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ogtavia:
yeah I thought as much..i justed wanted to ask..I mean,the resemblance you bear to someone I know back then in school is very very striking...stumbling upon your profile was nostalgic...

I guess you met my look alike.

I remember one woman who came to the bank to complain about her atm being used without her knowledge. She came with her daughter.Just looking at her daughter's reaction, it was obvious she was the thief.

Op what is the update?

AreaFada2:
It is amazing how you have completely refused to blame the lady.

Why do you women never accept blame?

The woman took a marriage vow, not the man.

A married woman should not be toyed with but women can toy with all the men they want?

Women can even ensure that 35% of firstborn kids and 25% of all kids belong to another man outside, right?

What is a married woman doing in a drinking joint with another man, an ex-lover for that matter?

For sure the guy did something VERY WRONG but he's not more guilty than the married woman.

I have been in a similar situation where the woman concealed the fact that she was married and even recently had a baby. Albeit temporarily separated at the time. Only her oozing breast milk made me put her on the spot. Then she confessed, crying. That she waited and couldn't wait anymore and got married.

We cannot continue deflecting blame to only the men all the time.

Relax...as i responded to someone previously, the woman is a walking disaster already. I can imagine how many other men she has cheated with. I was just on about a guy that thinks he is getting a free lunch when it could as well be his death.

To me, man...woman...wrong is wrong.

royalamour:
I can't find you blaming the wh0re of a lady here. Why's that?

You have said it all. Her case is a given. I just focused on a guy that is putting his head in a walking disaster.

ogtavia:
on a very serious note...you look familiar...your signature says a different thing tho but I would like to ask.. were you a futarian?

No i wasn't

Doctormarrvin:
Penis captivus is the name! Nothing like magun jare

Why is it common between cheating couples? I have not really heard of married couples experiencing it.

Is there a slim chance that a spouse of the cheating person could be responsible.?

Why do people act like sex controls their brain...acting like they have no control over their emotions. See their lives outside now...

chamboy:
mumu

You have no respect whatsoever for people. If you can't communicate like a human being, don't quote me

Tithe is not for the poor. So do not mix it up. If you were a practising christian, you wont need to ask this. Try to read the bible and understand things yourself instead if waiting to hear from people even from your pastor.

Give to the poor and forget paying tithe if you don't believe in it.

My intention was not to start a tribal war. It was just something i kept hearing that i wish wasn't that way.

Op i have only heard this your statement that "women are seen nut not heard" by igbo folks. It doesnt exist where i come from because women have a say.
Please change that reasoning of seeing women as ornaments.

So a man cannot give his daughter a house as a gift just because she is not a male child?

That's why some sons live their lives irresponsibly knowing that they will inherit daddy's properties anyway.

Stop spontaneous buying. Stick to your budget and funds assigned for miscellaneous

Reduce visits to the bar and hangouts and declaring free drinks.

Stop ojukokoro. Don't buy that human hair at the detriment of investing or saving.

Don't try to form big boy or girl by leaving above your means.

The hotel is not only a place for abominable acts...that is a narrow minded thinking. People away from their residential area lodge there for business trips, seminars, programmes,etc.


And what if it is for the abominable act? The so called sinner could come across the holy book, read it and turn a new leaf. It means Islam is not for everyone.

It is not just the yorubas that have thw weddings in the bride's church. Your fiance is that being stubborn. My close friend is yet to have her church wedding after two children because her husband is catholic and she ia Pentecostal and the parents are not helping.

Your husband is coming to marry you. So he has to follow your way. He cannot insist that it is done in his church. If you let it slide like that, be ready to let many more things slide in future.

My husband's family is JW and they came to my church. My FIL kept saying that it is my day and they will do it however i want it.

Your husband should know that you also have cultures and tradition.

Your friend has no limit and moral values. If he had somersaulted, the alcohol would have worn out before he died.

A man's wife should not be toyed with even if she makes the move.

Nagging is annoying. The best thing is to talk to her and tell her that you don't like it.

From my experience, silence only prolongs a matter and breeds bitterness and malice. It never solves anything because after you have finished the silent treatment, a lot of harm would have been done and you will still come back and discuss the issue.

N.B.
There is nothing wrong with what you wore to church. It doesn't have to be native or suit.

If the guy had shame and dignity, he won't do that.

Evil child

Many ladies with all those things you listed and even worse are married.

A lot of ladies with a wonderful character, selfless,generous, fantastic cooking abilities are single.

Benez:
By the grace of God, I am the husband in question. I love my family and I have never for once abandoned them. I took good care of them when I had but unfortunately, I lost my job. Even at that, I was always with them. My take in all these and a lesson for women especially is that, when things are not going on well, that is when you love towards your hubby is needed most. I went through a lot but I thank God for His faithfulness. I want to believe that after getting another job and winning the case, my wife should have written another Epistle stating how much she benefited from its proceed and how much I spend now on school fees and upkeep of the home. It is indeed a sin to condemn your man to attract sympathy. I learnt a lot of lessons from the whole saga but I thank God the He used it as a bait to draw me closer to Him. To my family, I have always been a wonderful head and I promise nothing will change my position in this regard. Thank you.

So where is the problem from? How come your wife accused you wrongly.

Try and make your mum understand that she cannot just stifle your life because she is missing you. Are her dreams as a result of over thinking during the day? When you go back to her what are you going to do there?

And she is trying to blackmail you saying she will kill herself. This may be a mother-son relationship but it is not healthy. If she is scared, she should be praying for you and asking God to protect you whereveryou are. What if you go back and something happens to you while you are there? Or is she able to protect you from any occurrence?

I think you should focus on your service and pray for God's protection.

In my church, one of the services is dedicated to relationship/marriage every Sunday.

Nofuckgiven:
Categories of men I dread to marry:
a. Mummy's pet
b. Last son(also mummy's pet most of the time)
c. First son(too much responsibility)
d. Only son(with many sisters makes it worse)
In summary,I can't marry a man whose mother doesn't accept me.

It really applies. However, it depends on individuals and the family.
A relative of mine married a first born/son that has four younger sisters. Her life was easy because they are awesome and always helping her. Infact she became like their second mum. Even with the way the husband carries her, no one can treat her anyhow.
Now one of these sisters married a first son too with 3 sisters. The sisters are not nice at all...to the point that they show open dislike. The husband is beginning to align with his sisters.
Men have a lot to do in creating a balance and being able to protect his wife and putting her in a place where she is untouchable.

She will learn to keep her hatred to herself because i won't send her. I didn't beg her son to love me. If we are genuinely in love and she cannot be happy for her son and show support,it is her loss. She doesn't own him.

Those kind of mothers inlaw will hate every girl their sons bring. The guy has to get a hold of his life and not allow mummy control it.

If it were Fela Durotoye, Leke Alder, Otedola or someone with the prospect of networking with career people, i would gladly ditch the 200k. But what can Bola Nino offer me?

fuckerstard:
Just wake her up and ask her to change position, if she's tired she would definitely snore.

That's what my husband does. I never used to snore until i got pregnant. It was so intense that even me the snorer used to hear it . I had to google and read about it. I saw that it was part of pregnancy. My husband was aware also. Even after i have put to bed, it has not completely gone and i am not fat.

He just changes my position. Sometimes he does not even wake me. And then he yabs me in the morning that my snoring can wake the dead. I just try to stay in positions that help my situation.
Op pls talk about it.

Olosho

This one must stop this year.

Your father didn't build the house himself and he is pushing that responsibility on you and even using a strong arm to make you do it.

I think you should ask him why he didn't build the house before he got married and why you have to do it now. You are a man...an adult. Dad cannot dictate your life. Who is dictating his life?

Richy4:
What kinda question is there to ask?

That we were comfortable to afford anything money can buy. during Xmas, I decided to buy a smart phone to a house help as a Christmas present ..

And the woman of the house went on a ranting spree on why she was not worthy enough to use that kinda phone, was that it?

I just want to believe that it's not all women that got0118800788 this kind of mentality because it sucks

Guy there is no need to go back and forth about it. We don't agree on the issue. After you buy a phone as expensive or more expensive than your wife's phone for your househelp, we will continue this debate.

Richy4:
I just want to ask you what 's wrong with him buying the maid a smart phone since he can afford it? I just want to know why u were against it.. or are u implying that a maid doesn't deserve anything good..

Enough said. You will be more objective when it really happens close to you. You will ask questions.