₦airaland Forum

That is what the men make girls believe in order for them to scratch their itch.

tensazangetsu20:
They are just more interesting to chat with and have nice conversations with. I used to think all women were boring and couldn't be interesting till I got to see western civilisation but they have their own problems too. No angel anywhere

The white woman is not thinking about the fact that she has not charged her phone as NEPA hasn't given light for 1week,

she is not thinking of what she will eat or how to get a job or maintain the job you have with the harsh conditions and not being able to demand better.

She is not try to device a means or strategy to beg for money to survive or even for Frivolities.

But the truth is...we are discussing the comparison between the white woman and the Nigerian woman...if we decide to switch and compare the white man vs Nigerian man, this table we are shaking will break into pieces.

MJBOLT:

white women are smarter than Nigerian women

That could be true. The very same way white men are smarter, more creative, innovative and mentally stimulated than Nigerian men. I guess it is the environment.

crazydude1:
Hello. pls, I'm interested. Where can I get to learn these skills? Any idea or any details about the Vocational centre?

Send your phone number I will call you

havilla:
Sorry to say you married a useless woman who hid the fact that she had such a deadly disease as HIV and she didn’t care about infecting you. The truth is she never loved you, she probably just married you because you were stupid enough not to go for HIV test before marriage.

Even if you are trying to pass a message across, you don't have to be callous and insensitive about it.

This is a real life situation. Try to be empathetic sometimes.

Not many men will take everything you have taken and still stick to your wife.

She knew her status and didn't tell you and she didn't even care that she would infect you. And someone has the guts to say "it is no biggie".

And there is nothing wrong with her learning to cook your native dishes. Infact if she loves, you she will make the effort. But she sounds like the selfish type.

Ultimately, the decision lies with you. And based on everything you said she has been and done, you have tried.

Some parents unknowingly destroy the relationship with their kids. Just treating their kids badly because they can.

crazydude1:
Hello. pls, I'm interested. Where can I get to learn these skills? Any idea or any details about the Vocational centre?

There is one in Lagos...on ogudu oworonsoki express...just on the road.

Why take a friend along for a date? Does it even make sense? For, me the guy did the right thing.

It is except the guy says you should bring your friends, if not, don't!

bettercreature:
Leaving your husband because he cheats make no sense especially when you have 3 kids already
This is no America or Canada
All men cheats
Even the broke ones cheats let alone those that has money

Not all men cheat... don't be deceived. When one man cannot control his sex drive and stick to one person, they conclude that all other men are that way. So don't draw any conclusions based on yourself.

Leaving a cheating husband is saving yourself from diseases especially. If a man can get a woman outside pregnant, then you know he is not even taking precaution with his cheating and so he brings back diseases and transfers to his wife.

It is double wahala to live with a cheating spouse and now get infected by him.

daveP:
Why are women of nowadays quick to jump on this hapiness is importanter thing and refuse to acknowledge that having kids is part of happiness?

She's a Christian, and perhaps she reads the Bible that says "Happy is the man who has his quiver fulllll of them"

Pls help break down.

I'm not saying na by force but when did this start? Is this one wisdom like this?

Asides complications, having kids is part of happiness!!

Still it is nobody's business. That is what she is trying to say.

IamD18:
It is highly dangerous and a curse to have a Nigerian daughter in this generation.

Just imagine such fvckery. I wonder what these lazy hoes would have said if reverse was the case.

Any lady who supports this lady will experience the same and will be sent into depression because only a foolish rapist and blackmailer can support this act.

I don't believe having my daughter is a curse regardless. It might be a curse for some but mine is and will be different.

Op the list is not complete naaa. How can you miss out the famous and acclaimed Yaba market...okrika

cooluzi:
maybe sha

Forget all the "agidi" that Nairaland guys do here, money must be spent as long as you love the person.

I am not talking about all those girls without value to add that the guys here keep falling for. I am talking about when you date a real lady

cooluzi:
alright dear... you know relationship isn't about spending

Sweety I dated for a few years and now I am married and I know one thing...money has to be spent no matter how broke you are. The lady spends and the guy too. But men spend more probably because of their ego and wanting to be looked up to and respected.

No matter how people paint it, when you love, you give.

cooluzi:
really? but you are taking about guys and I'm not a woman you know

Do you spend money on ladies? You said"no".

Then I wasn't talking to you

okrikaboi:
Na so all naija universities fine if you use better camera

Especially at night

MURIC will not try to stop this child marriage issue. It is to wear ijab and constitute a nuisance everywhere that is their major concern.

cooluzi:
which guys... please specify next time, not all guys spend on women

I was not able to talking about you obviously.

Like getting married is only for women. Besides, there's no joy in being unhappily married. Let the 30+ 40+ 50+ single ladies be.

It's their lives and they are responsible for whatever decisions they take. Jobless guys should stop making it their business

truthsayer009:
Please ma, responsibility to what if I may ask. You mean responsilities to our baby mummies or what

& also may we kindly know the "someone" you had the discussion with.

Taking responsibility generally for whatever you need to if that includes your baby mummies.

A counselor.

spyg1:
thanks for the matured response, first of all read my last sentence, secondly you're not a man so you can't tell us what goes through our minds when we see the so called "dress to kill" dressings. Iam not trying to justify rapists, but what iam saying is indecent dressing too is another contributory factor.

Rapists rape, not because a lady's dressing provoked their senses. They do it because it is who they are regardless.

What about the under aged girls that get raped? Did they dress to kill?

A girl dresses to kill and is seen by probably 50 guys and one ends up raping her. Other guys saw her and controlled themselves. What does that tell us? To rape is a choice.

PUSSYHOE:
Not surprised Hoes will be hoes.

Do not make your mother seem like a bad mother for bringing up such a thoughtless child. But then, what do you care!!

patani:
Please ignore such fellas..You are sharing your own personal experience and facts but he is busy castigating it.

Such fellows are even the worst cheats, they even allow the strange women destroy their home eventually

You should respect when someone speaks with verifiable facts and numbers. The OP is just giving us a vague and inconsequential conclusion based on the number and kind of people she has spoken to.

Has she spoken to or lived with up to 1m men or families to come to her conclusion? And Nigerian men are 60m...so how do we reconcile that?

Is it not the same OP that keeps posting things that can destabilize couples if they take her advice/counsel?

Assigning the reason for rape to the lady's dressing, I think it is a faulty one.

What about the ladies or women that wear frocks, blouse and wrapper, maxi dresses who still get raped?

What about the under aged girls with no curves or anything to expose...why do they get raped?

It is all in the mind. If you are a rapist, the girl doesn't need to be attractive, scantily dressed, etc. She could be wearing a nun's gown and a rapist will still strike.

PUSSYHOE:
Take what responsibility? feeding girls and meeting their needs in relationships? what responsibility is you and your friend talking about. we owe no responsibility to anyone but our parents, siblings and wife or wives.

Hmm...you need wisdom to comprehend rather than jumping into a conclusion you reach all by yourself.

According to someone I had a discussion with today...there are so many mummy's boys and men behaving like boys refusing to take responsibility but given to complaining and insulting.

Despite this, we still have the real men that know that life is not about being verbally or psychologically abusive towards women.

By votes? Off course we know Linda can gather enough votes to make sure her sister wins even if she didn't deserve it.

But what do I know? She might be good at what she does.

alBHAGDADI:
Not starting off by siding with the husband/parents means you have no regard for the authority God established. That's why one cannot be a feminist and still be a Christian.

The way the word "feminist" keeps flying around is becoming a cause for concern. And anyone that has a contrary opinion to the man is termed "feminist".

I am speaking based on the Bible but some men like to quote the Bible to suit them. If a man loves his wife, the way Christ loved the church, we won't have issues

Baroba:
Sometimes I question the sanity of people in this country, what is so difficult in turning off a bleeping switch??

It's a shame families don't sue for negligence in this country..RIP bro.... So so sad..

They turned off the switch. According to a staff there, everything was done right except that these people are stubborn about wearing and applying safety measures before climbing

iamleumas:
Good afternoon Nairalanders
How's your Sunday going Sir/ma?...

Please I just finished my HND programme and I heard we're going for NYSC next year (April) but I don't want to waste the period between now and that month.

My Question is:
Which lucrative skill can I learn within 3 months?
Please suggest me sir/ma
Thanks in anticipation...

I know of a Vocational Academy where they have courses like plumbing, electrical, painting, furniture making, interior design and tiling

Yuceeluv:
Women and malice...twins.

Nahhh...I give to men. They can keep malice... especially in marriage. That is when their malice keeping talent is unleashed. Ask around... women are still learning.