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I love love!!! Congratulations OP. May the love and passion be renewed constantly.

She is encouraging him to use it

Abi she should pray for happiness and peace of mind. She needs that more in marriage. A Ferrari and gucci cannot give her that.

Oyindidi:
You are too strict

I don't think so. I am very strict but they still want me.

Op don't think too much about it. Try buying something for your nephew when next u are going to see him.

Op and when elders are talking you will follow and talk. Your father's 3310 when you were young?

...and single people are the ones that give marriage advice up and down

An obedient child does not have to be timid. The fact that a child learns good manners doesn't stop the child from being outspoken.
There is nothing damaging about making a child learn respect and obedience. These articles will just make us bring up children that would end up being a liability or burden to the society.

..."belonging to the owner". Something wrong with this heading

Op get another job before leaving.
I know there is a push to progress especially to a location where there are more opportunities and you are not content with just staying where you are. But get something better before you leave. God will help you make the right decision

This actress that acts with her eyes. Always rolling her eyes upandan.

makdcash:
Kill am ke,i go free my paddy,even carry go buy ice cream self.....na small pikin

He will remain that small child till he does worse and keeps doing more and more.
Abi you think children of this age cannot be taught to arrange rather than scatter.

Barfibassey:
comon enter inside b4 u showcase ur ndesem uwem.

Was just curious. Uwem mmi idoho ndiseme. Me kop?

Hope he didn't marry her on 35k salary cos i fear NL guys

princeeze1:
2012 I was teaching in a private sch, salary was 20k, I witnessed 2 teacher to teacher weddings there. Secondary teacher 20k, wife primary 15k making combined salary 35k, we all have at least one child we do after classes for on arrangement, if you factor that in, their combined cannot go above the range of 55k, in both cases, they had decent ceremonies and are happily married till date, even now moved on to bigger things now. Its not the amount earned at the biggining, its the earner that makes the difference.

I taught in a school for a year and got to learn that those teachers do not depend solely on their salaries. They have a side business no matter how small. Same for civil servants. These people close between 2-4. They have time to devote to other things and even bring somethings to the office to sell.
It is different from someone working in a company from 8-6pm or 7pm and collecting 35k. You hardly have time or energy to handle a beauty salon for instance as your side hustle but it is still possible to have another source.
My point is they might have an alternative source of income that you are unaware of or a helper somewhere. So don't just go into marriage with a 35k salary because someone else said he did it.

PrecisionFx:
Bros yes u got paid 10k in 2011, but i hope u won't try to convince us that u saved 2,500 every month from it and lived 100% on 7500 naira As in u lived ln 250 naira per day to pay rent, feeding, transport, tithe, data n recharge card, etc

Let them be trying to deceive us.
They have one uncle, mum, brother, friend that supports them. Do you have any? Does OP have younger ones he is taking care of or a sick parent? Fall for the lie that everything he has achieved is from 35k monthly at your own risk. Some people are really gullible...believing things hook, line and sinker without analysing things themselves.
By the time you go and marry with 35k, you will come back and do a rejoinder to this post.

I don't think the OP will do it. He/she wouldn't have come to announce it here first.

princeeze1:
I already responded to how I get to work n back somewhere, nairaland is simply filled with pretenders forming what they are not on social platforms, I cannot come and bring down myself to make a point, FYI my first job post nysc was 10k per month in 2011, I still made a commitment to save 2k5 from it every month, my second job as a teacher, private school in asaba was 20k, I saved 7k monthly, and God is always faithful, again I live in d heart of the capital of delta state asaba, nobody should come with that its about the city crap, it only shows nativity, I drive a 2005 accord, I bought it when things were more rosy not direct toks but 9ja used buy n drive for 650k b4 dollar sky Rocketed. I can go on and on, but no need, I have passed my msg to those who have brains and not indomie.

I understand your point brainy man. Try to respond without insults or did i insult you.
My misunderstanding is where you get money for daily expenses if you give your wife 50k and you save 15k. I know for an average of 30 days in a month, you cannot say you won't spend a kobo. It doesn't add up.

Lol...OP it can be crazy. Meanwhile children run from some people.
My hubby gets it a lot. Children love him and get so attached to him. And he is so good with them. It amazes me.
I guess children see something that adults don't see.

I know the feeling. I sometimes feel cheated that my older ones got to enjoy my parents more.

Congrats on your baby. May God keep him sttong and healthy.

Afhounja:
What is this one saying? Is it the man's fault that the woman is pregnant?

One spotted

handsomebanana:
So dere Wz only one seat in d bank?

There was a woman with her baby and an elderly woman probably her mum. Three seats. Not a big branch

princeeze1:
I am forced to respond to this thread, I work in a private firm, got married 2 yes ago on a 120k per month sal. Company restructured and slashed sal to 65k for me, mind you, those considered expendable lost their jobs. My wife, a student I am training, currently have a 1,year old son. Believe me we are not hungry.

How do we cope: a careful breakdown.
FOOD... We buy what we can consume every month end on this basis.
Rice-2 painter=#3600
Beans-1 painter=#1800
Garri-2panter=#1600
Yams. =#2000
Egg crate=#800
Red oil, big eva can =#900
G oil, same size. =#800
Ingredients, maggi, pepper, salt, onions etc=#1000
Total=#12500. Gas #2000 actually #1800 for 5kg bringing total to #14500

My son now eats adult food along golden morn
Golden morn 2 big pack=#1500
Milk...123 peak for kids 2=#1800
Usual drugs for children, bonabebe, paracetamol, cold drugs etc =#1500
Total=#4800

Actual cooking
We cook once in a month and stock in d freezer, all we need do everyday is boil rice and make EBA. Or rather cook yam porridge or yam n egg.
To cook soup, egusi and ogbon, Egusi 12cups is #1200, my wife also buys ogbono 1500,, tomato fruit and canned and fresh pepper for stew #1500.
Meat to cook all 3=#6000, other things she may buy like vegetables n kpomo etc#1000, total =#11200

Other bills
CTL cable TV #3200
Light =#1000
Waste mgt=500
Fuel for gen, 1k per WK=4000
My recharge n data=3000
Wify recharge n data=2000, I call more lol
Her hair and cream, I don't know her she partitions it is #4000
Total=#17700

Grand total is #48200, So I simply give her 50k monthly to pay for everything at the end of every month. And yes unless you are blind, you can see we are well covered, mind you she and not me drew up our new spending pattern, what a good wife should be able to do.

I save a mandatory 15000k every month, which is #180k per annum, I live in a 2 bedroom flat of 150k, with finance falling down, I simply rented out d guest room for 70k, call me greedy, mind you my guest room has no access to my living room and master room, I only share kitchen, now I only have to pay 80k per annum.
.I still have change.

I make bold to say we live very comfortably. Am I making plans to up my finances again YES. I only made this break down in support of op, from his breakdown, he may not live to even my now manageable standard, but he can, because he has focus.

Lastly we have a good ride, but mostly used socially and for church, I don't fuel or maintain my car from salary, occasional once in a while free cash maybe from office runs does that, everyone who works must have that loose free office change from one or two racket.

Moral.....
LIFE IS ABOUT VISION, WHOEVER CANNOT MAKE ANYTHING OUT OF 35K WILL MAKE NOTHING OUT OF 200K, BECAUSE THE HIGHER YOU GO, THE BIGGER YOUR TASTE. I CUT DOWN MY TASTE, WE HAD A PAID HOUSE MAID AND A LAUNDRY GUY TOO, COMBINE SALARY OF 25K, MY WIFE DOES THAT NOW, WE USED TO PUT ON GEN EVERY NIGHT THERE IS NO LIGHT, NOW UNLESS, THERE IS CONSECUTIVE OUTAGE, DUE TO FOOD IN D FRIDGE, NO NEED AND YES WE DO HAVE NEPA LIGHT AT LEAST 10 HOURS EVERYDAY, I USED TO DRIVE TO GO AND BUY ORDINARY AKARA, NO MORE, I USED TO BE AN OMELORA, NO MORE NOW.

IF YOU LACK FOCUS, YOUR EARNING POWER WILL STILL BE MEANINGLESS.

How do you get to work and back. What about little miscellaneous expenses you might need. You cnnot leave the house everyday with 0naira in your wallet.

I don't believe all this 35k marriage thing or 60k,etc. Because what this people will not tell you is their plan B. They wont tell you that they have another source of income. Salary might not be all they depend on. Then some will sheepishly follow what they say and discover that they were deceived. Look before you leap. Don't follow people's mouth o.

Olayemi244:
Good one Bro, though I don't like to criticize you but according to what you said, you earn 65k monthly though it was slashed. And you said you gave your wife 50k every month for normal stuffs buy also save 15k monthly. What about your transportation to your workplace... ...you forget to explain that.

I am curious too. That means the income is not 65k. There is another source of income.

Coolgent:
Bro, I salute your courage!
My salary as of today Tuesday 05-09-2017 is 35k
* am married with one kid
* we are living in two bedroom flat
* am driving 2005 accord
* am currently building 3 bedrooms flat
* am taking care of my elderly parents
* I got married on 16-08-2015
* i personally sponsore my wife from UG2 to 4
* my standard of living has really improved from the Sept 2015 to date, cos i hustle more knowing i have dependants.
* the funds i used to spent on slay queens recklessly can now be put to other productive things

All i can say is dont depend on your salary alone the poorest people are salary earners no one among the world Millionaires/Billionaires is salary earner.
Hustle, Hustle & Hustle legitimately.


NB i can help u with some tips on how to manage your home economically & efficiently

Your earning is not 35k. You wouldn't have been able to achieve all that on 35k even if you studied savings and management in school. You have other money coming in.
Op is talking about 35k being the ONLY income. No additional hustling bringing in more. Many people earning little do other things for an alternative source of income.

So many "ungentlemen" these days. Reminds me of a pregnant woman standing in the banking hall yesterday and one guy was sitting down. He couldn't even stand and offer her his seat. Who is training these guys nowadays?

psucc:
I don't want to believe this. Honestly apart from garri (locally produced) others still remain as they were
I don't know which market una buy from

Rice was 300 per derica now its about 240. Palm oil went up to 800 for a bottle..it is now 400. Bag of rice on my street is 15k, that means if i go to the market, i should get it for less. The size of a tuber of yam that was about 1200 naria, i got it for 700 yesterday, etc. I hope the drop continues.

Op is in KD. He MIGHT be able to manage even in Jos, you can manage. Try it in lagos...it's not that simple especially accomodation.
Besides you didn't pay for everything yourself plus if you were marrying an ibo girl with plenty bride price, you would have been telling a different story.
Please don't advise anyone to follow ur way cos they might not have cousin to cook for the wedding, people to contribute ...family members that are ready to assist. They might be all alone.
Love is sweet but it cannot be eaten o. A word is enough for the wise.

Stellie:
And who said she dated someone's husband..??. It cud hav being an accident or somtin else... Sincerly almost everyone here hav lost their conscience...haaa u guys dont even feel bad for her..hmm ....and d fact dat u r a gal surprised me i cudnt help buh mention u....

The way people jump into conclusions is so annoying. Many guys here are just so narrow minded. They have lost their ability to think outside the box they created in their minds. Always viewing women as the same.

Mustiboy:
baking powder and baking soda are the same? Are u serious right about now?

They perform the same function but u can still Google to get a clearer picture.

Now children jump up and down when elders are around and even look at their mouths as they are eating and the parents will wave it off saying that they are just kids. Not my mother. You won't even dare.

Mustiboy:
I once asked and they thought I was talking about baking powder. They are two different things, aren't they?

It is the same thing.