fighting, no matter how put together they look. So let us learn and master the art of minding our business.

Happy birthday sweetie. Many more fruitful years for you...filled with laughter and happiness

SmellySperm:
How could u say sex is wat guys got to offer? The money and the assistance we offer is wat?

I am talking about guys that brag about their sexual prowess... that's all they have to offer.

SmellySperm:
My friend rephrase ur comment"that is wat gals got to offer "

Why do you guys have to be so obsessed with ladies? The topic is about guys.

Maybe because that is all they have to offer