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kilokeys:
e-xactly

shhhh.. never tell a girl u r single.

if there is no competition for u.. then u rnt worth it.

she would think u
1. just came out of prison
2. have a terminal illness
3. not worth it.. since nobody wants to be with u.


so the best answer single guys like us give..

babe : are u single?
me : i am not married
babe: are u in any relationship?
me: wow.. there is something special about the way u talk
babe : really?.. what exactly?

..... u have successfully derailed

she is done asking. she gets d cue

You can't derail me. If I ask a question, it must be answered or it means there is something you are hiding.

Tiro

destiny4luv:
Exactly my point to my family, but they wont just see reasons with me. Thank u for u contribution.

They cannot make decisions for you. They can suggest but the final decision lies with you...well except your family still influences your decisions.

I am a lady and the last child out of 6 but if I take a decision, my older ones know that they cannot change it. I just listen to them and keep mum on the issue. They get the message and back off. After all, I am an adult and old enough to make my own decisions.

Get back together for the love you have for each other and not because of financial commitments.

Please don't let them push you while you are not ready. Put your foot down and tell your family tht you are not ready at the moment.

If you go and borrow money to wed, your family will not help you pay back. They will enjoy the wedding and later condemn you for borrowing.

Don't put yourself inside problem

madridguy:
Nothing is too much my dear sister. The only books " Qur'an and The Bible " said it loud and clear. My sister, don't allow some useless western culture to enter you. Respect your man.

Calling him "my lord" is not the only form of respect. I don't even see it s respect

I thought they said having multiple wives controls philandering or infidelity

5thElement:
anytime you're home, make those moments the happiest of her life. be jovial, be playful. let your family feel your presence when you are around.

some men frank their faces or just glue their eyes to the telly or some paper forming lord and master of the realm.

get on the floor with your daughter and build Lego castles.

take her out to eateries on the weekends.

trust me, she won't be able to forget that experience for ever.

I am amazed at what even I can remember from childhood. thank God I had a good one otherwise I'd be having nightmares

Very good points. Some men just act all serious around the children and now wonder why the children are closer to their mums.

My daughter is so close to her dad. When he is around, she hardly allows anyone touch her...even me sometimes. They play so much. He carries her around...

But a lot of men feel that the fact that they fathered a child is enough. The woman can do every other thing. I doubt that the op has been close to his child.

A1PHA:
Salt, Maggi, spices? Or do you guys do your stew plain?

I'm sure that stew lacks quality
The type you taste at a restaurant and you start having the urge to sue the owners

Please ask her o. Too many"wife material" lies these days

bujebudanu1:
Maggi?
Curry?
Tyme?

She probably collected that one on credit

prodigy22:
70 naira tomato choke you there

I am not the op. I am trying to analyse or understand how she made a stew for 400 naira with chicken. Even ponmo stew is more expensive.

Chicken 200
Veg oil 100
Tomatoes/pepper 70
Onions. 30

Especially when the bread has butter. I love it!!

HeavenlyCherub:
Please dont listen to this olodo. If a man provides enough for the woman she can be fit. Its stress that causes us women to gain weight. If I am living a comfortable life, I will have more time for the gym. Provide a nanny and chef. But if you ask them to give you better life they will start shouting gold digger..Abeg go sit somewhere Jare. All these men shouting they don't want a woman like this or that will get the woman they say they dont want. God is not mocked, stop dictating how a fellow person must live their life. It's just like a woman telling you directly that your manhood is small. Be careful what you say to people..women we are just too tolerant and patient. You want her to look a certain way encourage, facilitate the environment that allows her to be her best

Exactly!! My friend wanted to lose weight after having a baby. They got a maid and her husband got a personal trainer who comes to the house to workout with them. They have a drycleaner that washes their clothes. All she really does is cook.

Many guys here that are complaining will tell you they don't want a maid. And most of them cannot afford to pay for a gym or a personal trainer.

Besides, they will listen to the complaints of their family members that they are spoiling their wives. Don't bother with them

Valerie47:
They cheat because their wife is out of shape and looking unattractive, when I start giving birth, I will make sure I hit the gym if I should add even an ounce of weight.

Men cheat because they want to and not because their wives are out of shape. A classic example is Bey and JayZ. I had a neighbor that had a hot wife even after having kids but the guy was a serial cheat.

Very true.

Even me as a lady, I take exceptions to fellow ladies calling me "dear" "darling", etc. Many of them say it to show that you are beneath them...younger one or something like that.

Why are you so quick to blame your wife? Don't you trust your her?
The issue might be that your daughter is not free with you. You need to make your presence felt when you are around. Play with her, feed her sometimes, dress her up. Do things with her in a fun way. Take her out on a stroll, etc

Children are not hard to please. Don't just be around and keep her at arm's length while you probably hang out with friends or busy on your phone.

princfred:
How about empathizing, condemning and comparing them with others all together so she can have options to pick which one will drive her to action.

A lot of people are going through stuff. She is definitely aware of her weight and probably cries when she sees herself in the mirror. She may be trying to lose weight but doesn't have the time, right tools, support, etc. Condemning her will only be like adding salt to an injury.

Bottom line... don't judge

lilmax:
because say them no get eye

leave it for her man if you no want problem

Also leave the condemning for her man

jakandeola:
I always like ur post cos u are matured and u talk sence. we are not condeming dem we only say the truth. did u know most men are moved by what dey see how many man want a fat wife did u know most men are ashame of thier fat wife and refuse to take dem out cos dey cant wear trouser spagheti or nauthy cloths to attract the man. how many fat women did u see are beautiful? only few. see most men will cheat on thier wife if she become so fat the guy wont find her attractive

Women should try to take care of their appearance definitely even for their own benefit and just to feel good about themselves. And husbands need to support the wives.

You won't expect most women without a maid or any help...with plenty house chores to have time for workout. Plus the husband should also give her moral support.

And a man that will cheat will cheat whether or not his wife is hot. That is really not the cause of cheating I have realized. It is just an excuse The fit, beautiful and curvy Beyonce still got cheated on by her husband.

Thanks for the compliment.

Because they feel it is their right to be promiscuous

Darkseid:
Stop giving lame excuses madam. Look at American models, Kim K., Beyonce etc. Shey na another kind of childbirth dem go through. Ladies should stop giving excuses and hit the gym after childbirth.

Please whatever you do, don't compare her to Kimkay and the likes. Those celebrities that have nutritionists, personal trainers, housekeepers, nanny's, maids at their beck and call. And many of them do surgeries secretly.

I am not for blowing up after marrying and having kids because even I try to still exercise and maintain a good physique. But when you see those that have blown up, try to encourage them, empathize with them rather than condemn and compare them with others.

This kind of unnecessary thing that causes wahala. Seniority in wives again

Risking your life for skin to skin. Now look at it.

Favor99:
That was wrong of Omoni Oboli to do this.
Things are tough in Nigeria. She shouldn’t embarass and humiliate the poor girl like this.
The Bible always urges us to be kind and give to the poor. If she doesn’t have money to give, she doesn’t have to humiliate her like this

She didn't humiliate the person. The person already humiliated himself/herself by begging online. Omoni only spoke the truth. But these days people prefer that others are minimal with the truth in order not to offend someone.

funmisticqueen:
you are talking to a bitter MGTOW man who has lack of a good paternal influence while growing up. He also hates women. He doesn't believe in marriage. His goal is to pump and dump and have his children litter the earth through baby mamas.

Don't try to convince him.

Lol...I know his way.

illegal7:
When was it you first had sex?
Wasn't it within your teenage years ?

Would you believe my answer if I told you?

ubunja:
marriages will always go strong but it's the percentage of people getting married that is falling. In the West already businesses centered around weddings are starting to go bankrupt. Ring sellers, wedding gown markers, cake makers etc.

Plus the public divorces of prominent people and the subsequent cost of divorce are pushing men away from marriage (e.g the upcoming US$61 billion divorce of Jeff Besoz)

You are right but the truth is that even if Mark Zuckerberg divorces his wife today, people will still get married.

And I doubt that your data about wedding businesses failing. Whether we personally like marriage or not, it is still booming

ubunja:
it's the majority of women doing this. And women have a weakness for group think. Where a good number goes, the majority will follow. No wonder in the West the divorce rate is almost 50%.
[b]Marriage as a majority woman's thing is fast fading. [/b]Any man dumb to marry in this age deserves the ruthless divorce he will get. Pump and dump

That's what people keep saying... still people are getting married constantly and marriages are still growing strong.

Many marriages might be failing but the fact that there are still good ones means there is hope.

ubunja:
so sad. For men still hopping to marry. Now the only sensible thing is to fvck and never commit. Coz as long as Instagram and Facebook exist she is not really yours. She is always looking...

Not necessarily. It is not one size fits all or same medicine for all ailments. You cannot still generalize even if more than 50% is bad. So that you will not use wife to do girlfriend or fling

ubunja:
how very true. Social Media wrecked women. Now they are holding out for that better guy who never comes. Too many choices is as bad as having no choices. It is until women hit the mid-30s and their looks start fading together with their power in social media that they wake up from this trance. By then they are useless as a wife. They have addicted themselves to male attention in the form of Likes and having enjoyed the worship of hundreds of men they can't really be satisfied with the worship of 1 man. They have been psychologically crippled.

I agree with the social media aspect. The things we see on Instagram, FB, etc forms a lot of ideas in the heads of many ladies.

They want to be able to travel out and take pictures in different shops as they as shop and splash the pictures on IG for their high school and university mates to see that they are living the life.

They don't have good mentors and they don't listen to advice from people older