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afreekah:
It was my lil bro birthday. He should be around 7 then and I was just 10. Both dad and mom were both trying to put food on the table, none of them remembered the day and I too. Shebi na person belleful dey remember birthdays?

The Indian movie started when my lil bro went to buy a family size cabin biscuit which was sold around #120 or so then. He was running around chanting "today is my birthday, take biscuit" which he started from pop man. Popsy couldn't eat the biscuit but rather went inside and started crying. Felt so sad seeing him cry for the first time and promised myself to be the best for my parent and siblings. Eventually lost both of them couple of months back and I'm all here with my siblings.

It will end in praises!

Oooooohhhh Lord!! Tears of a parent!!
Lord, help us that our tears before our children will be tears of joy .... always!
Sorry bro...may their souls rest... like you said, it will end in praises! Amen

donogaga:
I always tell Married men, a distraction is hardly noticed until it has brought regret to your household.

When it comes to women, Flee....... Don't run, but FLEE.

And to the women (married or single) what advice have you, sir?

Modupeoluwa123:
Amen, thanks so much.
I started a non governmental initiative in 2017, it’s called Support the Needy.
I get emotional when I see kids going through a lot, hence the reason for the initiative.
I haven’t been doing much about it though but I try to do my best when I have.
I don’t take pictures or start screaming on social media, because that doesn’t make sense to me.

Keep up the good work sir! Your reward will be from the Almighty!
When I see kids going through what they shouldn't be going through, I know most parents can't bear it... they just live through it...

Gabe427:
I'm still in school there has been several scenarios.

But one I won't forget was when I was little I would leave objects in my school pockets and my mum washing my uniform would warn me not to forget stuffs in there that one might just injure her one day ....like the stupid boy I was I didn't listen one day I was just playing in the compound and my mum just screamed ye I rushed to see waht happened only to see blood everywhere ...I kept my eazor blade there my mum almost cried in pain I broke doen In tears and just knelr down begging her. My mum who would nearly kill me for the slightest offence just quietly said haven't I warned you not to put stuffs there.. she bandaged the hand and kept washing I swear the image is still fresh In my head till now I still see the scar on her hand.

That just one
What about the times she came back late form work or when shes putting up money for things int he house

Or when the house we haven't even moved in got burnt. My woman almost went mad

My pops not really an arround man when things were so bad for him and I saw him putting money out on the bed calculating how he would spend.
Or when I overheard him on the phone the words "I'm doing all this for the children please don't let them go hungry"(in Yoruba)
I don't know what led to that but my heart broke

Or when I'll have to massage his back and leg at the end of the day

All in all I swore if I won't make it for myself I must make it for their sake and for my children and yes my siblings children I want to be that uncle they'll call and his name would open up doors.

Oh dear...oh dear... very touching...may all your prayers come true! Amen

Modupeoluwa123:
Hmmm long story...
The lawyer insisted the kids were young and the properties they were eyeing wouldn’t be enough for our education but the family insisted. They said they own their younger brother, hence entitled to the property.
They took over the house in Oyo state, demanded for two shops at Ogun state (my mum had to tell the lawyer to give them) because they kept threatening us. Immediately they got their share, they left our house immediately but with a promise to be back because they couldn’t possibly be the only one managing the properties

Six months after his death, terrible things started to happen.
I used to be bold and fearless and even when my dad died, I was in his room all through alone and wasn’t scared. But six months after, I realized indeed spiritual things dey occur, fear Dey grip us inside our house, we go wake up with thousands of ants on our bed. We go Dey see snake and cat inside compound.
Imagine that you are in a house you have lived for 12years and all of a sudden, you can’t walk in the dark.
My mum had to borrow money, relocate us to a church. She tried to make sure we were comfortable. I slept on cold tiles with my sibblings for months. It got to a point, my mum saw paper and thought it was money.
The properties were still there but their rent wasn’t due and my mum’s shop was outside our house.
Though she is a caterer, she tried getting jobs at that time so we could just eat.
The day I wept bitterly was the day I went with her for a catering job, a lady who wasn’t even up to the tip of our finger started to insult my mum because my mum gave her a quotation for 150people instead of 200 (her husband actually asked us to reduce it though).

Well, we went back home after some time, we couldn’t keep running.
Till today, my mum is still the one managing those properties, my sibblings don’t even care about how much it is worth. We are all trying to build our future from the scratch like we have nothing.

Hmmmm....God will be there for you...
The situation is better imagined!

xavuv:
My mother took me along to the market, a very busy one, vehicles were moving here and there, sellers with their wares on the road side. I remember vividly my mother wanted to buy bananas from a woman selling bananas at a road side, and while my mother was pricing the bananas, she was also looking out for bus to take us back home, i noticed she was always looking back while pricing those bananas, like she was in a hurry.

In my little mind I was in a hurry too, like the woman should pack those bananas quickly and hand it over to us so we can leave and enter a bus to take us home. We were still in front of the banana seller, i remembered vividly my mum slipped some money into my pocket to give to the seller because the seller was looking for nylon to package those items.

I was focusing on the bananas waiting for the woman to hand over the bananas to me, my mother sensed i was not looking at her side, so she left me there and rushed to enter a bus. I cried loud shouting 'mummy!!', seeing that the bus was already moving.

The banana seller looked with horror in her face and she took my hand, along with those packed bananas and ran towards the moving bus. People on the road helped us to stop the bus, I entered the bus with the bananas in my hand crying and shivering. The banana seller shouted at my mum bla bla bla. I was at most 5 years old then. I'm 35 now.

So it is possible to remember some long time events especially if they were ingrained on your soul. Some people even remember their past life experiences.

I held my breathe all through reading this story...boy! I was glad it ended well...if not I would have wept!
Thank God for the banana seller... I'm sure your mom had nightmares after that... chaiiiii...

Those Zambian players in March 1993.
I'll never forget the tears on the streets of Lusaka!
Marc Vivien Foe of Cameroon collapsing and passing on during a match 2003.
Sam Okwaraji too...it shocked me because I watched the match only for me to hear the following day Sunday that he died! I'd never heard sudden death so suddenly....RIP to them all.

peacefull:
Hi
Sorry, I don't know if he is willing to take me to Nigeria or not.
But I told him many many times about I wanna visit Nigeria one day.
I really don't know if he wants me to see his family or not.
I stopped to think about or expect about see his family anymore.
That's always making me feel sad.
So I stopped to think about it.

Few months ago, he showed me some his family pictures.
This is first time. I was really happy!
But I know this is very strange.

We are still not living together.
He still working and living in another prefecture.

He is paying house rent where I'm living.
Here is our house! Most of times I'm living alone.
But he is paying. I think this is his care for me and I really appreciate him.

Sorry, I don't know what is meaning husband should?
What is common in Nigeria?
My husband paying our house rent, Is this strange? or common?

Anyway, Thank you so much for asking!
I appreciate you!!

Thank you too for your response.
I'm sure others may have told you that in Nigeria and most parts of Africa the husband usually pays the rent and provide money for the house needs like food and clothing and hospital needs etc. But of course if the wife is working she can also contribute... it's up to them both to decide that.
Anyway, it's good he's warming up to you by showing you some pictures of his family... maybe as time goes on he will also bring you to visit his family in Nigeria.
Cheers.

peacefull:
Yes!
We are good now. Very calm now!
I'm a problem person. Not my husband.
Sometimes I'm confusing, weak etc.
I'm a trouble person.
Very very confusing person.

When I got calm down, I told him what I was thinking about.
He listened my talk. He is a really good person!

I'm always bothering him, disturbing him, annoying him etc.
But he is a super man!
He still allowing me like this. Super husband!

I must always appreciate him.
He is still with me. We are still laughing together!

I still have chance to trying to be a good wife!
Of course, I'm not perfect. Sometimes I'm still making mistake.
Sometimes still making him feel bad, angry etc.
But he still giving me a chance!

I still have something worry about.
Sometimes I'm still trying to tell him.
About a week ago, maybe.
We discussed about it on the phone. I could tell him my opinion and he also told me about his opinion.
We were very calm. Not quarrel.

I really want him to think about his life and happy is first and priority.

Thank you so much for asking about us!
I appreciate you!!

I hope you are good and stay safe!!

Hi
I followed your situation up to a point but I will love to know if he's now willing to take you to visit his family in Nigeria.
Then, is he now living with you and taking care of you as a husband should?
Please you are at liberty not to answer....cheers and best wishes.

@RoyalRoy
Take this to the Front Page let people speak and heal! Counting on you...

Hmmmm!
What can I say!!!
The one I know is: due to a man's inability to impregnate his wife, he will encourage her to meet any man of her choice or, both will choose a man to do the job!
I almost fell victim in 2015, the lady had been eyeing me, I knew because she'll always compliment and say "your wife dey enjoy o!"
Until the day the husband asked me if I could help them! I trembled!
Story plenty!

horlahsunbo225:
I remember the day me and my younger sister went to hawk and we were almost got kidnapped

How my mum died in 2009 because we can't afford medical bill. My younger sister and my sick mom was sent out of the hospital because we can't afford the bill.

Parent do go thru alot

Now imagine that!! Sent out of a hospital!! If a parent can face that, what about the children Heartbreaking!!!

marwanafrica:
I just hope you are not lying Sir.

Sir, if it didn't happen, I'll not mention it... I'm not here to tell tall tales!

babsbolad:
It sounds fallacious.

Hmmm...so it seems.... when you hear the whole story it's like a fairy tale...but it's really true. If I didn't meet the wife I would have doubted myself, and my friend who told the story at the beginning isn't one to tell tall tales....

NewDawn2O21:
was she a single mother or married?

Single mom. In fact she asked if I saw the guy talking with her at the station in Minna before we took off, she said he's father of her daughter but had dumped her when she took in for him...he was now married to another person but been childless so he'd been chasing her to return to him!

MERCHANDISER:
Nigerians has spoiled Abidjan,their people are beginning to be hostile to us.
WhatsApp me let me sent you some voice Notes of Nigerians that are living there to know the activities of other Nigerians there.
Abidjan is a beautiful city,well developed but some Nigerians want to turn it to Lagos(lawlessness) and their people are not happy about it

So you see what the same Nigerians are doing in Ghana yet they claim ghanaian people are "hostile"!!

Akwaaba!!

Quietpain:
This thread's got me crying
I don't know what to say but some parents made great sacrifices for their children.
Even if we don't have much, let's try to spoil them with the little we have.

Yeah....we really need to wrap them up in our arms...love, cherish and spoil them small....

CharisEleos:
Lol.. this one is serious o.


Yes it the woman. She should understand her body and better still do a family planning to avoid such. No be only to dey follow man up and down for night like chicken under heat.



Wow! Imagine...

Some people just need to be flogged.

Funny enough, the robbers flogged him 11 times before giving him the money! Cash o!

WesternOligarch:
There's absolutely every reason to get married..

Finding a good submissive woman wouldn't be an issue if you're a good responsible man.

You're absolutely right!

CharisEleos:
You're talking of family of four. I've seen family of 9 in one room. 7 children with husband and wife. Though the man later took the room beside them when the tenant there left.

Some women are the cause of this. You know the condition you live in and you'll still be producing children anyhow..

An uncle to a friend had 11 children plus himself and wife in one room in Lagos... guess what? One night robbers came to the compound, and when they saw his crowded room, the head of robbers was shocked! He asked if the man came to Lagos only to breed!
Well long story short, they gave my friend's uncle #150,000 and gave him one week to quit Lagos and return to his village or else they will return and kill him...
He packed back to benue state and flourished before passing away about 8 years ago...
The man had a saying: NOT ALL THIEVES ARE BAD!

yungchop:
Amen bro. Dad's gone too.

Oh dear!! Oh dear....I'm so sorry!! May their souls rest in peace!
Well...you have your family to show love too... your children to see your parents in you...and your spouse to see the man who showed your mother love in you!
The Lord is your strength

yungchop:
hmmmm..

there's alot to be said but I can't even start to type. I am my mother's only son and she had me after 14 years of marriage.
she went through a lot to make sure I survived, she brought me up to know how complicated and wicked life is before she finally lost the battle to spiritual attacks. I can't even say things she went through, she always told me to pray to God that I don't lose her or else I'll suffer greatly. She was correct, I lost her and I'm still suffering till date but I know my enemies now actually and ways are beggining to open up for me.
I held her hand before she was buried, it was cold. looking at her once beautiful face stressed in death, having that thought in mind like "will I ever see you again? "

Dad on the other hand was a supportive pillar too, he always made sure I never lacked anything despite being down with stroke for almost 10 years.

Tinuke, Adio, E suun re o!

Painful.... prayers must be constantly said. Don't give up... whatever your Mom wanted for you will come to pass...and you will use it to care for your Dad! Stay focused.

GOFRONT:
And someone is always around itching to wear the snake around his shoulder....

Maybe there's an Olympic sport going on where snakes are worn as garlands!

Ugaboy:
swears my man....since I commented...I just left to check other topics.

I just happiness.... Nigeria problem is too much to start adding people's experience to thought.

Honestly,
But since it's an experience that happened to our parents, we who are now parents pray never to be in a position that would rock our emotions in front of our children!

Left Minna heading to Accra via lagos-Benin-Togo....in the bus I was speaking with a friend and mentioned I was going out of Nigeria and a sylph like lady turned to make eye contact with me... when we stopped for fuel she initiated conversation. Said she was going to Port Novo with her 8 year old daughter...so we made small talk once a while...got to Lagos late and couldn't continue to Benin as planned.
So, cos of traffic along mile 2, I just casually mentioned we could put up In an hotel for the night. It was already 9pm.
She caught her breathe...I smiled and said you'll be safe... I'm doing it cos I've a daughter same age with yours. And she relaxed.
I paid for the room, gave her privacy to shower and later we slept on the same bed.
I woke about 4am to see her two legs across mine!
Just woke her up and she snuggled closer to me ... smile on her face.
I just told her to get prepared we're already losing time and after we freshened up we continued the journey.
At the border she asked for my number and said she's surprised I didn't take advantage of her vulnerability.... it's not my style...
So we parted...we continued to contact each other for a few years....

Ugaboy:
I for talk about mind...but the emotional piercing is too much, this, let me just read comment.

Do you know? I'm even scared to open and read people's experiences on this thread now....I don't want to be moved....

Omihanifa:
The snake is a bandit

This your comment, I don't know if to smile, laugh, giggle or guffaw!!
Really funny!

Just when the guy needs to concentrate and build on what he's achieved over the last few months!
Son Min of Spurs said his Dad adviced him to stay away from girls for now so his career could grow.... sometimes we just don't stay long on top because we're easily carried away by fame....and women!

Be of good cheer, Mary, your health will be fully restored by the Lord! Amen...

Muyiwaipere:
If you see the way those Mazda drivers they perform fast and furious for that road .....even paul walkers dry bow

Those buses are called "hired killer"....

Hammyaladin:
The stories above are touching... Indeed parents go through alot to see their children make it in life!!!

Three Gbosas to all parents who participated in the life of their kids!!!

May heaven and Earth favour the efforts of responsible parents!!

Amen!