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Golden147:
Good afternoon everyone..
Please I'm kindly in need of advice... ignore my typing ERROR..
There's this girl I love and I want to settle down with her. She's still in school while I'm still in school too. She's 22 while I'm 24 nd also in final YR and we both love each other..my mum has supported me to marry her.
I proposed to her and she said yes...I plan going her house next month next to start official martial rites but I'm afraid.
Here is my reasons

She's the only girl and the last daughter in a family of 5boys. Ever since we started dating, she's in 100l then, all her school burdens are on me..I take care of her and mine own...with this people around who knows about our RELATIONSHIP ask me to marry her to avoid story that touches the heart..which he has accepted , her mum nd dad have accepted it too.
My major concern about this girl is that those his brothers are not willing to do anything, istead the came asking me for small small money when I'm back, knowing fully I'm just dating thier sis....most times the my girl always feel ashamed of her brothers nd keep cursing them. The can't even call her on phone unless she calls them...nd the will keep asking why she didn't call them all this while knowing fully thier sister is in school nd not working.

I have thought about this over and over again, how do I marry from a family that can't even assist in anything...I know marriage is not always Rosy, what if something happens tomorrow nd I needed thier financial support..the can't render to me.
I discussed with my mum nd she told me I'm marrying thier sister who is well trained nd not the brother..that I can decide not to give them money again... But I'm very sad over this.
It's only the father and mum that acknowledge I hay been trying to see their sister through school expenses, including food and wears.
I discussed with my woman, she started crying, saying she knows her brothers are such a disgrace, telling me how she may commite sucide if I didn't marry her... She cried that she can't visits her house again... that her only hope will be to start prostitution which she can't see herself do that nd that's why she is going to commite sucide if I eventually leave her, all her social media handle is full with my picture, including her profile pictures.

Please what advice do you have for me.... should I let go of this girl, I don't mind letting go all I have already spent...I just want to make sure I won't regret the marriage tomorrow...I have already discussed with my mom nd we plan on going her house officially by August ending..but I'm still very worried.

Matured advice please

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Don't marry her unless she is willing to draw a boundary with her brothers. Don't marry out of pity.
If she wants to accommodate their shenanigans, then you are in a deep mess.

Stop giving money to her brothers. Her reactions to that will guide you.

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What good are all these millions of engineers being churned out of Nigerian universities every year? Are we only good at cram and vomit, then make a lot of noise to be recognized?

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youngmo001:
Before this my tenant paid for the house, there was a complete door net in good condition. Therefore she has lived here for more than 5 years, during the course of those years, she renew the door net which later worn out. Now this year, she decided to park and rent a bigger room elsewhere. During her parking i wasn't at home, when i came back, i saw that she had remove the door net. I told her for removing the door net am going to deduct N5000 from the 8 month rent i need to refund to her. She starts ranting saying she spend N3000 to fix the door net, that i shouldn't deduct her money.

Guys, what do you think i should do?

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Why waste time making trouble about insignificant things? Is N5000 worth the trouble? You should learn to let some things go.

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seunH:
I personally believe if she has a good lawyer, she would go scot-free. For the action the school took to be valid, there must be evidence of malpractice, as in solid evidences like witnesses, malpractice material (phone, microchips, textbook etc) etc. That she wrote it on her clothes is not valid enough to make her guilty, any body can write anything. For instance, if I write on my shirt "I am a yahoo boy" does it mean I would go to jail for Internet fraud. The highest the law enforcement agency can do, is try to investigate me in order to get solid evidences which would be presented to the judge. Presenting my shirt where I wrote "I am a yahoo boy" to the judge as their only evidence would be toss into the thrash can!!!!

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Trouble is easy to get in but difficult to get out of. She deserves the punishment.
If you wear a shirt with the inscription “I am a yahoo boy”, you will not go to jail for that. But police will beat you mercilessly and extort the hell out of you. Stupidity has a price tag. Just as freedom of speech doesn’t mean you should go around taunting army officers at a checkpoint. Common sense is golden.
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Arrested?

So what exactly did they say is her crime?

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stagger:
This "giveaway", freebies and awoof mentality has rubbished many of you.

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Really?

What do you call someone who extracts/coerces followers to pay in money for no services rendered?
There are freebies/giveaways/awoof in the churches. The difference is that the pastors by designation are
the only ones at the receiving end while gullibles like you sponsor their extravagant lifestyles.

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Pastor Olakunle Beloved Jesukale aka End-time General who is the founder of End-time revival Evangelical Ministry has come out with a teaching that fornication is not Sin.

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So their idea of winning souls is calculated by church attendance. If high attendance is their concern and not the cash flow, they should start doing giveaways after church services. There won't be enough auditorium in Nigeria to contain their followers.

Profitability is a term associated with a business and not work of God.

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Didn’t they say that Igboho is a warrior (in Nigeria) while Kanu is a coward (in UK)?

Where Igboho been wan run go?

By the way, Gumi and Miyetti Alla leadership should be arrested too else it becomes a witch-hunt. They are equally as provocative as, if not worse than Igboho and Kanu.

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Anyone calling them ritualists are not haters. They are being real. Have you watched any Igbo Nollywood movies recently? What are they portraying about Igbo culture? Someone is struggling and Kanayo Kanayo or Yul Edochie leads him to a cult where he has to use his parents or siblings for rituals to become wealthy and live extravagantly. Almost all their movies have the same story line making outsiders believe it to be real.

Don't market your culture the wrong way and blame those who believe the stories you tell about yourselves. People watch Indian movies for love stories. What stories do Nollywood Igbo movies tell about our wealthy men? Na as goat take stand Dem dey take price am. If an old woman call her basket a crap, children go use am play rough.

Why is Kanayo Kanayo typecast into ritualism? That's the ugly truth we fail to admit.

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Gotze1:
Is this your answer to the question I asked.

Do you know that 40year old sijibomi will buy your Cubana 4times and get change each time.

What is obi okeke networth.

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So you dedicate your time to argue who is worth more between two wealthy folks.

How many heads do they have? And how many head(s) do you have?

It doesn't matter to you that they are both comfortable in life in their own ways.

If only you could put in this much energy in building your own brand....Who knows?

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Craggybogg:
The Cars Profs in the house. I need your assessment on this particular car. Mercedes Benz C300. I need the pros and cons of this car of based on the conditions of the Nigerian Roads, Fuel rate consumption, Spare part availability in the Nigerian Market (Ladipo and Co.). Your assessment would be highly appreciated because I am thinking about copping one.

P.S:- I also noticed people often sell it after using it for 1-3 years. Could there be any problems ? Tell me things(problems) to encounter if I should buy the car this week!.

Thanks in Advance!

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It depends on the city you live in. Even the best and strongest car cannot withstand the abuses on Nigerian roads.

6 months after driving this car in Nigeria, it may look like a piece of crap. Blame the environment.

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They just had to find a way to tactfully insert Obinwanne and Onyeama into the story to muddle the crime.

Let's deal with this current ones now.


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GBOKASINCHA:
Afonjas hoping hushpuppi will be released to save them from oppression

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I do not support crime...

But Hushpuppi must be the dumbest criminal in the world. He doesn't have even a bungalow to his name.
Every professional criminal has a legit business to cover his/her loot.

Obi Cubana and businessmen were throwing cash around while all the tithe-paying peasants were fighting for crumbs. Working hard/smart and investing wisely are the road to success. Packaging your money and handing it over to pastors (who must meet monthly financial goals) will NEVER make you rich. You can be philanthropic after you make it and God will bless you more. Until then, keep living in fantasy.

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I can only imagine if this burial was done around festive period like Xmas.

Men are not even in town now.

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Interesting!

Armed robbers? I thought every criminal in Igbo land is an IPOB/ESN.

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AmandaTalks:
A pastor at Winners Chapel has cried out after he was sacked for not generating enough money in his branch.

According to the pastor, mr Peter Godwin, he was invited by the state pastor and getting there he met other pastors about 40 and they were all sacked over low income in their branches.

Blogger, Maureen Badejo also talks about the sack too. Watch from 40 minutes...

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The basket of gullibles really believe that Daddy G.O is interested in their salvation.

All of them can go to hell for all he cares....just drop some cash before you go.

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Tinubu this, Tinubu that.

Pa Adedibu was the kingmaker in the whole of Yorubaland who planted his offsprings and in-laws in all the political positions unchallenged...but he is gone and his dynasty went into oblivion.

Tinubu's time shall go too.

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swiz123:
Enough stupidity was displayed at this funeral. I saw nothing but men trying to outdo each other. Even nollywood actors that can't be classified as wealthy were rubbing shoulders with wealthy businessmen...

Well everything was just for the camera sha.... Even Zuby was spraying 200 naira notes... His bodyguard kept supplying him bundles in a if you wan mad mad finish manner..... Zubby had to yell at him to calm down ...

Foolishness to going broke trying to appear rich... Don't compete with those that are bigger than you when spending.... You will end up hurting yourself

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No be everybody wey spray money there go sleep well tonight. Some go dey awake dey count ceiling wondering what happened

By Monday eyes go clear.
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Crunchyg2:
Hello good people of nairaland. I run a POS business which I just got a new location which I want to open a second POS but my challenge is enough fund. I need someone who can invest 100k and get 10k return every month or 50k and get 5k return every month and anytime you are ready to take your initial capital back you can take it. I am in Lagos and I am ready to provide you any thing that you might need as collateral . My number is below on my signature.

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What kind of collateral do you have?


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If you ask me, I will say "Leave them in Germany".

The State Government can sign bilateral agreement with the museum in Germany and get a certain percentage (70%) from the proceeds of exhibition. Why? Because Nigerians do not place values on anything. The looted Bronze will be placed where it will be left unkept and yield no income for the people/government of Edo State. Our maintenance culture is inexistent. In all, lose:lose for every party involved. One day Oba's palace go burn and the artifacts will go with the inferno.



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Zeal0000007:
I have resolved chasing her away, right now I'm in offshore , I never trusted her while I was on land is it now that I'm offshore I will trust her?

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Your instinct is your god and it is telling you what to do. But you'd rather hear it from strangers.

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How does someone's husband give her a house?

Does the house belong exclusively to her? Abi no be two of dem go live there?

I don't understand.

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Famzed:
Watching such videos makes me cry for Nigeria. This shows how poverty has eaten deep into Nigeria. I can't imagine USA or Canada citizens fighting for money like this.

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They will scramble for the money in US/Canada too. Free money is free money. Every country has her own share of poverty.

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Anyone who spends N30m on a coffin in Nigeria is a certified mo.ron.

Give your parents a quality life when they are alive. That's what matters.

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Congratulations Alex!

Award for the youngest gubernatorial contestant in Anambra in 2021.

Just giving you ideas.

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A lesson to those new recruits doing gragra. They are just numbers written with a pencil. Once dead, to erase the name easy. After this ordeal, his wife will realize that all his service to Nigeria is naught. I wish her luck collecting his gratuity.

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Alexreporters:
I sight you with your phone recording Obi when he was dancing. Don't ask me how I know
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Hardfacts234:
The Hatred exhibited in this write-up is one of the main reasons I vehemently support Biafra. I have warned Igbos that our full God given potentials will not come to fruition in a country filled with hatred against us. That's the reason why many Jews left hate-filled Europe to reestablish their country Israel. Now see them flourishing in Israel.

Just look at this low.life and inferior complex nonentity that Igbos share the same country with.

Lazy idio.t having low self esteem on those prospering instead to go out and work more harder. If it's Mompha or Shina Peller doing all these, this bigot wouldn't even drop a word.

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Why is everyone castigating this man? He poured out his hatred. This is the kind of person that should be understudied to fully understand why people poison others. With a friend like him, better cover your drinks.

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mrvitalis:
If blacks lived with reality u would still be a slave to whites

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It is sad that you don't realize that you are still a slave to whites. Every aspect of your existence (including who becomes your leader) is still dependent on them.

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mrvitalis:
Neither was the guy arrested

The people who steal billions are not having tattoos

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All of us wish the world is a fair place.

But we just have to live with reality.

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mrvitalis:
Can u be serious for once how's is tattoo associated with cultist ? I really don't get people like u justifying evil

Is there a law against tattoo in Nigeria ?

Untill someone get serious and sues the police for a huge money they won't respect themselves

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Check the society you live in.

Meanwhile, check out the list of requirements for recruitment into Federal Government agencies.

Tattoos on the body automatically disqualifies an applicant. It is a choice. The celebrities you copy are not filling job applications.

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