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Is she supposed to be role model?

Was she motivated? Yes. But she forgot to mention that she got financial benefits and incentives from the government that single and motivated ladies would kill for.

Kudos to her though.




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mhisbliss:
Of all the section on nairaland you choosed to post this on romance section, where the likes of the two above can be found werey people.

Back to the matter, This is obviously an abusive marriage, i wonder why she said yes to a divorcee in the first place and even bearing it for 21good years,

Fighting him wont stop anything, you risk getting killed, you might kill him too, then people wont care what he did, they'll be like, look its that guy who killed his dad, you'll goto jail and your life is ruined, causing your poor mum more pains.

Just hustle hard, make the greens, get your mum a decent rented apartment and find her something to be doing, maybe a trade or sue your jerk of a father to court and compel him to sign an undertaking, that way the law will fight for you

You are assuming the mother will live long enough to enjoy the result of his hustling considering the way she is being panel-beated regularly. The OP is asking for current solution.
Should he stand aside and watch or join the foray? I advice that you sacrifice your dad's two front teeth. If the people cannot talk about his violence against your mother, they shouldn't talk about your violence against him.

Be a man!

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givan:
Anything like 'lawful killing'? Legal practitioners in the house please help explain

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Self- defense
Crime of passion
Slaughter by herdsmen (only in Nigeria)
Fatwa handed down under Islamic decree.
Death sentence pronounced by a judge.
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Define "Tears of Joy".

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prechbills1:
My fiance and I have been dating for the past 3years. I attained 24 last week, I wanted to get married to her last year but I just wanted to wait till I attain 24.

The problem I have now is my mom. She is opposing our marriage because my fiancee is 5 years older than me, I'm 24 while she's 29. My dad has already endorsed the marriage, I'd have liked to go on with the marriage but I don't think going into marriage without both parents blessing is sensible that's why I need my mom's blessing and endorsement.

My fiance has good character, she's very kind and intelligent, I can't afford to lose her because of pressures from my mom at least I'm an adult.

I don't know what's happening, my mom endorsed our relationship but she doesn't endorse our marriage just because she's 5years older than me. The thing is, I can't leave this lady ,not now not ever, she have done so many things for me.

in fact she even promised to provide 80% of the things needed for the marriage!. She is rich, yes she is, the house I'm in living in now belongs to her, I moved in with her in 2016.

The truth is I love her and I can't afford to lose her because of my mom's wish. Both her parents and my dad have given us go ahead for marriage but my mom still doesn't want me to marry because of age and my fiance is beautiful.

I don't know what do now ,that's why I think I need advice from you guys,.I don't know if I should go ahead with the marriage without my mom's endorsement/blessings.

please advice

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There is no such thing as free meal.

Enjoy it while it lasts. When she answers a "Mrs" after the wedding, you will run back to your mother with
your tail between your legs.

Marriage is different from dating. Enjoying the leeching while it lasts.

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Another one that may join the ancestors soon?

Marriage ain't all it's meant to be.

Welcome to 21st century.

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Safe journey yonder?

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Looks nice....except

It is a Lincoln.


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A tad too late.

They should have issued the warning before Buhari jetted off. That could have scared him into staying back to manage his mess.


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EgunMogaji:
Corruption is woven deep into the fabric of society.

I discussed this issue with one of my associates and he said that it’s not out of the realm of possibility that the difference paid between agreed price and new inflated price will be absorbed by frontline staff. Ileya will soon come.

It’s not that I’m making excuse for the corrupt system but it’s easy for some disgruntled crayola regurgitating fool to not realize that not everyone is cut out to wage legal hand to hand combat with an international conglomerate.

Your duty first and foremost is survivability of your business. I know it’s mine. It’s not to go half cocked on some pipe dream lawsuit where damage can’t be established.

Do you folks have a “right to refuse service” business clause in Nigeria?

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The business environment in Nigeria is very different. The only check point is where money is transferred. Due diligence is necessary before that point because most problems come up after money has exchanged hands. Some people may think that business in Nigeria is a morality contest whereby treating folks in a certain kind of way guarantees good results. It boils down to respect. Litigation is time-consuming. Arbitration is highly informal. Surprisingly, some may even see kindness as weakness. Don't get me started with the snakes that inject Jesus Christ and God in negotiations to butter up unsuspecting clients. Like always, some newbies will always beg to differ until they learn the hard way. So it is best to stick to the terms of business contracts and take the self-righteousness to the churches.

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Why would any sane being listen to what Adeboye or Oyedepo has to say?

Those two have only one god called money.

Anything else is a charade to reel in the gullibles.

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There are more of that on different levels even from the unlikely suspects.

Cheating is an art on its own.

Trust will get you killed.

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N180k is still not enough.


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ShyCypher:
Is this the car in which he poisoned himself?

I don't want to see it.

N5 poison?

Karma is powerful indeed.

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Why not bring this man to Nigeria so that he can put NNPC out of business?


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Nominate Igbo people at the dying minute to appease people.

Campaign strategy!

Meanwhile, kudos to PMB for the Enugu-OSha and Enugu-Umuahia expressway.

Even in criticism, I must acknowledge good deeds.

Kudos to him as well for the Otuoke road in Bayelsa State.

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abike12:
I'm not getting into friendly banter with you. Go and find something to do with your life. Bullies don't like being called out. I'm not engaging you. Take your L and go and report to your oga.

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Friendly banter?

I am not your friend. Friendship is not by force.

I know who I am interested in with the wealth of building experience she may have.

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abike12:
You're the self appointed uncles of the thread. You're the ones that know small pikin. At 50 years old? Domination on an online thread is where you get your validation

50? Na! That will be my grandson.
Think way above the number. That's why I need your mother's building experience if applicable.

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abike12:
You go dey okay last last. I said what I said Uncle and you will have to deal

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So I am your uncle now?

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abike12:
How you talk about other people's mothers is a reflection of the respect you have for yours. That is if you even saw mother to train you. I'm waiting for the other agbaya to mention me this morning. Eyin broda 50 with no self respect

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You can invite her to share her building experience jn Nigeria if she wants. She is the one with the money and experience. Meanwhile, get back to work.

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I believe the car would get the same reactions anywhere in the world but not necessarily the spirit angle.


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EgunMogaji:
For a while there I thought it was going to rain but then the rainbow came out

You can imagine.

Children of nowadays.

Why a billionaire with many houses will be here "dragging" with kobo kobo penny-pinchers like us beats me.

And I read something like, "my mom is not an artisan"....small pikin wahala. She can invite her mother to share her experience.

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abike12:
Dude you jumped in my post and started telling me what my situation was and I called you out. You obviously don't like being wrong so you're calling me names. I'm not going there with you. There are some three or four negative nancys on this thread that always have something bad to say whenever I post. What are you people building that we won't hear word? Maybe you are the first in your family line to build house that's why you're so paranoid. Don't worry, by the time you build your 5th one you will relax a little. Go and read Psalm 127 vs 1 and eat your humble pie in peace. It is NOT that difficult to build a house from diaspora.

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Congratulations on your 20th house Ms. Zuckerberg!

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abike12:
My mum is not an artisan. You're making a lot of assumptions about my particular situation. Also wiring is done at the latter stage of a project so I don't know why you're assuming I don't know anything about building. I'm a few steps from completion of a block of flats with no headache so I'm obviously doing something right.

Maybe if some of you calmed down there would be more knowledge sharing instead of posting and people start attacking you. I don't have to have the same experience with you.

And since we're giving unsolicited advice, some of you need to treat your artisans like human beings. Maybe listen to what they're saying and not shut them down like you are trying to do to me, you don't know everything. How and why will I just be looking for an electrician at the wiring stage? All my artisans that came to eat ram at the foundation stage are still with us and they are behaving. I had to post the receipt of my wood for roofing on this thread because awon aiye were arguing about the price. It sucks to be so paranoid when it's not like you're building a skyscraper. Everybody isn't out to get you.

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Where is all these nonsense you typed coming from?

Paranoia, skyscraper?

Everyone else does not treat the artisans like human beings.

Get your head off your a#ss.

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LotannaAnaekwe:
So 4 months of non communication is enough to state that marriage is over? Una funny o.

Will 1 year be better?

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Chaclaitmilk:
Her husband is vehemently against having a court marriage with her, They did church marriage and reception but no court,

He keeps refusing and saying he doesn't see the need because he isn't travelling abroad soon and so does not see the importance.

Please what is the usefulness of court marriage for her as a wife and him as the husband? I want to know how to advise her in convincing the husband.

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These are things they should have discussed when they were still engaged.

How is this your problem? Trying to convince the husband should set off an alarm in his brain if he is paranoid.

I think you should mind your business.
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EgunMogaji:
To me, if neither of them can stay apart from each other without contact for 4 months without communication then what's the point of a reconciliation?

Even when one spouse is on the space station, they still communicate

OP and his Wife should be having a dying need to see each other. What will happen when kids start popping up?

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That marriage is over. Any reunion will be based on pretense or ulterior motives and tend not to end well especially for young couples. The wife has moved on but OP is still reminiscing of old times. Once another lady enters his life and fills the void, he will be doing thanksgiving in a church for being liberated from the machinations of the ex-wife and her family.
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If your wife/husband is out of town for three days and you can't wait for her/his return, then you are in love.

If you have to do a quick stop at a bar before going home to your spouse, check yourself. You are only "managing".

At the dinner table, look across the table. Do you see that lady or man sitting there? Your spouse right? That's the best you could do.
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abike12:
Wow seems like there have been some really bad experiences on here with vendors and pricing. No one has anything positive to say

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It is the oldest trick in the book: Underquotation (price & materials especially if the owner is a penny-pincher) to secure a contract and then come with long stories after you have committed some funds. At that point you are at a point of no return and at the mercy of the artisan.

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abike12:
I got the quote for my wiring and it looks like prices went down significantly. my first win on this whole project!

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The prices will definitely change after you pay mobilization fees and work commences.... unless you are buying them and straight from the merchant.



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The most difficult thing in a marriage is not communication.

It is whether the one you love really loves you or is it marriage of convenience. For all you didn't know, you could be the second choice and she still misses the first choice. You want to reconcile with your wife. Does she want reconciliation? You may be reconciling into being bathed with hot water and pepper. I always see good things in every bad situation. God is saving you. Forward ever; backward never.

Good luck. If you see a lady that cherishes her husband, you will know... and vice versa.
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I marvel at people who rush to stay in the front seat of a commuter bus. There is little or no protection in a head on collision.

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