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Next2Bezee:
You brought up 500 not me. You brought banks not me. You're illiterate not me. You don't even know what vocabulary means. I think you should leave Nairaland before you lower the IQ of people here

Abeg go to bed if you have nothing to say. I didn't ask you to quote me. If you don't like what I say, look away.

Abudu2000:
well sorry for the insult ,I just noticed u are a lady but pls don't say such about making complains in the bank. One with millions wouldn't complain if there's something fishy?

I just pointed out similarities between two sets of people. I am not saying people should not complain. It has nothing to do with pride or having too much more or not. It is a mentality thing or a thing of the mind.

Abudu2000:
you are a very big fool for making that bank example. How much do I think u have?? Pride will kill u sooner

You are a bigger fool for calling me a fool. Make a point if you will or move along

Next2Bezee:
The 500 naira people u are trying to insult, are they not better than you? You sound like someone that cannot even raise 500 even if you use all your family and do ritual. It's just a pity that brain dead people like you have somehow found a way to access Internet.

Don't think we are the same. 500 is obviously a big deal for you with the way you have been calling it with reverence and respect. You really like this brain thing. It is a pity that yours is boxed up and unable to think of other words and intelligent ways of disagreeing and arguing, rather than throwing shallow insults.

Try to upgrade your vocabulary...learn new words and be intellectually engaging. You sound really really shallow. I wont blame you though. This young generation have really allowed their smart phones and devices to become smarter than them.

Next2Bezee:
Hahahaha, just look at you. You try to quote me but its still obvious you don't even know anything or understand what i posted

So everybody that enters a bank that and uses a withdrawal slip has only 500 naira in their account? Chai...is your brain problem hereditary? Such a pity o haha

You quoted me ignorantly because you are probably amongst those wailing about tithes. Your brain is too tiny to understand that a 500 customer cannot match a 100m customer.
You just talk loosely without thinking. You can only know what is hereditary in your own family. Please dont rope me into this your family's brain problems that you mentioned.

Next2Bezee:
You don't even know anything about how a Bank functions yet you type rubbish and try to seem smart.

The banks utilize a lot of ways to make money and one of those ways is lending (to other banks, govt & non govt corporations and individuals) and profit of interest.

So even someone that only has #500 naira in their account still contributes to the pool of money a bank has available to lend, so they actually help the bank function. Olodo.

Sorry oga banker. Trying to sound smart.

So a customer that has 100 million and one that has 500 naira are worth the same? Continue. The pool is not just for lending but the bank also earns income from it.
Your 500 people are still the ones that visit the bank all the time...use up withdrawal and deposit slips and the banks facilites and still constituting expenses on top their 500 naira.
And yes they are the ones that make the most noise and threaten to close their accounts. If e pain u too much, go and jump inside something...Mr 500

Chuksemi:
I discussed this issue with a learned friend and he said the same thing.

It is disheartening to see supposed learned gentlemen and women give sentimental verdicts on this very trivial issue.

Can u really say these Muslims are learned? Most of them are still imprisoned by their religious inclinations and it doesn't let them reason like learned people.

Mirahcul:
One mistake one could make is residing near a Church, mosque or an event centre...
One would be lucky to be sane during one's rent duration.
OP, I don't think you can do anything about it. Just consider moving out atleast you got yur sanity intact.

Or school.

I stay beside a building that is a school during the day and a church at night and weekends. When the church started and put up a megaphone to face us, my husband went to tell them.that it wont work. They turned it away though it is still noisy.

The painful part is that the pastor's wife who is the choir leader sings in a way that can make you cringe. She starts with a high key and her voice hooks along the way and she ends up shouting and wailing instead of singing. And nobody has advised her yet.

salvation101:
u are very correct sir. Those making the fuss about tithing are simply those who are looking for justification not to tithe. Its not really about d bible but about their greed. 90% of people members in the church aren't even faithful in tithing so i wonder wat d noice is about

It's jist like in the bank. The people that make the most noise and criticize the bank are the ones with 3, 235 naira if you know what i mean. The ones with the small amounts make so much noise and threaten to close their accounts. The ones running the bank with their money are usually quiet..

The worship is divine. No inhibitions.

No forming. You dont have to impress anyone.

The word...undiluted,straight forward...no sugar coating.

The support and family feel.

An intelligent pastor. ..1st class graduate...best student in his class.

Too many reasons

Built2last:
If your religious beliefs forbid you from dressing in a particular way that members of a professional group dress, then it is first of all sinful for you to decide to belong to that profession in disregard to your religion and hope that they will change their standard of dressing to accommodate you. This is what we should be talking about, not about whether or not decision of Body of Benchers was right or wrong.

See your President's daughter last year when she was called to bar.

I have been to Turkey, a country that is 90% Muslim and and they hadly wear hijab. Are they going to hell by Naija Muslims standard.

True!!!

I still ask...do they wear the hijab to capture for international passport? Or will they refuse to remove the hijab at the airport?

Muslims try to make everything about themselves and everything is not about them. Other religions comply to the set down rules. If not, they won't bother to study law in the first place.

Is it the hijab that makes them Muslims? Is their faith based on the hijab?

Muslims should stop making everything a religious issue. It is really not about them. The Law school did not set those rules and regulations to spite them.

Muslims are so insecure about their religion like an old man married to a young beautiful woman...always suspicious and ready to attack and protect.

Hijab that she will remove when she goes to her boyfriend's house without protesting.

Or will she use the hijab to capture for international passport?

Let her go and protest in these places first.

Studying law should be haram for her. She should have studied Islamic studies so that she can as well wrap herself as a mummy.

LOVEGINO:
If you re pregnant, don't go out @ night �

Or in the sun.

And when you are going out, pin a safety pin to your underwear

Welcomme:
Don't you pay tithe in the church? I hate churches that don't help. I know a church that sponsored one of their member to Indian for treatment. They paid for everything from A to Z.

Nairalanders wont see or acknowledge this comment.

Just passing by

What about the man that challenged the lions in University of Ibadan zoo and got killed?

Richy4:
Becoming a leech is no longer in vogue in most countries in the world . ..A lot of ladies nowadays tries as much as possible to be independent when on a relationship so that no one will feel cheated , or a man will not lay claim on them or regulate / control them.... What do you think gender equality was all about...a lot of women now knows their self worth....

I just want to make one thing clear to you.. Any guy that wants to pick the bill of a lady in a relationship that is not his wife, he just want to do it not that it is compulsory that he must ..

What i am trying to say is that there is no way money won't be spent in a relationship. If my boyfriend buys me lunch does it make me a leech or if i cook him a meal with my money, does it make him a leech? Money must be spent by eithet party.
Whether in a foreign country or here,money is still spent daily

Richy4:
I don't think I can make u understand.. because we are in different school of thought..I don't like the fact that U were sounding like an everyday African girl that thinks that relationship is all about spending money...Giving is of different kind in a relationship, some give time, some give advise on something that might be beneficial to a friend, some gives money .... if a guy out of his busy schedule spend some quality time with his friend playing indoor games and other things..can that still be tagged stingy considering the amount of time invested..Must relationship be quantified with amount of money spent..

Any boy or girl that is in a relationship who feels that a man or woman that he/she is not married to should spend on him or her is a leech.... it's about time people learn about self worth, dignity and self respect..

If u go to a restaurant with a friend, demand that u split the Bill, pay all your bills by yourself from house rent to the little make up u got.. . With that u will have your dignity and respect... He will not have claim over you.... You can call the shots on how u want that relationship to be and even leave when u want out.... That's how independent women act.. no matter how small u have.. u can do it..

You are sounding like a stingy person o. How won't someone spend money in a relationship? Aside from time, energy,etc. Is it energy and time that people eat?
So if both of them do not spend at all at all, what would it be like?
Please let's be realistic. As i said being stingy is from the mind. Please change your perspective on giving. It doesn't make you a maga or father to the person you are giving.

Please your life is not attached to any of these men. The doctor is clearly a bad choice. Run away from a secretive man. And what do you know about the one in Canada except what he tells you?
One thing i learnt that helped me a lot is to be selfish concerning matters of my heart. Think about yourself...what you really want. Don't bend to what the guys want. They are thinking of themselves too.

Freeze is really a talkative.

By the way, real Christians that know why they give tithe dont get confused by all this rubbish. Except you didn't know why you were giving it in the first place. If it is because your pastor said you should give, please stop wasting your money.

Richy4:
I understand what you were saying. Really I do.. In Op's case, I read the chat between him and the guy before she deleted it and then wrote something now that looks like a summary... in that chat it was as if she was on that relationship for what she can gain out of it and not how they feel about each other... that was what prompted me to make the first comment...

Since this whole thing is on friendship level , if I were to be in her shoes, I will take the back seat a little and let the guy be in charge once in a while..if we gonna go out we will decide who is paying what...that's how it is done in some advanced countries so that no one will capitalize on someone 's generosity,and make him/her act like a fool ..Except if the person says the bill is on him or her.. .. . taxi, u split the bill, restaurant u split the bills, anything friends were doing together, they split the bills.. I still have the options to take a walk out of the relationship if I am not satisfied because friendship is about how you connect with someone...

She should stop fronting herself as if she got it all covered up... Her problem might be that she got the heart of gold and the guy was capitalizing on it.. she should keep her wallet to her self once in awhile...So that when things goes South, she will not feel cheated. ..Except she got a solid reason behind what she was doing.. maybe hoping to be married to him.. And she wants to show her best behavior by emptying her wallet..

Then don't make it sound like she is the one at fault. You just sounded like most guys here that always make everything the girl's fault no matter what.
Even if she is showing that she can pay for things, a guy that is genuine and has shame will want to pay for things without being asked.
I can't be with that kind of guy that cannot spend. I give and cannot stand stingy people. Always one flimsy excuse or the other. Giving is a thing of the mind. "Stinginess" from anyone irritates me. It is like a disease. A man that finds it hard to give cannot be my friend let alone my BF.

Richy4:
I would have loved for you to define relationship for me...

I am not aware that relationship has been redefined or strictly quantified to be material gain only..

Relationship...friendship...the giving cannot be one sided. There is no written law stating that there should be material gain. But imagine you have a friend and everytime u go out, you are the one who pays for transport and if you stop to eat, you pay for it...for everything EVERYTIME. He never ever ever pays for anything. Please wont you start to distance yourself from him?
So it is ok for the guy in this OPs case to gain materially from the girl but he cannot spend a dime of his own. Richy try to be objective.

Richy4:
In my humble opinion, he is not your father... You are not in that relationship because of what you can gain from him.. As u said in your chat," he has not done anything for you except Sex which any loosed girl can get "..

If u don't want to be with him or you did not bargain for a man like him, just go with your 100% dignity ...You got nothing to loose

If he's the kinda guy that helps a friend, he would have... it's not something you can force out of him...But you made the chat look like you were in that relationship because of what you can gain

I want to believe that both of you were in that relationship because of how you feel with each other.. not what u can gain from him.. But if u are fortunate enough to have someone that plan to shoulder your financial responsibility, that is a plus.. but not mandatory....Friendship is not poverty alleviation programme....

In your humble opinion, she is also not his mother. Anyone that cannot give is not fit to be a friend or be in a relationship.

Some people here are just so narrow minded, lacking the ability to expand their thinking capacity. A man is hanging on a tree and the conclusion is Buhari, bad government. Do you know if the guy was mentally unstable, committed a crime or did something he couldn't live with or be exposed for.
While people are wasting their eneglrgy blaming Buhari for everything, some other smart and optimistic people are seeing opportunities and making their lives better.

I lost my mum last year. It is a terrible thing to lose a parent. I cried all the way to the hospital. The funny and interesting thing is that my daughter was born this year on the exact date my mum passed on...just a year after. I miss my mum but this girl is just a huge blessing.

Well...the husband does not have a choice. It is not like it is a favour...it is what he should do as her husband . Some men act as if the woman embarrasses or disturbs them. Abeg carry your cross.

Yes it is an excuse for divorce if money was a major reason for getting married rather than love.

...and if it was suicide,the gun won't ve dropped carefully on the floor. It won't be that straight and arranged.

She should have focused that energy in learning 3 international languages instead. The SA languages don't count outside SA

MissJoy29:
Wrong on all counts. First of all, people who love GOOD food don't have favourites. Ask them.
Second, I don't like plaintain.

Now, you have to answer my earlier questions before I can tell you some of my favouriteS.

Jeez!!! We are so alike. No wonder i don't have a favourite food...i love food. And like me i can do without plantain.

I agree with Eyijuege. You are asking for assistance at this initial stage for 2 siblings and even you need help. What happens after? Will you come back for assistance for accommodation, handout,etc? And next session nko? Will it be another round of begging?

Their admission can be deferred till probably when you graduate and can afford to help them or they could put it on hold while they work to gather money and focus on other things. It is not a must that they go now.

Belema5:
what happen to Nigeria Muslims, alfa,imam and your leader satan of shokoto are they there for under age rape alone cos have not see or where a Muslim help or give scholarship to 2000 people



They never mention things like that. Every time tithe like they forced them to pay. When the pastors do humanitarian things it never makes it to nairaland. I wonder who the real hypocrites are

They give their beggars outside the mosque after service or on the streets.