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MrBrownJay1:
I mean, normal parents want the best for their children therefore they would never let you move out, unless they knew you could take care of Yourself. Thats the amgle where parent should know, while not wanting a piece of your cheque.

You are talking from the angle of normal parents. So many parents left their responsibilities for their child or children. I don't believe parents should know the amount you are paid. They could be manipulative. My mum never asked anyway.

LastDance:
Whether they know or not, it changes nothing.
Since your parents got married, they have been living fine, feeding fine and living their life.
They gave birth to you, saw you through school till you graduated.
Remember when your mom used to pack foodstuffs for you, so you can feed well in school.
well let me suprise you, she might have borrowed the money but she did not tell you.

well over the years, she still paid back all the debts she owned just to see you smile.

So whether you tell them how much you earn or not.

They will not beg you of money and they will continue to survive as they did before.

So to whom a brain is given, sense is expected.

A child should never be made to feel that he/she owes the parent's for the things the parents did to bring them up. The child did not beg to be born and it is the duty of a patent to bring up a child in the best way possible.

When the child grows up, he or she should not be trying to pay back because the mum or dad suffered for him or her. Who else is supposed to make foodstuffs available for the child either by borrowing or having?

igwefivestar:
remember that what work for u might not work for another person. Marriage don't have formula.

Off course. But there are basics, foundation and standards in marriage. There should be love and trust, they have both become one.

So if that is in place, the OP should not even need to ask this question because it is an indication that his marriage is faulty.

pocohantas:
You know them very well. I was having this conversation with my friend. I told him, girls beg shamelessly...while guys beg tactically. No guy will ever ask you for money to buy phone or clothes, only girls do that nonsense. They come with this SUPPORT story. Put you in that spot where you are caught between INVESTING in you guys FUTURE or being the Nigerian girl who couldn't support her man. And hey, chick wanna be different, a different kinda Nigerian girl...so she does 737...

If I were her, I would give. Not the amount he asked for, but something to SUPPORT him. Not because I hope he comes back to marry me, but because he needs it and I can help.

Really true. When guys ask for money, it is usually a big amount which in most cases they don't pay back. They try to use logic to make you feel you don't love them when you request for the money.

I would say in this situation, she should not give the guy because it's her life savings, she also wants to process her travel, the guy is still a stranger and it's too early in the relationship to start lending out such an amount.

ubunja:
what do we care that a sex doll can't feel? Looool. Even the hand can't feel yet we masturbate.

You are dumb. You open up big mouth to spew sewage that women are special. Yet:
1. Marriage rate I say going down
2..sex dolls are being made
3. Porn is ruling

You are dumb x 2000000.

Hmmm...

It is so cheesy and smart of him to put you in a difficult position...at a time when the relationship is young and emotions are running wild. And using the information you confided in him to his advantage.

You need to be wise and block your ears to all the background noise about supporting your man...blah blah blah. That is how I dropped my cheques and didn't get my money back till now five years later all in the name of support.

slawomir:
No one is protecting a Hidden interest.

Am saying when you take care of your family the woman will not be interested in your pay or increment.

You don't have to be a millionaire before you display a good sense of responsibility
It is only when you abandone your responsibility that your wife start being curious about your bank account or pay or even salary increment

Not true. Every increase should be noted and celebrated.

But you have your own opinion

slawomir:
Okay o
If you say it is primitive

Quite so.

I can't imagine my husband hiding something like that from me. He won't do such anyway. We don't use money as a weapon or make it as a god.

We plan together and spend together and no one feels like the Alpha or Omega. I think that is how a couple should be and not each one protecting their separate interests.

pocohantas:
Here comes the hypocrisy. The part where people can't take what they give

Cc; ImaIma1

I saw that o. Trying to twist it in a way that suggests that the woman should not keep hers secret but the man can.

CreepyBlackpool:
if the husband is not dependent on her

if there's no way her husband will ask her for a new car

if there's no way she'll start taking care of more of her husband's relatives


then she shouldn't keep her salary increament a secret

There is no way a salary increment from the wife's side won't impact on the man directly or indirectly whether or not he is dependent on her.

Whatever the case, a man and wife are one and should not keep secrets from each other.

slawomir:
Yes.

Indeed!

Please don't pass on this traditional and archaic mindset to your offspring o

Marrying because of a child is involved is not a good reason. They might end up being a terrible couple and even better off apart for the child's sake. A loveless and embattled marriage will negatively affect the child they are trying to protect.

slawomir:
My dear
A real woman does not give a fuccckkk about your pay or increment
She is only concerned about your responsibility.

Are you married?

CreepyBlackpool:
Is the wife the breadwinner and will she assume those roles I mentioned with increase in her salary

This doesn't answer the question. Or you mean since she is not the breadwinner, she can keep her salary and any increment a secret?

slawomir:
Isoright

A real man does not inform the wife or girlfriend about the amount he is being paid not to talk of salary increment

Just hustle and have a good sense of responsibility

They will appreciate!

Real man? Says who?

Do you know what being one means?

Should a real woman also refuse to disclose her salary or any increment?

CreepyBlackpool:
If you want your wives younger sister to move in with you.

if you want to start training more of your wife's relatives.

if you want to buy your wife a new car.

if you want to find out your mother/father-in-law has been sick since and needs money for treatment.

if you want your children to start going to a costlier school.


then tell your wife

But do you think the wife should tell her husband when she has a salary increase?

It's either you just underwent puberty and are still learning about life or you just joined NL and you are trying to be popular fast.

Let me ask a question? What are you good for?

More like " 20 facts about godsfin".

It is wrong to assume that every guy is like you.

Emaprince:
Forget the African mentality and say the truth. If it was a man carrying his daughter in such a romantic way, you and other women would have spoken a different tongue.

Exactly what I was thinking. They would have said the man is sleeping with the daughter.

Funny thing is that the guys that always make mouth and form tigers are the ones that are like puppys with their women. They become so meek and humble . Meanwhile they are here carrying placards "I no go gree I no go gree"

p3kdudu:
Nice 1. Lessons learnt. That was why the story was told. The problem is not that bad people exist. Its just that good people never stand up against it. They remain quite and allow things go wrong. I joined the busines wit a clean mind and heart not for fast cash or quick money. Else as I never saw the money? I would have left. I wanted to help and create a change . not until it came to me that the MD was using me and my recuits... I had to speak against this injustice. So odas wil not fall prey and lose ...

It is obviously greed on the part of the management that is destroying the company. You really endured to stay in such an organization. I don't think I would have even joined.

UyaiIncomparabl:
So, having a baby made you more emotional?

It gave me a different perspective of life, made me more patient and empathetic somehow

greenmonk:
Dupe a guy who have lost about 150k. Where is your humanity.
The problem is you youths of today want fast money.
My interest is his determination and given his experience he is in the best position to spot a fraud in the future.

You don't know me. So you don't know I want fast money or if I make my own money.

I was only telling the op to thread with care.

p3kdudu:
@greenmonk tell me abt the project. Chat me up on facebook page @p3kdudu or Instagram @p3kdudu1 lets talk.

Please be careful. People might think you have money to spend and want to dupe you.

But you have money o...just dolling out the cash to them just like that.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

You are not a psycho. I used to be quite unemotional but I am better though I am still impartial and unsentimental.

There is one things that soften most people... having a baby. It melts the hearts of most women and makes them more emotional.

It is hard to advise in this delicate situation. Cheating is not a husband's right as some people are making it seem.

Cheating does a lot of damage to the family and to the person cheating himself even if he doesn't know.

It tampers with the bond between a couple and destroys every form of love and trust.

At this point, you need to be selfish and do what's best for you and the children. Your husband is selfishly taking care of his sexual urges outside not caring if you are hurt in the process... whether emotionally or health wise.

There are some things I won't take. And one of them is putting me in the line of danger.

rentAcock:
Hahahaha exactly. Now apply that same logic and reasoning and ask yourself and the rest of the urchins passing judgement how do they know she's being maltreated and starved?

You don't have to sound like you know everything because you don't.

In my own case, I am not adding to or assuming any other details aside what is in the picture or video.

And from the video, it is a sorry sight and a mean and unkind behavior towards the child.

rentAcock:
Last time I checked, I wasn't being interrogated. Read my post again, it's very simple and direct.

But you have been talking like you have the details..."what if she being punished for something"..."they pay her school fees and feed and clothe her..." How do you know all this?

rentAcock:
An outing to a restaurant is nothing more than an experience. That she doesn't ear shawarma or pizza at the restaurant doesn't mean that she's being starved at home. Going out to eat is a time to bond with the family, it isn't a staple.

And she has to be reminded vividly that she isn't part of the family. Then why did they take her along?

artofseduction:
God bless u.
U read my mind.


Women are Naturally wicked and hate anything that did not come out from them.

Is by grace that some of them are good.

You men should not be too quick to label women as wicked and paint us black.

rentAcock:
What's wrong with people? Aren't they feeding her at home, clothing her, paying her school fees and paying her parents salary? Is this shawarma the most important thing in life? Haven't some of you done worse to your house helps?


Over righteousness only on the internet.

It takes someone with a good heart to understand the wickedness in that picture.

So because she is being fed at home, clothed and paid means she should be isolated like an epidermic and made to watch as they eat?

I would rather leave my help at home than treat her like an outcast.

davillian:
15 years of Waxing strong
So adding your children to the picture is bad ba.
Wait who is he does he have children.

He has 2 sets of twins